The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby

Matt & Abby respond to the assumptions people make about their marriage, money, parenting, and life online. From sex, swearing, and social media, nothing is off the table. It’s honest, self-aware, and way more nuanced than the internet thinks.

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Chapters:
00:00 - Addressing your assumptions about us
04:37 - You guys didn't actually wait for marriage
05:45 - You never cuss on the podcast
07:14 - Matt loves Abby way more than she loves him
08:29 - Y’all have sex every day
08:59 - You guys poop with the door open
09:39 - You guys are mad rich, like billionaires
13:03 - Abby makes Matt get pedicures
13:49 - Sponsor: LMNT
15:25 - Abby reads books and Matt reads Reels
17:06 - Abby always gets what she wants
17:46 - Abby secretly runs marathons
18:24 - Matt is the fun parent and Abby is the disciplinarian
19:30 - Matt has more social bandwidth
20:35 - You guys overthink
22:36 - Matt struggles with comparison
22:58 - Abby has to keep Matt in line
23:52 - Matt would thrive in a normal 9-5
25:27 - You actually hate doing social media
25:47 - You don't always agree with how much you share
27:35 - Matt reads comments way longer than Abby
27:58 - You've changed opinions just to avoid getting backlash
29:04 - Sponsor: Huel
32:14 - Matt thinks Abby could run the entire business
33:07 - Since getting more public backlash you are more cautious
33:53 - Being in the spotlight all the time is overwhelming
34:36 - Being good examples leaves less room to be fully yourselves
37:00 - You have a lot of help
38:46 - You miss life before kids
41:40 - You regret getting married so young
43:24 - Abby gets hit on and it messes with Matt
44:32 - You judge people who choose not to have kids
45:33 - Abby's parents still live with you
46:41 - You guys are superstitious
47:24 - Abby saves money and Matt likes to spend
50:46 - You don't drink alcohol
51:22 - Abby is a great singer
53:09 - You like it when fans say hi
54:31 - You don't like alone time
55:19 - You guys are soul mates from previous lives
55:51 - This podcast is going to end
58:19 - Y’all have sex every day (the return)
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Mark Manson joins Matt & Abby for a thoughtful, honest conversation about modern self-help, personal responsibility, and what actually leads to a meaningful life. They talk marriage as a “long conversation,” the dangers of toxic positivity, dating apps, friendship, death, and how Mark’s thinking has evolved since writing The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.

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Chapters:

00:00 - Mark Manson

03:12 - Disappointment Panda

06:45 - Titling The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

13:00 - sponsor: CashApp

14:37 - Religious influence

19:15 - Dangers of self help

21:59 - How my views have changed

23:50 - Personal responsibility

26:34 - sponsor: audible

27:44 - Children and purpose

34:41 - Importance of community

39:45 - sponsor: square

41:40 - Three factors of friendship

46:33 - Quality of Life

53:15 - sponsor: Nutrafol

56:25 - Death

1:00:16 - Marriage: the Long Conversation

1:03:19 - The trap of dating apps

1:07:53 - Keeping score in marriage

1:13:18 - Launching a new self help app
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Matt & Abby have an honest, thoughtful conversation about divorce, what the data actually says, and the seasons of marriage that tend to be the hardest. They talk through common reasons marriages struggle, indicators that often get ignored, and why they still believe in marriage, before closing with an Agree to Disagree segment and questions from listeners.

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Chapters:
00:00 - A messy conversation about divorce
01:39 - Getting married before 25
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14:18 - Most difficult periods of marriage
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28:52 - Largest indicators of divorce
30:34 - Most common reasons for divorce
33:28 - Jobs and divorce rates
40:40 - Benefits of marriage
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44:40 - Agree to Disagree
57:44 - Q&A
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Tony Robbins and his wife Sage Robbins sit down with Matt & Abby for an honest conversation about marriage, love, and longevity. They open up about miscarriage, surrogacy, raising kids later in life, and what it really takes to stay connected through different seasons of a relationship.

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Chapters:
00:00 - Tony Robbins
01:27 - Secret to long marriage
02:41 - Struggles with miscarriages
05:20 - Parenting then vs. Parenting now
11:07 - I'm Not Your Guru
16:58 - The love my parents modelled
24:10 - Your relationship as seasons
34:35 - Fertility journey
41:47 - Surrogacy
52:37 - Soul Recognition
54:38 - Raising our daughter as a product of love
59:34 - Working with your spouse
1:09:45 - Everyone's deepest fear
1:14:49 - Responsibility is freedom
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The Abbys talk parenting through grief, the Kelsea Ballerini song that makes them cry, and what it brings up about family and regret. They share why they’re grateful they started their families young, discuss the pros and cons of young marriage, and explain how modeling pride in your work helps raise confident kids.

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Chapters:

02:19 - The Hope & The Hard

08:18 - WOW, That's Crazy!

12:55 - Kelsea Ballerini Deep Dive

26:05 - Starting a family in our early 20's

34:44 - The cons of getting married young

52:05 - Ask Abbys
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