The Leadership Habit

What is it Like to be Led by You?

Summary:  Do you know what it’s like to be led by you? Good intentions do not always translate into positive leadership impact. Ciarán Casey joins The Leadership Habit Podcast to explore why leadership is relational, how leaders can become more aware of the experience they create, and the six elements that help leaders get back “in tune.”

Most leaders have good intentions. They want their teams to feel trusted, supported, empowered, and valued. 

But good intentions do not always create a good experience.

You might give someone more autonomy because you trust them, only for them to walk away feeling abandoned. You might step in to help because you want to make their job easier, while they interpret your help as a sign that you do not trust them. You might send an email late at night simply to clear your inbox, while your team assumes they are expected to be available after hours.

That gap between what a leader intends and what others actually experience is at the heart of this episode of The Leadership Habit Podcast.

Host Jenn DeWall sits down with leadership practitioner, coach, and author Ciarán Casey to explore why leadership impact matters more than good intentions and how leaders can become more conscious of what it is actually like to be led by them.

Meet Ciarán Casey, Leadership Coach and Author

Ciarán Casey is a leadership practitioner and coach with more than three decades of senior leadership experience across sectors and international environments. His work focuses on organizational transformation, culture, high-performing teams, and complex human dynamics.

More recently, Ciarán has focused on leadership development, working with individuals, leadership teams, senior civil servants, and executive teams to strengthen trust and collaboration.

His book, Leadership in Tune, grew out of a question he kept encountering throughout his career: Why do some highly capable, intelligent, confident leaders struggle to connect with the people around them, while others seem to create environments where people naturally flourish?

For Ciarán, part of the answer lies in the difference between leadership intent and leadership impact.

Your Intentions Are Only Half the Story

Leaders rarely set out to frustrate, disengage, or demotivate their teams. The problem is that employees cannot experience a leader’s intentions. They experience their behaviors and interactions.

As Ciarán explains:

“The intention isn’t the problem. What we need to focus on is the experience.”

That distinction can be uncomfortable, especially when we know our intentions were good. But it also gives leaders a more useful way to evaluate their effectiveness.

Instead of asking, “What was I trying to do?” effective leaders can ask, “How might that have been experienced?”

That shift matters because leadership behaviors carry more weight than we may realize.

Ciarán points out that leaders are constantly being observed. A delayed response can be interpreted as a lack of interest. Silence can make people wonder if something is wrong. A rushed conversation can leave someone feeling like their time or contribution does not matter.

As he puts it, a leader’s impact is amplified.

Becoming more aware of that leadership impact is not about overanalyzing every interaction. It is about recognizing that the meaning we intend to communicate and the meaning someone receives are not always the same.

Leadership Does Not Happen in Isolation

One of the central ideas in Ciarán’s work is that leadership is relational.

We often think of leadership as something an individual possesses. We describe someone as confident, charismatic, decisive, or a strong communicator and conclude that those characteristics make them a good leader.

Ciarán challenges that idea.

He argues that leadership emerges in the space between people. A leader can offer direction, guidance, or support, but leadership only takes shape when another person is willing to engage with and follow that direction.

“Leadership is a relational practice that doesn’t reside within an individual, but emerges between people.”

That changes the way we think about leadership development.

Instead of focusing exclusively on the leader’s characteristics, we can pay more attention to the quality of their interactions. Are people willing to speak openly? Do they feel trusted? Do they feel heard? Does the leader create the conditions for people to contribute?

Those everyday interactions are where leadership impact becomes real.

The Six Strings of Leadership

In Leadership in Tune, Ciarán introduces his Conscious Relational Impact Model, built around six elements of leadership.

As a guitarist, he compares these elements to the guitar’s six strings. A guitar does not need every string to be completely wrong to sound off. One string that is out of tune can change the sound of the entire instrument.

Leadership can work the same way.

The six strings are organized across three stages:

The Connected Self: Authenticity and Emotional Intelligence

Effective leadership starts with understanding yourself. That means knowing your values and how they influence your behavior while also having the emotional intelligence to understand and regulate the impact you have on others.

