Ever felt like you’re walking on eggshells in your relationship? Or like your partner blames for their actions? Or like things are moving way too fast in the honeymoon stage?
You’re not alone, and it’s not your fault.
In this episode of the Too Into You podcast, we break down emotional abuse in young relationships, what it is, how it shows up, and why it’s so harmful.
We dive into the early red flags like love bombing, gaslighting, negging, and isolation, and explore how they chip away at your confidence and leave you feeling confused, anxious, or stuck.
Whether you’re in a relationship, just getting out of one, or want to help a friend, this episode is here to remind you: real love doesn’t make you feel small.
Because emotional abuse is real, it’s serious, and you deserve better.
TW: Episode mentions domestic abuse, emotional abuse, intimate partner abuse, physical abuse and financial abuse.
If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:
Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential.
Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not.
Follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram.
Chapters
00:00 Intro
02:16 What is Emotional Abuse?
06:20 What is Love bombing?
15:00 What is Gaslighting?
26:10 What is Negging?
31:41 What about Isolation
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Worried About Your Relationship and Scared to Reach Out? This Is What You Can Expect ft Women’s Aid
Thinking about reaching out for help but not sure what to expect? In this episode, we chat Linda Smith, Head of National Helpline Services, and Eavan Ward, Head of Regional Services, from Women’s Aid to break down what actually happens when you ask for support.
We break down:
What it’s like to call the Women’s Aid Helpline or use the chat service at toointoyou.ie
What to expect from an appointment with Women’s Aid
What it’s like to report abuse to the Gardaí
How to gather evidence of abuse
And much more
Whether you’re in a relationship that feels off, worried about a friend, or just unsure if what you're experiencing is OK—this episode is for you. No judgment, no pressure—just honest answers.
TW: Episode mentions domestic abuse, emotional abuse, intimate partner abuse, physical abuse and financial abuse.
If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:
Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential.
Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not.
Follow @toointoyou on TikTok and Instagram.
Chapters:
00:00 - Intro
04:35 Are the support services right for me?
07:53 “My situation isn’t bad enough” and “ I don’t want to take time from someone who really needs it.”
11:13 What are the things people ask about on the helpline?
13:18 Staying together for the kids?
17:17 If I call Women’s Aid, will they just tell me to break up?
18:30 What happens when I call the Helpline? What will I be asked?
23:18 What to expect from an appointment with Women’s Aid?
25:33 What is the Drop in Service? How to get a Protection Order?
28:28 What to expect when you go to the Gardaí?
31:03 How to gather evidence of abuse
34:54 A message of hope for you
37:27 Episode chat with Madeline Campbell
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Control Isn’t Love: Abuse in LGBTQ+ Relationships
On this episode, we chat to James O’Hagan from LGBT Ireland. James coordinates the LGBTQI+ Intimate Partner Violence Network.
We’ll be chatting about things like:
- Does abuse happen in LGBTQ+ relationships?
- What are the red flags of abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships?
- What does a healthy queer relationship look like?
- Where can young LGBTQ+ people find support?
Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not.
Remember, if you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:
Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential.
Contact LGBT Ireland:
Call National LGBT Helpline on 1800 929 539
Find information and support at lgbt.ie
Don’t forget to give us a 5 star rating and leave a comment
Chapters
00:00 Intro
04:01 Who is LGBT Ireland and LGBTQI+ Community Intimate Partner Abuse Network
06:17 How coming out impacts young LGBTQ+ relationships
14:38 Common red flags of abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships
18:41 Dating someone who is already out
22:13 How abuse happens in LGBTQ+ relationships
26:10 Barriers to seeking support
29:08 Where to go for support
31:34 Supporting a friend or family member
34:00 Episode chat with Madeline Campbell
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You Asked, We Answered
We’re answering your questions about dating and relationships, intimate partner abuse, and what healthy love really looks like.
The Too Into You team – Mary and Madeline – chat through the questions you’ve sent us like:
· We’ve got problems, but what if they promise to change?
· How do I avoid narcissists and narcissistic abuse?
· My friend won’t leave their toxic relationship, what do I do?
Remember, if you are worried about your own relationship or a friend’s:
- Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900
- Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential. Whatever your questions might be, we’re here to help.
Take the Relationship Quiz to see if yours is healthy or not: https://www.toointoyou.ie/relationships/quiz/
Make sure you’re following us on social media:
TikTok: @toointoyou_
Instagram: @toointoyou
Don’t forget to subscribe, give us a 5 star rating and leave a comment, it helps us a lot!
Chapters
00:00 Intro
01:27 Is it bad enough? Do we have to break up?
05:19 Is my boyfriend being protective or controlling?
07:40 How do I help my friend in a toxic relationship?
11:36 Will they ever change?
14:34 How to avoid narcissistic types like my ex
17:02 Setting boundaries in a new relationship
24:15 What happens if your nudes leak?
30:18 How do I rebuild my self esteem after leaving my abusive ex?
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“Does this feel good?” – Sex, Consent, and Boundaries ft We Consent
On this episode, we chat to Sarah Monaghan from the We Consent. We-Consent is a long-term national campaign, run by the Dublin Rape Crisis Centre, to inform, educate and engage with all members of society about consent.
We’ll be chatting about things like:
- What is consent?
- How can consent make sex more enjoyable?
- What is sexual violence?
- What to do if it happens to you?
Take the Relationship Quiz at toointoyou.ie to see if yours is healthy or not.
Remember, if you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:
Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential.
Contact Dublin Rape Crisis Centre (available nationwide)
Call 24hr Rape Crisis Helpline 1800778888 - free, confidential & non-judgmental
Webchat is available at DRCC.ie
Share your story anonymously, securely & safely at WeSpeak.ie
Learn more at we-consent.ie
Chapters
00:00 Intro
01:52 What is the WeConsent campaign?
04:04 What is consent?
06:08 Why is consent important in relationships?
08:14 Meaningful consent - It’s not just about ‘yes’
10:00 Ways to talk to your partner about your preferences
13:06 ‘Consent ruins the mood’ - Misconceptions around consent
19:34 When sex turns to sexual violence
25:54 How do you know what your boundaries are?
30:04 What factors influence consent?
32:45 The power of little conversations
34:12 Navigating consent online
36:27 Need support?
38:00 One message on consent
39:04 Episode chat with Madeline Campbell
The Too Into You podcast from Women’s Aid is here to explore the difference between love that lifts you up, and love that holds you back. With expert insights, real stories, and honest conversations, each episode will unpack red flags, celebrate green flags, and help you spot when someone is too into you. Listen now wherever you get your podcasts.
If you are worried about your own or a friend’s relationship:
Call Women’s Aid 24Hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.
Chat for support at toointoyou.ie
Both are completely free and confidential.
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