"Who Do I Want To Be?" Podcast

Disappointment is not the dead end you think it is - it can be the moment that turns everything around.

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Lauren shares the exam failure that stopped her in her tracks, the hidden fear that drove it, and the lesson she took six years to learn: what other people think of you is none of your business. If you are facing results, transition, or that shaky space after school or college when everyone expects you to have it figured out, this episode hits hard.

Lauren opens up about being the high-achieving, people-pleasing oldest daughter who looked fine on the outside while quietly carrying fear of failure, pressure, and overwhelm on the inside.

You’ll hear how she went from avoiding the exam hall and trying to hold everyone else together, to realizing that disappointment can become fuel instead of a reason to shrink. She breaks down the mindset shift that changed everything, and the practical reset she uses when emotions feel too heavy to untangle. You’ll discover:
Why failure sometimes starts long before the exam, interview, or big decision
The trap of performing for other people’s expectations
How to stop letting shame and fear make your choices for you
A simple pen-and-paper exercise to clear the noise and find your next move
The one decision challenge Lauren uses to rebuild momentum

This is a conversation about self-trust, resilience, and learning how to stop handing your future to other people’s opinions. It matters because the wrong interpretation of disappointment can keep you stuck for years, while the right one can push you into your next chapter faster than you expected.

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Perfect for students, graduates, and anyone standing at a crossroads, this episode is a reminder that your results do not define you - and one small decision can change the next 30 days of your life.

The advice to follow the “safe” path can cost you years of your own life. Paulina Toktas shares the moment she said no to medicine, no to other people’s expectations, and yes to a life built on intuition, self-trust, and courage.

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Lauren guides a deeply personal conversation about the pressure to please family, the fear of disappointing the people who raised you, and the hard-won freedom that comes from choosing yourself.

Paulina opens up about growing up as the youngest of five, navigating university, working abroad in Malta, building a coaching practice, and learning how every major transition shaped the woman she is today. You’ll hear Paulina share:
Why saying no to a prescribed career path became the first real step toward her identity
How coaching helped her uncover people-pleasing patterns, trauma, and hidden limits
What Malta, relocation, and starting over taught her about intuition and reinvention
The role of support, mentorship, and asking for help when life gets uncertain
How to define success on your own terms and give yourself multiple chances to get there

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This episode also goes into the emotional cost of family responsibility, the tension between logic and intuition, and the grief, guilt, and clarity that can come with loving someone deeply while still choosing your own path. Paulina’s story is a reminder that growth is rarely neat, and that self-trust often has to be built in the middle of uncertainty. Perfect for anyone standing at a crossroads, questioning a major life decision, or finally ready to stop living by someone else’s script and start building a life that actually fits.

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The advice to "play it safe" can quietly trap you in a life that isn't yours.

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Conor Nolan shares the moment he stopped choosing stability over purpose and walked away from the career path that no longer fit.

Lauren and Conor get honest about the pressure to choose prestige, the fear of disappointing other people, and the hard reality of leaving a secure job before you feel "ready." If you're standing at a crossroads, this conversation will meet you right there. Conor Nolan is a mental health public speaker, youth development officer with BodyWise, author of Normal, and a former powerlifter. He uses his lived experience of anorexia, anxiety, and self-esteem struggles to help young people, especially lads, challenge stigma and talk about what actually matters.

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In this episode you'll discover:
Why high exam points do not have to dictate your future
How Conor went from physics and data work to mental health workshops full time
The "burn the boats" mindset that made the leap possible
Why the people around you can either shrink your options or expand them
How anxiety, sleep, movement, workload, and stimulants all connect

We also break down the hidden cost of chasing titles, salary, and approval when they don't align with who you are. Conor explains why proving yourself can become a trap, how self-worth gets tangled up with achievement, and why the real goal is not to do everything - it's to do the right things for you.If you've ever asked yourself whether you're on the "safe" path or the right one, this episode will give you language, courage, and a much needed reality check.

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Essential listening for students, young adults, anyone in a career transition, and anyone trying to build a life that feels true instead of impressive.

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What if the clarity you’re searching for isn’t found by thinking harder, but by becoming quiet enough to listen?

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In this episode, Lauren reflects on her recent pilgrimage to Lough Derg and explores the power of silence, spirituality, and reconnecting with yourself beyond achievement and expectations.
Whether you connect with God, intuition, a higher power, or simply a deeper inner knowing, this episode offers a gentle invitation to pause, breathe, and listen to the quiet voice within.
You’ll leave with a simple 3-minute practice to help you find clarity, peace, and direction in the middle of a noisy world.
A thoughtful listen for anyone navigating change, uncertainty, or the question:
Who do I want to be?

Unlock the secret to turning your dreams into reality—despite life's ups and downs. 

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Most of us know what we want, yet somehow, goals slip away when motivation fades or obstacles appear. The truth is, the missing piece isn’t willpower or clarity—it's accountability. In this episode, Lauren reveals a simple but powerful framework to stay committed through life's toughest moments, sharing her personal journey from losing 50lbs to building a business after unimaginable losses.

Discover how creating systems around your goals can turn fleeting motivation into consistent action. Lauren breaks down the three pillars of accountability: the people who support you, the environment that fuels your progress, and small, concrete actions that prove you're moving forward.

This episode isn’t just about weight loss or business—it’s about reshaping your entire approach to achievement. Whether you're aiming to switch careers, build new habits, or pursue a passion, Lauren’s insights will help you close the dreaded accountability gap and create a life where your dreams are inevitable.

The real question isn’t what you want—it's who will hold you to it when it matters most.

If you're done waiting for the "perfect moment," this episode will show you how to make progress today—because strong accountability isn’t just a tool, it’s your secret weapon.