The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

What if the resentment you've been carrying, even the resentment toward yourself, is really just missing information?
 
Today I sit down with Dr. John Demartini, human behavior specialist, creator of the Demartini Method, and one of the teachers many of us first discovered through The Secret. He has spent 54 years in personal development, and in this conversation he explains why resentment, guilt and shame come from an imbalanced view of what happened, and how asking better questions can turn them into gratitude.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
• Why resentment is an imbalanced ratio of perceptions, and how to rebalance it
• Why Dr. Demartini says he has never really seen self-sabotage
• The one question that dissolved three years of guilt for a man who missed his mother's death
• Why addictive behavior is a compensation for unfulfilled highest values
• How knowing your true values and delegating the rest can break the burnout cycle
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!



SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website: https://drdemartini.com/
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
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What happens when someone with more than two decades of sobriety, thirty years as a trauma therapist, and a book in progress about her own healing finds herself in a hospital bed with a yellow wristband that says Fall Risk?
 
Today I sit down with Lisa Arrigo, a licensed clinical social worker who has been in private practice for over thirty years specializing in complex trauma, Internal Family Systems, and somatic work. She is also a woman in long-term recovery who relapsed in 2022 after twenty-two years sober. She was not white-knuckling it. She was getting her makeup done before a fundraising event when someone offered her a couple of lines of cocaine, and a part of her that she had stopped paying attention to said yes before her thinking brain could get a word in. Three months later she overdosed.
 
Lisa gives the clearest explanation of relapse I have ever heard, and then she shows us the way back.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
• Why all addictions begin as coping strategies, and how that changes the question from what is wrong with me to what happened to me
• How epigenetics, in-utero stress, and early attachment wounds wire a nervous system for survival long before the first drink
• Why trauma does not know time, and how memories surface as panic and sensation with no story attached
• What emotional relapse looks like from the inside, and the warning signs Lisa missed in herself
• Why shame, not the substance, is what keeps people from coming back, and how to step out of the shame bath
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!



SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website: https://lisaarrigo.com
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1

September is National Recovery Month. In honor of that, I'm really focusing on people who don't get a lot of support, and those are the people who don't resonate with traditional recovery programs. If you are someone who  wants to find your own path, and you are willing to do the work of recovery, then I got you! I am doing a mini-series called Sobriety 101 where you'll get practical advice on the tools and practices that will help you overcome common obstacles along your journey so you can stay sober too.
 
Be sure you're subscribed to the podcast in your favorite podcast player and on youtube!
 
Today I sit down with Daniel Chase, a kitchen and bath remodeling business owner who spent over a decade living a double life: a Bible quizzer and gang member at once, a successful plumber running crews across three states while still using meth. He was arrested 16 times. His father checked into rehab 11 times before he took his own life.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
• How forgiveness helped Daniel stay sober
• Why his father's 11 stays in rehab shaped Daniel's own recovery
• The moment of true surrender that broke him open at a men's retreat
• How he built a new 12-step curriculum blending faith, the traditional steps, and DBT, now used in four inpatient programs and
• Why he believes mental health has to come before addiction in real recovery
 
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!




SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website: https://finallyheflew.com/
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1
 
 
 

 

 
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB
Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

September is National Recovery Month, so I'm kicking off a mini-series called Sobriety 101. This one's for anyone who wants a path to recovery outside of the traditional 12 steps.
I'm a 12-stepper myself, but after 450+ episodes of this podcast, I know there isn't just one way to get and stay sober. In this episode, I'm sharing what I would do first if I were starting over today and didn't want to go the 12-step route: get brutally honest with myself about whether I can actually moderate.
I talk about my own two years of trying (and failing) to control my drinking, the writing exercise I'd use to get clarity fast, and a warning about "coaches" who prey on people who aren't ready to fully give up alcohol.
Today marks 11,821 days sober for me, one day at a time.
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Next week: how to get through your first week of sobriety, nervous system regulation, and how to identify (and survive) your drinking triggers.
If there's a topic you want me to cover in this series, leave a comment and let me know.
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This episode is a continuation of the step work I've been doing with friend Sonia Kahlon the host of the Sisters In Sobriety Podcast. We've both been getting really positive feedback so I'm excited to share this one with you!
 
Today we dig into Step Six: which is "Were entirely ready to have God remove our character defects" Let me say right off the bat, that we do address that term "character defects" and offer maybe more palatable phrasing, so if that bothers you just know it doesn't have to be a barrier. 
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why Step Six is really the "ish" step, and what that means for perfectionism in recovery

How envy quietly becomes the thief of joy

Why resentments build like pebbles in a sack until we collapse under the weight

What internal family systems work (and "Manager Marge") looks like on an anxious morning

 
If you find this podcast helpful in any way, please share it with a friend! And if you haven't watched these on YouTube yet, I highly recommend it. Be sure to subscribe and all that stuff. It really helps me get the message of recovery out to those who need it most.
 
So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Sonia!



SHOW NOTES:
 
Guest Website: https://thesobercurator.com/
👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life?
Here are 3 ways to get started:
🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist
Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com
☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
https://www.makesobrietystick.com
Subscribe So You Don't Miss New Episodes!
 
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. 
You can also watch the interview on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1
 
 
 

 

 
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB
Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast