The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Relapse is one of the biggest problems people in recovery face, especially in the beginning. For most of us, it takes multiple attempts before we can stay sober.
 
Today I sit down with Paul Schulte, an EMDR expert and trainer to talk about how EMDR can help with relapse prevention. Paul is bbased in Barcelona and he is coming up on 23 years of sobriety! He's the creator of the iMover app, a guided EMDR tool that helps with relapse prevention. This app has also helped people with extreme cases of trauma, like soldiers, refugees, and abuse survivors.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
• How EMDR helped Paul finally integrate decades of unprocessed grief
• Why talk therapy so often can't reach trauma, and how EMDR does
• How childhood trauma gets hardwired in the nervous system and repurposed under adult stress
• Why relapse, not the physical symptoms we usually name, is the real number one symptom of alcoholism
 
Before we jump in, did you know we have a youtube channel with over 750 videos? It's called, you guessed it, The one day at a time recovery podcast! Oddly enough my team tells me that only 43% of listeners subscribe. So if you could do me a huge favor, and so that you don't miss new episodes, please hit that subscribe button. It costs you nothing, it only takes a second, and it's a huge help to me in getting the message of recovery out to those who desperately need it. Thanks friend!
 
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Paul.



SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website: https://emdrbypaul.com/
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
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If you've been listening to the podcast for any length of time, you know that I love to support sober authors.When I got sober 32 years ago, there were exactly zero memoirs about recovering from alcoholism and addiction. I'm so grateful that nowadays, so many people are sharing their stories, so the people who are thinking about quitting can see that it's possible for them too.
 
Today I sit down with Tracy Viola, author of Pretty Wrecked: Confessions of a Teen Addict, who got sober at 19, over 30 years ago, after a childhood shaped by her parents' divorce, an abusive stepfather, and an absent, alcoholic father.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
• How Tracy's NERD mantra keeps her making the next right decision, one day at a time
• The trash can metaphor she uses to describe carrying (and finally unpacking) trauma
• How she made peace with her father by separating fault from responsibility
• Why she teaches teenagers about the "red zone" and a "yellow light" approach to risk
• How surviving a college sexual assault shaped the work she does with teens today
 
There are a lot of insightful nuggets in this conversation, especially if you're early in recovery. If you need a basic breakdown of how to stay sober for your first 30 days, there's a free guide at odatchat.com. There's also links in the show notes for all the action steps and resources mentioned there, including Tracy's new book!
 
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Tracy.



SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website: https://www.tracyviolaauthor.com/
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1
 
 
 

 

 
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB
Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

Since it has been 10 years since I started the podcast, I wanted to highlight some of the most popular episodes with you. This one is with Dr. Anna Lembke. She is Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic at Stanford University and author of the #1 Bestseller "Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance In the Age of Indulgence". 
 
Over the years, I have found myself repeatedly sharing what I learned from her book, to explain the role dopamine plays in addiction, why we get so depleted of dopamine after drinking and using, and how we can speed up the process of healing.
 
If you are early in recovery and you're struggling you don't have to do this alone. There are many paths to recovery, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. If traditional methods haven't worked for you, you might want to consider coaching. I have been supporting people in early recovery for over 30 years now. In my process, I use methods like internal family systems, hypnosis, and goal-oriented coaching to help you get to the root causes and help you build momentum in sobriety. If you'd like to learn more, visit makesobrietystick.com to see if coaching is for you. 
 
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Dr. Anna Lembke.



SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website:
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1
 
 
 

 

 
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB
Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

Have you ever felt like the shame after a relapse was worse than the relapse itself?
 
Today I sat down with Tyler Patrick, a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-founder of Therapy Brothers, who has been in his own recovery for nearly 20 years.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 How the trauma tree shows the real roots behind relapse and acting out

The racetrack of shame and why beating yourself up keeps you stuck

The three Cs of shame resilience

and
A simple self-compassion practice you can use today

 
Don't forget to check the show notes for a podcast summary with links to resources we mention and a list of action steps that will improve the quality of your sobriety.
 
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Tyler.
 
SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website: https://www.therapybrothers.org/
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1
 
 
 

 

 
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB
Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast
YouTube Timestamps
00:00 Introduction to Tyler Patrick and today's topic
01:00 What you'll learn by the end of this episode
01:30 Tyler's background as a licensed therapist since 2005
02:00 Tyler opens up about his own recovery journey
03:00 Why shame can be more destructive than addiction itself
05:00 The "trauma tree": how core beliefs drive relapse
07:00 The racetrack of shame explained
12:00 The "case of the fuck its" and the "what the hell effect"
17:00 Why self-trust matters more than willpower
18:30 C1: Using context to normalize your struggle
21:00 C2: Courage: telling your story for the first time
27:00 The four qualities of a safe person to confide in
33:00 C3: Compassion and the Kristin Neff method
36:00 Why repetition rewires your nervous system
41:00 Tyler's real-life story of catching a trigger before church
46:00 The law of 51%: why you don't need to be perfect
50:00 Tyler's closing word of hope for newcomers
51:00 Where to find Tyler and Therapy Brothers

I sat down with Sunshine Witchski to talk about what happens when you finally stop hiding the parts of yourself that don't fit the mold.
➡️ Creating a safe place for people who want to get sober
➡️ How she rebuilt every single one of the twelve steps with her own spiritual spin...
➡️ What being a "witch" actually means and why it has nothing to do with what you've been told...
Sunshine got sober on October 9, 2019, six months before the world shut down, and she describes that first year as one of the loneliest of her life. She'd found the rooms that saved her, but she still felt like she had to leave part of herself outside the door. So over time, she built the thing she wished had existed: a recovery community where you don't have to choose between your sobriety and your spirituality.
Here is what you will take away from this episode:
✴️ The two mantras that have carried her through her whole healing journey - change is constant, and everything happens for a reason
✴️ What does a witch actually believe? It's less pointy hats, more healer, empath, and psychic arts
✴️ Recovery is not one-size-fits-all - she rebuilt the twelve steps her own way and it worked
✴️ Trusting her intuitive gifts became one of her biggest protections against relapse
✴️ Building community means nobody has to feel alone in this anymore