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Trigger warning: This episode contains references to disordered eating and the death of a parent following a medical complication.

“I'm actually on day twenty-six alcohol-free right now, the first time since I was pregnant with my daughter,” Bethany says. Bev has been counting differently: hers started January 13th, and her husband hasn't missed a single one of his own drinking nights since. Bethany and Bev work with Coaches Hayley and Cole on how to quit drinking when your spouse still drinks.

Bethany discusses:

• The exact moment four years ago that changed everything, and the nights she still can't escape it

• Why she calls herself a “cheater” when it comes to quitting, and what she means by it

• The one word she used to describe what alcohol really was to her

• What Coach Hayley asked her about her father, and what Bethany said back

Bev discusses:

• A resentment she didn't know she was carrying, until the alcohol was gone and there was nowhere left to hide it

• Living with a cancer diagnosis that makes quitting drinking a matter of life and death

• The one sentence about her marriage she's never said out loud, not even to her husband

• What Coach Cole told her to do about a husband who won't quit too, and why it wasn't what she expected

• And more…

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Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

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Annie Grace grew up in a cabin with no running water, no electricity, and a dad who never drank. A decade later, in a corporate job in New York City, she was pouring close to two bottles of wine a night, buying the boxed kind so nobody would notice when one ran out. In this episode, she sits down with Mike Marshall, CEO of the U.S. Alcohol Policy Alliance, on his podcast The Shift, to talk about what the alcohol industry doesn’t want you to know, and why “drink responsibly” was never really about you.

Annie and Mike discuss:

Annie’s own story, from a childhood with no drinking in the house to two bottles of wine a night, and the moment that finally stopped her in her tracks

Why “drink responsibly” sounds helpful but was never really written with the drinker in mind

What a former alcohol industry executive admitted about targeting the heaviest drinkers, and building the alcopop to hook teenagers

Why alcohol has carried a carcinogen label for decades, and why most of us never got the memo

Annie’s “grace first” approach to changing your relationship with alcohol, and why shame just isn’t the answer

And more on policy, parenting, and what real freedom from alcohol’s grip actually feels like…

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Why can’t I just have one drink? For Pamela, that question comes from her struggle to moderate her drinking, and for Claude, it sits in her fear of never being able to drink again. Same question but from two very different perspectives. Coaches Cole and Hayley work with Pamela and Claude to discover what sits behind these questions and to find out why one drink never stays one drink for most of us.

Pamela discusses:

Fifty-three easy days, then a Friday night phone call from friends that flipped the switch

Why the third night lined up with the anniversary of her ex-husband's death

Why she uses alcohol to "let go of what's heavy," and what it's really protecting her from

Coach Cole's question about her daughter that undid six years of believing she had to handle things alone

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Claude discusses:

Why the idea of "never again" feels like free fall and grief, not relief

Tracing the "glitter" back to cocktails, galas, and a stressful career, and finding it elsewhere

An experiment with an untouched glass of wine, left behind on an Adirondack chair

Why a firm 30-day non-negotiable feels lighter than deciding fresh every single day

The question Coach Hayley keeps circling back to: what if there's no such thing as failure?

And more…

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Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

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Judd never considered that he would quit drinking before turning forty. After all, for twenty-five years he would pick the idea up and put it down as regularly as if it were his morning coffee. But one day he picked up a receipt for a book he'd bought two years earlier yet never read. Suddenly the countdown was on, and he was no longer willing to keep the idea of quitting drinking before forty on the shelf. It was now time to change.

Judd and Coach Cole discuss:

How buying The Alcohol Experiment in January 2020 and not reading it for months planted the seed that eventually took hold

Why turning quitting into a 30-day, then 90-day, then six-month goal made an impossible habit feel achievable

The moment his now-wife suggested he aim for a year instead of six months, and why he said yes

How he used the rawness of his first alcohol-free months to write a novel exploring AI, free will, and addiction

Why naltrexone and other medications raise real questions about free will, even when they work

What it was like to travel internationally alcohol-free for the first time, from Sydney's hidden NA bar scene to San Juan's early morning joggers

How realizing most people at parties were not drinking as much as he assumed changed the way he saw every social event

And more on goal-setting, dating after quitting, and what it really means to find your own path to alcohol freedom…

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What does it take to figure out how to stop relying on alcohol for confidence? Amy needed eleven months alcohol-free, followed by more stops and starts than a city bus has, to decide something needed to change. For Dee, it was an entire wedding weekend and the fear of being the only one without a drink in her hand that made her realize alcohol was holding way too much headspace for her. Coaches Zoe and Cole help both women discover the confidence that was already inside them all along.

Amy discusses:

Going 30 days alcohol-free, then 11 months, then letting red wine back in "on a limited basis" and watching it unravel

The cognitive dissonance between her morning self and her evening self, and why they actually want the same thing

An ADHD diagnosis at seventeen and a lifelong feeling of being unpredictable to herself

A snowy backyard, a hot tub, and proof that an urge really does pass if you outlast it

Dee discusses:

An entire wedding weekend built around alcohol, and the fear she hadn't said out loud yet

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The shift from "I'm not allowed to drink" to "I'm choosing not to," and why that one distinction changed everything

Visualizing the wedding ahead of time, the same way she used to visualize a swim race

And more…

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Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol. 

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Cole Harvey is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. 

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