Worried About Your Relationship and Scared to Reach Out? This Is What You Can Expect ft Women’s Aid
Thinking about reaching out for help but not sure what to expect? In this episode, we chat Linda Smith, Head of National Helpline Services, and Eavan Ward, Head of Regional Services, from Women’s Aid to break down what actually happens when you ask for support.
We break down:
What it’s like to call the Women’s Aid Helpline or use the chat service at toointoyou.ie
What to expect from an appointment with Women’s Aid
What it’s like to report abuse to the Gardaí
How to gather evidence of abuse
And much more
Whether you’re in a relationship that feels off, worried about a friend, or just unsure if what you're experiencing is OK—this episode is for you. No judgment, no pressure—just honest answers.
TW: Episode mentions domestic abuse, emotional abuse, intimate partner abuse, physical abuse and financial abuse.
If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:
Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential.
Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not.
Follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram.
Chapters:
4.35 Are the support services right for me?
7.53 “My situation isn’t bad enough” and “ I don’t want to take time from someone who really needs it.”
11.13 What are the things people ask about on the helpline?
13.18 Staying together for the kids?
17.17 If I call Women’s Aid, will they just tell me to break up?
18.30 What happens when I call the Helpline? What will I be asked?
23.18 What to expect from an appointment with Women’s Aid?
25.33 What is the Drop in Service? How to get a Protection Order?
28.28 What to expect when you go to the Gardaí?
31.03 How to gather evidence of abuse
34.54 A message of hope for you
37.27 Episode chat with Madeline Campbell
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Control Isn’t Love: Abuse in LGBTQ+ Relationships
On this episode, we chat to James O’Hagan from LGBT Ireland. James coordinates the LGBTQI+ Intimate Partner Violence Network.
We’ll be chatting about things like:
- Does abuse happen in LGBTQ+ relationships?
- What are the red flags of abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships?
- What does a healthy queer relationship look like?
- Where can young LGBTQ+ people find support?
Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not.
Remember, if you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:
Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential.
Contact LGBT Ireland:
Call National LGBT Helpline on 1800 929 539
Find information and support at lgbt.ie
Don’t forget to give us a 5 star rating and leave a comment
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You Asked, We Answered
We’re answering your questions about dating and relationships, intimate partner abuse, and what healthy love really looks like.
The Too Into You team – Mary and Madeline – chat through the questions you’ve sent us like:
· We’ve got problems, but what if they promise to change?
· How do I avoid narcissists and narcissistic abuse?
· My friend won’t leave their toxic relationship, what do I do?
Remember, if you are worried about your own relationship or a friend’s:
- Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900
- Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential. Whatever your questions might be, we’re here to help.
Take the Relationship Quiz to see if yours is healthy or not: https://www.toointoyou.ie/relationships/quiz/
Make sure you’re following us on social media:
TikTok: @toointoyou_
Instagram: @toointoyou
Don’t forget to subscribe, give us a 5 star rating and leave a comment, it helps us a lot!
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“Does this feel good?” – Sex, Consent, and Boundaries ft We Consent
On this episode, we chat to Sarah Monaghan from the We Consent. We-Consent is a long-term national campaign, run by the Dublin Rape Crisis Centre, to inform, educate and engage with all members of society about consent.
We’ll be chatting about things like:
- What is consent?
- How can consent make sex more enjoyable?
- What is sexual violence?
- What to do if it happens to you?
Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not.
Remember, if you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:
Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential.
Contact Dublin Rape Crisis Centre (available nationwide)
Call 24hr Rape Crisis Helpline 1800778888 - free, confidential & non-judgmental
Webchat is available at DRCC.ie
Share your story anonymously, securely & safely at WeSpeak.ie
Learn more at we-consent.ie
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Myth Busting
On this episode, the Too Into You team - Mary and Madeline - break down myths and misconceptions about abuse.
We’ll be answering questions like:
- Does abuse go both ways?
- Why didn’t they just leave?
- Is abuse just physical?
Remember, if you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:
• Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
• Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential.
Take the Relationship Quiz to see if yours is healthy or not: https://www.toointoyou.ie/relationships/quiz/
The Too Into You podcast from Women’s Aid is here to explore the difference between love that lifts you up, and love that holds you back. With expert insights, real stories, and honest conversations, each episode will unpack red flags, celebrate green flags, and help you spot when someone is too into you. Listen now wherever you get your podcasts.
If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:
Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential.
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