The Divorce Course Podcast

• Family Law Myths: Don't Fall for These 5 During Separation

  Listen to this episode if… You're in the middle of a separation and unsure what advice to follow Friends, family, or Facebook have told you "what to do" You've heard you can't leave the house without losing everything You feel pressured not to bring up domestic violence You're confused about disclosure, super splitting, or property rights  📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. ALSO TRIGGER WARNING Discussions of Family Violence Have you been told that if you leave the house, you lose everything? Or that you shouldn't mention domestic violence in family court? These are just a few examples of the harmful myths in Australia we hear all too often in separation and divorce. In this episode, Laura & Lyn expose some of the worst legal advice circulating in family law and explain why it can derail your case, delay your outcome, or damage your safety and rights. They break down five of the most common (and dangerous) misconceptions, share what the law really says, and help you feel more confident about asking the right questions of your lawyer and making informed decisions.  ⏱️ Episode Timeline: Episode 221 Family Law Myths Don't Fall for These 5 During Separation 00:00 – Introduction: Debunking Common Family Law Myths Why bad legal advice is everywhere—and how it can derail your case. 01:42 – The Real Impact of Misinformation in Separation and Divorce What happens when you follow outdated or incorrect legal advice. 05:37 – Myth #1: "If You Leave the House, You Lose Your Property Rights" Why leaving the family home doesn't mean forfeiting your share. 12:48 – Myth #2: "You Must Have Every Document Before You Can Settle" The truth about financial disclosure and realistic expectations. 19:40 – Myth #3: "Don't Mention Domestic Violence in Court" How this dangerous myth puts safety and outcomes at risk. 24:19 – Understanding Family Violence and Property Entitlements How abuse can affect how assets are divided. 25:19 – Should You Mention Domestic Violence in Family Court? Legal perspectives on disclosure and protection. 25:50 – Spousal Maintenance: Know When and How to Ask Why it's often overlooked—and how to advocate for yourself. 26:43 – Myth Busting: Are Addbacks Still Used in Property Settlements? Clarifying a misunderstood financial concept in family law. 28:57 – Myth #5: "Superannuation Must Be Split 50/50" Exploring how super splitting really works under Australian law. 32:16 – How to Educate Yourself and Work Better with Your Lawyer Tips for being informed, assertive, and legally empowered. 35:32 – Final Thoughts and How to Enrol in the Divorce Course Practical next steps and how to get more support. 41:53 – Listener Reviews and Community Shoutouts Sharing your feedback and how to get involved. Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd   Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist Episode Links   Superannuation and Equalising super https://youtu.be/2BQEHmIwjio?si=kWg9F8c8rh4X8HqB 🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.   📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!  

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• Child Inclusive Mediation: Risks, Realities, and Red Flags

  Listen to this episode if... You've been offered child inclusive mediation and don't know what to expect You're worried about how separation is affecting your child You're in a high-conflict co-parenting situation or dealing with coercive control You've been told that involving your child in mediation will "help" You want to make informed, child-centered decisions in your family law journey  📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. In this powerful episode, Mum and I dive into a topic that's being promoted more and more in family law: Child Inclusive Mediation. On the surface, it sounds like a child-focused solution. But is it really in the best interest of your child? We break down what child inclusive mediation actually involves, why it's not always as neutral or helpful as it's made out to be, and the serious emotional and legal implications it can have especially in high-conflict separations or situations involving coercive control. From personal reflections to legal insights, we share why we're concerned about this process and what you need to consider before agreeing to include your child in any mediation setting. What You'll Learn What child inclusive mediation really means in practice The difference between therapeutic support vs. pressure on children to speak up When this process might backfire emotionally or legally Why family reports may be a safer and more protective alternative Red flags and questions to ask before you say yes ⏱️ Episode Timeline: Is Child Inclusive Mediation Helpful or Harmful? 00:00 – Introduction: What Is Child Inclusive Mediation? An overview of this growing mediation trend in family law and why it's controversial. 01:29 – How the Mediation Process Works in Parenting Disputes Understanding how mediation fits into separation and custody discussions. 03:44 – Defining Child Inclusive Mediation in Australian Family Law Breaking down what actually happens when children are included in mediation. 05:52 – The Risks and Red Flags of Child Inclusive Mediation Emotional pressure, manipulation, and when this process may do more harm than good. 08:00 – Confidentiality Issues and the Emotional Toll on Children What children are told, how their information is used, and the psychological impact. 13:42 – The Problem with Over-Interviewing Children in Family Law Why repeated interviews can traumatize kids and undermine the process. 20:00 – Real Concerns About Child Inclusive Mediation in Practice Legal and ethical questions raised by lawyers, parents, and professionals. 21:07 – How Child Inclusive Mediation Affects Older Children Teen-specific concerns, autonomy, and the danger of putting kids in the middle. 23:42 – Family Reports vs. Child Inclusive Mediation A safer alternative? What to expect from a court-ordered family report. 24:41 – DIY Divorce Blueprint: Free Resource Mentioned How to get practical tools to guide you through separation and co-parenting. 28:27 – Key Questions to Ask Before Agreeing to Child Inclusive Mediation What to consider if this process has been suggested to you. 32:49 – Final Thoughts: Protecting Your Child's Voice and Mental Health Wrapping up with a parent-first, child-protective perspective. Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist   🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.   📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!  

