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• 75. What We Wish Our Partners Knew About the Mental Load - And How to Truly Support Us

  Having the mental load conversation is about as fun as stepping on LEGO barefoot. You want to explain how much you're carrying, but suddenly you’re “nagging.” You try to share how exhausted you are, and now you’re “overreacting.” Meanwhile, your partner is confused, defensive, and wondering why the conversation about the car getting booked in for a service turned into an existential crisis.Yeah. This episode is for you.PLUS get your episode companion guide for $10 – packed with scripts, validation strategies, and advanced tools to turn resentment into real partnership and shift from "helping" to truly sharing the load. It includes the full episode transcript. Your support keeps this podcast going! Download here. 💛What We’re Covering:How to talk about the mental load without it ending in a full-blown argumentThe difference between helping and sharing responsibility What NOT to say unless you enjoy stony silence and tears.How to validate your partner (because “just make a list” is not the answer)Why one of you is focused on surviving today, while the other is planning a retirement in 2047Resentment doesn’t mean your relationship is broken - it just means something needs to shift before you completely lose your mind.Share with your partner or just casually leave this episode playing at full volume while they’re in the room. 😏RESOURCES MENTIONED: Ep 58 - Here’s What Your Partner Needs You to Know About ADHDEp 69 - Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan Ep 71 - 7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load Ep 73 - Making the Invisible Mental Load VisibleThe Gottman Institute Family Meeting TemplateJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or

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• 74. Keeping Children Safe from Tricky People & Unsafe Situations with Kristi McVee

  ⚠️ Content Warning: This post discusses child sexual abuse, grooming, and child safety. If this is a difficult topic for you, please take care while listening. But if you're a parent, I encourage you to stick with it - because avoiding it won't make it go away.Most parents assume they’ll know if their child is unsafe. But here’s the reality: neurodivergent kids are more vulnerable - not because they’re unaware, but because they see the world differently.They assume people mean what they say.They trust familiar adults - even when they shouldn’t.They think being ‘polite’ means saying yes.They struggle to spot manipulation, pressure, or coercion.They keep quiet when they feel uncomfortable - because they’re not sure if it ‘counts.’If you’ve never thought about it this way, this episode is a must-listen.PLUS we've put together a free kit on How to Have Safety Conversations Without Scaring Your Child. Download HERE. What You’ll Get From This Episode:How to teach body safety without making it scaryThe ‘What If?’ method – Simple ways to help kids recognise & react to unsafe situationsThe biggest safety mistake parents don’t realise they’re makingHow to help your child set boundaries & say no - even when it’s hardRed flags your child might be missing (and how to help them notice)The right way to talk about online safety - without isolating them from social life🔗 Missed Part 1? Understanding the Risks – Neurodivergent Children, Social Safety & Grooming dives into why neurodivergent kids are more vulnerable & what parents often overlook. Listen to that first, or jump straight into this episode for practical, real-world strategies.👉 Because keeping kids safe isn’t just about protecting them - it’s about making sure they can protect themselves.RESOURCES MENTIONED: Kristi's websiteKristi's Instagram Kristi's Conversations with KidsKristi's book - Operation KidSafeMy Tricky Eye SpySTART HERE: https://adhdmums.com.au/start-here/ Sometimes, the hardest part is knowing where to start – especially when your brain already feels like it’s juggling a hundred tabs at once. That’s why this space was built to make things easier, not harder. No fluff, no wasted time – just resources designed to meet you exactly where you are.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group

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• 73. Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible: How to Share the Load Without the Stress [Part 3]

  You’re juggling everything, but no one seems to notice.You’re the one keeping track of school emails, therapy appointments, meal plans, and a million invisible tasks.Your brain never stops. The mental gymnastics of managing everything is exhausting.And when something doesn’t get done? That’s the only thing anyone notices.🔥 This is the invisible mental load. And if it feels like it’s breaking you, you’re not alone.PLUS we've put together A Kit for Making the Mental Load Visible (and Finally Sharing it). Download HERE.In this episode, we’re breaking it all down:Why ADHD mums feel the weight of the mental load harder than anyone elseThe unseen tasks that no one else even thinks aboutWhy your partner isn’t stepping in - and how to finally shift the balancePractical ways to make the invisible load visible - without it turning into another argumentSmall, realistic changes that actually helpThis isn’t about doing more - it’s about making sure you don’t have to carry it all alone.RESOURCES MENTIONED:Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan - Part 17 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load - Part 2 Family Meeting Template Mental Load CardsSTART HERE: https://adhdmums.com.au/start-here/ Sometimes, the hardest part is knowing where to start – especially when your brain already feels like it’s juggling a hundred tabs at once. That’s why this space was built to make things easier, not harder. No fluff, no wasted time – just resources designed to meet you exactly where you are.JOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected]. TOPICS COVERED...

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• 72. Understanding the Risks – Neurodivergent Children, Social Safety, and Grooming [Part 1] with Kristi McVee

  ⚠️ Content Warning: This post discusses child sexual abuse, grooming, and child safety. If this is a difficult topic for you, please take care while listening. But if you're a parent, I encourage you to stick with it - because avoiding it won't make it go away.Most of us assume we’d see the signs. We believe we’d know if someone was grooming our child. But the truth? Grooming is subtle, calculated, and often happens right under our noses.In this crucial episode, former detective and child safety advocate Kristi McVee discusses the unique risks neurodivergent children face in social situations, online spaces, and within their communities. Many parents worry about keeping their kids safe, but for parents of neurodivergent children, the challenges can be even greater - especially when it comes to understanding social cues, setting boundaries, and recognising unsafe situations.PLUS we've put together a free Kit on Body Safety & Child Protection. Download HERE.🚨 This is the conversation we all wish we didn’t have to have. But we can’t afford not to.💥 Coming next week: The practical strategies every parent needs to protect their child - what to say, what to teach, and how to build safety skills that actually work.RESOURCES MENTIONED: Kristi's websiteKristi's Instagram Kristi's Conversations with KidsKrist's book - Operation KidSafeAustralian Child Maltreatment StudyJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.COLLABS:For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected]. MORE RESOURCES:Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODEneurodivergent children, child safety, grooming awareness, social safety, online...

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• 71. 7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load [Part 2]

  If you’ve ever felt like you’re juggling every detail while everyone else just lives their life, you’re not alone. The mental load is real, and so is the frustration of carrying it all.In Part Two, we’re unpacking why so many ADHD mums stop speaking up about the mental load - even when it’s pushing us to burnout. Maybe you’ve tried before and been met with defensiveness, guilt, or the feeling that it’s just easier to do it yourself. But what if the way you bring it up could actually lead to change?Want to go deeper? This episode’s companion kit gives you practical strategies, conversation guides, and small shifts to help you redistribute the mental load - without burnout, conflict, or micromanaging. Also includes full transcript of this episode. Click here to get the kit. In This Episode: Why it feels impossible to shift the mental load (and how to stop getting stuck in that cycle)How societal expectations make us feel like it’s “just part of being a mum”Why resentment builds and how to prevent burnout before it happensThe role of gender norms, guilt, and internalised pressure in keeping us silentSimple, low-energy conversation shifts that can help you get the support you needRelatable? Overwhelming? Exhausting? You’re not alone. This episode is your reminder that carrying the mental load doesn’t mean you should carry it alone.Resources & Links:Listen to Part 1 Episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums websiteADHD Planner & Values WorkbookMiniseries Ep 5 on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website58. What Your Partner Needs You to Know on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums websitePDA episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the

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