Stronger in the Difficult Places

Guilt is one of the most misunderstood emotional experiences women carry, and one of the most controlling.
In this conversation, I sit down with Dr. Jennifer Reid, author of Guilt-Free, to unpack why so many women still feel guilt in this day and age… even when they're doing everything "right."
We explore how guilt gets internalized, how it shapes the way you show up in your relationships, and why it can feel so difficult to release- even when you know it's not serving you.
This episode goes deeper than "just let it go." We talk about what guilt actually is, how it's different from shame, and what it looks like to begin releasing it in a way that leads to real emotional freedom.
If you've ever felt responsible for other people's feelings, struggled to make decisions without second-guessing yourself, or carried a lingering sense that you've done something wrong… this conversation will meet you there.
In This Episode, We Discuss:
What guilt actually is—and why so many women carry it chronically
Why guilt persists, even in high-achieving, self-aware women
The difference between guilt and shame (and why that distinction matters)
How guilt quietly drives overgiving, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment
Why "just stop feeling guilty" doesn't work
Practical ways to begin releasing guilt and reconnecting to your truth
 
Key Takeaway:
Guilt isn't always a signal that you've done something wrong. Sometimes, it's a learned response that's keeping you disconnected from yourself. Learning to discern the difference is where your freedom begins.


About Jennifer
Dr. Jennifer Reid is a board-certified psychiatrist, award-winning educator, and author of Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations. Trained at Columbia University and UCLA, she has held clinical faculty positions at the University of Pennsylvania and Cooper Hospital. She is the creator and host of A Mind of Her Own podcast and Substack, where she shares clear, compassionate insights on mental health and treatment. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Psychology Today, and her clinical practice focuses on helping individuals release the burden of unreasonable expectations and reclaim what truly matters.
Website: https://www.jenniferreidmd.com/
Substack: https://substack.com/@amindofherown
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenreidmd/
Book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/763503/guilt-free-by-jennifer-reid-md/
 
Resources & Next Steps:
Connect with me on Instagram @drzoeshaw for daily encouragement.
Subscribe to my newsletter for more conversations on healing, boundaries, and healthy love.
Join the waitlist for Stronger Woman Intensive: here
Buy my book Stronger In The Difficult Places: here

Free Downloads:
Download the Steps to Healing from Complex Shame™ PDF: here
Get the First Chapter of Stronger in the Difficult Places: here
Connect with me:
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Letting go is one of the most misunderstood decisions we face in relationships.
If you've ever stayed longer than you should have…
Tried harder than felt sustainable…
Or questioned whether walking away means you've failed-

This episode is for you.

In this conversation, Dr. Zoe unpacks the powerful difference between giving up and letting go, and why so many high-capacity, deeply loving women struggle to tell the difference.

Through the lens of Complex Shame, you'll begin to understand why letting go can feel like failure- even when it's actually the most self-honoring choice you can make.

Because sometimes what we call "not giving up"…
Is actually self-abandonment.

And sometimes letting go…
Is the very thing that brings you back to yourself.
In This Episode, You'll Learn:
The critical difference between giving up and letting go
Why women who love deeply often struggle to release unhealthy dynamics
How Complex Shame keeps you stuck in over-functioning and self-doubt
The subtle ways you may be abandoning yourself in the name of love
What it actually looks like to let go without losing your integrity
How to recognize when you've moved past clarity—but are still holding on
Practical steps to begin releasing what you cannot fix or control
Key Takeaway
Letting go is not failure. It's the end of abandoning yourself in the name of love.
A Few Questions to Reflect On:
Where in my life am I holding on out of fear—not truth?
Am I trying to fix something that isn't mine to fix?
What would it look like to honor my limits here?
Where might I be confusing loyalty with self-abandonment?
Your Next Step
If this episode stirred something in you, start here:
Notice where you are over-functioning
Get honest about what is actually happening—not what you hope could be
And gently begin to stop agreeing with the voice of shame
Work With Dr. Zoe
If you're ready to untangle Complex Shame and build healthier, more aligned relationships:
Visit drzoeshaw.com to explore resources, coaching, and upcoming programs.
 
Resources & Next Steps:
Connect with me on Instagram @drzoeshaw for daily encouragement.
Subscribe to my newsletter for more conversations on healing, boundaries, and healthy love.
Join the waitlist for Stronger Woman Intensive: here
Buy my book Stronger In The Difficult Places: here

Free Downloads:
Download the Steps to Healing from Complex Shame™ PDF: here
Get the First Chapter of Stronger in the Difficult Places: here
Connect with me:
Dr. Zoe Shaw on Instagram
Dr. Zoe Shaw on Facebook
 
Subscribe & Review
If this episode resonated with you, make sure to follow Stronger in the Difficult Places and leave a review. It helps more women find this work- and begin their own healing.

That quiet belief- I'm not enough- doesn't just stay in your thoughts. It shows up in how you love, how you communicate, and how you stay in relationships that don't fully meet you.

In this episode, Dr. Zoe is joined by Christina Ketchen, host of The Self Love Shift Podcast, to unpack what we're calling the epidemic of not enoughness—and why so many high-achieving women still feel it, no matter how much they've accomplished.

