S3 Ep11 - The Impact of Trauma on Identity with Jessica Ella
Summary:
In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, we delve into the profound impact of trauma on identity, particularly for women as Jessica Ella shares her profound journey of healing from childhood sexual abuse.
Jess discusses her unique approach to trauma recovery, emphasising the importance of understanding complex trauma and its impact on identity. She recounts her personal experiences of abuse, the challenges of navigating family dynamics, and the power of disclosure. The conversation highlights the flaws in the justice system and the necessity of support systems for survivors. Ultimately, Jessica's message is one of empowerment and hope, encouraging others to reclaim their power and heal from their past.
Takeaways:
Jessica Ella's journey into healing began from her own trauma.
She developed a unique method to help others heal from trauma.
Complex trauma can significantly affect one's identity and self-worth.
The act of abuse is often less traumatic than the secrecy surrounding it.
Disclosure is a powerful tool for survivors to reclaim their narrative.
Family dynamics play a crucial role in the experience of abuse.
Support systems are essential for healing and recovery.
The justice system often fails to protect victims of familial abuse.
Survivors can choose how to respond to their abusers.
Healing is possible, and it requires a commitment to self-discovery. Healing is a continuous journey that requires daily commitment.
Children often mirror the behaviors of their parents, triggering unresolved issues.
Seeking justice can be a complex and emotional process.
Empowerment comes from healing and helping others.
Trauma can be understood as an open memory that needs closure.
Creating safe spaces for children to express their feelings is crucial.
Parents must address their own trauma to effectively support their children.
It's important to communicate openly with children about difficult topics.
Healing from trauma is possible and does not define a person's future.
Resources and education are vital for both parents and children.
Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction to Jessica Ella's Journey
03:09 - Healing Through Trauma: Jessica's Methodology
07:08 - Understanding Complex Trauma and Identity
10:24 - Jessica's Personal Story of Abuse
13:59 - The Impact of Abuse on Mental Health
17:38 - The Power of Healing and Self-Discovery
22:08 - The Dynamics of Power in Abuse
24:23 - The Role of Family in Trauma
27:46 - Recognising Red Flags in Abusive Relationships
29:51 - The Challenges of Family Court and Child Support
31:07 - Trust Issues with the Justice System
32:12 - The Complexity of Child Disclosure
34:08 - Factors Influencing Child Recantation
35:51 - The Confusion of Love and Abuse
37:21 - The Child's Need for Parental Love
40:08 - The Impact of Parental Abuse on Self-Love
42:15 - The Betrayal of Trust in Family Dynamics
44:06 - Navigating the Justice System
47:37 - Finding Empowerment Beyond Trauma
51:53 - Understanding Trauma and Healing Methods
55:54 - Understanding Trauma and Memory Processing
01:00:59 - Navigating Difficult Conversations with Children
01:05:19 - Healing from Complex Trauma
01:09:34 - Supporting Children After Trauma Disclosure
01:12:19 - Resources for Parents and Caregivers
01:16:07 - Introduction to Child Safety Education
For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources
You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/zl2VFsIw8qA
To learn more and connect with Jess please head to her Instagram @iamjessicaella and you can grab a copy of the book "Secret or Surprise" at https://www.secretorsurprise.com.au
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Series 3 - Special Episode, Child Safety in Early Education: A Critical Discussion with Chey Carter
Summary
In this special episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi McVee and Cheyenne Carter discuss the critical issues surrounding child safety in early childhood education. They explore Chey's journey in the field, the impact of COVID on childcare quality, and the importance of transparency and communication between parents and childcare providers.
The conversation delves into the dynamics of grooming and abuse, the psychological aspects of offenders, and the need for better training and support for educators. Parents are encouraged to be vigilant and proactive in ensuring their children's safety, while also understanding the systemic challenges faced by educators.
The episode concludes with actionable steps for parents to take in assessing childcare environments and reporting concerns.
Takeaways
Child safety must be prioritised in childcare settings.
COVID has exacerbated challenges in early childhood education.
Grooming behaviours are often subtle and manipulative.
Parents should be proactive in asking questions about childcare.
Transparency from childcare providers is crucial for trust. Staff ratios and breaks are essential for child safety.
CCTV can assist but is not a comprehensive solution.
Legislative gaps exist in childcare safety regulations. Understanding offender psychology can help in prevention.
Parents should feel empowered to report concerns.