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• Co-Parenting Without Court Orders: The Real Rules and Red Flags You Need to Know

  Listen to this episode if... You're newly separated and trying to figure out parenting arrangements. You don't have court orders yet and things are already getting tense. Your ex is unreliable, manipulative, or emotionally unpredictable. You're feeling pressured to agree to arrangements that feel unsafe or unfair. You want to avoid court but don't want to be taken advantage of. Trying to co-parent after separation without court orders? This episode offers a general discussion that may help you better understand the common challenges many face during this stage. Mum and I talk through the confusion, conflict, and emotional chaos that often arise when parenting without formal agreements in place. We explore how co-parenting typically unfolds in the early days post-separation, the general differences between parenting plans and court orders, and what can happen when one parent starts making sudden changes like; withholding time with the kids, shifting pick-up arrangements, or insisting on "rules" that were never agreed upon. If you're feeling unsure about whether to formalize your arrangements, being pressured into something that feels unfair, or just don't know where to start, this episode provides a helpful overview, insights, and discussion points to consider. Please remember this is not legal advice. Always speak with a qualified professional for advice on your specific situation.  📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Co-Parenting Without Court Orders: The Real Rules and Red Flags You Need to Know Episode Timeline Summary:  00:00 – Introduction: Co-Parenting After Separation Setting the stage for co-parenting challenges in the early days of separation. 01:23 – Myths and Misunderstandings About Separation Rules What many parents get wrong after they separate—and what's important to know. 03:42 – How to Decide Where the Kids Live After Separation Living arrangements, routines, and initial decisions—without court orders. 07:48 – Co-Parenting with a Manipulative or Controlling Ex Recognizing red flags and what to consider if you're being pressured or gaslit. 13:46 – Strategies for Co-Parenting with an Avoidant Ex When your ex won't engage or avoids parenting responsibilities. 18:40 – Managing High-Conflict Co-Parenting Situations What to do when emotions run high and agreements fall apart. 20:45 – Parenting Plans vs Court Orders: What's the Difference? Legal strength, enforceability, and when each option makes sense. 24:02 – Making Parenting Agreements Without Going to Court What to include, how to approach it, and setting healthy boundaries. 24:31 – Signs You're Dealing with a Manipulative Co-Parent Control tactics, emotional abuse, and maintaining your parenting role. 25:40 – Do You Need Court Orders or Is a Parenting Plan Enough? Legal protections and risks of informal arrangements. 28:38 – What to Do When Your Ex Avoids All Responsibility How to respond when you're carrying the full parenting load alone. 31:31 – High-Conflict Parenting Post-Separation Tips for managing ongoing disputes and protecting the kids. 33:51 – When Your Ex Ignores the Parenting Agreement Understanding your rights and the next steps if the agreement isn't followed. 35:02 – When to Consider Court Orders: Timing and Triggers Knowing the signs that it's time to formalize your parenting arrangement. 40:04 – Family Violence, Supervised Contact & Legal Protections When safety becomes an issue—and what support is available. 47:43 – Final Thoughts: Stay Grounded and Protect Your Peace Encouragement, next steps, and key reminders moving forward. Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd   Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist   Episode Links   The Hidden Connection between Property and Parenting in Divorce https://youtu.be/w0-TnEjMmhs?si=_y1n3i0fejy04W2L   10 Essential Boundaries in Divorce https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=nqq4fmavJGu25Z2X 🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.   📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!  