Together, they explore how this internal belief quietly drives overgiving, overthinking, and self-abandonment in relationships—and what it actually takes to shift it at the root.

If you've ever questioned your worth in love or felt like you had to prove your value to be chosen, this conversation will meet you right where you are—and help you begin to move forward.

In this episode, we discuss:

* How "not enoughness" forms and why it's so persistent
* The subtle ways it shows up in relationships
* Why insight alone isn't enough to create change
* What it looks like to begin shifting your self-worth from the inside out


About Christina:
Christina Ketchen is a mindset and self-love coach and the host of The Self Love Shift Podcast. Her work centers on helping women break free from limiting beliefs, rebuild self-worth, and step into more aligned, confident lives.
Visit her website: https://christinaketchen.com/
 
Resources & Next Steps:
Connect with me on Instagram @drzoeshaw for daily encouragement.
Subscribe to my newsletter for more conversations on healing, boundaries, and healthy love. 
Order the book Stronger in the Difficult Places: drzoeshaw.com/book


Join the waitlist for Stronger Woman Intensive: here
 
Free Downloads:
Download the Steps to Healing from Complex Shame™ PDF: here
Get the First Chapter of Stronger in the Difficult Places: here
 
If this episode spoke to you, please share it with a friend who needs hope in their relationships. And don't forget to subscribe to Stronger in the Difficult Places so you never miss an episode

Forgiveness is often talked about like it's simple- something you should do if you want to heal. But what if it doesn't feel freeing… what if it feels impossible?

In this episode, Dr. Zoe unpacks the complicated reality of forgiveness—why it's so hard, what it actually means, and why struggling with it doesn't make you broken.

You'll learn a new definition of forgiveness that removes pressure and shame, and offers a more honest path forward—one rooted in truth, grief, and self-compassion.


What You'll Learn
• Why forgiveness often feels like letting someone "off the hook"
• A redefining of forgiveness: giving up hope of a better past
• The hidden grief beneath forgiveness—and why it matters
• Why fear (not resentment) is often what blocks forgiveness
• The difference between forgiveness and reconciliation
• Why forgiveness isn't the first step in healing
• How to begin when forgiveness feels out of reach

Key Takeaway
Forgiveness isn't about excusing what happened or rushing to move on. It's about releasing the exhausting attempt to change the past- and allowing yourself to grieve what was lost so you can move forward with honesty and wholeness.


Resources & Next Steps:
Connect with me on Instagram @drzoeshaw for daily encouragement.
Subscribe to my newsletter for more conversations on healing, boundaries, and healthy love. 
Order the book Stronger in the Difficult Places: drzoeshaw.com/book


Join the waitlist for Stronger Woman Intensive: here
 
Free Downloads:
Download the Steps to Healing from Complex Shame™ PDF: here
Get the First Chapter of Stronger in the Difficult Places: here

If this episode resonated, share it with someone who may be quietly struggling with forgiveness—and remind them they're not alone.

What if the thing you keep trying to change about yourself… isn't actually changeable?
And what if the same is true for your partner?
In this powerful and perspective-shifting conversation, I sit down with Dr. Denim Slade, author of Unlock Your C.O.R.E. Potential, to talk about temperament, relationships, and the freedom that comes when we stop trying to "fix" what was never meant to be fixed.
Dr. Slade brings decades of experience as a marriage and family therapist and coach, along with his CORE framework—a temperament-based system that helps people understand the parts of themselves that are innate and unchangeable.
Together, we explore the tension so many of us live in:
Trying to grow… while also needing to accept.
Because here's the truth:
Growth doesn't come from changing your core nature.
It comes from understanding it—and learning how to work with it.
In This Episode, We Talk About:
Why temperament is not something you can change—and why that's actually good news
The difference between who you are vs. what you've learned
How many relationship struggles come from trying to change your partner's wiring
What happens when you finally stop seeing yourself (or them) as "the problem"
How to work with your temperament instead of against it
The surprising freedom that comes with acceptance over self-rejection
Where this intersects with Complex Shame—and how shame keeps us trying to "fix" ourselves to be loved
A Shift to Consider:
If you've been living with the quiet belief that:
"I'm too much…"
"They should be different…"
"If I could just change this, everything would work…"
This conversation invites you to pause.
What if the work isn't changing your core…
but understanding it?
About Dr. Denim Slade
Dr. Denim Slade is a relationship expert, coach, and author with over 25 years of experience helping individuals and couples improve their lives and relationships. He holds a Ph.D. in Human Development and Family Science and is the creator of the CORE temperament framework—a personality system designed to help people understand the innate, unchangeable aspects of who they are and how those impact their relationships.
Learn more about his work: https://becomehealthyandhappy.com/
 
Resources & Next Steps:
Connect with me on Instagram @drzoeshaw for daily encouragement.
Subscribe to my newsletter for more conversations on healing, boundaries, and healthy love. 
Order the book Stronger in the Difficult Places: drzoeshaw.com/book


Join the waitlist for Stronger Woman Intensive: here
 
Free Downloads:
Download the Steps to Healing from Complex Shame™ PDF: here
Get the First Chapter of Stronger in the Difficult Places: here
 
If this episode spoke to you, please share it with a friend who needs hope in their relationships. And don't forget to subscribe to Stronger in the Difficult Places so you never miss an episode