Chapters
00:00 - Introduction to Child Safety Concerns
02:28 - Chey's Journey in Early Childhood Education
04:25 - Consulting for Better Standards in Education
06:18 - The Importance of Child Safety in Education
07:39 - Kristi's Background in Child Protection
11:19 - Understanding Grooming Behaviours
12:02 - Identifying Patterns Among Offenders
12:28 - The Role of Grooming in Abuse
14:31 - Creating Safe Relationships in Childcare
19:15 - Staffing Ratios and Child Safety
22:01 - The Role of CCTV in Child Safety
23:35 - Legislation and Child Safety Measures
26:23 - Working with Children's Checks and Their Limitations
29:14 - The Psychology of Offenders and Child Safety
31:28 - The Impact of Early Exposure to Inappropriate Content
34:55 - Understanding Different Types of Offenders
36:24 - Ensuring Child Safety in Educational Settings
38:51 - Parental Vigilance and Transparency in Childcare
41:47 - Navigating Compliance and Regulatory Standards
45:15 - The Importance of Consistency in Regulatory Practices
49:37 - Empowering Parents and Educators to Report Concerns
52:40 - Advocating for Better Support for Educators
01:00:19 - Episode Close & Follow-Up Information
For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources
You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at
To learn more and connect with Chey please head to https://www.divergented.com.au/ and follow her on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/cheyannecarter/?originalSubdomain=au
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S3 Ep10 - From Survivor to Advocate: Jeanie Dean's Journey
Episode Summary:
In this heartfelt conversation, Kristi McVee and Jeanie Dean discuss Jeanie's journey from being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse to becoming an advocate for child safeguarding. They explore the challenges of coping with trauma, the impact of addiction, and the importance of supportive relationships. Jeanie shares her experiences working with sex offenders and in child protection, emphasising the need to see the person behind the behaviour. The conversation also touches on parenting through trauma and the struggle to break cycles of abuse, ultimately highlighting the journey of self-discovery and healing. In this conversation, Jeanie and Kristi delve into the complexities of child protection, discussing systemic failures, personal trauma, and the importance of creating safe environments for children. They emphasise the role of organisations and parents in safeguarding children, the need for open communication, and the community's responsibility in ensuring child safety. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by professionals in the field and the necessity for proactive measures to protect vulnerable individuals.
Key Takeaways:
Jeanie is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and family violence.
Coping mechanisms often lead to unhealthy behaviours, such as drug use.
Arrest can serve as a turning point for change and self-reflection.
Supportive relationships can be life-saving and transformative.
Parenting through trauma requires awareness and intentionality to break cycles.
Understanding child safeguarding is crucial for protecting vulnerable individuals.
Working with sex offenders requires separating the person from their behaviour.
Therapy and self-discovery are essential for healing from trauma.
Labels like 'victim' can be triggering and limiting for survivors.
Personal growth involves accepting oneself without needing a title.
Systemic failures in child protection lead to repeated trauma.
Personal experiences shape professional choices in child welfare.
Creating child safe environments is essential for community organisations.
Organisations must understand their legal duties regarding child safety.
Parents should actively inquire about child safety policies in organisations.
Older children face unique risks that require vigilant supervision.
Open communication is crucial for safeguarding children.
Community responsibility is vital in creating safe environments for kids.
Education and awareness are key for parents in safeguarding their children.
Child safety policies must be actively lived and enforced within organisations.
Episode Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction and Personal Challenges05:28 - Coping Mechanisms and Consequences09:17 - Turning Point: Arrest and Realisations12:33 - Building a Life Together17:30 - Breaking Cycles: Parenting and Self-Reflection21:50 - Navigating Parenting Challenges26:18 - Career Path: From Personal Struggles to Professional Advocacy30:23 - The Complexity of Working with Offenders34:01 - Navigating Personal Bias in Professional Roles38:05 - The Challenges of Child Protection43:17 - The Systemic Failures in Child Safety48:10 - Creating Safe Environments for Children56:51 - Trust and Disillusionment in Public Service57:51 - Bridging the Gap in Public Service58:42 - The Reality of Child Protection Work01:00:57 - Navigating the Justice System for Children01:02:29 - Expectations for Child Safety in Organisations01:04:26 - Empowering Parents for Child Safety01:06:21 - Understanding Risks for Older Children01:08:05 - Meeting Children Where They Are01:10:13 - Creating Safe Spaces for Disclosure01:12:21 - Safeguarding Starts at Home01:14:03 - Community Responsibility in Child Safety01:15:47 - Policies and Culture in Organisations01:17:34 - Observing Organisational Culture01:19:43 - Intergenerational Culture in Sports01:22:02 - Accountability in Child Safety01:23:57 - The Importance of Compliance01:26:31 - The Role of Safeguarding Solutions01:27:42 - Introduction to Child Safety Education
For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources
You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/GGJWDiFTm9Y
To learn more and connect with Jeanie please head to https://safeguardingsolutions.com.au/ and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/jeanie-dean-90a46483
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S3 Ep9 - Empowering Children Through Storytelling with Kerri Sloper
Episode Summary:
In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kerri Sloper shares her journey as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and her mission to empower children and parents through her children's books. Kerri discusses the healing power of music and writing, the importance of speaking out, and the role of parents in preventing abuse. She emphasises the need for open communication about good and bad touching and how her books serve as tools for healing and understanding. The conversation highlights the significance of breaking the cycle of abuse and fostering a safe environment for children.
