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"Money is one of those things that people just consider as an afterthought. The older you get and the more responsibilities you have, you start to realize money is a tool, and it's required for health and happiness." In this episode, Heather sits down with Douglas and Heather Boneparth to dig into the often uncomfortable but wholly necessary work of talking about finances with your partner. Together, they unpack what really happens beneath the surface when couples avoid money conversations, and how bringing these truths forward can transform the intimacy, teamwork, and emotional safety in your relationship. Explore the stories we inherit around money, why it feels so vulnerable to speak up, and the simple shifts that help you feel like you're on the same team again. What to listen for: ✨ Money is not an afterthought; it's a tool for cultivating health and happiness ✨ How Douglas and Heather first understood that they needed to talk about money ✨ Overcoming the fear of speaking up with your partner about finances "You're communicating even when you're not communicating. Your body language, your actions, and the way that you're passive-aggressive about it. You're just failing to say the thing that needs to be said." ✨ Opening the door to teamwork and shared responsibility in your relationship ✨ Letting go of the "Prince Charming is going to save me" and taking ownership ✨ The importance of acknowledging the impact partners have on one another "The collective ambition needs to come to life here because you share a life together. You still get to be your own person, but you're playing a team game. Championships are won through team efforts, and this is what collaboration is all about. Your marriage is essentially a collaboration of life, and money is this game that you don't get to opt out of." ✨ Why freedom is emotionally uncomfortable and how to navigate that ✨ The question Douglas and Heather ask every couple to bring them together ✨ The power of energetic time management and chasing the feeling you're after "It's not the thing you want, it's the feeling. You say you want more money, more accolades, another book, this, this, this. Amazing. Take it. But what's the feeling you're after?" ✨ The importance of valuing the journey as much as you value the end goal ✨ Benchmarking your money goals and navigating the resistance that comes up ✨ Understanding that intimacy is directly connected to your financial health About Douglas and Heather Boneparth: Heather and Douglas Boneparth are the co-authors of Money Together: How to find fairness in your relationship and become an unstoppable financial team. By day, Douglas Boneparth is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ and the founder of Bone Fide Wealth in New York City. Heather spent more than a decade as a corporate lawyer before joining the firm as the director of business and legal affairs. They also co-write a weekly newsletter, The Joint Account, which helps couples talk about money.  Connect with Douglas and Heather: Money Together, available in all formats and at http://www.domoneytogether.com  The Joint Account, available on Substack at https://www.readthejointaccount.com  Bone Fide Wealth, visit https://bonefidewealth.com Everywhere on social: @averagejoelle + @dougboneparth ******* For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Book a Time & Energy Audit: heatherchauvin.com/audit   Apply for the next Coaching Cohort: heatherchauvin.com/apply   Not ready for 1:1? Join the membership (cancel anytime): heatherchauvin.com/membership 

"I understand that if I'm too comfortable, it's time to grow. Because if I'm not growing, I'm dying. And if I'm dying, I'm going to live a miserable life." In this episode, Heather reflects on three big lessons she's learned over the last 12 years since her cancer diagnosis, exploring the significance of facing fears, recognizing triggers as opportunities for growth, and the importance of self-reflection in embracing a fulfilling life. This conversation isn't about recounting the many challenges she faced during healing; it's about celebrating and learning to live more fully. Because the truth is, most of us are keeping ourselves so busy we can't experience growth, leaving us in a perpetual state of survival.  This conversation encourages us all to move past chronic suffering and to realise that we're not dead yet, so let's focus on feeling alive and energized while we're still here. What to listen for: ✨ Leaning into your stories and the impact you want to make ✨ Understanding that suffering isn't living, and you're not dead yet ✨ The reason why so many people live like the walking dead "There's a huge difference between being emotionally uncomfortable and working through fear and resistance. That chronic suffering, chronic pain, isn't living, and you're not dead yet. So you need to learn how to feel alive and energized while you're still alive." ✨ Why it's essential to understand the feeling that you're chasing ✨ How Heather moved through the terror and the story that she was going to die ✨ The importance of becoming the adult that you needed as a child "I had to face my fear of death in order to learn how to face my fear of living. I had to train myself to run towards how I wanted to feel. That was scary to me because I had no evidence, but it started me on this catalyst of curiosity." ✨ Why the people triggering you the most are your greatest teachers ✨ How to keep triggers from dictating your connections ✨ The importance of taking responsibility for how you want to feel Enjoy the excerpts Heather shared? Be sure to grab a copy of her book, Dying to Be a Good Mother. ******* For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Book a Time & Energy Audit: https://heatherchauvin.com/audit   Apply for the next Coaching Cohort: https://heatherchauvin.com/apply   Not ready for 1:1? Join the membership (cancel anytime): https://heatherchauvin.com/membership