Authenticity without emotional intelligence can become an excuse to behave however you feel in the moment. Emotional intelligence without authenticity can feel performative.

Leaders need both.

The Bridge: Presence and Trust

From there, leaders have to create the conditions for connection.

Ciarán describes presence and trust as the two spans of a bridge between people. Trust determines whether it feels safe to cross. Presence determines what it feels like to cross.

One of the simplest ways leaders can strengthen that bridge is by giving people their undivided attention.

Phones, emails, meetings, and competing priorities make genuine presence difficult. But when a leader is distracted during a conversation, that distraction can communicate something they never intended: You are not important enough for my full attention.

Shared Impact: Co-Creation and Influence

Once leaders have built that connection, they can create shared impact through co-creation and influence.

Ciarán describes co-creation as one of the most underused leadership skills. Leaders do not need to have every idea, solve every problem, or provide every answer themselves.

Instead, they can involve capable people in designing solutions, processes, products, and outcomes.

Influence also changes depending on the situation. Sometimes leaders need to be direct. Other times, they can draw ideas and creativity from the people around them.

The key is that shared impact becomes much easier when trust and connection already exist.

Which Leadership String Is Out of Tune?

The goal of Ciarán’s model is not leadership perfection.

It is awareness.

A leader may be authentic and emotionally intelligent but struggle to be fully present. Another may care deeply about their team but fail to build trust. Someone else may build strong relationships but rarely give others enough opportunity to co-create solutions.

When something is not landing the way you intended, Ciarán’s six strings offer a framework for asking why.

“We’re not going for perfection here. We’re just going for improvement.”

That can start with small moments of reflection.

Think about a recent conversation that did not go as planned. A piece of feedback someone did not respond to well. Or, a meeting where the energy suddenly changed. Maybe a team member who has started pulling back.

Rather than immediately focusing on what is wrong with the other person, consider the interaction itself.

What might they have experienced? Which leadership string may have been out of tune? What could you adjust the next time?

What Is It Like to Be Led by You?

Toward the end of the conversation, Ciarán offers a question that captures the central idea of the episode:

“What’s it like to be on the receiving end of me?”

It is a very different question from “Am I a good leader?”

Being a strong leader is an evaluation we can make about ourselves. Understanding how people feel and what it is like to be led by us requires considering someone else’s experience.

That is where leadership impacts lives.

You will not always get it right. Your intentions and someone else’s experience will not always align. But becoming curious about that gap can help you build stronger relationships, strengthen trust, and create an environment where people are more willing to contribute their best over the long term.

Listen to the full episode of The Leadership Habit Podcast to hear Jenn and Ciarán explore the Conscious Relational Impact Model, the six strings of leadership, and how you can become more intentional about the experience you create for the people you lead.

Where to Find More From Ciarán Casey

Want to learn more from Ciarán Casey?

Check out his book, Leadership in Tune

Explore his self-evaluation resources

Connect on LinkedIn

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Summary: What makes people want to follow a leader? In this episode of The Leadership Habit Podcast, Crestcom Business Owner John Lentini introduces his Six-Dial Framework for character-driven leadership. Learn how discipline, mindset, resilience, integrity, empathy, and influence work together to help leaders build trust, inspire others, and lead with greater confidence.

Leadership isn’t defined by a title. It’s defined by character.

The most effective leaders don’t earn trust because of their position. They earn it through the decisions they make, the values they demonstrate, and the consistency they show every day. That’s the foundation of character-driven leadership.

In the latest episode of The Leadership Habit Podcast, host Jenn DeWall sits down with John Lentini, President of Bold Training Corp. and a licensed Crestcom Business Owner serving organizations throughout New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, Rhode Island, and Delaware. John is also a TEDx speaker with more than 235,000 views on his TEDx talk, where he first shared his practical framework behind his upcoming book, Engineering Character: Six Dials to Build Better Leaders, and explains why becoming a better leader starts with becoming a better version of yourself.

