S27E6: Soft Structure: Building a Routine That Honors Your Current Season in Life
Hey lady! On the road to building the soft life of your dreams you’ll need to incorporate systems to keep that soft life moving authentically and with ease. Often, we’re taught that lives that feel good and easy come with hard work and while that is one way to do it there are ways to build routines and life processes that make life smooth and add joy. After all life is not about the end goal. The journey matters as much as the destination and to make that journey easier Dr. Dom and Terri have a comprehensive list of actionable strategies you can implement into your life incrementally to create a structure that is manageable and dare we say it, fun?! As with anything, take what you need and discard the rest.You’ll want to tune into Patreon for the Aftershow. Terri and Dr. Dom offer seven journal prompts that can help you customize routines that provide soft structure and help you move intentionally towards your best, most fulfilled life of your dreams. Quote of the Day:"When you can and as you can, in ways that feel loving, make time and space for yourself” – Tracee Ellis Ross Goal Map Like a Pro WorkbookCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.
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S27E5: 10 Affirmations to Make Your Day Feel Like a Hug
Hey lady! Let’s be real, life lately has felt like it’s on one. Trying to keep up with the pace of life can feel like a never-ending pursuit with no finish line. If life has been landing haymakers and making your cup feel rather empty, Dr. Dom and Terri are here to offer you a warm hug in the form of affirmations. Let these 10 doses of kindness soothe your soul and remind you that tough times don’t last always.Affirmations are a powerful tool that need nothing more than an open mind and an open heart to provide comfort and healing. And, once you put them in steady practice they can amplify peace in your life and even transform negative patterns internally. So, lady take the intensity out of your week by grabbing your favorite beverage of choice and getting cozy. Close your eyes and repeat after us. Allow yourself to be deeply held with these simple truths. Lady, we love you for real! Should you want to deepen your affirmation practice be sure to check out Dr. Dom’s book of affirmations Daily Affirmations.Quote of the Day:"I am alive and well." – Jhene Aiko Goal Map Like a Pro WorkbookCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.
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S27E4: ChatGPT is Not Your Therapist But it Can Be a Support Tool
Hey lady! You know the saying, “No one cares because everyone is going through a lot”? Well, that’s not true. Over here at Cultivating H.E.R. Space, we care. But we also know that everyone is dealing with something, and not everything needs to be shared. That doesn’t mean you need to bottle it all up, though. What do you do when the journal just isn’t enough and you’re not ready to engage your friends in your business?Terri and Dr. Dom explore the next frontier in this illuminating conversation about the benefits and potential harms of using Artificial Intelligence (AI) as part of your mental and emotional wellness toolbox. There are pros, like when you’re up in the wee hours trying to calm an anxious mind or soothe a broken heart. Instead of doom scrolling, talking to your AI buddy can help you process your thoughts in real time without oversharing with people who don’t need to know all your business.But, there are points of consideration that you may want to review before you share your darkest secrets or (we know this may be common sense but a friendly reminder) your address and identifying information. The truth is, AI is here to stay. And the sooner you learn to adapt to the technology, the better equipped you'll be to navigate our ever-changing world. So why not find a way to make it work for you? Tune in for practical tips on how to create a healthy, intentional relationship with this emerging technology. Quote of the Day:"The essence of therapy has always been relational, and that cannot be replicated by an algorithm." – Chris Hoff Goal Map Like a Pro WorkbookCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.
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S27E3: Loving Someone with Mental Health Challenges
Hey lady! We’re going to cut straight to the chase because we know that your time is probably scheduled down to the minute. Many of us are out here caring for children, caring for aging parents, killing it at work, showing up for your community, trying to take care of yourself and keep the wheels on the train of your life moving forward. The list is long to say the least. And, on top of all of that you are dealing with the unpredictable nature of humans. This week Terri and Dr. Dom discuss an underdiscussed issue in our community. How to care for yourself when caring for someone struggling with their mental health?What do you do when your cup is empty, and you have nothing left to pour? Dr. Dom and Terri offer real talk and real tools to help you navigate challenging times with loved ones. Whether it’s your mama, your man, or your best friend—mental health challenges don’t just affect the person going through them. They affect everyone close to them. So, go ahead and download and save this episode, lady. Consider it yet another tool in your toolkit to go through life with grace, class, and your own mental health in check. And, if this episode has helped you and you know it will help others why don’t you rate us and let us know how much value you found in our perspective. Your support helps bring our show to more people looking for healing! Practical Tips: How to Show Up with Boundaries 1. Validate their experience but don’t try to “fix” them2 Learn the basics of their diagnosis (from trusted sources)3. Communicate clearly: “What do you need from me right now?”4. When necessary, create care plans and safety plans5. Leverage professional help (E.g.; Therapy, support groups, and hotlines)Quote of the Day:"Tough love is you creating and keeping healthy boundaries." – Nedra Tawwab Goal Map Like a Pro WorkbookCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.
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S27E2: 10 Things to Remember When Adulting Gets Ghetto
Lady! We know that not only are we living in interesting, unprecedented times but we’re also just living our regular lives and sometimes life be lifin’. Life is beautiful, abundant, and generous but it can also be raggedy, harsh, and tough. As much as we love being a part of the toolkit that helps keep you uplifted, you know that we always keep it real. That’s why this week Dr. Dom and Terri offer their grounded perspective about how to handle life when life is being a hot, ghetto mess.Adulting is often fun and wonderful. There are days as an adult when ice cream for breakfast is a thing because you’re grown. But, for the days when the laundry is piling up, the bills are due, the internal monologue is putting you through the ringer, the deep pain within is spilling out, you’re sick, or you’re just tired it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and like you’re getting it all wrong. Fear not, Terri and Dr. Dom offer ten truth bombs to help you keep everything in perspective as you get up and figure it out – like you always do! Adulting is often described as a series of responsibilities and actions that one takes to be a functioning member of society. But, this week Dr. Dom and Terri remind you that often adulting is finding the tools to complete those mundane tasks to satisfaction when life doesn’t feel good. So, grab your Cultivating H.E.R. Space latte mug (find it and more in the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop), fill it with your favorite cozy beverage, and allow this episode to be the warm hug, kiss on the cheek, or pat on the back for getting through the patches when life feels hard. Lady, no matter what’s going on keep your chin up and remember that we’re rooting for you! 10 Things to Remember When Adulting Gets Ghetto1. Crying doesn’t mean you’re losing — It means you’re releasing 2. You’re not weak — you’re carrying a lot right now 3. Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you’re not supported 4. It’s okay to miss people who are no longer in your life 5. Your ancestors would be so proud of you 6. It’s normal to grieve the life you thought you’d have by now 7. You are always worthy of love, even when you think you're a mess 8. You’re allowed to rest, even If nothing’s done 9. Your dream isn’t too big — It’s just being built on divine timing 10. Everything is going to be okay — even if it doesn’t look like it yetQuote of the Day:"Adulting is realizing that you have to take charge of your life, even when it's hard." – Unknown Goal Map Like a Pro WorkbookCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.
About Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman
In a world where black women are often underrepresented and misunderstood, we need more safe spaces to just… be. Every Friday, join Dr. Dom, a college professor and psychologist, and Terri Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker, as they initiate authentic conversations on everything from fibroids to fake friends. If you’re a Black woman looking for an extra dose of inspiration on the go, pull up a seat and join us on the Cultivating H.E.R. (Healing, Empowerment, Resilience) Space podcast.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cultivating-h-e-r-space-uplifting-conversations-for-the-black-woman--5470036/support.
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