We Married The Family

This week’s episode comes with a warning because it is about abuse. Take it slow, especially if it’s close to home, seek support if you need it.I share information about this insidious type of abuse that can go undetected for a long time. You’ll learn about the key indicators of Coercive Control and how it might show up for a daughter-in-law.If you, or someone you know, is going through this below are some organisations you can reach out to and the Domestic Abuse Hotline (all UK based)Women’s Aid: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/coercive-control/Refuge: https://refuge.org.uk/i-need-help-now/coercive-control/https://mensadviceline.org.uk/male-victims/what-is-domestic-abuse/coercive-control/National Domestic Abuse Helpine: 0808 2000 247 To join the DIL’s membership or book in for therapy visit my website: https://spiritualpsychologist.co.uk

Today's episode explores a confession sent in by a daughter-in-law. Most people won't have to think twice about when they do their laundry. But for DIL's it's an invisible weight, something they may create new, and seemingly unusual, routines for. I touch on multiple factors that are at play here: Hypervigilance, Avoidance Coping and Boundary Ambiguity. If you have a confession you want to share you can e-mail me: [email protected] or send me a DM on IG: @spiritual.psychologist Join the DIL's membership group here: https://spiritualpsychologist.co.uk/we-married-the-family

This week’s episode is inspired by a client session. I present the well-known metaphor of taking your seat at the table, or leaving a table that doesn’t respect you, in relation to in-laws. The people seated around your table, the way meals are served and shared, the conversations that happen at your table, will be unique to you and the family you’ve gone into. But if things are less than satisfactory, what do you do?I explore some considerations using the metaphor of the table. Thinking about proximity of people, your authenticity, boundaries and self-worth. Thinking about what the process of change looks like at your table. And when you might want to leave your seat altogether.To join the DIL’s membership visit www.spiritualpsychologist.co.uk

In part 2 of Privacy Issues with in-laws I cover the emotional dimension. This is all about your personal boundaries, how much do you share of yourself with your in-laws? How do you and your husband manage conflict whilst living with his family? And what do you do when a family member, or your partner, has betrayed your trust by sharing your feelings with others?I address these questions and give you insight into the psychology of openness and vulnerability, and the psychological impact of prying in-laws! As well as sharing some tips on how to navigate all of this to have better relations.To join the DIL's membership visit www.spiritualpsychologist.co.uk