Meet John Lentini

John Lentini knows that great leadership isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about continually developing the character and habits that earn trust. As President of Bold Training Corp. and a Crestcom Business Owner, John draws on more than two decades of executive leadership experience to help leaders become more resilient, influential, and effective. His perspective is shaped by leading global teams through 9/11, the Fukushima nuclear disaster, and choosing to start a business during the COVID-19 pandemic.

What Is Character-Driven Leadership?

Character-driven leadership is the intentional practice of developing the habits, values, and behaviors that inspire others to trust and follow you.

Rather than focusing solely on technical skills or authority, character-driven leaders cultivate self-awareness, resilience, integrity, empathy, and influence. These qualities allow them to navigate uncertainty, build stronger relationships, and create lasting impact.

As John explains:

“You must learn to lead yourself effectively before you can really lead others well.”

That simple idea forms the foundation of his Six-Dial Framework.

Great Leadership Starts with Leading Yourself

According to John, every leader must first master three personal leadership habits:

Discipline

Mindset

Resilience

These three “dials” represent the internal habits that determine how consistently leaders perform, especially during difficult times.

Discipline is often the least glamorous but most essential.

“It is the boring, tedious, mundane stuff that we would all love to avoid… But when you start to appreciate the medium-term rewards that can be gained through regular discipline, you’re going to see a difference.”

Mindset is the unwavering belief that your vision is achievable, even when progress feels slow. Resilience allows leaders to adapt, recover, and continue moving forward, whether that means persevering through challenges or changing course entirely.

Together, these qualities create what John calls a determined leader.

Character Is Built Through Integrity, Empathy, and Influence

Once leaders learn to lead themselves, they can begin leading others more effectively.

John’s second set of leadership dials focuses on:

Integrity

Empathy

Influence

Together, these create the trust every high-performing team depends on.

One of the episode’s most memorable insights is John’s definition of integrity:

“If discipline is consistency in your activity, then integrity is consistency in your values.”

Character-driven leadership requires leaders to consistently act according to their values, even when it’s difficult. When actions align with words, trust grows. When they don’t, credibility quickly disappears.

Why Empathy Is a Leadership Strength

Empathy is often misunderstood as being too soft or avoiding difficult conversations.

John challenges that misconception.

“Empathy is understanding what someone wants, but not necessarily catering or executing on it.”

Character-driven leaders don’t avoid accountability. Instead, they make difficult decisions with compassion, communicate openly, and consider how those decisions affect others.

That combination of empathy and accountability builds stronger relationships and healthier workplace cultures.

Character Requires Continuous Reflection

One of the most practical aspects of John’s framework is that it encourages leaders to assess themselves regularly.

Rather than assuming growth happens automatically, character-driven leaders intentionally reflect on where they need to improve and actively seek feedback from others.

John recommends using tools such as 360-degree feedback or anonymous surveys to better understand how others experience your leadership.

As he reminds listeners:

“Always focus on where you are at the moment and why it’s changed… understanding we’re never done. It’s just the journey.”

Leadership isn’t about reaching perfection. It’s about continually becoming a better leader.

The Future of Leadership Is Character-Driven

Today’s leaders face constant change, increasing complexity, and growing expectations from their teams. Technical expertise alone is no longer enough.

Character-driven leadership provides a framework for earning trust, navigating uncertainty, and helping others succeed.

John’s Six-Dial Framework reminds us that leadership begins within. By intentionally developing discipline, mindset, resilience, integrity, empathy, and influence, leaders create the kind of character that inspires others to follow.

Listen to the Full Episode

Want to learn more about John’s Six-Dial Framework and discover practical ways to strengthen your own leadership character?

Listen to the full episode of The Leadership Habit Podcast featuring Crestcom Business Owner John Lentini for actionable insights you can begin applying today.

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Summer Leadership Rewind: Staying “Forever Human” in the Age of AI with Sylvie di Giusto

Artificial intelligence has changed dramatically over the past year. New tools arrive almost weekly. Organizations are experimenting faster than ever. And leaders everywhere are asking the same question:

How do you embrace AI without losing what makes great leadership human?

