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• Healing Takes Courage: Feel The Fear And Lead Anyway

  Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D >>>> https://amzn.to/45F8qFyMany men wait for fear to go away before they take action. But waiting never works. Fear doesn’t leave. You just learn to lead with it.In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce shows you how to face fear and still move forward. You’ll learn how fear hides in silence, people-pleasing, and avoidance — and how to break that cycle for good.This episode will help you build real strength by walking through the fear, not around it.What You’ll Learn:✅ Why fear is not your enemy✅ How to notice where fear controls your actions✅ What to say when fear tells you to stay quiet✅ How to lead with courage, even when you feel scared✅ What it means to be the man who “does it anyway”Topics Covered:✔️ Fear doesn’t mean stop — it means grow✔️ Signs fear is controlling your marriage✔️ The truth about why you stay silent✔️ How to speak clearly even when your voice shakes✔️ Steps to stop shrinking and start leading with calm strengthThis episode is for men who:🔹 Avoid conflict to keep the peace🔹 Stay quiet out of fear of rejection🔹 Want to lead with courage, not fear🔹 Are ready to stop playing small in their marriage and lifeYou won’t feel ready. That’s normal.But you can still move.You can still speak.You can still lead.📍 Want help doing that?Visit SecureHusband.com to book a free 30-minute call.Let’s work on your fears and rebuild your strength — one clear step at a time.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowth#attachmenttheory#attachmentstyles#anxiousattachment#preoccupiedattachment#attachment#avoidantattachmentAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

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• Settling Isn’t Love — It’s Low Self-Worth

  You don’t have to accept less than love.You just need to believe you’re worth more.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.Go to SecureHusband.com and book a free 30-minute call.We’ll talk about where you’ve been settling — and how to start leading with truth and strength.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowth#attachmenttheory#attachmentstyles#anxiousattachment#preoccupiedattachment#attachment#avoidantattachmentAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

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• Step Six: Did It Change Anything? — Evaluating Your Loving Action

  You’ve done the work. You’ve taken loving action. But now you’re left wondering… did anything actually change?In this final step of the Secure Husband Process, we walk through how to evaluate your action with clarity, honesty, and strength. This step helps you stop guessing and start seeing what’s real — in your heart, in your wife’s response, and in your relationship.This episode helps you slow down and ask simple but powerful questions:Did I stay true to myself?Did I feel peace after the action?Did she respond in a new way?Is there more connection… or more distance?Am I living in truth… or chasing hope?You’ll also learn a 3-step framework to guide your evaluation:How do I feel now?How did she respond?Did this bring more connection or more distance?You’ll also hear real examples like:✅ A husband who stood up for emotional honesty and got no reply… until weeks later✅ A man who thought he was loving but realized he was still people-pleasing✅ Signs that your action is working — even if it’s quiet or slow✅ What to do when nothing changes at allThis episode will help you:✔️ Check in with your emotions after taking action✔️ Notice real patterns in your marriage✔️ Avoid falling into hopelessness or fantasy✔️ Know when to begin again with clear eyes and a steady heartWhether things shifted or stayed the same… this step gives you the truth. And truth is where healing begins again.📍 Want help seeing your next step clearly?Go to SecureHusband.com and book a free 30-minute call. Let’s walk through what’s working, what’s not, and what comes next.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive, check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowth#attachmenttheory#attachmentstyles#anxiousattachment#preoccupiedattachment#attachment#avoidantattachmentAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

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• Step Five: Taking Loving Action — The Courage to Live What You’ve Learned

