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M. Bruce Abbott, M.A, CPC
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  • Why Does My Wife Shut Down When I Share My Feelings?
    Have you ever tried to share something real with your wife — your loneliness, stress, or sadness — and she just shuts down? Maybe she goes quiet, gets defensive, or seems to disappear emotionally. You’re left standing there, wondering what just happened — and why you feel worse for even trying.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why wives often shut down when men open up emotionally — and how to change that pattern without anger, guilt, or silence. You’ll hear the story of one coaching client who faced this exact situation and how he used The Secure Husband Process to stop feeling rejected, stay grounded, and lead his marriage from strength instead of neediness.You’ll learn:✔️ Why your wife’s shutdown may not be rejection — but overwhelm✔️ How emotional “bracing” pushes her away without you realizing it✔️ Why your nervous system plays a huge role in these moments✔️ How to share your feelings without pressuring her to fix them✔️ What it means to hold your emotions like a strong, secure man✔️ How to rebuild emotional safety and connection through honestyIf you’ve been asking, “Why does she go cold when I try to be real?” — this episode will help you see the deeper truth and guide you to respond with calm leadership, not shame or frustration.👉 Want help working through this in your marriage? Schedule a free 30-minute consultation at securehusband.com. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just a real conversation about what’s happening in your relationship and how coaching might help.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowth#attachmenttheory#attachmentstyles#anxiousattachment#preoccupiedattachment#attachment#avoidantattachmentAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.
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  • Can I Be Happy In A Sexless Marriage?
    Can a man really be happy in a marriage without sex? Most husbands facing this question feel torn — wanting to stay faithful and kind, but also feeling unseen, rejected, and empty. You’re not broken for wanting intimacy. You’re not selfish for craving connection. You’re human.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the story of one coaching client who faced this same battle — caught between loyalty and loneliness. You’ll learn how he used The Secure Husband Process to stop pretending he was okay, start living with honesty, and rebuild confidence even when intimacy didn’t return.What you’ll learn:✔️ Why the question “Can I be happy in a sexless marriage?” is really about self-abandonment✔️ How emotional honesty is the foundation of healing✔️ Why avoiding conflict destroys connection more than it protects it✔️ How to express your truth without blame or guilt✔️ How to stop outsourcing your worth to your spouse’s desire✔️ How to live from authenticity, not resentmentYou don’t have to give up your values or your desire. You can stay true to yourself and build peace without pretending everything is fine. This episode will help you understand what it means to honor your truth — even when love feels distant.👉 If this resonates, sign up for a free 30-minute consultation at securehusband.com. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just a real conversation about what’s happening in your marriage and how coaching might help.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowth#attachmenttheory#attachmentstyles#anxiousattachment#preoccupiedattachment#attachment#avoidantattachmentAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.
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  • Why Do I Self-Sabotage Right Before Success?
    Do you ever pull away when things finally start to go right? Maybe your marriage starts improving, your business gains traction, or you feel more confident than ever — and then you suddenly check out, pick a fight, or quit. That’s self-sabotage. And it’s more common than you think.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why men often destroy their progress right before a breakthrough — and how to stop running from success. You’ll hear the story of one coaching client who rebuilt his marriage, confidence, and peace… only to sabotage it all when it started working. Then, using The Secure Husband Process, he discovered what he was really afraid of — and learned to trust himself instead of his fear.You’ll learn:✔️ Why men fear success even when they say they want it✔️ How your subconscious confuses peace with danger✔️ What childhood conditioning teaches you about “staying small”✔️ How to stop ghosting your own progress when life gets good✔️ Why self-sabotage is about control, not failure✔️ The six Secure Husband steps to rebuild trust, courage, and consistencyYou’re not weak. You’re not broken. You’re scared — but you don’t have to stay that way. This episode shows you how to face success with strength and calm leadership, not fear.👉 If this resonates, sign up for a free 30-minute consultation at securehusband.com. No sales pitch, no pressure — just a real conversation about what’s happening in your marriage and how coaching could help.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowth#attachmenttheory#attachmentstyles#anxiousattachment#preoccupiedattachment#attachment#avoidantattachmentAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.
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  • What Does It Really Mean If My Wife Never Wants Intimacy?
    If your wife never wants intimacy, you’re not crazy for feeling lonely, angry, or unwanted. Many good men quietly carry this pain — wondering what it means, and what to do when they feel rejected in their own marriage.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott breaks down what it really means when your wife avoids intimacy — and how to heal the pain without resentment, control, or self-abandonment. You’ll hear the story of one coaching client who hadn’t been touched in years, and how he found peace, confidence, and emotional connection again using The Secure Husband Process.You’ll learn:✔️ Why lack of intimacy is a symptom, not a personal failure✔️ How emotional disconnection fuels sexual distance✔️ The difference between wounded and toxic relationship patterns✔️ How to face rejection without losing your sense of worth✔️ What it looks like to lead from calm truth instead of anger or guilt✔️ How to rebuild confidence and connection — even if she doesn’t changeIf you’ve been silently asking, “What does it mean if my wife never wants me?” — this episode will help you see the truth clearly, honor your needs, and stop abandoning yourself in the name of peace.👉 Want to talk about what’s happening in your marriage? Schedule a free 30-minute consultation at securehusband.com. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just a real conversation about where you are, what’s hurting, and how coaching might help you move forward.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowth#attachmenttheory#attachmentstyles#anxiousattachment#preoccupiedattachment#attachment#avoidantattachmentAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.
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  • How Do I Stop Resenting My Wife For No Sex?
    Do you feel resentful toward your wife because of a lack of sex in your marriage? You’re not alone. Many men in sexless or low-sex marriages feel lonely, rejected, and ashamed. Resentment builds — not because you’re bad or broken, but because your deeper pain has gone unspoken.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the story of one coaching client who carried years of quiet anger, bitterness, and rejection. You’ll learn how resentment is not the root problem — but a signal pointing to unhealed pain. And you’ll see how The Secure Husband Process helps men heal the loneliness and shame of feeling unwanted, so they can lead with strength, peace, and truth.What you’ll learn in this video:✔️ Why resentment builds in sexless marriages✔️ How to recognize the real pain underneath resentment✔️ The role of childhood wounds in shaping your reaction to rejection✔️ How to stop abandoning yourself when intimacy is missing✔️ Why compassion for her wounds matters — but so do your boundaries✔️ How to own your sexual needs without guilt or shame✔️ What it looks like to become grounded and secure, even if sex doesn’t returnYou can stop resenting your wife without shutting down, blowing up, or giving up. The answer isn’t found in trying harder to earn sex. It’s in learning how to face your pain, honor your worth, and lead from truth.👉 If this speaks to you, sign up for a free 30-minute consultation at securehusband.com. It’s not a sales pitch or pressure — just a conversation about what’s happening in your marriage and how coaching might support you.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowth#attachmenttheory#attachmentstyles#anxiousattachment#preoccupiedattachment#attachment#avoidantattachmentAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.
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A Secure Husband no longer seeks validation from his wife—he stands strong in self-worth, meets his own emotional needs, and leads with confidence and clarity. I’ve been where you are, and I’m here to help you break free from old patterns, reclaim your strength, and transform your marriage from the inside out.
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