Shameless Sex

In this episode, we’re joined by Ashley Randall, also known as Irreverent Femme—a Los Angeles–based Sex, Intimacy, and Kink Coach, Dominatrix, and erotic parfum-ist. Ashley shares how her journey into sexuality work emerged from a desire to help people shed shame, reconnect with their bodies, and access deeper intimacy and pleasure.

Ashley primarily works with cisgender, predominantly straight men, many of whom are successful yet disconnected—from their emotions, their desire, and their partners. She explains why working with a confident, sexually embodied woman can be both confronting and profoundly healing, offering men a space to drop performance and explore authenticity.

The most common issue Ashley sees is disconnection, often showing up as performance anxiety, erectile challenges, or difficulty leading and communicating sexually. Beneath it all is a longing for confidence, presence, and deeper connection. In early sessions, Ashley focuses on nervous system regulation, consent, and embodiment, gradually guiding clients toward more grounded desire, emotional intimacy, and conscious power.

We also explore Ashley’s work as a Dominatrix and how dominance—whether kinky or not—is about presence, responsibility, and attunement rather than control. She shares practical insights for men who want to be more dominant, emphasizing self-regulation, listening, and clarity.

Plus, we dive into Ashley’s erotic perfumes, which she uses as a powerful sensory and somatic tool in sessions to anchor desire, memory, and arousal.

Ashley leaves listeners with one golden reminder: your desire is not a problem—it’s information.

Learn more or work with Ashley at www.irreverentcoaching.com
Follow her on Instagram: @IrreverentLoveCoaching

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Ready to Rewire Your Nervous System for More Pleasure, Intimacy, and Connection?

Join us on this juicy episode of Shameless Sex as we dive into the world of nervous system healing with Melanie and Mark Curtis, the dynamic duo behind Coming Home Coaching. These two experts are on a mission to help you crack the code to deeper intimacy, more fulfilling relationships, and a sex life that's off the charts.

Here's what you'll learn:

• The surprising ways your nervous system is impacting your sex life (and how to take control)

• How to recognize and release shame, and why it's the ultimate intimacy killer

• The role of safety in feeling desire, and how to create a life that's safe for your wildest desires

• What SomaCode is, and how it can help you unlock your full sexual potential

• Practical tools and techniques for working with your nervous system, decreasing shame, and increasing your sense of worth and authentic expression

Melanie and Mark bring their unique blend of somatic and subconscious expertise to the table, having navigated their own journeys of healing and growth. With their guidance, you'll learn how to move out of survival mode and into a place of safety, connection, and presence – leading to richer relationships, greater intimacy, and more fulfilling sex lives.

By tuning in, you'll gain:

• A deeper understanding of your nervous system and how it impacts your sex life

• Practical tools for releasing shame and increasing your sense of worth

• Insights into how to create a life with more sexual safety and intimacy

• A new perspective on how to cultivate more pleasure, connection, and wholeness in your relationships

So, are you ready to unlock the secrets to a more shameless, vibrant, and fulfilling sex life? Tune in to this episode and get ready to transform your relationships and ignite your passion. And, as a special treat, Melanie and Mark share how you can work with them to start your journey of coming home to yourself and to one another.

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Get Ready for a Sex Education Like No Other: We're Talking Fantasies, Oral Sex, and Everything in Between

Whether you're partnered or solo, this episode is full of actionable insights that can help you connect more deeply, communicate more clearly, and bring more pleasure into your life and relationships. Dr. Aly also shares details about her upcoming courses, retreats and intimacy coaching.

Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills online course on Weds, Jan 27th-Mar 17th

We all receive messages about who we are supposed to be, how we ought to feel, and how we should express ourselves, often enforced through shame and disconnection. Featuring 8 classes with a woven balance of science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development designed to support you in creating, deepening, and sustaining sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s). Recordings available for those who can't attend live or want extra review. Use code "shameless" for $100 off!

Sustainable Intimacy: Refuel Passion for Lasting Love retreat for couples in April 23rd-26th in Sonoma, CA (also available as an on-demand course rental)

Differences in desire, changing needs, and the pressures of daily life can crowd out time for intimacy. Whether your goal is to rekindle passion or simply carve out meaningful time together, this 3-night, 4-day retreat offers a supportive space to slow down and savor each other. Uncover what’s blocking intimacy and gain customized tools to support your unique dynamic. Plus, indulge in delicious meals, a heated pool and hot tub, scenic trails, movement and mindfulness classes, a workshop on passionate and dominant touch, and a sensual soirée. Early Bird tickets currently on sale for $200 off! 

And reach out to Dr. Aly for 1:1 and couples coaching! 

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For full episodes:

#253 Keeping it Hot with Fantasies and Role Play

#405 How to Eat Pu$$y Like a Champ 2.0

#425 How to Suck That D Like a Champ

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Fabienne Annick is an internationally respected sex & intimacy coach and experience designer whose work weaves together the worlds of eros, embodiment, and earth wisdom. Over the past decade, she has guided hundreds through her transformative programs, including Sexual Self-Mastery for men and Come Alive for women, helping them cultivate deeper self-awareness, mastery, and authentic connection.

Her approach blends somatic healing, EFT, breathwork, Tantra, Taoist alchemy, and modern neuroscience, empowering people to experience sexuality as a path of health, wholeness, and awakening rather than performance or conditioning.

Fabienne’s mission is to restore harmony between the masculine and feminine- within ourselves, our relationships, and the world. Through her courses, retreats, and global experiences, Fabienne invites people to remember that sexuality is an extension of the self: a living practice that mirrors who we are and how we love. Her teachings support the integration of pain, shame, and awkwardness into authentic, embodied expression, helping people engage with their sexuality with integrity and depth.

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What's Really Going on When Men Struggle in the Bedroom?

Join us for a no-holds-barred conversation with renowned sex and relationship coach, Caitlin V, as we dive into the unspoken world of men's sexuality. From confidence and performance anxiety to the emotional side of masculinity, we're about to get real about what's really going on when men struggle in the bedroom.

Here's what you'll learn from this episode:

• The surprising reasons why many men struggle silently with confidence and performance issues

• The most common insecurities men face in the bedroom (and how to overcome them)

• Practical tools and tips to boost confidence both in and out of the bedroom

• Expert advice on tackling performance issues like staying hard, lasting long enough, and being dominant

• The importance of emotional intimacy for men and how to tap into it

• How partners can support men in building confidence and improving their sex lives

Caitlin V is a leading expert in men's sexuality, with a proven track record of helping thousands of men overcome erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, and premature ejaculation. With her groundbreaking book, Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger, and her viral YouTube channel, Caitlin is on a mission to create a sex-positive world where pleasure and performance go hand in hand.

Tune in to this episode to discover the holistic approach to men's sexuality that's been missing from the conversation. Get ready for a shameless and informative discussion that will leave you feeling empowered and inspired to take control of your sex life.

Ready for a sneak peek? Caitlin shares a shocking statistic about the number of men who struggle with erectile dysfunction, and it's not just about age...

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