  Most men want to change their marriage. But change only happens when you take action — not just think, journal, or pray — but act with love, courage, and truth. This episode will show you how to do that.This is Step Five in the Secure Husband Process. You’ve done the inner work. You’ve seen your patterns. You’ve connected with your inner child. You’ve heard the truth from your Higher Power. Now it’s time to live it out.What This Episode Teaches You:✅ What loving action really means✅ How to act in a way that honors both you and your wife✅ The difference between reactive behavior and real healing✅ Simple steps to help you live what you’ve learned✅ Real stories from men who took brave steps and changed everything✅ How to stay strong even if your wife doesn’t respond the way you wantThis episode is for you if:✔️ You keep doing the inner work but nothing’s changing in your marriage✔️ You feel like your wife doesn’t see the effort you’re making✔️ You want to stop reacting and start leading from truth✔️ You’re ready to be the man your marriage needs — without losing yourselfWhat Loving Action Looks Like:Speaking your truth without angerSetting boundaries without guiltStopping the chase for approvalLeading with peace, not pressureLoving yourself and your wife without controlYou’ll Learn How To:👉 Slow down and ask what action feels loving and true👉 Stay grounded when your wife pulls away or resists👉 Follow through even when it’s hard👉 Trust yourself, your growth, and your connection with something higherIf this message speaks to you, go to securehusband.com and schedule a free 30-minute call. You don’t have to guess your next step. You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s take the next loving action together.Most men want to change their marriage. But change only happens when you take action — not just think, journal, or pray — but act with love, courage, and truth. This episode will show you how to do that.This is Step Five in the Secure Husband Process. You’ve done the inner work. You’ve seen your patterns. You’ve connected with your inner child. You’ve heard the truth from your Higher Power. Now it’s time to live it out.What This Episode Teaches You:✅ What loving action really means✅ How to act in a way that honors both you and your wife✅ The difference between reactive behavior and real healing✅ Simple steps to help you live what you’ve learned✅ Real stories from men who took brave steps and changed everything✅ How to stay strong even if your wife doesn’t respond the way you wantThis episode is for you if:✔️ You keep doing the inner work but nothing’s changing in your marriage✔️ You feel like your wife doesn’t see the effort you’re making✔️ You want to stop reacting and start leading from truth✔️ You’re ready to be the man your marriage needs — without losing yourselfWhat Loving Action Looks Like:Speaking your truth without angerSetting boundaries without guiltStopping the chase for approvalLeading with peace, not pressureLoving yourself and your wife without controlYou’ll Learn How To:👉 Slow down and ask what action feels loving and true👉 Stay grounded when your wife pulls away or resists👉 Follow through even when it’s hard👉 Trust yourself, your growth, and your connection with something higherIf this message speaks to you, go to securehusband.com and schedule a free 30-minute call. You don’t have to guess your next step. You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s take the next loving action together.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#selfgrowth All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

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• Step Four: Truth — Connecting with Divine Guidance to Heal False Core Beliefs

  Many men feel stuck in shame, fear, and rejection. This episode helps you replace those painful beliefs with the truth that comes from your Higher Power — a voice of love, peace, and strength that never changes.In Step 4 of the Secure Husband process, you’ll learn how to stop letting your mind run the show and start letting truth lead your healing. Whether you call it God, Spirit, or simply love — you’ll learn how to listen for guidance that builds you up, not tears you down.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✅ Why you carry painful beliefs like “I’m not enough” or “I’m unlovable”✅ How those beliefs show up in marriage and hurt connection✅ What divine guidance is — and how to recognize it✅ A simple step-by-step method to connect with your Higher Power✅ A sample prayer or inner dialogue to follow✅ A real story from a coaching client who found peace through this step✅ How to hear loving truth every day — even during painful momentsThis episode is for you if:✔️ You feel ashamed or not good enough in your marriage✔️ You’re tired of being defined by pain or rejection✔️ You want to feel safe, seen, and loved — even when life is hard✔️ You want to lead your life from truth, not trauma✔️ You are open to connecting with a voice bigger than your fearsWhat You’ll Get From This Episode:Clear steps to help you connect with divine truthA quiet method for hearing loving words in painful momentsA way to tell the difference between shame and truthA path to heal old beliefs with peace, not pressureYou don’t have to keep chasing your wife’s approval to feel worthy.You don’t have to carry guilt or fear to be a good man.You are already loved. You are already enough.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom #marriage #sexlessmarriage#MarriageHelp#SaveYourMarriage#SecureHusband#MarriageAdvice#RelationshipHealing#SelfWorth#InnerChildHealing#MensMentalHealth#SelfLoveJourney#EmotionalHealing#OvercomeRejection#HealthyMasculinity#MarriageCoaching#StopPeoplePleasing#SelfGrowthFor informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

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