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Episode #1091 
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We're bringing this one back because it's one of the most asked-about topics from men inside The Powerful Man. How do you rebuild connection with your wife when things feel flat, distant, or disconnected? Doug is joined again by his wife, Erin Holt, for a candid conversation on what actually works when it comes to rebuilding intimacy in a long-term relationship.
They unpack how most men miss the early signs of disconnection, how emotional safety gets slowly eroded, and why small, ignored moments matter more than you think. Erin shares the perspective from the other side, what women really want, what they wish their husbands would notice, and how masculine leadership plays a key role in getting the relationship back on track.
This episode also breaks down simple, real-world actions you can take to rebuild trust, spark attraction again, and create the kind of relationship that doesn't just survive but actually feels good to be in. If you've been feeling like roommates, if the spark is gone, or if your wife has started pulling away, start here.
If you're ready to get clear on how things got off track and want a step-by-step plan to fix it, watch the free training at fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's a straightforward look at how to rebuild connection without begging, chasing, or forcing hard conversations.

Episode #1090 
Most men don't realize they're drifting until it's already been years. Life feels "fine" on the surface, business is steady, the marriage isn't falling apart, the kids are growing up, but deep down, you know something's off. That fire, that drive you once had? It's gone.
In this episode, Doug and Tim break down what "the drift" actually is, how it silently pulls high-performing men into a rut, and why so many stay stuck for years. They unpack how good habits and strong traits can eventually trap you, why predictability is a relationship killer, and what it takes to reset your life without blowing everything up.
You'll hear real stories of men who looked successful from the outside but were checked out on the inside. We cover how guilt, routine, and the "nice guy" trap keep men playing small. There's also a clear reason why going it alone rarely works. You need challenge, you need truth, and you need it from other men who've already done the work. This isn't about hype or hacks, it's about getting honest with where you are and what you're actually here for.
If you're ready to break out of the drift and want a clear plan to get your passion, power, and connection back, check out the free training at fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's a simple first step, but it'll show you exactly what's broken and how to start fixing it.

Episode #1089
We're revisiting this conversation because it keeps coming up. A lot of men struggle with how to ask for what they want in their relationship without feeling weak or sounding needy. The truth is, it's not about the words you use. It's about how you show up when you say them.
In this episode, Doug and Chris break down why hesitation kills trust, how your energy shifts the way your wife hears you, and what to do when you're afraid of her reaction. They walk through a simple way to speak clearly, ask directly, and stay grounded even if she pushes back.
You'll also hear what most men get wrong when they try to "get it right," and how to stop putting pressure on her to fix what you haven't owned yet.
If you've been biting your tongue, playing it safe, or hoping she'll read your mind, this is your reminder to lead the conversation.
Want a real plan to start shifting your marriage? Get the free training How to Fix Your Marriage Without Talking About It at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and learn the first steps to lead with calm, clear action.

Episode #1088
This is one of those episodes we had to bring back. It's a real conversation about what happens when men quietly settle for less in their marriage, their health, or their life in general. Doug and Chris revisit the hard truth: when you stop taking action, you're not pausing, you're choosing. And that choice has consequences.
They talk about the trap of tolerating a "not that bad" marriage, the fear that keeps men from speaking up, and how easy it is to lose yourself trying to keep the peace. Doug shares what he's seen happen when guys finally stop hiding, start leading, and take a real step forward. Chris opens up about how hard it was for him to speak his truth and what shifted when he finally did.
You'll also hear why your wife may not be checked out from the relationship she may just be tired of waiting for you to show up. The good news? It's not too late to change that. But you've got to stop sitting on the fence.
Ready to do something about it? Grab the free training How to Fix Your Marriage Without Talking About It at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and learn the first few steps to lead with action, not more talk.

Episode #1087
If you keep waiting for the "right moment" to fix your marriage, you're already making a choice and not the one you want. In this episode, Doug and Chris break down what it really looks like to stop spinning your wheels and start leading your relationship. They talk about why indecision kills intimacy, how hesitation builds resentment, and how taking real action imperfect or not is what actually starts to shift things.
You'll learn how to evaluate where you're at across what they call the Five Territories: self, health, wealth, relationships, and business. You'll also hear how inaction shows up as victimhood and why it's the fastest way to lose connection with your wife, your kids, and yourself.
Doug shares what it means to be the decisive leader in your home, even when you're not sure of the next step. Chris talks about why your wife might not support you at first, and how to rebuild her trust not with talk, but with consistent action. They get into real stories from their coaching experience, with examples of men turning things around by finally stepping off the fence.
If your relationship feels stuck, if your energy is off, or if you've been consuming advice but not actually doing anything with it this is the conversation you need to hear.
Want a clear starting point? Grab the free training How to Fix Your Marriage Without Talking About It and get practical steps you can take today. Go to https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales to access it.