They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

People who turn every situation into a crisis! Dealing with dramatic people is the topic this week. Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan look at why some people rely on drama, how it affects those around them, and how to protect your own peace without getting pulled into the chaos.

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They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.
New episode every Wednesday.

A topic few people talk about: when a parent doesn’t like their child. In this episode Dr. Richard Hogan and Dr. Ciara Kelly explore why this can happen, from personality clashes to deeper issues. They look at how emotional distance and constant criticism affect a child’s self-esteem and ability to trust. And dig into what’s really behind these difficult parent child dynamics.
Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch.
They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.
New episode every Wednesday.

They Mess You Up is back with a new series, taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors.

In this first episode of the series, Dr. Richard Hogan and Dr. Ciara Kelly talk about Sexless Marriages; why they happen, how intimacy can quietly disappear and why they’re more common than people think!
They dig into stress, health and poor communication and discuss what really helps couples reconnect.

They Mess You Up - is a weekly podcast series presented by family doctor and broadcaster, Dr. Ciara Kelly & family psychotherapist and author, Dr. Richard Hogan. They Mess You Up is a straight-talking show that unpacks messy, everyday relationship and mental-health issues with a mix of clinical perspective, personal anecdotes and wry, no-nonsense banter.

New episodes every Wednesday.

In this thought-provoking and final episode of season 1, Dr. Richard Hogan and Dr. Ciara Kelly delve into the complex world of technology and its impact on adolescents. With the ubiquitous presence of smartphones, they explore the challenges parents face in guiding their children through this digital landscape, where connection often comes with isolation and heightened anxiety. Join them as they discuss the emotional turmoil of adolescence, the significance of setting boundaries, and the pervasive nature of online bullying and harmful content. Richard shares personal anecdotes that resonate deeply, emphasizing the need for open communication and understanding during these formative years.

In the first episode of 2025, Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan dive into the topic of New Year's resolutions and the futility of punitive self-improvement goals. They discuss the high failure rates of common resolutions and why setting oneself up for a "new year, new me" can lead to feelings of hopelessness. Instead of purging negative habits, Ciara and Richard advocate for the power of positive reinforcement and self-acceptance. Tune in as they share insights on building sustainable habits, distinguishing triggers, and cultivating a kinder internal dialogue. Discover how embracing yourself can lead to genuine growth and fulfillment.