This week, we’re taking a summer break, so we’re revisiting one of our most impactful conversations on The Leadership Habit Podcast. Jenn DeWall sits down with leadership expert and Crestcom faculty member Sylvie di Giusto to explore why the leaders who thrive in the age of AI won’t be the ones who know the most about technology. They’ll be the ones who remain unmistakably human.

If you missed this episode the first time, or if your relationship with AI has changed since then, now is the perfect time to listen again.

Meet Sylvie di Giusto

Sylvie di Giusto is an international keynote speaker, author, Certified Speaking Professional (CSP), and Hall of Fame speaker who helps organizations improve leadership, influence, and communication. For years, her expertise has been part of Crestcom’s leadership curriculum, helping leaders around the world strengthen emotional intelligence, executive presence, and decision-making.

In this conversation, she offers a refreshing perspective on AI that replaces fear with curiosity and competition with collaboration.

The Best Leaders Won’t Compete with AI

Many professionals still think of AI as something they have to outwork or outperform.

Sylvie challenges that mindset.

“The goal was never to beat the machine. It is to build with it.”

AI will always process information faster, remember more data, and complete repetitive tasks more efficiently than people. Rather than trying to compete in those areas, leaders should focus on the capabilities that technology cannot replicate.

Judgment. Empathy. Trust. Context. Ethics.

These are the qualities that separate management from leadership—and they become even more valuable as AI becomes more capable.

Why Being “Forever Human” Matters More Than Ever

As AI-generated content becomes increasingly difficult to distinguish from human-created work, authenticity becomes a competitive advantage.

People don’t simply want information. They want confidence that someone understands their challenges, considers context, and genuinely cares about the outcome.

That’s why Sylvie believes leaders should intentionally cultivate the uniquely human skills AI cannot replace.

She explains that while AI can generate answers, leaders ask better questions. AI can analyze information, but leaders interpret meaning. AI can suggest actions, but only people can weigh ethics, relationships, and long-term consequences.

In other words, AI can assist leadership, but it cannot replace it.

Soft Skills Are Becoming Power Skills

For years, organizations emphasized technical expertise and productivity. Ironically, AI is now making those skills easier to automate.

The result?

Communication, emotional intelligence, adaptability, critical thinking, and relationship-building have become even more valuable.

As Sylvie notes:

“There will be a big comeback for soft skills because those are the skills that AI cannot replicate.”

Organizations investing in leadership development today aren’t preparing people for yesterday’s workplace. They’re building the capabilities that will matter most tomorrow.

Leadership Still Means Accountability

One of the episode’s most powerful reminders is that AI cannot own the consequences of a decision.

Leaders still carry that responsibility.

AI can recommend hiring decisions, summarize employee performance, or suggest business strategies. But it cannot understand every human circumstance, organizational nuance, or ethical consideration.

As Sylvie points out, leaders cannot blame technology for decisions they choose to make.

Accountability remains a human responsibility.

A Conversation That’s Even More Relevant Today

When this episode originally aired, many organizations were just beginning to explore generative AI.

Today, AI has become part of everyday work.

That makes this conversation even more valuable.

Rather than focusing on specific tools or trends that quickly become outdated, Sylvie shares timeless leadership principles that help leaders navigate any technological change. Her message isn’t about resisting AI or blindly embracing it. It’s about learning how to use it wisely while protecting the qualities that make leadership meaningful.

Key Takeaways

If there’s one message to carry forward from this Summer Leadership Rewind, it’s this:

AI will continue to evolve.

Great leadership will continue to depend on people.

The leaders who succeed won’t be those who simply adopt the newest technology. They’ll be the ones who combine technology with empathy, sound judgment, authentic communication, creativity, and accountability.

Or, as Sylvie says best:

“Don’t compete with AI. Focus on what you do in the moments that matter most as a human being.”

Listen to the Episode

Catch this Summer Leadership Rewind episode of The Leadership Habit Podcast with Sylvie di Giusto and discover why staying “Forever Human” may be the most important leadership strategy of the AI era.

