Not Another Mummy Podcast

This week’s guest is Lou Beckett, author of the Sunday Times bestselling book Lessons From A Default Parent.

Fans of the Parenting Hell podcast will be very familiar with Lou, thanks to husband Rob Beckett mentioning her lots, but this time Lou is firmly in the spotlight in her own right.

In her debut book, Lou explores the reality of being the “default parent” - the one who carries the invisible admin, the mental load, and the assumption of responsibility that very often falls to mums. We talk about what the term default parent actually means, why it happens (even in relationships with “one of the good ones”), and how easily it can chip away at your identity.

Lou shares her experience of early motherhood, being at home with Rob's life seemingly carried on as usual, the mild resentment and sheer exhaustion that led to an argument in The Glades Shopping Centre in Bromley.

We also chat about:

Why the “I love my kids but…” caveat exists
Whether maternity and paternity leave policies contribute to the imbalance
Why modern parenting feels heavier than it used to
And how to stop being the sole keeper of all the information in your house

Lou’s book Lessons From A Default Parent is out now: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lessons-Default-Parent-Surviving-Without/dp/024176291X
You can read Lou’s blog here: https://louembeckett.co.uk
And follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lou_em/

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Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry or on Twitter: @iamalisonperry. You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now.

Music: Epidemic Sound
Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer
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On this very special episode of Not Another Mummy Podcast, I'm joined by Sir Keir Starmer, Prime Minister.

Sir Keir talks openly about family life in the flat above 10 Downing Street. From taking his 14-year-old daughter a cup of tea before leaving for work every morning and how much he loves being the butt of his teens' jokes to sharing photos of melons on their family WhatsApp group chat.

The PM also talks honestly about how difficult it is to navigate social media and smartphone use at home, the stresses of GCSEs and revision, and listening to his gut when requests come in from his kids to go to house parties.
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If you enjoyed this episode then please leave a rating or review - and you can follow the podcast to ensure you don’t miss future episodes. Thank you!

Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now.

Production: Annabelle Buckland at Decibelle Creative
Publicity: Jenna Good PR
Music: Epidemic Sound
Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer
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I’m joined on this episode of Ten Minute Confidence Boost by Amy Kean – CEO of Good Shout, a learning and development company which helps people find their voice.

Good Shout’s latest research found that women are worried about being seen as “too confident” in the workplace and that they’re shrinking themselves in order to be liked. Amy is also a TedX speak and author of The Little Girls Who Gave Zero Fucks.

Amy talks to me about the research, why women are most concerned about being unlikeable to other women and the confidence boosting tip she uses every day.

Follow Amy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amycharlottekean/?originalSubdomain=uk
Check out Good Shout: https://goodshoutcommunity.com

If you enjoyed this episode then please leave a rating or review - and you can follow the podcast to ensure you don’t miss future episodes. Thank you!

Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry or on Twitter: @iamalisonperry. You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now.

Music: Epidemic Sound
Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer
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This week's guest is Holly Matthews - former actor, now a coach, speaker and founder of The Happy Me Project, a brilliant online space helping people boost their confidence and feel more content in day-to-day life.

You might remember Holly from Byker Grove or Waterloo Road, but she’s since carved out a completely new path, turning the toughest period of her life - losing her husband Ross to brain cancer in 2017 - into a mission to help others rebuild after tough times.

We talk about Holly's early career, the reality of solo parenting two girls, and the mindset tools she now swears by. We also chat about her ADHD diagnosis and how she approaches body image as a mum.

Holly’s books, The Happy Me Project and Find Your Confidence, are both out now: https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/author/B09NDBSWDB
Follow Holly on Instagram at @iamhollymatthews

If you enjoyed this episode then please leave a rating or review - and you can follow the podcast to ensure you don’t miss future episodes. Thank you!

Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry or on Twitter: @iamalisonperry. You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now.

Music: Epidemic Sound
Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer
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On this episode of Ten Minute Confidence Boost I'm joined by Nicola Lewis aka This Girl Can Organise. Nicola offers up organisation tips and help on her Instagram but she also shows up with incredible confidence.

We chat about where that confidence comes from, how it can sometimes be as simple as wearing something new and what Nicola does on wobbly days where she isn't feeling it as much.

Follow Nicola on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thisgirlcanorganise/

If you enjoyed this episode then please leave a rating or review - and you can follow the podcast to ensure you don’t miss future episodes. Thank you!

Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood and confidence on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry or on Twitter: @iamalisonperry. You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now.

Music: Epidemic Sound
Artwork: Eleanor Bowmer
Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/notanothermummy.
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