In this our 100th episode! We talked about: The importance of the transition from nursery / school to home but also for us going from work to home (especially if you are working from home!). How you can’t always be your ‘true self’, how things build up and how we have to hold it together when you aren’t at home and it comes out when you get home. Some ideas for what you can do to decompress before getting home. Connection before redirection – a few tweaks to the routine or some pre preparation can make a difference to coming home time. Not necessarily asking lots of questions when children come out of school or nursery. There may be particular triggers and worries that prompt behaviour and these are things that you might need to look into and support them further. How you sometimes just need to allow your children let it out when they get home. Keeping our calm. Facebook @bespokefamily Instagram @bespokefamily Blog – 10 ways to help tricky behaviour after school / How to help your child prepare for starting school / How do I keep calm when my little one is having a meltdown? Podcast – Starting school / Preparing children for nursery For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including preparing for and welcoming your newborn, behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative
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Birth Trauma and antenatal preparation with Trudi Webber from Make Birth Better
We know that for many families, birth doesn’t always go the way you hoped or imagined, and it can leave a lasting impact. In this episode, we spoke with Trudi about what birth trauma really means, why antenatal education is so important, and how parents can prepare for and recover from challenging experiences. Unfortunately in this episode Claire’s internet gave up the ghost and so Becks had to go it alone (Claire never usually let’s that happen!) - we hope that this doesn’t spoil your enjoyment of the episode in any way 😊. Trudi began by telling us all about herself and her background (she used to be a chartered accountant!) and why she came to be involved in Make Birth Better. What birth trauma is, how common it is and what stages it can happen at. Links with depression and PTSD etc. Signs that might indicate birth trauma (eg avoidance of certain settings, appointments etc) along with statistics around birth trauma and PTSD. Becks talked about her own birth experience (19 years ago!) and how a debrief of the experience she and her husband had would have been really welcome and helpful. The importance of keeping lines of communication open. Antenatal education and preparation. How a birth partner can support before and during birth, but that birth can have an impact on them as well. ‘Birth trauma is in the eye of a beholder’ – Cheryl Beck – how every experience is valid and any birth can be traumatic. The process for post birth ‘de-briefs’. What Trudi would say to expectant parents who are anxious about giving birth. Compassionate care and support – at the heart of our maternity services. Tips for looking after yourself emotionally preparing for, during and after giving birth. Facebook @bespokefamily / https://www.facebook.com/birthbetter Instagram @bespokefamily / https://www.instagram.com/birthbetter Make Birth Better website - https://www.makebirthbetter.org/ You may also be interested in our Hypnobirthing episode – listen here For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including preparing for and welcoming your newborn, behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative
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Why doesn’t my toddler like their new sibling?
Not liking their new sibling isn’t necessarily a personal thing against the baby but this is a huge change and impact on a little one’s life. This episode is all about why this is and what you can do to help. We spoke about: How a 2 or 3 year old is going to find the arrival of a new little baby coming a very difficult concept to grasp and it's also going to be a big adjustment for the parents! The range of emotions that come with having a new baby. The importance of not forcing the relationship between the new siblings and why. Connection, consistency and keeping boundaries. Considering if the resistance might be because of any big changes for your little one before baby was born. Thinking about what's happening from your little one’s perspective and working from that. The life lessons that the children are learning from being a sibling. Our blog from this episide – https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/blog/why-doesnt-my-toddler-like-their-new-sibling Facebook @bespokefamily Instagram @bespokefamily For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative
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Preparing children for nursery! With Clare Crowther, Atelier Nurseries
Clare’s background has always been in early years - she is founder of Atelier nurseries which started in Bath and is now also in Chippenham in Wiltshire Lots of parents worry about starting their children at nursery and we knew that Clare was the ideal person to talk to us about it all – we covered so much, from choosing the right nursery, to settling in, drop off and what families can do to help little ones to prepare. We spoke about: What parents typically worry about when taking children to nursery for the first time. How it is completely normal to feel worried and anxious. Routines and consistency and how this will be carried over from home life to nursery. The impact that nursery practitioners can have on families’ lives (and how that can last way beyond nursery!). Relationships that are built with and between children and families. Preparing children for nursery (both you and your little one(s)). What to look for when choosing a nursery. Settling in sessions and what these can look like. No guilt about going back to work and making it work for you and your family – finding the right nursery provider for you. Crying at nursery drop off – working with families and the nursery to see what’s happening. Pausing, reflecting, communicating and having a plan. What you can do to help preparing children for starting nursery at home. Clare’s tips to help prepare children for nursery Our blogs – Choosing childcare that is right for you and your child / My child always cries when I drop them at nursery Atelier Nursery website: https://www.ateliernursery.co.uk/ Facebook @bespokefamily @AtelierNursery Instagram @bespokefamily @ateliernurseryltd For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative
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Potty Training Power Struggles!
When most of the time, the children you are potty training are toddlers, no wonder there are power struggles – and we are always asked about what to do when this happens! We spoke about: The most common potty training power struggles. Starting by trying to work out where the struggle is coming from – could it be a feeling of being out of control? Positive reinforcement and connection when they do something on the potty or toilet (more than when they don’t do it!) Rewards (or not?) The importance of consistency of approach. Our other potty training blogs and podcast episodes! Whether it’s a good idea to stop and start again straight away or if it’s better to leave it for a bit before starting again. The importance of not nagging children so they can think for themselves and don’t become oblivious to what you are saying when you ask them if they need to go for a wee. How to exercise the bladder – “stretch, hold, release!” Why it’s important not to not to leave your child on the potty or toilet for too long. Precautionary wees and why these aren’t necessarily a good idea! Teaching children skills for life. Our blogs – When potty training is a power struggle / Potty Training Regression – Is it normal? / Why won’t my child do a poo on the toilet or potty? Facebook @bespokefamily Instagram @bespokefamily For information about a Bespoke Family Parent Consultation click here: https://www.bespokefamily.co.uk/parent-consultations ‘Your Guide to...’ (our downloadable webinars including behaviour, toilet training, sleep and more) This podcast is produced by Decibelle Creative
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