The Almost Empty Nest—Letting Go, Redefined: Parenting Teens and Finding Yourself Again—with Small Jar Coach

What do you make it mean when your big kid stops opening up to you?

Maybe they give you one-word answers. Or they stop calling as much. Maybe you can tell something is going on, but they’re not telling you what it is. And before long, your mind starts filling in the blanks.

In this episode, I’m looking at what happens when we lose the kind of access we once had to our kids’ inner worlds and why that shift can feel so threatening during the teen, college, and empty nest years. I’ll show you the three places our minds tend to go when our kids pull back, why uncertainty can send us into anxiety and overthinking, and how our attempts to feel closer can sometimes create the exact opposite effect.

If you’ve been wondering what their silence means, this episode may help you see the situation very differently.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen? Join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching programs (both group and 1:1): www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0. Know you’re interested in group? Visit: www.thesmalljar.com/momcollective.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

What happens inside you when your big kid is struggling and you can’t immediately make it better?

In this episode, I’m exploring why watching our teens and adult kids feel disappointed, lonely, overwhelmed, or uncomfortable can create so much anxiety for us as moms. Our instinct is often to step in, offer advice, or try to smooth the path. But sometimes that urge to help can leave us more anxious while unintentionally sending our kids the message that they can’t handle hard things on their own.

I’ll help you see why your kid’s discomfort can feel so urgent to you, what it costs when you make it your job to take that discomfort away, and how to stay supportive without carrying the responsibility for making everything better. If you’re navigating parenting teens, the empty nest, or the messy middle of motherhood, this episode will help you feel more grounded and confident in how you show up.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen? Join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching programs (both group and 1:1): www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0. Know you’re interested in group? Visit: www.thesmalljar.com/momcollective.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

Have you ever watched your big kid do something and immediately thought, Oh my God… what are people going to think of me?

Today, I’m talking about the embarrassment that can come with parenting teens and navigating the empty nest years, especially when your kid is rude, reckless, irresponsible, or making choices you really wish they wouldn't make.

I’ll help you separate your kid’s behavior from your identity as a mom, so you can stop overthinking what other people think, loosen the grip of shame, and get clearer about what actually belongs to you. You can still have opinions, set boundaries, and care about your kid without making every choice they make mean something about the kind of mother you are.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen? Join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching programs (both group and 1:1): www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0. Know you’re interested in group? Visit: www.thesmalljar.com/momcollective.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

What happens when the child you would happily spend all weekend with can barely carve out dinner with you?

That was the reality of my recent Parents Weekend, and it gave me a front-row seat to something so many of us moms experience when parenting teens and in the empty nest. It's the temptation to measure connection by how much time, attention, or reassurance our kids give us.

In this episode, I’m exploring what I call unconditional connection. I'll invite you to consider that you can want more time with your child without making their behavior mean you matter less. We’ll look at why letting go of time with your big kid can feel so threatening and how to stop requiring constant proof that your relationship is still strong.

What if this stage of motherhood doesn't require you to accept less love, but instead it might be invite you to learn to trust the connection, even as your relationship with your child changes.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen? Join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching programs (both group and 1:1): www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0. Know you’re interested in group? Visit: www.thesmalljar.com/momcollective.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.

Have you ever found yourself more invested in your big kid’s success than they seem to be?

Maybe you’re reminding them about the job application, pushing them to study, asking for the tenth time about the chore, or wondering why they don’t seem more motivated. And before long, you’re not just frustrated by what they’re doing today, you’re worrying about who they’re becoming.

In this episode, I’m talking about the pressure we carry as moms to make our kids responsible, hardworking, resilient adults. I’ll help you separate what is actually yours to teach, model, and decide from what your teen or adult kid ultimately has to learn for themselves.

If you’re parenting teens, navigating the empty nest years, or working on letting go without giving up on your big kid, this episode will help you stop overthinking every decision and parent with more confidence and self-trust.

💡 Interested in learning more about how to create peace, confidence and connection as you raise and launch your teen? Join me for my next free masterclass: https://www.thesmalljar.com/class.

💪 Curious about coaching? Check out our Mom 2.0 coaching programs (both group and 1:1): www.thesmalljar.com/Mom-2-0. Know you’re interested in group? Visit: www.thesmalljar.com/momcollective.

❓ Have questions or want to share your feedback? I'd love to hear from you! You can email me at jennifer@thesmalljar.com.

This empowering podcast offers life coaching for moms and parenting support for midlife mothers raising teens as they approach the empty nest, teaching them how to let go of control, stop overthinking, and shift their mindset, while also helping them set boundaries, improve communication, reduce anxiety, release mom guilt, and find purpose in the evolving journey of parenting teens and motherhood.