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• Business Tricks in Divorce: 10 Sneaky Tactics to Watch Out For and Outsmart!

  Listen to this episode if... You're divorcing  or separating from someone who owns or runs a business. You're in a family business with your ex and things are getting murky. You suspect your ex is hiding assets or undervaluing the business. You're overwhelmed by the complexity of business valuations in divorce. You're preparing for mediation or court and want to understand your options.  📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. Divorcing a business owner or running a business with your soon-to-be ex? You must hear this. In this eye-opening episode, Mum and I dive into the most common and sneaky tricks business owners use during separation and how to stay one step ahead. From manipulating business valuations to hiding assets in clone companies, refusing disclosure, and even dragging staff into the mess, we break down each tactic with real-world examples and strategies you can use. Whether you're preparing for mediation or already deep in the property settlement process, this is a must-listen for anyone who suspects their ex isn't playing fair when a business is involved.   Episode Timeline Summary: Business Tricks in Divorce: 10 Sneaky Tactics to Watch Out For and Outsmart! 00:00 – Intro: Divorce and Business Ownership Understanding why divorcing a business owner is uniquely challenging. 01:06 – Real-Life Divorce Scenarios with a Business Involved What happens when you're in business with your ex—or they own one. 03:02 – Trick #1: Making the Business Seem Worthless How business owners hide value before property settlement. 08:12 – Trick #2: Starting a New Business to Hide Assets The "mirror business" strategy and how to uncover it. 09:26 – Trick #3: Issuing New Shares to Dilute Ownership What to do when your share of the business suddenly shrinks. 12:41 – Trick #4: Hiding Income and Creating Fake Tax Debts How income manipulation affects child support and property division. 17:58 – Trick #5: Refusing to Allow a Business Valuation Steps to take when your ex delays or avoids business valuation. 19:58 – Legal Disclaimer: General Education Only Reminder to seek personal legal advice for your situation. 20:39 – How Courts Handle Business Valuation & Disclosure Why you don't need full financial disclosure to move forward. 21:31 – Trick #6: Cooking the Books & Cash Deals Spotting hidden income, second books, and cash-based deception. 26:39 – Trick #7: Financial Abuse via Job Loss or Sacking What to do when your ex cuts your income post-separation. 32:01 – Trick #8: Superannuation and Self-Managed Funds Risks of SMSFs and how assets may be hidden or misused. 36:39 – Court Penalties for Business-Related Divorce Tricks When shady business tactics backfire in property settlements. 40:36 – Listener Review & Free Coaching Call Giveaway Shoutout to a listener + how to win a free call with Mum. Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist Shinohara & Shinohara [2025] FedCFamC1A 126 (23 July 2025) https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/126.html Shamon & Shamon [2025] FedCFamC1A 150 (8 September 2025) https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/150.html   Episode Links Your Business and Divorce (old episode) https://open.spotify.com/episode/0CwIeW1ZHTphzvhPdlq2Bf?si=JCtAHG7NTom5YSceqdSJ2Q Weapons of Tax Destruction  https://open.spotify.com/episode/1Bvc2JFmgcLMpIZLIXEwVR?si=KT3UdjZRQAWjDRp3EMXhiw DIY Disclosure https://open.spotify.com/episode/49yOIB1GLDmXgeZCXkfyJS?si=nhgq3QQlQge-CSYLkMGKBg 🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.  

