#160: Tracy Otsuka on Celebrating ADHD for Smart Ass Women (Revisited)
Send us a textIn this unforgettable episode, we're revisiting a conversation that blew our minds—and helped reframe everything we thought we knew about ADHD, motherhood, and what it means to be “too much.”Tracy Otsuka is the host of the wildly popular ADHD for Smart Ass Women podcast and author of the book by the same name. A former attorney and certified ADHD coach, Tracy has become a global voice for women who are tired of being pathologized—and ready to celebrate what makes them different.In this conversation, we cover:Why ADHD in women is often misunderstood, masked, and misdiagnosedHow “smart girl syndrome” leads to high achievement—and high self-doubtThe difference between the default mode network (DMN) and task positive network (TPN), and why they matter so much to ADHD brainsThe real reason motherhood can feel like Groundhog Day for women with ADHDHow to get out of your head and into aligned actionThe truth about trauma, shame, and learned helplessness in ADHD womenWhy perfectionism and creativity often co-exist in neurodivergent womenHow Tracy’s approach brings humor, empowerment, and healing to thousands of womenThis isn’t just a conversation—it’s a reframe. If you’ve ever felt like the “too much” girl who couldn’t keep up with motherhood, or like you’re sitting on a pile of potential you just can’t access, this episode is for you.Featured Guest: Tracy Otsuka is a certified ADHD coach, former SEC attorney, and the creator of the ADHD for Smart Ass Women podcast and book. Her podcast has over 5 million downloads and reaches listeners in 160 countries. She’s been featured in Forbes, ADDitude Magazine, and The Goal Digger Podcast, and moderates a Facebook group with nearly 100,000 members.Resources & Mentions:Tracy Otsuka’s Podcast: ADHD for Smart Ass WomenDr. Sharon SalineDr. Christine Li (The Procrastination Coach)MOTHER PLUS INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mother_plus_podcast/MOTHER PLUS FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/motherpluspodcastMOTHER PLUS PERMISSION SLIP: https://www.motherplusser.com/Permission-SlipMOTHER PLUS NEWSLETTER: https://www.motherplusser.com/signup-pageMOTHER PLUS BLOG: https://www.motherplusser.com/blog
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#159: How to Finish a Big Project (Like Writing A Book) with ADHD
Send us a textSteph sits down with writer, academic, and fellow ADHD-er Wendy Robinson to talk about how she wrote an entire novel in six months—while working full time and managing ADHD. This is a must-listen whether you're a writer, a creative, or just someone juggling a big project with a neurodivergent brain. Spoiler: it’s not about willpower—it’s about systems, self-compassion, and knowing your brain.Wendy wrote her novel in 6 months (!), thanks to structure, support, and knowing what works for her ADHD brain.They talk about the real executive functioning challenges that come with ADHD and how women especially are impacted.Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is real and so relatable—especially when launching creative work into the world.Steph and Wendy bond over the “good girl” ADHD diagnosis story—how so many women go undiagnosed because they weren’t disruptive, just “daydreamy” and perfectionistic.Wendy shares her systems for getting big projects done: think writing retreats, body doubling at coffee shops, and her trusty “go bag.”The Parking Lot and Forward Only strategies are game-changers for staying focused and avoiding perfection paralysis.Why many ADHD women procrastinate by being too productive—but only for other people.Writing accountability groups are magic. External motivation > internal guilt.How Wendy redefined success: It’s not about the book deal. It’s about keeping promises to yourself and finishing the damn manuscript.Substack, querying, and how to cope when rejection stings like a wasp.“You don’t have to do it. But you’ll regret it if you don’t.” —On choosing your pain and finishing creative work.🧠 Quote of the Episode:“You’re seeing the scaffolding, not the reason the scaffolding is there.” — Wendy, on why high-functioning ADHD can still be deeply challenging. Wendy Robinson is a writer and higher ed nerd. In addition to working on a novel, she writes personal essays about parenting, life as a woman in middle age, pop culture, and more at her Substack Open Water (https://wendyrobinson.substack.com/). She also writes about all things higher education with a focus on the college admissions and financial aid processes to help parents of high school students feel less stressed at her other Substack, College Sanity (https://collegesanity.substack.com/).MOTHER PLUS INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mother_plus_podcast/MOTHER PLUS FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/motherpluspodcastMOTHER PLUS PERMISSION SLIP: https://www.motherplusser.com/Permission-SlipMOTHER PLUS NEWSLETTER: https://www.motherplusser.com/signup-pageMOTHER PLUS BLOG: https://www.motherplusser.com/blog
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#158: The Episode That Changed Everything — Understanding ADHD in Women with Leah Barnes (Revisited)
