Calm and Confident Leader Podcast

What if the reason you still feel stuck isn’t your strategy, but the emotional patterns running underneath it?
In this episode of The Calm and Confident Leader, host Jason Stonehouse sits down with entrepreneur, physicist, and emotional intelligence expert Randy Lyman for a powerful conversation about the hidden emotional dynamics that shape leadership, decision-making, and fulfillment.
After building multiple eight-figure businesses and reaching financial success, Randy realized something surprising. He had achieved the goals, but still felt disconnected and unfulfilled. That discovery launched him into a deeper journey of emotional awareness, authenticity, and what he calls “The Third Element.”
Together, Jason and Randy unpack why so many leaders suppress emotions in the name of strength, how unhealed emotional wounds quietly influence our reactions, and why emotional health is not weakness, but one of the greatest leadership advantages available.
You’ll also hear practical insights on:
• Recognizing emotional patterns before they sabotage relationships
• The difference between reacting and responding
• Why teams struggle with communication and decision-making
• A simple four-step framework for making better decisions as a leader
• How emotional awareness creates calmer, more confident leadership
• Why vulnerability actually increases trust and influence
This conversation is thoughtful, practical, and deeply relatable for leaders who have ever felt successful on the outside while quietly struggling on the inside.
Learn more about Randy Lyman and his work at RandyLyman.com
You can also connect with host Jason Stonehouse and explore coaching resources at JasonStonehouse.com
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Why is this person so difficult to work with?
You've asked it. Every leader has. And the answer probably isn't what you think.
Most of us assume difficult people are just... difficult. Wrong personality. Bad fit. Too much drama. But what if the real problem is that you're trying to fix behavior when the actual issue is motivation? Those are two completely different problems, and they require two completely different solutions.
In this episode, Jason Stonehouse sits down with Joey Schewee, management consultant, executive coach, and longtime Enneagram expert, to talk about what's actually driving the friction on your team. Joey has spent 30 years helping leaders get past surface-level personality typing and into the harder, more useful question: why do people do what they do? Her new book, When Working Together Doesn't Work, is essentially a field manual for leaders who are tired of the same team problems showing up in different people.
In this conversation, Jason and Joey dig into why self-awareness has to come before team awareness, what it means to lead from your dominant center (doing, feeling, or thinking), why those high-action "motor" types rise quickly and sometimes crash hard, and the one practical thing you can do to stop reacting to behavior and start getting curious about motivation.
If you lead people, this one is worth your time.
Connect with Joey Schewee:LinkedIn: Joey ScheweeInstagram: @EnneagramParentsWebsite: wesolutions.life
Get the book: When Working Together Doesn't Work by Joey Schewee, available on Amazon.
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What if the person on your team who frustrates you the most isn’t the problem… but the clue?
In this episode of the Calm and Confident Leader Podcast, host Jason Stonehouse sits down with Dr. James Borishade, author of Connecting Across Differences, to unpack why so many leaders struggle with conflict and communication, and what they might be missing.
Dr. Borishade brings a fascinating perspective shaped by leading in high tension environments, serving as CEO of Circle Urban Ministries, becoming the first African American CEO in the challenge course and zip line industry, and helping organizations rethink how people work together.
Together, Jason and James explore a powerful idea. What if the behaviors that irritate us in others are actually rooted in their story, their experiences, and even their unique design?
In this conversation you’ll discover:
• Why many relational struggles begin with the belief that something is wrong with us
• The difference between God designed uniqueness and emotional immaturity
• How trauma and personal stories shape workplace behavior
• Why the silent tension in a team can be more dangerous than open conflict
• Practical ways leaders can create environments where people feel safe enough to be honest
• A powerful shift from employing people to deploying them into the roles where they thrive
This episode is packed with practical leadership wisdom about navigating differences, asking better questions, and building teams where diverse perspectives actually strengthen the organization instead of tearing it apart.
Links mentioned in this episode
Jason Stonehouse
https://jasonstonehouse.com
Dr. James Borishade
https://borishade.com
Circle Urban Ministries
https://circleurban.org

Book: Connecting Across Differences (available wherever books are sold, including Amazon)
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Have you ever felt like you’re leading… while quietly wondering if you’re lost?
What do you do when you’re not where you used to be, not yet where you thought you’d be, and the map feels a little blurry?
In this episode of The Calm and Confident Leader, Jason Stonehouse sits down with writer, educator, and leadership developer Donna Barber, author of Enough for Today: 40 Reflections for Surviving the Wilderness. Together, they explore the leadership reality we don’t talk about enough, the wilderness seasons.
Not the dramatic collapse.
Not the highlight reel success.
But the in-between.
Donna shares what gets stripped away in the wilderness. The props. The image management. The illusion that leaders are somehow above the earthquake while everyone else feels the tremors. She offers a powerful reminder that leadership does not require superhuman strength. It requires honesty, humility, and the courage to admit we are in it too.
You’ll hear them unpack:
What wilderness seasons reveal about our fears, insecurities, and misplaced hopes

How to face fear instead of letting it quietly run the show

Why perception often fuels fear more than reality

How to rediscover God in ordinary moments, not just big spiritual events

The danger of victim thinking and the freedom that comes from owning your role in change

This conversation moves from fog to responsibility, from fear to agency, and from waiting on change to becoming it.
Because here’s the thing.
You are not just surviving your season.
You are being formed in it.
Hosted by Jason Stonehouse, leadership coach and counselor, with guest Donna Barber, writer, educator, co-founder of The Voices Project, and author of Enough for Today.
Resources mentioned:
voices-project.org
donnambarber.com

jasonstonehouse.com

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Ever walk into a meeting where everyone’s spiraling, and one calm voice changes everything? What if you could be that person?
In this episode of The Calm and Confident Leader, host Jason Stonehouse sits down with transformational executive coach and founder of Sawubona Leadership, Susan Inouye, to talk about how presence, authenticity, and emotional clarity can become your biggest leadership advantages.
With insights from coaching leaders in over 600 companies, Susan shares:
Why most leaders get change wrong and how to fix it

How to uncover the natural gifts in your team without using a test

The underrated power of observing people with curiosity

How one leadership team doubled profits by simply putting the right people in the right seats

You'll also hear why walking slowly outside might be the secret to becoming a better leader. Really.
To grab a free chapter of Susan’s book, get access to her resources, or book a discovery call, visit:
www.susaninouye.com/CCL
Hosted by Jason Stonehouse, this episode gives you simple, powerful ways to stay grounded while leading through uncertainty.
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