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• Stop Having 'The Talk': Why Begging for Sex Is Backfiring — and What to Do Instead

  You’ve been thinking about it.You’re hurt.You’re about to have “the talk” with your wife:“We never have sex anymore.”“Why don’t you initiate?”“I feel unwanted.”Sound familiar?This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast explains why those talks often backfire — and how chasing, begging, and emotional pressure actually drive intimacy away.This isn’t about blaming you. It’s about helping you lead.In this episode, we walk through The Secure Husband Process — a six-step plan to:✔ Stop the pressure and emotional chasing✔ Understand why the need for sex runs deeper than desire✔ Meet the part of you that feels unworthy and start healing it✔ Lead yourself with calm, grounded strength✔ Rebuild connection without shame or guilt✔ Invite intimacy from a secure place, not desperationYou don’t need to beg for love.You don’t need to perform for attention.You need to start leading yourself — spiritually, emotionally, and physically.When you stop chasing and start healing, the energy in your marriage begins to change.👇 Watch or listen now. This might be the breakthrough you didn’t know you needed.📌 Want coaching, support, or community? Visit SecureHusband.com💬 Leave a comment if this hit home🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes to help you lead from strengthIf you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowthFor informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

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• Your Wife Says She's Done With The Marriage - What Do You Do?

  If your wife says she’s done… but hasn’t left yet — this episode is for you.Maybe she’s checked out. She’s cold, distant, and barely speaks to you.She says things like:“I’m tired.”“I don’t think this is working.”“I don’t feel anything anymore.”You know you pushed her away — maybe through distance, control, neglect, or emotional chaos.And now you want to fix it… but she’s already almost gone.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll get a clear step-by-step plan for what to do right now — not to beg, blame, or chase… but to start leading yourself with strength, truth, and calm presence.We walk through The Secure Husband Process — a six-step framework to:Stop doing what’s making it worseTake full ownership without falling apartFind peace and clarity through your spiritual anchorHeal the pain that caused the damage in the first placeTake daily action to rebuild trust through presence, not pressureStay strong and grounded even if she stays coldThis is the emergency plan for men who’ve waited too long.It’s not about perfect words. It’s about real change.👇 Listen now if your marriage feels like it’s hanging by a thread — and you’re ready to stop reacting and start rising.📌 Need coaching or support? Visit SecureHusband.com💬 Join the conversation and subscribe for weekly guidance📤 Share this with a man who’s ready to lead againIf you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowthFor informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

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• She Hasn’t Initiated Sex in 10 Years — Now What?

  If your wife hasn’t initiated sex in years, you’re not alone — and you’re not broken.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we tackle one of the hardest and most painful topics in marriage: feeling unwanted and unseen in the bedroom.You’ve been patient. You’ve tried to be loving. You’ve done your best.But nothing has changed. And now you feel rejected, angry, and confused.This episode will show you what to do next — not by blaming your wife or giving up, but by healing the deeper pain inside you and leading yourself forward.Inside this episode, you’ll learn:Why sexless marriage hurts so muchHow this taps into childhood rejection and shameWhy begging, blaming, or shutting down won’t fix itHow to lead yourself emotionally and spirituallyHow to express your truth without pressure or demandHow to build a full, powerful life even when sex feels absentThis episode walks through The Secure Husband Process — a six-step framework to stop reacting and start leading, even in the hardest seasons of marriage.👇 If you’ve felt invisible, unchosen, or emotionally drained — listen now.Freedom starts here.📌 Get coaching and resources at SecureHusband.com🎧 Subscribe for weekly episodes📤 Share this with a man who feels alone in his marriageIf you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowthFor informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

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• Build a Life, Not a Pedestal: Why Your Wife Should Be a Bonus, Not the Foundation

  Have you made your wife the center of your world?Are you losing yourself trying to hold the marriage together?In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we’re talking to men who’ve built their identity around their wife—and now feel empty, resentful, or stuck when the connection fades.Your wife should be a gift in your life, not the reason you feel worthy.And the truth is—if she’s your whole foundation, it’s only a matter of time before it cracks.Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:Why you tied your worth to your wife’s attentionHow to stop needing her approval to feel okayWhat it means to build a full life with purpose, friendships, health, and faithHow to reconnect to your inner self and create emotional safetyThe six-step Secure Husband Process to stop chasing and start leadingThis isn’t about detaching.It’s about rising.It’s about becoming a strong, grounded man who lives with peace, purpose, and self-respect—whether your wife joins you or not.👇 If you’ve been stuck in over-giving and under-living, watch this now.📌 Coaching and resources: SecureHusband.com🎧 Subscribe for new weekly episodes📤 Share this with a man who needs to find himself againIf you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowthFor informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

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• Why Your Marriage Feels So Hard — Even When You’re Doing Everything Right

  You show up. You try hard. You do everything “right.”So why does your marriage still feel so hard?If you're a good man who helps, listens, gives, and shows up every day—but still feels unwanted, unseen, or unappreciated—this episode is for you.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce breaks down why things feel so heavy even when you're doing everything you're supposed to do. He shows you how working from fear, unhealed wounds, or people-pleasing keeps you stuck, and how to finally feel peace and clarity no matter what your wife does.You’ll learn how to:Stop chasing your wife’s love and start leading with strengthBreak free from hidden resentment and emotional burnoutUnderstand what’s driving your frustration and hurtHeal the inner boy who’s still trying to earn loveLead your marriage from truth—not fearBuild a solid emotional foundation inside youIt’s not about doing more.It’s about healing deeper.And it starts with you.👇 Watch now if you’re tired of feeling like it’s never enough—no matter how hard you try.📌 Coaching + Free Tools: SecureHusband.com🎧 Subscribe for weekly episodes📤 Share this with a man who’s doing his best but still feels stuckIf you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowthFor informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

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