Parents & Teens Rising: Practical Tools for Raising Confident, Connected Teens

In today's episode I'm talking about something that comes up in nearly every single coaching call I have with parents: understanding what's actually going on beneath your teen's outward behavior. I get into why the slammed door, the "I'm fine" that clearly isn't, and the out-of-nowhere snap at dinner are never really about what they seem to be about, and why treating them as the whole problem keeps parents stuck in the same fight over and over.
Here's what we cover:
Why behavior is never the whole story, it's a message, and what your teen's nervous system might actually be trying to tell you
The all-too-common scenario of a teen who snaps at the same time every day after school, and what's really happening underneath it
Why the parent often becomes "the safest place to fall apart" and how that reframes the whole dynamic
Plus, I walk you through five steps to help you decode what's actually being communicated so you can respond to the real thing instead of just the surface:
Pause before you react to the behavior itself
Ask what need isn't getting met in that moment
Look for the pattern, not just the moment
Get curious instead of corrective
Respond to the need instead of just the behavior
This episode is for any parent who's ever been thrown off by their teen's behavior and wanted a way back to connection instead of another power struggle.
Connect with me on Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages

In today's episode I'm taking you behind the scenes of our first wilderness rite of passage trip of the summer, a five day backpacking journey into the backcountry with a group of ten middle schoolers. I just got back last week and I'm still processing everything that happened out there, but I couldn't wait to come on and share it with you while it's all still fresh.
Here's what we cover:
The full story of our time on the trail, including the challenges, the breakthroughs, and the moments that left the guides in tears
How asking for help became the unexpected theme of the entire trip
What happened during solo time and the powerful ritual that followed
The appreciation circle that cracked every single heart wide open
The welcome home ceremony with parents that brought it all full circle
Plus, I break down six myths about teenagers that got completely shattered out there:
That teens can't or won't go deep
That they need constant stimulation and can't handle stillness
That their social lives are all about image and performance
That they're too proud or self-conscious to ask for help
That they're entitled or checked out
That they resist ritual and being witnessed by the adults in their lives
This episode is for any parent who has ever wondered what their teenager is really capable of when they're given the right container.
Register by Friday the 3rd for the last spot in our High School Girls Rite of Passage Trip into the Marble Mountains (We hit the trail on July 8th!): https://youth.guided-passages.com/high-school-girls-wilderness-quest
Connect with me on Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages

In this episode, I explore how our thoughts shape our emotions, behaviors, and ultimately the results we create in our lives. Drawing from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), neuroscience, and real-life examples, I share practical tools that parents and teens can use to break free from negative thought patterns, build confidence, reduce anxiety, and create a more empowered mindset.
Whether you're parenting a teenager, coaching young people, or working through your own challenges, this episode will help you understand how changing your thoughts can transform the way you experience life.
What You'll Walk Away With:
What Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is and why it's so effective 
 The TEB Cycle: How Thoughts → Emotions → Behaviors → Results 
 How neuroplasticity allows the brain to rewire itself through intentional thinking 
 Why teenagers have a unique advantage when it comes to mindset development 
 Lessons from Olympic champion Eileen Gu on mental performance and self-belief 
 Common thinking traps that fuel anxiety, low confidence, and a lack of motivation 
 Practical thought replacements that help teens feel more capable and resilient 
 How parents' thought patterns directly impact their relationships with their teens 
 The role of the Reticular Activating System (RAS) in shaping what we notice and focus on 
 Why mindset work is a daily practice, not a one-time fix
Memorable Quote
"You can control how you think, and therefore you can control who you are."
— Eileen Gu
Resources Mentioned
 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) 
 Aaron Beck's work on cognitive therapy 
 Byron Katie's "The Work" 
 Episode 10: 5-Minute Guided Meditation for Teens and Parents
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with another parent, educator, or teen who could benefit from these tools. Every conversation about mindset helps create stronger, more resilient young people.
Ready to Help Your Teen Build Confidence, Purpose, and Resilience?
If you're looking for deeper support beyond the podcast, I offer coaching, programs, and transformative wilderness experiences designed to help teens develop confidence, self-awareness, leadership skills, and a stronger sense of purpose.
Explore available programs and resources, and take the next step toward helping your teen thrive.
🔗https://guided-passages.com/
Connect with Jasmyne:

Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages

Have you ever looked up in the middle of summer and realized your teen is sleeping until noon, spending hours on screens, and slowly losing motivation?

You're not alone.

In this episode, I'm sharing five practical steps that can help your teen create a summer that feels meaningful, productive, and enjoyable—without turning you into the summer police.

I'll walk you through how to get your teen's buy-in, create a realistic plan together, build healthy routines, set motivating goals, and stay accountable without creating daily conflict. These are the same strategies I'm using with my own teenagers this summer, and I hope they'll help your family create a summer that feels good for everyone.
What You'll Discover:
Helping your teen learn from last summer's experiences 
Balancing high expectations with strong support 
Creating a summer plan together instead of enforcing one 
Building healthy routines and screen-time boundaries 
Using SMART goals to increase motivation and purpose 
Holding weekly check-ins that encourage accountability 
 Strengthening your connection through positive encouragement and support
Resources and links mentioned:
Free Summer Planning Sheet for Teens
To make summer planning easier, I've created a free Summer Planning Sheet that helps teens:
Create a daily routine
Set meaningful goals
Build healthy habits
Stay accountable throughout the summer
Download it here: youth.guided-passages.com/summer-plan

Recommended Reading

10 to 25: The Science of Motivating Young People by David Yeager

This book has had a significant impact on my approach to supporting young people and on my understanding of what truly motivates them.
Connect With Me

I'd love to hear how summer planning is going in your family.

📧 Email: Jasmyne@guided-passages.com
📱 Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages

Send me a message and let me know what strategies you're trying or what goals your teen is working toward this summer.

If you have a graduating senior, or you've had one in the past few years, or you're watching one of your younger kids and already feeling the anticipation of this moment coming, this episode is for you. No matter where you are on the parenting journey, there is something here for you today.
In today's episode I'm coming to you from a very personal place. In two days, my own senior graduates, and I've been living right in the middle of everything I want to talk about with you today. I'm sharing honestly about what this transition has been like, what I've been feeling, and the tools and perspective that have been helping me move through it. My hope is that you walk away from this one feeling a little less alone and a little more grounded as you navigate this season.
In this episode I cover:
Why every emotion you're feeling right now is valid, including the messy, inconvenient, and unexpected ones
How grief pulls us out of the present and what to do instead so you don't miss what's still right in front of you
What letting go actually means and why trusting your child is one of the most loving things you can do
Why this is a rite of passage for you as a parent, not just for your teen, and a simple ritual to mark the moment and set intentions for your next chapter
A message for the parents whose teen's path looks different right now, whether that's a delayed graduation, a different route altogether, or an uncertain next step
Quotes from this episode:
"Reminiscing is not the same as dwelling. It is honoring."
"We're not releasing our kids into a void. We're releasing them into their own lives, into their own becoming."
"Progress is not always linear, and neither is becoming who we are each meant to be."
"Everyone is at their own spot and they are right on time for their own life."
Resources and links mentioned:
Guided Passages wilderness rites of passage backpacking trips for high school girls. We just have 2 spots left! https://youth.guided-passages.com/high-school-girls-wilderness-quest
Join the Parents of Teens Rising Skool community
Rise Up & Ignite Coaching programs for Teens & Young Adults
Connect with Jasmyne:
Instagram: @jasmyne.guidedpassages