Where to Find More from Sylvie di Giusto

To learn more from Sylvie: 

Visit sylviedigiusto.com

Connect with her on LinkedIn

Buy her books

Develop the Human Skills That Matter Most

Technology will keep changing, but leadership fundamentals endure. Developing stronger communication, critical thinking, emotional intelligence, and decision-making skills helps leaders succeed regardless of what’s next.

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Effective leadership communication isn’t just about delivering information. It’s about creating connection, inspiring action, and ensuring people remember what matters long after the conversation ends.

On the latest episode of The Leadership Habit Podcast, host Jenn DeWall speaks with communications expert Andy Freed. Andy shares his insights from an unexpected source of leadership inspiration: Bruce Springsteen.

Andy draws from more than 95 Springsteen concerts and decades of leadership experience. Through this lens, he shares how great leaders can communicate with greater purpose, prepare more intentionally, and create lasting impact through every interaction.

Meet Andy Freed, Author and Chairman of Virtual Inc.

Andy Freed is Chairman of Virtual Inc., where he has spent more than three decades helping organizations navigate growth, change, and strategic communication. Throughout his career, he has worked with global organizations like Microsoft, Google, and Meta. He also helps leaders become more intentional communicators. 

His newest book, How to Lead Like a Boss, explores leadership communication in an unconventional way. It looks at the habits and behaviors that made Bruce Springsteen a respected performer and leader.

While the setting may be a concert stage rather than a boardroom, the leadership lessons translate directly to today’s workplace.

Great Leadership Communication Starts with Intention

One of Andy’s most important messages is that effective communication begins long before a meeting starts.

Rather than simply creating slides or gathering updates, leaders should first ask themselves three questions:

What do I want people to think?

How do I want them to feel?

What do I want them to do?

This simple framework shifts communication from information sharing to intentional leadership.

Whether you’re announcing organizational change, leading a team meeting, or having a one-on-one conversation, understanding the desired outcome before speaking dramatically improves clarity and impact.

Preparation Is a Leadership Skill

Bruce Springsteen doesn’t walk onto the stage and hope for the best.

Before every concert, he carefully builds a set list that creates an emotional journey for the audience. Every song has a purpose. Every transition is intentional.

Leaders should prepare the same way.

Instead of opening yesterday’s PowerPoint presentation and making minor edits, Andy encourages leaders to think first about the experience they want their audience to have.

Preparation isn’t about creating more slides. It’s about creating a message people will remember.

If They Can’t Repeat the Message, It Didn’t Land

One of the most memorable ideas from the conversation is that communication isn’t measured by how many times you’ve delivered a message.

It’s measured by whether your audience can repeat it back to you.

Leaders often become frustrated after explaining something once or twice, assuming everyone understands. In reality, people frequently need to hear important messages multiple times before they truly retain them.

Instead of asking, “How many times have I said this?” leaders should ask:

“Can my team say it back to me?”

That shift in perspective can transform the way leaders communicate organizational priorities, strategic initiatives, and change.

Leadership Is Always a Performance

Leadership doesn’t end when the presentation is over.

Andy explains that leaders are constantly communicating through their behavior, energy, and presence, even when they aren’t speaking.

Employees notice whether leaders are engaged during meetings. They notice body language, enthusiasm, and consistency. Your energy sets the tone for everyone around you.

The most effective leaders recognize that every interaction communicates something, whether intentional or not.

Never Underestimate the Power of Appreciation

At the end of every Bruce Springsteen concert, he personally thanks each member of the E Street Band before leaving the stage.

For just a few seconds, every musician receives their full attention and appreciation. That simple ritual offers an important reminder for leaders. Recognition doesn’t have to be elaborate to be meaningful.

Consistently acknowledging effort, celebrating contributions, and expressing genuine appreciation helps people feel valued. Those small moments often leave a lasting impression.

As Andy notes, one of our deepest human needs is simply to feel appreciated.

Leadership Communication Creates Lasting Influence

Strong leadership communication isn’t about being the loudest voice in the room.

It’s about preparing with intention, connecting with people, reinforcing important messages, and creating experiences employees remember.