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• Is My Co-Parent a Narcissist? Warning Signs, Boundaries & How to Protect Your Kids

  🎧 Listen to this episode if… You constantly walk away from conversations with your ex feeling drained, confused, or second-guessing yourself. Co-parenting feels more like a battleground than teamwork. You suspect your ex might be narcissistic or manipulative, but you're not sure what to do about it. You want to learn how to protect your children emotionally while staying calm and in control. You're tired of being baited into fights and want tools to respond, not react. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and trauma recovery. 📌 Disclaimer: This episode is for general information and education only. Please seek your own legal, psychological, or medical support for your specific circumstances.  📑 Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist 💻 The Divorce Course Free Resources https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au What You'll Learn: Is My Co-Parent a Narcissist? Warning Signs, Boundaries & How to Protect Your Kids 💔 Recognising the Signs: Mia explains how narcissistic or high-conflict co-parents reveal themselves — through blame-shifting, entitlement, image obsession, and control. ⚖️ The Court Reality Check: Lyn shares why using the word "narcissist" in court can backfire — and how to instead describe their behaviours (the "ingredients" rather than "the cake"). 🧱 Setting Boundaries That Stick: How to stop being pulled into chaos, manage constant conflicts, and accept "who you're dealing with" so you can regain power. 🧒 Protecting the Kids: Red flags to watch for in how your ex uses or manipulates the children — and how to model calm, consistent parenting when they don't. 💬 Parenting Teenagers of Narcissistic Exes: Mia and Lyn dive into the tricky years — when kids start echoing their narcissistic parent's behaviour — and how to hold firm without turning into your ex. 💪 Your Healing & Hope: Why the most powerful move isn't "winning" against your ex — it's rebuilding your self-trust, removing their emotional "buttons," and staying in your own lane.   🔗 Guest Expert Mia from Grey Rock Consulting — https://www.greyrockconsulting.com.au/ Lawyer, founder, and Australia's first certified Master High Conflict Negotiation Coach (trained by Rebecca Zung). Mia helps clients and lawyers navigate high-conflict personalities with strategy, clarity, and self-preservation.     ⏱️ Episode Timeline –  00:00 — Intro: Are You Co-Parenting with a Narcissist? Signs to Watch For 00:34 — Meet Mia from Grey Rock Consulting: Expert in Narcissists & High-Conflict Exes 02:11 — What Narcissistic Co-Parenting Really Looks Like (and Why It's So Draining) 13:51 — How Narcissistic Co-Parenting Affects Kids Emotionally and Psychologically 18:25 — Setting Boundaries with a Narcissist: Staying Calm & In Control 21:49 — What to Include (and Avoid) in Parenting Orders or Plans 26:22 — Custody Chaos: When Your Narcissistic Ex Twists the Rules 26:45 — Unexpected Changes & Power Plays: How to Handle Parenting Plan Disputes 27:32 — Dealing with Difficult Co-Parents Who Refuse to Cooperate 29:12 — Emotional Recovery: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse 29:53 — When to Push Back (and When to Let It Go) in Co-Parenting Conflicts 35:08 — Teenagers & Narcissistic Parents: What to Do When Kids Mirror the Ex 37:38 — Maintaining Boundaries, Consistency & Emotional Safety at Home 40:39 — Becoming the Positive Role Model Your Kids Need 43:22 — Focusing on You: Self-Growth, Strength & Rebuilding Confidence 46:44 — Where to Get Help: Support, Counselling & Co-Parenting Resources 49:15 — Final Thoughts: Finding Freedom from a Narcissistic Co-Parent   Related Episodes: Is it emotional abuse?  https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bSCQ3JdcU4xxW7D4LJUxG?si=VV8mR7aYS7uJYstTMYwZvg Post Divorce Glow Up https://open.spotify.com/episode/7JoSZEPWiMgM1N1G1C6WSU?si=HDBpOPXqTnmzzrIudA16tQ Divorcing an abuser https://open.spotify.com/episode/21TpYbC15VJt9lnb82Ub13?si=lonuOpx8Q22ZRrKKbArc0g 🎙️ Mediation or Manipulation? https://open.spotify.com/episode/4P1DjaMtXTq2sbel4qywew 🎙️ The Narcissist Playbook https://open.spotify.com/episode/00kTon70LllVE97X8zn9vK   🚨 Support Services (Australia): 1800 RESPECT – Family Violence Support Lifeline 13 11 14 – Crisis Support Police – Call 000 if you are in danger ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe. 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.  

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