Wise Yourself Up

It’s the final episode of this season 😭 and Carla is giving us all the gossip on her dating life, as well as announcing her new course! 

Carla talks about the red flags she’s noticed since getting back into dating, the mindset shifts she’s had this time around, and why you should never trust a man who wears sunglasses in his profile photos. 

Carla also shares more about her 20-hour online Breathwork + Somatics training course that’s just been announced. This course is rooted in learning how to access the intelligence of the body, understand how emotional processing works, and heal unwanted patterns to create real change. 

Thank you so much to everyone who tuned into this season of the podcast! If you know anyone who would be interested in supporting the podcast for the next season, please reach out to Carla. 

Timestamps 
00:00 Reflecting on the series 
01:33 Introducing the trauma course and why it was created 
04:21 Returning to dating apps and expanding possibilities 
11:36 Red flags to watch for and what they really mean 
13:12 Two recent dates and what they revealed 
19:55 Becoming a teacher trainer and what that means 
20:31 Who this course is really for 
25:14 What daily practice reveals about yourself 
30:01 Creating a live container that actually works 
35:29 The power of group work and reflection 
39:55 Emotions, cycles and working with the body 
45:29 Applications and course details 

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In today’s episode, Carla opens up an honest conversation about shame and how it quietly drives so many of our behaviours, from relationships to self worth to the way we cope. 

 
 She shares her own experience with shame and explores the difference between healthy and toxic shame, how shame develops early in childhood, and why it is one of the hardest emotions to identify and process. 

Timestamps
00:00 How grief lives in the body and resurfaces over time
 01:47 New course announcement 
 04:10 Speaking directly to men and accountability in rape culture
 05:55 How patriarchy shapes consent and conditioning
 08:06 The difference between healthy shame and toxic shame
 12:59 Personal coping patterns driven by shame
 16:27 Why shame begins in childhood
 18:20 Sexual trauma, secrecy and silence
 21:49 Childhood adaptations and how they carry into adulthood
 24:32 The physical body language of shame
 27:50 Forgiveness and how to actually practise it
 30:30 How shame shows up in relationships
 33:34 Breaking patterns and cycles of shame
 37:50 Compassionate inquiry and somatic healing

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Carla is joined by Somatic Therapist and Sexologist Emily King to discuss how so much of what we’ve been taught about sex isn’t actually helpful or even true.

Emily shares how she got into sexology, and how that shaped the way she understands behaviour, power, and connection.

They talk about sex work, stigma, and the realities of laws in places like Edinburgh, before moving into more personal conversations around desire, libido, and what it actually means to feel connected to your body.

Carla and Emily explore things like faking orgasms, performance, and why so many people struggle to talk openly about sex with partners or even friends.

They finish off the episode by talking about sex toys, shame, porn, and the way people learn about sex growing up, and Emily shares practical ways to start reconnecting with your body, from understanding arousal to building a healthier relationship with pleasure.

Timestamps
00:00 Introduction to Emily
01:30 What a sexologist actually does
02:32 Emily’s journey into this work
07:28 The reality of sex work laws in Edinburgh
09:24 OnlyFans, safety and exploitation
16:04 Rethinking consent through a pleasure-based lens
18:21 Losing your libido and reconnecting with your body
22:29 How conversations about sex start growing up
27:43 Shame around masturbation and talking to friends
33:19 Breaking the shame around vibrators
38:05 Boredom in sex and building a pleasure practice
43:30 Vulva gazing workshops
52:23 What holistic pelvic care actually is
56:31 Low libido, “depressed vaginas” and faking orgasms
01:00:48 Why sex is often centred around erections
01:06:35 Where to find Emily

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Instagram: @EmilyKingTherapy
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Emma is back on the podcast to share her experience of getting diagnosed with ADHD.

She and Carla talk openly about struggling with focus, negative self-talk, and addictive tendencies, and highlight the ways in which ADHD can present itself in ways people don’t always recognise.

Emma also shares her experience of starting medication, the fears she had before taking it, and what it has been like for her so far.

The conversation explores the overlap between ADHD and trauma, and finishes with some practical ways that have helped Emma outside of medication.

Timestamps:
00:00 All things wedding planning and marriage
15:08 Emma’s ADHD diagnosis
16:58 Understanding ADHD medication and how it works
23:40 ADHD and CPTSD and how similar they can look
32:27 Talking trauma and how it shapes identity
37:09 The impact of negative self-talk
38:16 Letting go of fears around medication
41:49 Emotional regulation and feeling more stable
45:27 Addiction patterns and behaviours like skin picking
48:42 Trauma, shame, and coping mechanism
56:45 Microdosing, serotonin, and brain patterns
59:04 Routine disruption
01:04:48 Is ADHD genetic or trauma-based
01:12:19 Practical tools and strategies for ADHD

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Podcast: ⁠Here for the Craic With Emma Neill ⁠
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Carla is back with a solo episode to catch you up on her life since August!

In this episode, she opens up about grief and how she’s dealing with it after three years since big loss. She talks about opening up to her friends, feeling more closed off in herself, and how the body always tells the truth even when your mind is telling you otherwise.

There’s always this pressure in life to be productive and to constantly do more, but Carla wants to chat about how pushing through isn’t actually what will help you heal.

Carla talks about her thoughts on The Chronology of Water (skip 21:49-23:02 if you don’t want spoilers!)

And to finish the episode off, Carla leaves you with a question… are we pro bush or not? (link to the article mentioned here )

Timestamps
00:00 Catching up on life, work balance and where the podcast has been
02:49 Talking about loss, vulnerability and how grief shows up differently for everyone
06:02 What Compassion Inquiry is and how it works in healing
07:52 Becoming more sensitive through healing
10:33 The impact of connection and being witnessed in grief
14:14 Taking a break from trauma work and why it’s necessary
20:36 Thoughts on The Chronology of Water
23:15 A Substack essay on body image, shame and societal expectations
24:48 Desire, shame and how we relate to our bodies and sexuality
28:27 Listener question on low desire and reconnecting with pleasure

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