The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Hi friend, welcome to the podcast, my name is Arlina, I've been sober for 32 years, and it's my life's mission to carry a message of hope for recovery.
Here's a question we all need to consider, No matter where you are in your recovery journey: What if the survival skills that you develop in childhood - the performing, the achieving, and the self-abandonment for the sake of appeasing others- are the exact habits quietly keeping you feeling stuck in adulthood? This actually happens to everybody in one form or another, and we're going to talk about how to break some of those patterns.
Today I sit down with Katie Hingle, founder and CEO of Lavish, and a woman in long term recovery to talk about how she is working through her own survival patterns. 
I've known Katie for decades, and always admired her, not just because she's so accomplished as an executive at Adobe, and now the CEO at her own company, but because she is a woman of faith, service and integrity. Katie is one of those shining examples of someone who has done real work - not just recovery from alcohol, but the untreated perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependence underneath it.
But before we jump in, I just want to share with you that because June marks 10 years of the One Day at a Time podcast, I am going to be doing something a little different In the upcoming weeks. I am going to do a series of episodes focused on early recovery. This will be for those who are simply wanting to take a break from alcohol, those who are sober curious and don't want to go to AA, or those coming back after a period of drinking. I want you to know that no matter where you are in your journey, I am here to support you with a safe space for coming to your own conclusions.
In today's episode, you'll learn:
• How to recognize when your survival mechanisms have become your biggest liability
• Why resentment is the root of the devolving process in recovery and relationships
• The concept of collateral growth - and why doing your own work changes everyone around you
And 
• How recovery principles translate directly into building a business and showing up in relationships
 
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Katie.
 
Guest Website: lavishexperienceco.com
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
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☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
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What happens when the thing that was supposed to save you - the mission, the badge, the identity - becomes the very thing addiction destroys? And what do you do when you are a trained Navy SEAL, built to be a hero, and you cannot even save your own son from a pandemic scare because you are too deep in a three-day meth binge to pick up the phone?
Today I sit down with Dr. Tony Dice - Navy SEAL, PhD, and author of After the Trident: A Navy SEAL's Battle with Secrets, Shame, and Addiction. Dr. Dice spent years serving alongside legends like Jocko Willink, then gave up his SEAL career to protect his drug use - until a moment of devastating clarity brought him to his knees and into treatment.
In this episode you will learn:
How growing up in extreme isolation with an alcoholic father shaped his addiction before it even started
Why high performers are especially vulnerable to addiction - and how the same obsessive drive that builds careers can quietly destroy everything they love
How Tony sold his car to fund his own rehab stay, and what that moment of willingness meant for his recovery
The holistic change model Dr. Dice discovered in 12-step recovery - and why it maps directly onto proven therapeutic frameworks
Why gratitude is not just a feeling - it is an action word, and why Tony has it tattooed on his leg next to a handcuff key
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!

Today's guest has been sober for 17 years. But her sobriety didn't start with a surrender. It started with a dare.
Kat Courtney is a shamanic practitioner with over 20 years of experience working with ayahuasca and ibogaine, a lineage-trained facilitator who completed an 8.5-year apprenticeship, and the co-founder of Base, an ibogaine treatment center in Mexico.
Before we jump in, I wanted to announce that the podcast is coming up on the 10-year anniversary! I'm so grateful to all of you who continue to download the podcast and to all of our guests For so graciously sharing their knowledge.
If I may be so bold to ask, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Having a lot of positive rankings is how we get the message out to those in need. I realize it's kind of a pain in the ass, so if you actually take a few minutes to Leave a review, Just know you're my new favorite, and I love you. 
As a Disclaimer for this episode: this is for educational purposes only. I'm not a doctor. I don't play one on the internet. This is not to encourage you to try plant medicine, but to present additional resources if you're thinking about it. I am not an expert in this area, so I will be largely deferring to Kat for her expertise.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
• Why integration after plant medicine is more important than the medicine itself - and what happens when people skip it
• How ibogaine eliminates post-acute withdrawal symptoms for up to three months, giving people a genuine window to heal
• Why different plant medicines work for different addictions - and which ones are actually dangerous in combination
• What 10 years of shamanic training looks like, and why it matters who is holding space for you
• Kat's daily self-care rituals, and how she bookends each day with intention
 
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Kat!
 
SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website: https://plantmedicinepeople.com
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1
 

 

 
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB
Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

In this episode of the One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast, Arlina sits down with Joe Gallagher - entrepreneur, author, and two-year sober miracle. Joe shares his journey from childhood trauma and 20 years of failed recovery attempts to launching a spaghetti sauce company 60 days sober and landing interest from 1,100 grocery stores.
You'll hear how Joe finally surrendered after his fifth arrest and seventh suicide attempt, what made this recovery stick when the previous two decades didn't, and how service, community, and massive action became the foundation of both his sobriety and his business. His book "From Bars to Jars: A Saucy Redemption Story" is available now, and his honesty about childhood abuse, self-forgiveness, and faith makes this one of the most courageous conversations on the show.
Guest Website: https://apastioli.com https://apastioli.com
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
0:00 - Intro and lightning round: books that helped in early sobriety
1:00 - Manifestation, Napoleon Hill, and how Joe used visualization to get into Piggly Wiggly
2:30 - Five daily practices that keep Joe grounded in sobriety
3:30 - Two years sober - and why year two was harder than year one
5:00 - Childhood: dirt poor, father's addiction, family dynamics
7:30 - Moving to Charleston, 10 years away from family, survival mode
8:30 - First drink at 13 at a cousin's wedding
10:30 - The roots of addiction: childhood sexual abuse, bullying, and violence at home
12:00 - Why men don't talk about sexual trauma - and why Joe does
13:30 - Forgiveness: forgiving others vs. forgiving yourself
15:00 - "From Bars to Jars" - the book origin story
16:00 - The last relapse: two years, physical deterioration, rock bottom
17:00 - First walk into AA in 2010 after 7th suicide attempt
18:00 - Resistance to God after childhood trauma in a church
19:30 - The final surrender: 5th arrest and dropping to his knees in a jail cell
21:00 - Going all in: 170 meetings in 90 days, all 12 steps in 90 days
22:00 - The three legacies and why service was the missing piece
24:00 - Forced entrepreneurship: couldn't get a job, made spaghetti sauce instead
25:30 - From a closet-sized kitchen to 1,100 stores waiting: the growth story
28:00 - Finding investors and a co-packer for 100,000 units
29:30 - Morning routine as an anchor for business and sobriety
31:00 - How he found Sober Founders and Andrew Lassise: a divine intervention

This is the second episode in the step work series with Sonia Kahlon. Co host of the sisters in sobriety podcast and a woman in long term recovery. And I'm tellin you, she is coming in HOT about Step 2!
Before we dive in, a quick announcement. The show notes of every episode contain a summary, all the action steps and all the books mentioned in the episode. There is also a resources tab you'll want to check out with a bunch of free guides like how to have sober fun, 30 tips for your first 30 days, as well as links to the YouTube channel. You can find all of these free resources to enrich your recovery, at odaatchat.com. 
So, after this week's recording, it got me wondering. What if the thing standing between you and the steps is the feeling that the language just doesn't apply to you? That the Big Book is too old, too religious, or too far removed from what we actually know about trauma, neuroscience, and mental health?
This conversation with Sonia, who has never worked the steps, is a real, unfiltered walk through Step 2 of the 12 steps: "Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity." Although Sonia came in "not loving step 2" as she puts it, What unfolded might surprise you!
We talk about:
Why the word "sanity" in Step 2 might just be a semantic issue - and what it actually means

How to build a concept of a higher power that's personal, flexible, and makes sense to you

We share stories of "God shots" and synchronicity that feel like "spiritual experiences"

How the pause between your impulse and your reaction is where your higher power can work, and how to access it.

So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Sonia, and if you do, share it with a friend struggling with the steps