Whether you’re leading organizational change, facilitating a meeting, or simply thanking someone for their contribution, every interaction shapes trust and influence.

The best communicators understand that leadership isn’t measured by what they say.

It’s measured by what others hear, remember, and ultimately do.

Where to Find More From Andy Freed

To learn more about Andy Freed, his leadership philosophy, and his book How to Lead Like a Boss, visit andyfreed.com. There you’ll find additional resources on leadership communication, speaking, and practical strategies for becoming a more intentional leader.

Develop Leadership Communication Skills with Crestcom

Leadership communication is one of the most important skills leaders can develop, yet it’s also one of the most challenging to master. From communicating change to building trust and influencing performance, effective communication shapes every aspect of leadership.

At Crestcom, communication isn’t treated as a standalone topic. It’s integrated throughout our leadership development programs, providing leaders with practical tools they can apply immediately in conversations, meetings, coaching sessions, and organizational change initiatives.

Listen to the full episode of The Leadership Habit Podcast for even more insights from Andy Freed, and discover how intentional communication can strengthen your leadership influence every day.



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Summary

Authentic leadership is about leading from your strengths rather than changing who you are to meet others’ expectations. In this episode of The Leadership Habit Podcast, executive coach Dale Wilsher explains the leadership double bind, explores how workplace bias shapes perceptions of leadership, and shares practical strategies for balancing warmth and competence to build greater influence, executive presence, and leadership effectiveness.

Many leaders spend years trying to become the person they believe they need to be in order to succeed.

They speak differently, hold back ideas, soften their opinions, or adopt leadership styles that feel unnatural. Often, these changes stem from feedback, workplace expectations, or assumptions about what leadership should look like.

The challenge is that when leaders focus too heavily on fitting a mold, they can lose sight of the qualities that make them effective in the first place.

In the latest episode of The Leadership Habit Podcast, host Jenn DeWall sits down with Dale Wilsher to discuss authentic leadership, executive presence, workplace bias, and the “leadership double bind”. Their conversation offers valuable insights for leaders who want to increase their influence without sacrificing who they are.

Meet Dale Wilsher, Executive Life and Leadership Coach

Dale Wilsher is an executive life and leadership coach, keynote speaker, and founder of Your Authentic Personality. For more than a decade, she has helped professionals better understand themselves, build confidence, and lead with greater authenticity. She is also the author of an award-winning book on personality and human potential and is currently writing a new book focused on identity, self-awareness, and leadership. Through coaching, speaking, and leadership development programs, Wilsher helps individuals align who they are with how they lead so they can maximize their potential without compromising their authentic strengths.

What Is the Leadership Double Bind?

One of the central topics discussed in the episode is the leadership double bind.

The double bind refers to a no-win situation in which leaders face competing expectations. Wilsher explains that women, in particular, often experience a tension between being perceived as competent and as likable. Leaders may be viewed as too soft or too tough, too collaborative or too direct, but rarely “just right.”

While the double bind is most commonly discussed in the context of women in leadership, the broader lesson applies to leaders of all backgrounds. Many professionals feel pressure to suppress parts of their personality in order to align with traditional expectations of leadership.

According to research discussed during the episode, the most influential leaders demonstrate both warmth and strength. In other words, people must be able to answer “yes” to two critical questions:

Do you care about me?

Can you deliver results?

Leaders who consistently communicate both are often viewed as more effective, trustworthy, and influential.

Why Authentic Leadership Matters

A powerful theme throughout the conversation is that authentic leadership is not about becoming someone else.

Too often, leaders receive feedback focused on their personality rather than their performance. Wilsher notes that this type of feedback can cause people to question who they are instead of helping them improve what they do. As a result, many leaders begin to modify or hide their natural tendencies in an effort to meet expectations.

The problem is that authentic strengths and perceived weaknesses are often connected.

A leader who is highly direct may also be exceptionally decisive. A leader who is highly relational may also excel at collaboration and inclusion. When leaders try to eliminate traits that others criticize, they often diminish the strengths associated with those traits as well.

Authentic leadership starts with understanding your natural tendencies and learning how to expand your effectiveness without abandoning your strengths.