Send us a textThis replay features one of the most pivotal episodes in the history of the Mother Plus Podcast—a conversation that sparked a major shift in the show’s direction.In this episode, hosts Stacey and Steph sit down with licensed clinical mental health counselor Leah Barnes to explore what ADHD actually looks like in adult women, especially mothers. At the time, they were just beginning to uncover how different ADHD presents in women—and how often it goes undiagnosed or misunderstood. The response to this episode was overwhelming, with listeners flooding their inboxes saying, “I’ve never felt so understood.”This powerful conversation helped launch a deep dive into ADHD in women, eventually leading to interviews with top experts including psychologists, hormone specialists, coaches, and authors. But this episode? This is where it all started.Topics discussed in this episode include:Why ADHD symptoms in women are often overlooked or misdiagnosedThe emotional toll of masking, perfectionism, and people-pleasingHow motherhood intensifies executive function strugglesThe shame spiral of unfinished tasks and sensory overloadWhy recognizing and naming ADHD can be profoundly healingIf you've ever wondered why simple things feel impossibly hard—or why you constantly feel like you're falling short as a mom—this episode will leave you feeling seen and validated.Links & Resources:Listen to Part 2 of the Leah Barnes conversationMOTHER PLUS INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mother_plus_podcast/MOTHER PLUS FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/motherpluspodcastMOTHER PLUS PERMISSION SLIP: https://www.motherplusser.com/Permission-SlipMOTHER PLUS NEWSLETTER: https://www.motherplusser.com/signup-pageMOTHER PLUS BLOG: https://www.motherplusser.com/blog
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#157: A Summer Without a Schedule: My ADHD Mom Game Plan
Send us a textIf the thought of summer break has your nervous system clenching—hi, you’re not alone. In this honest and unfiltered solo episode, Stacey shares what she’s doing differently this summer as an ADHD mom. Spoiler: it has nothing to do with sticker charts, schedules, or rhythms & routines. Instead, it’s about trusting her gut, working with her energy, and building her capacity to handle the chaos that comes with summer.You’ll hear:How a book (How to Choose by Tara McMullin) cracked something wide open for herWhat Human Design is, and how it’s helped her stop trying to “do summer right”Why ADHD moms can fall into the trap of thinking they’re too fragile for thisHow capacity work (inspired by @Raquel_the_capacity_expert) is helping her shift out of that mindsetA mindset shift for those of you who strongly dislike imaginative floor play Her personal mantra for this summer—and how you can borrow itWhat you can expect from the Mother Plus Podcast this summerThis episode is your permission slip to stop forcing and start feeling. You’re stronger than you think, and you don’t have to reinvent yourself this summer. You just have to stay with yourself.Find your human design here: https://humandesignblueprint.com/MOTHER PLUS INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mother_plus_podcast/MOTHER PLUS FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/motherpluspodcastMOTHER PLUS PERMISSION SLIP: https://www.motherplusser.com/Permission-SlipMOTHER PLUS NEWSLETTER: https://www.motherplusser.com/signup-pageMOTHER PLUS BLOG: https://www.motherplusser.com/blog
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#156: A Guilt-Free Guide to Screen Time for ADHD Moms
Send us a textToday’s episode is a love letter to the overwhelmed, over-achieving, screen-time-guilty mom. Stace and Steph get honest about their screen time journeys—from Baby Einstein and Mickey Mouse & Lara Bars to curated slideshow nights and learning the Thriller dance with their kids.We unpack why the all-or-nothing approach to screens doesn’t work, especially for neurodivergent moms. We talk about the real cost of guilt, the need for rest, and how to make screen time work for you instead of feeling like it’s happening to you.Plus, we’re introducing our first-ever sponsor, Lingokids—an app that blends learning, creativity, and independence in a way that finally feels good. No guilt. No ads. Just permission to take a break while your kids explore a screen that actually teaches.In this episode, you’ll hear:How “no screen time” became a badge of honor—and a fast track to burnoutThe truth about parenting in the 2000s vs. todayWhy guilt-free screen time is a form of self-preservationWays to balance tech with bondingOur favorite educational and nostalgic screen-time momentsHow the Lingokids app has become a saving grace in our homesLinks + Resources:Use code MOTHERPLUS to get a 7-day free trial + 30% off your monthly Lingokids Plus subscription—for life*!*As long as you keep your subscription active, you'll lock in the 30% discount every month. If you cancel and come back later, the discount won’t carry over—so don’t let it go!Join the convo: What’s your screen time strategy? Do you have a “Mickey Mouse and Lara Bar” routine or a “Thriller Dance Break” of your own? DM us or tag us on Instagram @motherpluspodcast with your storiesMOTHER PLUS INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mother_plus_podcast/MOTHER PLUS FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/motherpluspodcastMOTHER PLUS PERMISSION SLIP: https://www.motherplusser.com/Permission-SlipMOTHER PLUS NEWSLETTER: https://www.motherplusser.com/signup-pageMOTHER PLUS BLOG: https://www.motherplusser.com/blog
This is the podcast for "too much" moms who feel like they are failing at motherhood and don't want to fail anymore. Your hosts, Stacey Hutson and Stephanie Sprenger, two ADHD moms of four girls ages 4-18, most definitely don't have it all figured out. But we know one thing for sure: understanding our brains is the key to enjoying our motherhood, and our SELVES again.Here, we are brutally honest about our ADHD motherhoods (the missed Spirit Weeks, the mountains of laundry, the nostalgia for our old "fun" pre-mom selves) so you know you're not the only one struggling.When we don't know the answers, or aren't qualified to give them, we bring on the experts. Mental health therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, women's doctors -- we want to learn from them all. Because we believe once you know how to work WITH your ADHD brain rather than against it, it changes everything. You found your people. We're them. And you're ours. Let's figure this out together. *To Join the ADHD Mom's Club so we can hang out, visit: https://www.motherplusser.com/ADHD-mom-club-waitlist**
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