Beyond The Surface Podcast

Some people are meant to walk with you for a season, a chapter, or a version of you. Growth, healing, and evolution change not just who you are, but who you show up as. And when that happens, not everyone can or will come with you.
In this episode, Belinda explores what it really means to outgrow friendships, clients, circles, and old versions of yourself. This isn’t about ego, cutting people off, or being dismissive. It’s about truth, alignment, and the freedom (and discomfort) that comes when you realise you’re not for everyone. And everyone isn’t for you.
Belinda shares practical reflections on how to navigate shifting relationships, release the need for approval, and find ease with the people and spaces that truly align with who you are today. This episode is for anyone who’s learning to honour their growth, embrace self-acceptance, and step fully into the version of themselves that’s ready to be seen.

What You’ll Discover in This Episode:
Why some relationships only last for a season, and why that’s okay.
How personal growth changes your dynamics with others.
Why being seen as “too much” or “not enough” often isn’t about you.
The difference between disloyalty and authentic outgrowing.
How to stop trying to control other people’s perception of you.
Where your energy truly belongs and how to recognise aligned connections.
Practical questions to help you reflect on your relationships and alignment.

If you’ve ever felt the tension of outgrowing people, wondering if you’re doing something “wrong,” or struggling to belong, this episode will give you clarity, relief, and the permission to show up fully as you are.

Podcast Sponsor:
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Connect with Belinda:
Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au
(sign up to her Newsletter to receive updates on retreats, podcast episodes, and insights to help you heal, grow & thrive).
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson
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Content warning: This episode discusses addiction, mental health struggles, and suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or support line in your area. In Australia, you can contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.
Labelled “the fat kid” growing up, Darcy never felt like he belonged. Food became his first coping mechanism, followed by drugs at a young age in a search for acceptance. By his teens, he’d been expelled from three schools, was living on the streets, and deeply involved in crime and addiction.
After years of struggling including a suicide attempt, jail became the turning point that forced Darcy to face reality. While incarcerated, he built discipline through routine, training, meditation, and journaling. A promise to his terminally ill mother became the foundation of his sobriety.
Now, eight years sober, Darcy works as a personal trainer and coach, helping others from his lived experience.
This episode is proof that no matter how far you fall, the choices you make next can save you.

Podcast Sponsor:
Evolution Botanicals: real, natural support for your health. From functional mushrooms for focus, energy and immunity, to traditional herbs that nourish and  support your nervous system.  Visti: https://evolutionbotanicals.com.au/ and add BTS10 for 10% off your first order.

Connect with Belinda:
Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au
(sign up to her Newsletter to receive updates on retreats, podcast episodes, and insights to help you heal, grow & thrive).
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau

Connect with Darcy:
Website: https://drcfit.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drc.fit.pt/

We’re born breathing, yet many of us breathe in a way that keeps the body stuck in stress.
In this episode, Belinda explores why how you breathe matters, and how your breath directly affects the nervous system, emotional regulation, and the body’s ability to feel safe.
You’ll learn why shallow, fast breathing keeps the body in survival mode, the benefits of nasal breathing and tongue position, the role of the diaphragm in nervous system balance, how humming and gentle breath holds stimulate the vagus nerve, and why CO₂ tolerance matters for anxiety, breathlessness, and resilience.
You’ll also be guided through a simple, practical breathing practice you can use anytime to calm your nervous system and reconnect with your body.
This episode is educational, grounded, and designed to be revisited.

Podcast Sponsor:
Evolution Botanicals: real, natural support for your health. From functional mushrooms for focus, energy and immunity, to traditional herbs that nourish and  support your nervous system.  Visti: https://evolutionbotanicals.com.au/ and add BTS10 for 10% off your first order.

Connect with Belinda:
Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au
(sign up to her Newsletter to receive updates on retreats, podcast episodes, and insights to help you heal, grow & thrive).
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau

As we head into the New Year, there’s a message everywhere: New Year. New You. It sounds motivating, but for most people, it doesn’t last.
Only 8% of people actually succeed with their New Year’s resolutions. And it’s not because they’re lazy, unmotivated, or incapable. It’s because resolutions are built on hope, not on habits, and real change requires much more than motivation.
In this episode, Belinda unpacks why resolutions fail, what’s really happening in your nervous system when change feels hard, and what actually creates sustainable, long-term transformation.
This is not about hype, pressure, or reinventing yourself overnight. It’s about understanding the patterns underneath your behaviour, and learning how to work with your body, not against it.
By the end of this episode, you’ll feel grounded, clear, and resourced, not fired up for a week, but supported for real change that lasts.

Podcast Sponsor:
Evolution Botanicals: real, natural support for your health. From functional mushrooms for focus, energy and immunity, to traditional herbs that nourish and  support your nervous system.  Visti: https://evolutionbotanicals.com.au/ and add BTS10 for 10% off your first order.

Connect with Belinda:
Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au
(sign up to her Newsletter to receive updates on retreats, podcast episodes, and insights to help you heal, grow & thrive).
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau

Who you spend time with shapes everything, your habits, your choices, your stress, your growth, and your sense of self. In this episode, Belinda explains why your nervous system mirrors the people and environments around you, not because you’re weak, but because this is how humans are wired.
You’ll learn why some people feel regulating and expansive, while others leave you dysregulated, drained, or stuck in old patterns, and how your childhood experiences shape what feels “normal,” even when it isn’t healthy. Belinda shares practical ways to choose people and spaces that support your growth, regulate your nervous system, and help you create lasting change.
If you’ve ever wondered why you feel like a different version of yourself around certain people, or why growth and change can feel hard in familiar environments, this episode will give you clarity, validation, and tools to start choosing people and environments that truly nourish you and move you forward.

Podcast Sponsor:
Evolution Botanicals: real, natural support for your health. From functional mushrooms for focus, energy and immunity, to traditional herbs that nourish and  support your nervous system.  Visti: https://evolutionbotanicals.com.au/ and add BTS10 for 10% off your first order.

Connect with Belinda:
Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au
(sign up to her Newsletter to receive updates on retreats, podcast episodes, and insights to help you heal, grow & thrive).
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau