The Sober Mom Life

I just had my 46th birthday, and as I reflect on my goals for this year, to be ‘happy’ isn’t one of them. For me, happiness now seems unsustainable, fleeting, and performative. I’m seeking different feelings entirely in this year of my life - contentment, gratitude and joy.

If you’re preparing for your first sober birthday and you don’t feel happy at the moment, don’t let that mean anything about your relationship with alcohol and sobriety. It can be easy to put on nostalgic rose colored glasses and think that you were happy when we were drinking. I suspect though, that if you’re listening to this podcast, you were not happy when alcohol was in your life.

So, remove ‘happy’ from the table when you’re trying to figure out how you want to feel. What feelings do you really want? For me, those are the sustainable and rooted feelings of contentment, gratitude and joy.

How about you?

Get more of my thoughts on my birthday and my feelings on happiness over on my Substack, Sober for Good: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/
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Fiction author Jessica Guerrieri is back on the pod to tell us everything about her incredible new novel Both Can Be True! Jessica’s work as a sober author is so deeply moving, and in her sophomore novel she tackles the all too familiar sensation of disappearing into motherhood and the addiction that can often take hold from that place.

Jessica and I talk about the raw realities of book publishing as sober authors, why Jessica felt called to write fiction that centers on women and addiction, and the transformative power that community with other women can have for addiction recovery.

Go buy both of Jessica’s books Between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea and Both Can Be True here!

Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women.

Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30’ and ‘Beyond 30’ cohorts. Learn more here!

Join me over on my Substack, Sober for Good: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/

Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift

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A girl’s trip is unlike any other kind of vacation, and the pressure of going on your first sober girl’s trip can feel intense. These women might have known you when you were drinking. You might feel worried about being judged or making them feel judged because of your choice to stay sober. Yet, with a little preparation, this girl's trip could actually be the best one yet.
Today, we’ll cover how to prepare for your first sober girl’s trip. We’ll talk about how to decide if you’re ready for a trip like this, the sober preparations you can make to set yourself up for success, and who to lean on in moments when the girl’s trip might feel hard.
Get more of my thoughts on your first sober girl’s trip over on my Substack, Sober for Good: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/
Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women.

Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30’ and ‘Beyond 30’ cohorts. Learn more here!

There’s one spot left for this October’s Sober Mom Life retreat in Arizona! Claim your spot here.

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Today’s real sober mom Chelsea grew up in a home where alcohol wasn’t seen as a problem. As the child of two drug addicts, Chelsea was raised to view alcohol as a ‘safe choice’ in comparison to hard drugs. So, when Chelsea began drinking at age 14 she thought nothing of it.

Chelsea went to work in retail right out of high school to be there for her family. After meeting her future husband in New York, she pivoted into becoming a funeral director - a career path rife with alcoholism due to the emotional heaviness of the job.

Things took a very challenging turn in 2020. Shortly after the birth of her son who had congenital defects, Covid arrived and Chelsea’s work became extremely intense. The circumstances took a toll and she began experiencing worrisome health issues. Tests revealed she had muscular dystrophy. Shortly after, Chelsea received a call. Her father had OD’d. Facing her father’s death and the changes in her own life, Chelsea realized she never wanted to put her children through anything like what she’d experienced with her parents. She was looking for a change.

All of this led to a casual plan with her husband to take a short break from alcohol in December of 2023. During this brief window, Chelsea had a massive wakeup call. She learned alcohol’s impacts on our bodies and lives, and how big alcohol was preying on moms to get them addicted. Chelsea realized - big alcohol had scammed her! She wasn’t going to let that stand.

Chelsea is now 2 ½ years sober! She wants you to know there is never a ‘perfect’ time to begin sobriety. The best time to start is now.

Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women.

Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30’ and ‘Beyond 30’ cohorts. Learn more here!

Join me on Substack! https://suzannewarye.substack.com/

Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift

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We’ve arrived at mid-summer, which means you’ve made it halfway through your first sober summer! You badass, you.

Let's reflect on how your sober summer is going so far. In this episode, I’ll give you five midsummer check in questions that you can ask yourself to help you root into your wins, your struggles, and what you’ve gained along the way through this summer of sobriety.

Go deeper into my midsummer check in questions over on my Substack, Sober for Good: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/

Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women.

Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30’ and ‘Beyond 30’ cohorts. Learn more here!

Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift

Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlife

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.