The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Before I jump into this week's episode, I have a new resource that will help those who struggle with finances. After announcing that I launched a manifestation journaling app called ReInvent that helps reframe limiting belief, I realized that I didn't really provide much context!
To remedy that, there is now a blog . I have posted my own personal story of how I tripled my income with this practice. I also include some of the science behind creating empowering beliefs, law of attraction, and wealth creation. You can find it at blog.getreinvent.app. If you are into manifesting, journaling, and reinventing your identity, you can try the app free at https://getreinvent.app 
Today, I have a very important episode for you, especially if you are going through a high conflict divorce or if you are dealing with post divorce abuse.
In this episode I sit down with Ksenia Muench, a divorce coach who specializes in high-conflict divorce and post-separation abuse. Ksenia walked through her own six-figure, high-conflict divorce, and she now helps women go from feeling completely powerless to becoming the CEO of their own divorce.
In this episode, you'll learn:
• How to self-soothe without numbing or reaching for a substance
• Why the harassment doesn't stop when the papers are signed
• The gray rock method for staying grounded without reacting
• How to rebuild trust in yourself and redefine who you are
Guest Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/

Hi friend, welcome to this week's episode, my name is Arlina and I'll be your host.
Before we jump in, I am excited to announce the launch of my new app, ReInvent. 
If you've ever felt like you're stuck, like no matter how hard you work, your bank account never quite catches up to your effort, it's not a strategy problem. It's a belief problem.
One of my favorite quotes is from Dr. David R. Hawkins, found in his classic book Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender, is: 
"The unconscious will allow us to have only what we believe we deserve. The more we hang on to our negativity and small self-image that results, the less we think we deserve."
I've spent 32 years studying behavior change and subconscious beliefs, and working with thousands of people. The ones who make lasting change and thrive are those who do the work of reinventing their identity.
That's why I built the Reinvent app. It's a daily practice, just a few minutes each morning and at the end of the day, that helps you raise your sense of worth by creating a new empowered identity, so you start taking consistent action on opportunities that will lead you to achieving your goals. It's part law of attraction, part behavioral science, and it's built specifically to shift your beliefs around money and self-worth.
Right now, Reinvent is in beta, and I'm looking for 50 people to try it free for 6 months and give me feedback. Just use the code REINVENT6 when you sign up.
You can create your free account today at getreinvent.app. That's getreinvent.app, code REINVENT6 for six months on me. This beta round is going to fill up fast, so register today!

In this episode, I sit down with Barney Whiter, financial and career coach behind The Escape Artist, for part two of our conversation about money beliefs, financial insecurity, and recovery. I put myself in the hot seat and let Barney coach me through my own money story. I've been thinking about it ever since!
Barney shares how watching his parents struggle when UK interest rates hit 17% in 1981 wired him for financial anxiety that followed him for decades, even after he paid off his mortgage at 33.
In this episode, you'll learn:
• Why financial anxiety persists even when your finances are fine
• How childhood money experiences literally wire your brain
• The difference between the presenting problem and the real problem
• Barney's complete toolkit for calming money anxiety: sleep, nutrition, resistance training, and more
• Why fear is a powerful motivator with a shelf life, and what to use instead
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Barney.
 
Guest Website: https://theescapeartist.me/
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
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My name is Arlina, I'm a best-selling author of the 12 step guide for skeptics, I've been sober for 32 years myself, and I'll be your host.
Before we jump in, I just want to share that I have a few coaching spots opening up. There seems to be a lot of people who are sober and building businesses, which in this economy, is really smart! The biggest challenge I see is people who are under earning Due to subconscious fears. I use hypnosis and internal family systems as part of the process of eliminating limiting beliefs and creating a new identity that supports your goals. So if you're sober and you're building a business, but you keep self-sabotaging or staying stuck, I work with people exactly like you. Book a free discovery call at soberlifeschool.com.
Today I sit down with Sonia Kahlon, co-founder of Sisters in Sobriety to tackle Step 5. Sonia has been moving through the steps with remarkable consistency, and this conversation gets real about resentments, boundaries, fear of asking for what we need, and the surprising ways sobriety makes us more sensitive, not less.
This episode is packed with practical wisdom, including:
• Why resentment is called the #1 cause of relapse - and what to do about it
• How to set a boundary without going from doormat to dictator
• The difference between your thoughts and your actions (and why it matters for Step 6)
• How sobriety can actually make you slower to react - and why that's okay
• What the Karpman Drama Triangle is and how it shows up in your relationships
• Why if you spot it you got it is a tool for compassion, not self-punishment
• How to use canned responses to navigate emotionally charged conversations
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Sonia!
 
SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website: https://sistersinsobriety.substack.com/
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1

 

 
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB
Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

Relapsing is such a common experience for people early in recovery. This episode is going to be really important for those who are exploring all the nuances of how people find recovery and the predictors of long-term recovery. 
Before we jump in, if you haven't yet, please consider supporting the podcast by joining the YouTube members only content for just $1.99 per month. It's ad free content and by showing your support, I can keep creating free content for you. The podcast costs about $500 per month so every little bit helps. Thank you so much!
Today I sit down with Dr. Ross Ellenhorn, a sociologist and founder of Ellenhorn, one of the most robust community integration programs in the United States. For over 20 years, Dr. Ellenhorn has been running what he calls a "hospital without walls" - a program that meets people where they are, literally going to school with clients, accompanying them to jobs, and helping them rebuild their lives inside their communities rather than removing them from those communities to treat them. 
In this episode, you'll learn:
• What "fear of hope" is and how it quietly blocks people from moving forward
• Why denial and resistance are more about your environment than your psychology
• How self-efficacy and pride are the real building blocks of lasting recovery
and
• The difference between hope and faith - and why both matter for recovery
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Dr Ellenhorn.
 
Guest Website: https://ellenhorn.com 
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1
 
 
 

 

 
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB
Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

Before we jump in, I have a couple of programming notes for you. The first is that since this month is the 10th anniversary of the show, I'll be publishing a back to basics series for those who are either allergic to the 12 steps, who are sober curious or otherwise needing support for early recovery.
The second is to let you know that there are lots of free resources on the podcast website at odaatchat.com. There's a guide called 30 tips for your first 30 days, how to have sober fun, and how to make sobriety stick. These are all free and available for instant download.
 
Okay friend, if you are skeptical of the steps, I actually wrote a whole book about "The 12 Step Guide for Skeptics" available on Amazon, but if you find yourself curious about the program, we are getting into the nitty gritty work of the 12 steps today! This is another installment of the stepwork series that I have been doing with Sonia Kahlon, co-founder of Sisters in Sobriety.
 
I just love Sonia. She's so courageous in her willingness to work the program in semi public. We will be doing some of this work in private because I want her to feel safe in doing the work, but you'll get a peek into the process so you can make an informed decision to try the steps or not.
 
In this episode, we walk through Sonia's actual Step 4 inventory together - her resentments toward her parents, her brother, and her ex-husband - and dig into what finding your part really means when you weren't the one who caused the damage.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why Step 4 is not about taking blame - it's about finding your power

- How unresolved resentments show up as triggers, even years later

- The difference between self-pity and an appropriate emotional response to pain

- How the people we're most resentful toward reveal our deepest limiting beliefs

- Why self-abandonment is often the real pattern hiding underneath our biggest resentments

and

- How to find the gifts that grew out of your most painful experiences

So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!
 
SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website: https://sistersinsobriety.substack.com/
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1
 
 
 

 

 
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB
Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast