Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self Love Podcast for Women

Perfectionism isn't making your life better. It's keeping you stuck. If you've been waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect plan, or the perfect version of yourself before taking action, this episode is for you. I'm sharing the mindset shift that helped me stop chasing perfection and start living with more confidence, freedom, and self-worth.

You will learn…

why perfectionism isn't a personality trait

how perfectionism keeps you stuck in overthinking and fear

the difference between being perfect and perfecting

why choosing presence over perfection leads to more confidence

how to trust yourself and take action before you feel ready

Remember: You don't have to be perfect to be worthy. Growth happens when you're willing to begin before you have everything figured out. Confidence comes from showing up, learning as you go, and trusting the process.

If perfectionism has been stopping you from going after what you want, I hope this episode reminds you that your worth isn't something you earn. You don't need to have all the answers. You don't need to get it right the first time. You just need to take the next step.

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the perfectionist in your life! Or on social media! Be sure to tag @maryspodcast so I can see you're listening.

Mentioned In This Episode...

Episode #50: How to Let Go of Control & Perfectionism

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

And if you’re enjoying Mary’s Cup of Tea, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!

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You can be successful and still not feel confident about money. In this conversation, money expert Tori Dunlap joins me to talk about the connection between confidence, self-worth, and financial freedom. We explore why so many women (including feminists!) still struggle to feel confident about money, where those beliefs come from, and how to build wealth without shame, intimidation, or perfectionism.

You will learn…

why so many women don't feel confident about money

how self-worth shapes your confidence and financial decisions

why women are conditioned to doubt themselves (and how to break free)

the biggest investing mistakes to avoid

how to build wealth with more confidence and less fear

Remember: The more you strengthen your self-worth, the more your financial confidence will improve too. 

Tori Dunlap is an internationally recognized money and career expert, founder of Her First $100K, bestselling author, and host of the #1 business podcast, Financial Feminist. After saving $100,000 by age 25, Tori left her corporate career to fight financial inequality by helping women negotiate higher salaries, build wealth, invest confidently, and achieve financial freedom. She has helped millions of women improve their relationship with money through her educational content, courses, and podcast.

Follow Tori Dunlap @herfirst100k on Instagram and TikTok and check out her podcast, Financial Feminist.

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life! Or on social media! Be sure to tag @maryspodcast and @herfirst100k.

Mentioned In This Episode...

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Treasury Investing App

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Have you ever felt like you're constantly fixing yourself, yet somehow still don't feel good enough? In this self-love podcast, Mary talks about her struggles with... struggle.

Let’s explore why so many of us get stuck trying to fix every flaw, solve every problem, and become a "better" version of ourselves before we allow ourselves to truly live. If you've been struggling with self-worth, confidence, or the feeling that something is always missing, this conversation may change the way you think about self-love.

Tune into our self-love podcast to learn…

why constantly trying to improve yourself can leave you feeling dissatisfied

the connection between self-worth and always feeling like you need fixing

how comparison, consumerism, and loneliness can make it harder to love yourself

why finding meaning may be more important than chasing happiness

the mindset shift that can help you stop struggling and start living

Remember: Self-love isn't fixing yourself until you're finally worthy. Self-love is realizing that you were worthy all along.

Mentioned In This Episode...

Episode #61: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do This Instead)

Deepen your self love journey with Mary's books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

And if you're enjoying Mary's Cup of Tea, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!

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Have you ever thought you'd be happier if you were thinner, prettier, younger, or looked “better” in some way?

In a culture obsessed with appearance, it's easy to believe that confidence, self worth, and self love are waiting on the other side of changing your body. But what if the real struggle has nothing to do with how you look?

Dr. Lindsay Kite joins us to unpack the hidden force behind so many body image struggles. If you're working on self love, healing your body image, or learning how to love yourself in a world that profits from your self-doubt, this episode is for you.

This conversation explores the connection between self love, self esteem, self compassion, mental health, body image, beauty standards, diet culture, and the pressure women face to constantly evaluate themselves through someone else's eyes.

You will learn…

the missing piece of the body image conversation that most women never hear about

why changing your appearance often fails to create lasting confidence or self worth

how self-objectification shapes the way women move through the world

the surprising reason many women still struggle with body image after years of self-love work

why so many women continue chasing confidence through appearance without ever finding lasting peace

practical ways to build resilience, strengthen self confidence, and feel more comfortable in your skin

Remember: self love isn't something you earn after reaching a goal weight, fixing a flaw, or becoming "beautiful enough." Real self love begins when you stop treating your body like a problem to solve. The path to self worth, confidence, and self care may look very different than you've been taught.

Dr. Lindsay Kite is co-author of the bestselling book *More Than A Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament – A Research-Backed Health and Wellness Guide for Empowerment and Confidence* and co-director of Beauty Redefined, a nonprofit dedicated to helping women and girls build body-image resilience and reject harmful beauty standards. Alongside her identical twin sister, Dr. Lexie Kite, Lindsay has become a leading voice in the fields of body image, self esteem, media literacy, women's empowerment, and self love. Learn more at morethanabody.org and follow her on Instagram @beauty_redefined.

If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life! Or on social media! Be sure to tag @maryspodcast and @beauty_redefined

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There comes a point in your self-love journey where the question shifts from How do I stop obsessing over food and my body-image? to How do I take care of my health in a way that doesn't promote diet culture?

If you've spent years untangling yourself from diet culture, caring for your health can feel surprisingly complicated. You might want to eat more nourishing foods, move your body consistently, or create healthier habits, but worry that those choices will pull you back into restriction, food guilt, or body obsession.

So how do you pursue health without dieting?

In this conversation, we're exploring what it looks like to care for your body from a place of self love rather than control. Through personal stories and practical examples, I share the three things that have helped me redefine health as a form of self-care. Especially after going through eating disorder recovery.

Because contrary to what diet culture teaches us, loving your body and caring for your health are not opposing goals. In fact, they often go hand in hand.

Whether you're recovering from disordered eating, healing your relationship with exercise, or simply trying to find a more sustainable approach to wellness, this conversation offers a gentler path forward.

Let’s revisit some reminders about…

Why pursuing health can feel scary after healing from diet culture

The difference between gentle nutrition and restrictive eating

How to choose foods without labeling them "good" or "bad"

Why joyful movement matters more than forcing yourself through workouts

Questions to ask yourself before starting a new health habit

How to build trust with your body again

Navigating health goals without making weight loss the focus

Why self compassion creates more lasting change than self-criticism

How self love can become the foundation of your health journey

If you've ever felt torn between body acceptance and health, this episode is your reminder that you don't have to choose. You can pursue health without diet culture, trust your body, and create habits that support both your physical and mental health.

Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:

The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.

Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

And if you’re enjoying Mary’s Cup of Tea, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread the gift of self-love!

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