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I’m joined by my friend Pontus for an honest conversation about the pattern many people label “avoidant”—the push–pull between longing for connection and needing space. If you’re the one pulling away, or if you’re on the receiving end of someone creating distance, this episode offers a rare, compassionate look behind the curtain.
Pontus shares what it’s like when the body says no and the mind rushes in to build a case: “They’re not right,” “I’m broken,” “This will never work.” Together, we slow it down and uncover what’s underneath: the fear of an inner emotional experience—and the survival strategy of pulling away so you don’t have to feel it.
Related episodes:
EP 192: 5 Signs of Insecure Attachment (And How to Use Them to Heal)
EP 164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachment
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Spain April 12-18 (women)
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Join Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550)
The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA) - the yearlong mentorship with me into secure relating and leading from love (from €370/month)
Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

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Want tangible ways to move from an insecure to a secure attachment? Follow along in my new series! In this first episode, I lay out five signs of insecure attachment and show how each one points toward your power when met with presence.

Along the way, I offer a compassionate reframe that builds self-esteem rather than diagnoses it away. We practice separating sensations from narratives, listening to protective parts without letting them run the show, and aligning your inner will so choices feel coherent. This is the groundwork for secure attachment: not a theory, but a felt sense of safety that makes love, play, and honesty possible.

If you’re ready to turn insight into embodied change, press play and join this series. Share what lands, send your questions, and help shape the next episodes. Subscribe, leave a review, and pass this along to someone who’s ready to feel safe in love.
Mentioned episodes:
EP 164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachment
EP 186: From self-fixing to self-cultivation - a mindset revolution

Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience?
Last spots for the 2026 power journeys:
Spain April 12-18 (women)
The online programs:
Join Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550)
The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA) - the yearlong mentorship with me into secure relating and leading from love (from €370/month)
Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

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An unprocessed wound shows up as control, people-pleasing, blaming or shut-down in relationship situations. It's the spiralling in hurt when you think you don't matter to them. The doubting yourself and your worth. Or what keeps you from letting someone in.
The key to healing relationship wounds at the root is to feel what you're most afraid of feeling. But the how is important. Most of us drown in the stories (feeling through our head) or have protection layers that stop us from getting to the bottom layer.
In this episode, we look at: 
How you know you have an unprocessed wound
How to tell if it's your wound or their behaviour that is painful
Why feeling hasn't changed anything before
How to feel in a way that heals
Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience?
Last spots for the 2026 power journeys:
Spain April 12-18 (women)
The online programs:
Join Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550)
The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA) - the yearlong mentorship with me into secure relating and leading from love (from €370/month)
Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

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There’s a lot of dating advice out there saying the “right” love should feel calm, steady, and like home. No butterflies. No activation. No intensity. Just safety.
But love is not meant to keep you comfortable. Love is disruptive. It opens the rooms inside of you that haven’t been met yet. It asks you to expand, to feel more, to grow. Nervous system regulation isn’t the end goal. It’s the ground you stand on, so you have the capacity to actually live, feel, and love fully.
In this episode, we look at attraction as a guide rather than a problem. We debunk the idea that if you feel activated, you must be trauma-bonding or doing something wrong. There is wisdom in what draws you toward someone. The invitation is to learn how to work with it.
Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience?
Last spots for the 2026 power journeys:
Spain April 12-18 (women)
The online programs:
Join Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550)
The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA) - the yearlong mentorship with me into secure relating and leading from love (from €370/month)
Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷

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What happens when you ask your partner for reassurance, comfort, or safety — and instead of bringing you closer, it pushes them away?
In this episode, I take you deeper into the classic question from Ep 130, “Is It Me or Them?”  We’ll explore why our nervous system reverts to child–parent dynamics in moments of fear, how to recognize when a younger wounded part is activated, and what it looks like to hold yourself instead of making your partner responsible for your sense of safety. Without abandoning your values or settling for crumbs.
You’ll walk away with practical insights for discerning between wounds and values, communicating from a mature place, and staying in the relational dojo long enough to turn conflict into intimacy.
Check out these related episodes:
Ep 130: Is It Me Or Them
Ep 187: Jealousy As Wisdom
Ready to revolutionize your relationship experience?
Last spots for the 2026 power journeys:
Spain April 12-18 (women)
The online programs:
Join Alchemy to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns (one year of live calls, lifetime access to practices, €550)
The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA) - the yearlong mentorship with me into secure relating and leading from love (from €370/month)
Let's grow into the relationship you always longed for, starting with falling in love with being YOU. 🚀🩷