"When resistance is coming up, it's just trying to show you something, and it's an area in your life that can be healed, that can stretch you, that can put you in a position and in an opportunity for you to step into what's next for you."  In this episode, Heather sits down with Tracy Matthews to dig into how we master resistance, find the courage to move toward our big visions, and cultivate a more profound sense of trust in ourselves and the universe. Whether it's navigating health issues, parenting children, or building a business, we all bump into those uncomfortable subconscious blocks and stories that keep us stuck. In this conversation, Heather and Tracy share their own experiences overcoming fear, resistance, and failures, along with powerful insights into what it takes to conquer them. What to listen for: ✨ Choosing yourself and "leaning in" to master resistance ✨ Why resistance is a moment to pause and question what it's doing for you ✨ How to dissolve resistance when it inevitably comes up "In the practice of just putting it out there and butting up against that resistance, you actually dissolve and dissipate the feeling because resistance is your body, mind, and subconscious trying to keep you from stepping into what's next for you or to a bigger capacity."  ✨ Putting yourself out there and facing the fear of rejection ✨ How to be your own cheerleader and move through resistance ✨ The identity shifts that come up when we lean in new directions "If you resist it, that's literally the next door you should probably open. And if you want to buy back so much of your time and energy, open the doors that you're absolutely terrified to open, because that's going to buy back so much of your energy." ✨ Navigating the hidden shame that comes with setting big goals ✨ The power of pivoting and "failing" when it's aligned ✨ Trusting that the universe will show you the way forward "Sometimes you just have to sit in that discomfort, in that resistance, in that space of not knowing, knowing that if you trust yourself enough, the answer is going to drop in." ✨ Understanding your intuitive 'yes' and 'no' when making decisions ✨ Using resentment to uncover your boundaries ✨ Why business is the biggest crash course in personal development About Tracy Matthews Tracy Matthews is a Creativity, Branding, and Reinvention Expert, a Best-Selling Author, and the Host of the Top-Rated Creatives Rule the World Podcast. As a serial entrepreneur, she's reinvented herself several times and built multiple 7+ figure businesses. She believes creativity is the biggest gift for navigating challenges, living a more fulfilled life, and having fun while creating wealth. Notable media placements include The Today Show, Entrepreneur, InStyle Magazine, and Elle. Through her podcast, blog, social media platforms, coaching, and programs, she inspires over 200,000 people weekly to launch, grow, and scale successful creative brands. You can find more information at TracyMatthews.com. She lives in Scottsdale, Arizona, with her partner Jason, his two daughters, and her doodle, Roxy. Connect with Tracy: Website: https://creativesruletheworld.com   Podcast: https://pod.link/1050430716  Book: https://desiredbrandeffect.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamtracymatthews  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamtracymatthews  ******* For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Book your audit here: https://heatherchauvin.com/audit 

"What if there's nothing to fix? What if your resistance is the invitation to the growth you're seeking." In this deeply personal solo episode, Heather returns to her podcasting roots, speaking straight from the heart in a unfiltered reflection on emotional resistance, parenting teenagers, and choosing joy even when it's uncomfortable. Sharing the behind-the-scenes of her family's bold decision to live in the sun for three months, Heather opens up about the fears, identity shifts, and internal resistance she's navigated, especially in her relationship with her middle son. This episode is an honest look at what it takes to grow as a parent, a woman, and a human being committed to emotional freedom. ✨ The truth about resistance and why what you resist will persist ✨ How parenting teenagers mirrors our own unhealed emotional wounds ✨Why planning for joy is just as important as facing the fear If you're tired of managing your life around everyone else's comfort and ready to break the cycle, this episode is for you. ******* For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Book your audit here: https://heatherchauvin.com/audit

"You can't talk about living your best life without talking about money and you can't talk about money without facing what you're afraid to feel." In this episode, Heather sits down with Tess Waresmith for a powerful and emotionally honest conversation about death, money, and the stories we carry around both. From end-of-life planning to modern parenting and breaking financial cycles, they dig into what it really means to be resourced. Not just financially, but emotionally too. Whether you're navigating aging parents, raising kids, or running a business, this conversation will challenge you to take radical responsibility for your future and give you a compassionate push to finally look at what you've been avoiding. ✨Why emotional capacity and financial literacy go hand in hand and how to build both ✨The psychology of money: avoidance, anxiety, identity, and invisible labor ✨How to teach kids financial independence without over-rescuing or enabling This one's for the woman carrying it all - past, present, and future, finally ready to take her power back. About Tess Tess is an Accredited Financial Counselor® and the founder of Wealth with Tess, a financial education platform and community, to help people gain agency over their money so they can retire comfortably and have the options they deserve. A sought-after financial expert and on-air contributor, featured on Forbes, CNBC and Business Insider, her free money and investing workshops have drawn thousands of attendees, and hundreds have transformed their financial futures through her straightforward and supportive learning programs. Her approachable, no-jargon money tips inspire a 100,000+ community on Instagram at @wealthwithtess. Whether you're short on time or totally new to personal finance, Tess proves that you don't need Wall Street-level expertise to build wealth, you just need to decide it matters and take action. Connect with Tess www.wealthwithtess.com https://www.instagram.com/wealthwithtess/?hl=en https://www.wealthwithtess.com/founders www.wealthwithtess.com/fi ******* For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Book your audit here: https://heatherchauvin.com/audit