Key Takeaways:
Kerri Sloper is a musician and author who writes children's books about her experiences with childhood sexual abuse.
Her books aim to help both children and adult survivors relate to their experiences and find healing.
Music and writing have been crucial coping strategies for Kerri throughout her healing journey.
Kerri emphasises the importance of speaking out about abuse to help others heal.
She believes that forgiveness is an internal journey that does not require forgiving the abuser.
Kerri's books are designed to be relatable for children and to help them understand their feelings about abuse.
Parents play a vital role in preventing abuse by trusting their instincts and believing their children.
Teaching children about good touching and bad touching is essential for their safety.
Kerri's mission is to break the cycle of abuse and empower future generations.
The conversation highlights the importance of open communication between parents and children about sensitive topics.
Episode Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction to Kerri Sloper and Her Journey03:06 - The Healing Power of Storytelling05:44 - Navigating the Impact of Childhood Trauma08:50 - Understanding the Complexity of Belief and Truth11:42 - The Role of Forgiveness in Healing14:57 - The Journey of Writing and Sharing Her Story17:41 - Breaking the Cycle of Abuse20:32 - The Importance of Internal Healing23:20 - The Process of Writing and Publishing Books24:24 - The Journey of Writing and Inspiration26:01 - Understanding the Target Audience for Children's Books28:48 - Exploring Themes of Healing and Resilience30:28 - The Importance of Forgiveness in Healing32:32 - Navigating the Complexities of Disclosure35:42 - The Role of Art in Healing38:15 - Spreading Awareness and Reducing Stigma40:17 - Empowering Parents to Protect Their Children
For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources
You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/O12JXIWLDDw
To purchase Kerri's books please head to https://www.amazon.com.au/s?i=books-single-index&rh=p_27%3AKerri%2B%2BJ%2BSloper&s=relevancerank&text=Kerri++J+Sloper&ref=dp_byline_sr_book_1 and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/kerri-sloper-a56420253
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S3 Ep8 - Navigating Self-Development with Susan Dunlop
Episode Summary:
In this episode of Conversations with Kristi we catch up with Susan Dunlop, Susan discusses her journey through self-development, the challenges of family dynamics, and her understanding of avoidance in personal growth. She reflects on her childhood experiences and the conscious choices she has made to improve her relationships and emotional well-being.
Key Takeaways:
Self-development requires conscious practice and effort.
Family dynamics can significantly impact personal growth.
Avoidance can hinder emotional connections and relationships.
Recognising patterns from childhood is crucial for healing.
It's important to make conscious choices in relationships.
Personal growth often involves confronting difficult emotions.
Therapy can provide valuable insights into personal behaviour.
Breaking free from past patterns is a liberating experience.
Emotional well-being is a continuous journey.
Connection with others is essential for personal development.
Episode Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction to Child Development and Healing03:46 - Understanding Abuse and Its Impact on Development06:46 - The Connection Between Childhood Trauma and Adulthood09:38 - The Drama Triangle: Roles in Trauma Responses12:35 - Parenting and Communication: Breaking the Cycle17:40 - Conscious Choices: Moving Beyond the Drama Triangle23:04 - Emotional Healing: Feeling to Heal26:00 - Understanding the Drama Triangle28:16 - The Impact of Childhood Experiences30:53 - Empowering Future Generations33:30 - The Ripple Effect of Change36:07 - Finding Your Voice and Healing41:05 - Rediscovering Leadership Through Trauma42:34 - The Impact of Sibling Sexual Abuse44:49 - Starting Conversations on Abuse46:13 - Understanding the Complexity of Abuse48:09 - Navigating Historical Cases of Abuse51:34 - Being a Supportive Listener53:42 - The Importance of Trauma-Informed Leadership55:48 - Introduction to Child Safety Education
For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources
You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/hWvGKx-e8vg
To learn more and connect with Susan please head to https://susandunlop.com.au/ and follow her on LinkedIn at linkedin.com/in/susan-dunlop-641526142
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