Stop Subtracting Yourself

Perhaps the most memorable lesson from the episode is Wilsher’s advice to leaders:

Don’t subtract yourself.

When leaders receive critical feedback, their instinct is often to become less visible, less outspoken, or less themselves. They begin removing parts of their personality to avoid criticism.

Wilsher encourages leaders to take a different approach.

Instead of subtracting, add.

Rather than suppressing your strengths, identify complementary behaviors that help others experience your leadership more effectively.

A direct leader may need to add empathy.

A highly collaborative leader may need to add decisiveness.

A relationship-focused leader may need to communicate recommendations with greater confidence.

The goal is not to become a different person. The goal is to become a more complete leader.

Balancing Warmth and Competence

The discussion also offers practical strategies for strengthening leadership presence.

Leaders who naturally prioritize relationships can benefit from demonstrating greater confidence and authority through concise communication, clear recommendations, and stronger ownership of accomplishments. Small changes in language can significantly influence how others perceive leadership presence.

One of Wilsher’s most practical pieces of advice focuses on how leaders communicate expertise and confidence. Many professionals unintentionally weaken their authority by using minimizing language such as “Does that make sense?” or by downplaying their recommendations. Instead, leaders can communicate with greater confidence while remaining approachable.

As Wilsher explains:

“There are stronger ways to check in with people than giving away too much of your authority or power when you lead with data; I say you can speak softly as long as you carry a big statistic.”

The lesson is simple but powerful: leadership presence does not require being the loudest person in the room. Leaders can build influence by supporting their recommendations with facts, evidence, and clear reasoning, and by communicating with confidence and clarity.

Meanwhile, leaders who naturally prioritize tasks and results can strengthen their influence by intentionally demonstrating warmth. Inviting collaboration, expressing gratitude, seeking input, and communicating care for others can help build trust and engagement without sacrificing accountability.

Neither approach is inherently better.

The most effective leaders understand their natural strengths and intentionally develop complementary skills that help them connect with a broader range of people and situations.

Authentic Leadership Strengthens Teams

Authentic leadership benefits more than the individual leader.

Organizations perform best when they embrace diverse leadership styles rather than expecting everyone to lead the same way. Teams gain stronger perspectives, greater innovation, and better decision-making when leaders bring different strengths to the table.

As Wilsher points out, individuals should not be expected to be all things to all people. That is the role of the team. When leaders understand and value different leadership styles, they create environments where people can contribute their unique strengths while still working toward shared goals.

The result is a more engaged, adaptable, and high-performing organization.

Where to Find More From Dale Wilsher

To learn more about Dale Wilsher’s work on authentic leadership, personality, executive presence, and leadership development, visit her website, YourAuthenticPersonality.com. You can also connect with Dale on LinkedIn, where she regularly shares insights on self-awareness, confidence, and helping leaders align who they are with how they lead. Her coaching, speaking engagements, and leadership programs provide practical tools for professionals who want to maximize their influence without sacrificing authenticity.

Authentic Leadership Is About Expansion, Not Reinvention

Leadership is not about fitting someone else’s definition of success.

It is about understanding your strengths, recognizing your blind spots, and developing the skills needed to lead more effectively. The strongest leaders do not succeed because they have eliminated every weakness. They succeed because they have learned how to build on their strengths while adding the capabilities needed to connect with others.

Dale Wilsher’s message is a powerful reminder that effective leadership is not about shrinking yourself to meet someone else’s expectations. It’s about becoming more intentional, more self-aware, and more capable while remaining true to who you are.

At Crestcom, we believe leadership development should help leaders become more effective versions of themselves—not force them into a one-size-fits-all leadership model. Through live-facilitated learning, coaching, accountability, and real-world application, Crestcom helps leaders develop the self-awareness, communication skills, and confidence needed to lead authentically and deliver meaningful results.

If you’d like to explore how leadership development can help your organization build stronger, more effective leaders, consider scheduling a complimentary Leadership Skills Workshop to experience Crestcom’s approach firsthand.



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