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How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

Dr Maryhan
How Not to Screw Up Your Kids
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  • How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

    What I Know for Sure About Raising Confident Kids

    15/04/2026 | 33 mins.
    Today is my birthday, and it’s become a tradition of mine to reflect on life and what I’ve learned. So this year I’m reflecting in public, on the podcast with you.

    I am going to share my top ten parenting lessons, drawn from my own experience, about how to raise confident children.

    My two children are adults now, and I like to think I’ve learnt a lot over the years. I’ve gotten things right, and I’ve certainly gotten things wrong - we’re only human!

    So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

    Highlights from this episode:
    01:13 - A birthday wish
    03:44 - Parents to adult children
    06:54 - Meal time is family time
    08:55 - A roast dinner goes a long way
    11:47 - Value systems are for life
    15:19 - This too shall pass
    18:36 - People pleasing
    22:27 - Comparison through a softer lens
    26:21 - Humans are complicated
    28:51 - Don’t take yourself too seriously

    💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together

    💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/

    💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library

    💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

    💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected]

    DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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  • How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

    5 Powerful Reflection Questions to Build Confidence in Children

    12/04/2026 | 14 mins.
    I talk a lot about confidence, because it’s super important, and it’s something we all struggle with - yes, even us parents!

    But a lack of confidence can manifest in so many different ways, it can be really tricky knowing how to spot the signs in our kids and support them through it.

    So in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m giving you a cheat sheet, with five really powerful reflection questions you can use with any child at any age to help build their confidence.

    So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

    Highlights from this episode:
    00:44 - Reflection builds competency
    02:34 - What was going on for you?
    04:48 - What were you feeling?
    06:37 - Focus on the unmet needs
    08:19 - Building a growth mindset
    09:55 - Encouraging self-regulation

    💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together

    💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/

    💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library

    💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

    💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected]

    DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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  • How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

    What to Say When Your Child Feels Anxious

    08/04/2026 | 23 mins.
    Anxiety is not a one size fits all thing. It can show up in so many different ways, from school refusal to bedtime worries and everything in between.

    We think it’s our job as parents to find the magic solution, but there isn’t one! Instead, we have to find ways to navigate these tricky situations and the supportive presence our children need.

    In today’s episode I am going to help you tackle your kids’ anxiety with some super practical tips you can start using right now. Plus, I share the words which are most likely to calm your child or teen and the things you should definitely avoid!

    So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

    Mentioned in this episode:
    The 30 Second Reset - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/bucket-emptying-30-second-reset/

    Highlights from this episode:
    01:02 - Introduction to anxiety
    03:54 - What is the feeling of anxiety?
    08:00 - 2 things you do that increase anxiety
    11:54 - Stay calm and carry on
    14:55 - Encourage and normalise
    17:25 - Building long term confidence
    20:05 - Skills take time to learn

    💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together

    💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/

    💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library

    💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

    💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected]

    DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
  • How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

    Good Mum, Not Enough Mum: Why It Still Never Feels Like Enough

    05/04/2026 | 15 mins.
    Spoiler alert: being a mum is hard.

    It’s ok to be a good mum and feel like you’re not enough. You might feel like you can’t tell other mums that, but I promise you we are all feeling the same.

    So in this bucket emptying episode, I talk about why that feeling is so common, why it’s not a personal failure, and why being a good mum can still feel exhausting and heavy.

    This episode isn’t about fixing these feelings, because I can’t do that. What we will do together is get comfortable with those feelings, and get honest with ourselves.

    So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

    Highlights from this episode:
    01:38 - The two voices in your head
    05:12 - Mad Mum
    11:52 - Guilt is part of motherhood
    14:32 - Final thoughts

    💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together

    💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/

    💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library

    💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

    💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected]

    DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
  • How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

    Why Your Child Won't Listen, and One Thing to Try Tonight

    01/04/2026 | 18 mins.
    Do you ever feel like you are speaking to a brick wall?
    Do your kids sometimes ignore you as if you’re invisible?
    Do you feel the frustration eating away at you?

    Well let me tell you something - you are not alone! Every child has moments, and some more than others, of simply not listening. There are so many reasons for this, and yes some of them are learned, but some are simply part of growing up.

    In today’s episode I am going to explore the main reasons your children don’t listen to you, and give you some practical tips you can start using right now to get your kids wanting to listen to you, which will bring your stress levels down too!

    So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

    Highlights from this episode:
    00:28 - You are not alone
    03:10 - Listening is self-regulation
    06:51 - Patterns of behaviour
    08:30 - A need for independence
    11:00 - 5 steps to get your kids listening
    13:42 - How to make your life easier

    💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together

    💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/

    💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library

    💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

    💚 Brands and advertisers, email [email protected]

    DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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About How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation...We'd love to hear from you!We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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