#157: The Lie Every Child of Divorce Secretly Believes | Jim Havens
What if your parents’ divorce didn’t just split your family—but left you quietly carrying the blame?Most people think the hardest part of divorce is the day it happens. But often it’s the confusion, the pressure to act like everything’s fine, and the haunting thought: “Was it my fault?”In this episode, Jim Havens shares his journey of growing up in a broken family, spiraling into destructive choices, and the night everything changed. That turning point led him to healing, faith, freedom, and eventually to becoming a husband, father of six, and Catholic radio host.We talk about:Why “just move on” might be the most damaging advice you can getThe moment Jim realized he wasn’t as “fine” as he thoughtWhat one lonely night revealed—and how it changed everythingIf you’ve ever asked yourself, “Was it my fault my parents split up?” or wondered if you can truly build the marriage you long for, this conversation is for you.Watch the Documentary: KennyWatch the Trailer: Kenny (3:31 min)Visit Jim’s WebsiteVisit Catholic Family Men Get the Book or FREE chapters: It’s Not Your FaultRead the Article: Is masturbation harmful? by Jason EvertGet Dakota’s FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidQuestion for Joey or our guests? Text us. We'll answer on the show as soon as we're able. You can be anonymous if you'd like!
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#156: “This Is Not the Marriage I Signed Up For” | Heather Khym
Heather thought her family life was normal. But over time, she uncovered two buried traumas that quietly shaped her childhood—and required deep healing.Years later, as a newlywed, another wound came to light: her husband’s secret porn addiction. It shattered her—but it also became the turning point for restoration. Heather now calls it both the worst day and the best day of her life.In this episode, we dive into:Why she didn’t leave, and the non-negotiable conditions she set to even consider stayingHer advice for women facing the same gut-wrenching discovery, and for young people who just found out about a parent's addiction or affairHer biggest lesson for anyone from a dysfunctional family—and the practical steps she recommends to start healingIf you’ve ever found yourself wounded or betrayed, wondering if healing and restoration is possible, this episode is for you.Listen to Abiding TogetherVisit Heather’s WebsiteListen to Restore the GloryListen to the Healing Sexual Brokenness SeriesGet Dakota’s FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidShownotesQuestion for Joey or our guests? Text us. We'll answer on the show as soon as we're able. You can be anonymous if you'd like!
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#155: Am I Doomed to Repeat My Parents’ Divorce? | Dr. Brad Wilcox
Am I doomed to repeat the mistakes I saw in my parents’ marriage? That question made me afraid of love—especially when I started dating. At times, it even made me not want to get married at all. And now, even as a married man, that fear still shows up.If you come from a divorced or deeply dysfunctional family, you probably feel it too.The question I kept asking: How do I avoid that? How do I not get divorced? And more importantly, how do I build a strong marriage?That’s what we explore in this episode, plus:Are children of divorce actually doomed to fail at marriage—or is there real hope?5 surprising predictors of whether your marriage will last—including one tip that lowers your divorce risk by 25%The truth behind the “soulmate” myth—and what actually makes couples happyWhy staying single might not be the safe bet you think it isIf you’ve ever felt afraid of love or marriage, this episode is for you.Buy Dr. Brad’s Book: Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save CivilizationView Restored’s ResourcesGet Dakota’s FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidShownotesQuestion for Joey or our guests? Text us. We'll answer on the show as soon as we're able. You can be anonymous if you'd like!
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#154: Should I Reconnect with My Estranged Parent? | Kreed Revere
For so many of us from divorced or dysfunctional families, the tension with our parents doesn’t just fade. It can grow into silence, distance, or even a total cutoff where we can become estranged from each other. But what exactly is estrangement, why does it happen, and how can you rebuild an estranged relationship? In this episode, we discuss that and more:The subtle ways parents (and children) unknowingly push each other awayWhy grief is often buried beneath family conflict—and how to face it without getting stuckWhen reconnection is wise—and when staying estranged might actually be saferIf you’re dealing with an estranged relationship, this episode is for you.Visit Kreed’s website, TheEstrangedHeart.comGet Dakota’s FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidGet the Book or FREE chapters: It’s Not Your FaultGet the Guide: 10 Tips to Help Someone Whose Parents Are Separating or DivorcingShownotesQuestion for Joey or our guests? Text us. We'll answer on the show as soon as we're able. You can be anonymous if you'd like!
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#153: He Grew Up Without a Dad. Here’s What He Learned | Tommy
In many places, we’re facing an epidemic of fatherlessnes. Fatherlessness not only leaves an invisible mark but it also shapes how you view yourself, how you handle your emotions, and how you love in relationships. So are fatherless children doomed?Not at all. In fact, Tommy shows how to compensate for what you didn’t receive from dad and how healing is within reach. In this episode, we also discuss:His dad’s spiral into mental illness, homelessness—and why Tommy hasn’t seen him in over a decadeThe hidden ways father hunger shows up in dating relationships, causing us to seek what we never received from the wrong peopleThe lies he carried for years: “I am alone” and “I have to earn love”—and the truth he found to break that gripIf you experienced any sort of fatherlessness, this episode is for you.Get the Book or FREE chapters: It’s Not Your FaultGet Dakota’s FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidShare Your StoryShownotesQuestion for Joey or our guests? Text us. We'll answer on the show as soon as we're able. You can be anonymous if you'd like!
Children of divorce are 2–3 times more likely to get divorced and are more likely to struggle with emotional problems, relationship issues, and bad habits. But those stats don’t get to write your story. If your parents’ divorce or family dysfunction left wounds you can’t always put into words, this show is for you.The Restored Podcast shares real stories and expert tips to heal the trauma, navigate family challenges, and build the healthy relationships you’ve always wanted.Ranked in the top 10% of all podcasts and #18 in the divorce category — the only one dedicated to children of divorce — listeners say it’s “more effective than 30 years of counseling.”You’re not doomed to repeat your family’s past. You can break the cycle, and we’re here to help you do it.
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