The Powerful Man Show

Episode #1205
What would you do differently if you knew today was your last day alive?
Would you spend more time working, scrolling your phone, or worrying about what other people think? Or would you put the distractions aside, spend time with the people you love, say what needs to be said, and become fully present?
In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews sits down with Stephen to explore how creating an intentional sense of urgency can change the way you approach your marriage, family, business, and life.
They discuss why people often wait for urgency to be imposed on them. Divorce papers arrive. A health problem appears. A business reaches a crisis point. Suddenly, the things that have been avoided for months or years need attention immediately.
But what if you didn't wait for the crisis?
Tim and Stephen explore the idea of asking, "What if I only had 24 hours?" as a way to cut through procrastination, distraction, fear, and the stories that prevent you from taking meaningful action.
For a man struggling in his marriage, that could mean asking a more specific question: What if I had 24 hours to save my marriage?
The point isn't to frantically do everything. It's to identify what actually matters and show up with greater presence, honesty, gratitude, appreciation, love, and action.
Episode Chapters
00:00 What would you do if today was your last day?
00:39 Living with greater urgency and intention
01:15 What actually matters on your final day?
02:09 Presence, family, and putting away distractions
03:06 Why connection becomes more important when time is limited
04:11 Creating urgency around what matters
04:30 Scales Free Training
05:33 Stop assuming there will always be another day
06:03 Looking for connection in the wrong places
06:35 How urgency brings your priorities into focus
07:17 Vulnerability when you have nothing to lose
08:05 Letting go of the stories holding you back
09:10 How having more time can create complacency
10:27 Stop sweating the small stuff
11:06 What meaningful family connection actually looks like
12:21 Bringing the last-24-hours mindset into everyday life
13:13 Choosing connection over rigid routines
14:48 Don't wait for divorce papers to create urgency
15:26 Imposing urgency on yourself before a crisis does
17:23 Performing when your back is against the wall
18:38 Using urgency to take massive action
19:38 Stop searching for connection through distractions
21:16 Compressing time through action
24:04 Using urgency to overcome procrastination
25:30 Challenging the stories that keep you stuck
26:41 What if you had 24 hours to save your marriage?
27:19 Leave it all on the field
28:27 Making the most of the life you have now
If your relationship is missing the love, respect, admiration, or intimacy it once had, the Scales Free Training can help you identify what's missing and understand practical steps for rebuilding it.
Prefer to watch instead of listen? Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/17TkeuSvsj8
The Powerful Man helps businessmen become stronger husbands, fathers, and leaders by developing the self-leadership, relationship skills, and brotherhood needed to build stronger marriages and more meaningful lives.

Episode #1204
Successful businessmen are used to making decisions, solving problems, and staying in control. But what happens when that same approach enters family court?
In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt sits down with family law attorney April Jones to discuss why CEOs, founders, and high-performing men can struggle when divorce moves from the boardroom into the courtroom.
April brings more than 35 years of legal experience to the conversation. She is the founder and CEO of Jones Law Firm, which she built in 2000, and her firm has handled thousands of complex family law and divorce cases. She is a multi-year Super Lawyers honoree, was named an Outstanding Woman in Business by the Denver Business Journal, and serves in leadership roles connected to judicial selection in Colorado.
Doug and April discuss why the financial settlement is only one part of divorce. There is also the emotional impact, disruption to business performance, parenting time, and the reality that another person may eventually become part of your children's lives.
April explains why getting legal information early doesn't necessarily mean you've decided to divorce. Understanding what divorce could actually look like may help someone make better decisions while reconciliation is still possible.
They also address one of the biggest mistakes business owners can make: trying to hide or move assets. April explains how this can increase litigation costs, damage trust, and create additional problems in court.
The conversation ultimately returns to something men can control even before divorce becomes inevitable: changing how they show up in their marriage.
Episode Chapters
00:00 Why successful businessmen can struggle in family court
00:37 From the boardroom to the courtroom
01:00 April Jones' family law experience and credentials
03:21 Why CEOs can struggle with losing control
05:38 When charm and persuasion stop working
08:16 The hidden costs of divorce
09:13 Parenting, business, and the emotional cost of separation
11:06 How men sedate themselves during divorce
12:20 When should you speak with a family lawyer?
14:30 Why hiding assets can backfire
15:13 Free Book
16:06 The financial and emotional cost of moving money
17:01 Why successful men need expert guidance
19:00 Infidelity, intimacy, and warning signs in marriage
21:08 Resentment and sexless marriages
22:33 What happens during a family law intake
24:01 Privacy and revealing difficult information
24:38 Why your attorney needs to know the skeletons
26:51 Preparing strategically for difficult issues
27:37 Divorce, workaholism, and losing connection with your children
31:19 Gray divorce later in life
32:21 How changing your behavior changes the relationship
34:01 Self-leadership when your marriage is on the edge
If your marriage is struggling and you've lost some of the love, admiration, or respect you once had, Doug offers A Man's Guide on How to Save Your Marriage Without Talking About It as a practical action plan.
Prefer to watch instead of listen? Watch the full conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/DrbubtX3yTI
The Powerful Man helps businessmen become stronger husbands, fathers, and leaders through practical coaching, brotherhood, self-leadership, and relationship tools designed to build stronger marriages and families.

Episode #1203
What do you do when you've tried marriage counseling but feel like you keep revisiting the same problems? What if your wife seems more interested in her phone than connecting with you? And how do you handle sexual rejection without becoming needy, resentful, or afraid to initiate again?
In this revisit episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Christopher Hansen return to a practical Q&A covering three situations men commonly face when their marriage feels disconnected.
The first question comes from a man who has already tried marriage counseling and wants to know how TPM's approach differs. Doug shares his own experience with counseling and explains why the TPM approach focuses on acknowledging what happened, cleaning it up, and then moving forward through action.
The conversation then turns to a husband whose wife is constantly on her phone and hides the screen when he enters the room. Doug's advice is not to compete with the phone directly. Instead, become more engaged, curious, decisive, and interesting in the relationship. His simple reminder is: be more interesting than Instagram.
Finally, Doug and Chris address sexual rejection. Doug discusses trust, emotional safety, polarity, keeping your word, and why repeatedly trying to keep the peace can sometimes create the opposite of the connection a man wants.
Throughout the episode, the focus stays on what a man can actually control: his actions, integrity, leadership, curiosity, and how he shows up in the relationship.
Episode Chapters
00:00 Stop driving forward while looking in the rearview mirror
00:41 Marriage coaching versus marriage counseling
01:32 Doug's experience with marriage counseling
03:00 Why constantly revisiting the past can create disconnection
04:00 The Clean Slate Method and Marriage 2.0
05:00 Creating change through action
06:00 Emotional safety and helping your wife feel seen, heard, and desired
07:00 Rebuilding confidence and masculine energy
09:15 Understanding the "why" versus creating change
09:25 Scales Free Training
10:26 Why understanding the past may not be enough
11:17 What to do when your wife is always on her phone
11:50 Be more interesting than Instagram
13:15 Your wife has changed, and so have you
14:00 Why dinner alone isn't necessarily a date
16:25 How to handle sexual rejection from your wife
16:59 Trust, emotional safety, and polarity
18:00 How broken promises affect attraction
19:00 Nice guy behavior and keeping the peace
21:24 Taking action on what you've learned
If your relationship is missing the love, respect, admiration, or intimacy it once had, Doug's Scales Free Training walks through how you got here and gives you a methodology for beginning to rebuild it.
Prefer to watch instead of listen? Watch this revisit episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/UuIbkgzy7h4
The Powerful Man helps businessmen become stronger husbands, fathers, and leaders through practical coaching, brotherhood, and relationship tools designed to help men create stronger marriages and families.

Episode #1202
The holidays are supposed to bring families together, but for many couples, they create stress, resentment, arguments, and disconnection.
In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug and Erin Holt talk about how husbands and wives can approach the holiday season differently. Instead of waiting until schedules, gifts, family expectations, business pressures, and traditions collide, they encourage couples to plan for the experience they actually want to create.
For business owners and executives, the end of the year can already carry enormous pressure. Add family gatherings, travel, gifts, children, traditions, and expectations at home, and it's easy for a man to become disconnected or grumpy while his wife feels like she's carrying the entire holiday mental load.
Doug and Erin explain why simply asking, "What can I do?" isn't always enough. Sometimes that creates another task for your wife because she still has to identify, assign, and manage what needs to happen. Instead, Doug encourages men to become proactive: see what needs to be done and do it.
They also share how their different childhood experiences shaped what Christmas meant to each of them. Those differences created conflict until they learned to communicate about what mattered, make concessions, and intentionally decide what they wanted the holidays to look and feel like for their family.
The goal isn't a perfect holiday. It's creating connection, meaningful traditions, and memories your family actually wants to remember.
Episode Chapters
00:00 Why the holidays can create marriage problems
02:17 Why relationship problems can intensify after the holidays
03:05 Why husbands become grumpy during the holiday season
03:29 Year-end pressure for business owners
04:18 Feeling disconnected from your family
06:00 What to do when you're struggling emotionally
07:09 Why your wife wants partnership during the holidays
07:49 Stop waiting until the last minute
09:25 Different family traditions and expectations
09:43 Free Book
10:36 Creating holiday magic for your family
12:15 When spouses have very different holiday experiences
13:56 Communicating before the holidays arrive
15:00 Deciding how you want the holidays to feel
16:31 Reducing holiday stress to prioritize connection
18:03 Planning your holiday season like you plan your business
19:32 Why asking "What can I do?" isn't always helpful
20:15 See it, do it
21:07 Learning from previous holiday seasons
22:00 Identifying habits that create holiday stress
23:07 Being proactive instead of reactive
23:33 Grief, loss, and difficult emotions during the holidays
24:20 Creating memories your children will remember
25:08 Make the holidays magical
25:36 Create your vision for the holiday season
If your marriage has lost some of the love, admiration, respect, or intimacy it once had, Doug offers A Man's Guide on How to Save Your Marriage Without Talking About It as a practical action plan you can begin applying.
Prefer to watch instead of listen? Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/jXXLIPUP_ps
The Powerful Man helps businessmen become stronger husbands, fathers, and leaders by developing the relationship and leadership skills needed to create stronger marriages and families.

Episode #1201
When was the last time you went on a date with your wife and showed up with the same curiosity, energy, and intention you had when you first met?
In this episode of The TPM Show, Tim Matthews sits down with Stephen, a longtime member of The Powerful Man movement, to talk about bringing "first date energy" back into a long-term marriage.
After nearly 11 years of marriage, Stephen realized that even regular date nights can become routine. You go to dinner, see a movie, and spend most of the evening talking about the kids, schedules, work, or everyday logistics. You're technically on a date, but the energy that made dating exciting has disappeared.
Stephen shares what changed when he intentionally approached a day out with his wife, Jane, differently. He became curious about who she is today, put away his phone, avoided default conversations about logistics, made an effort with his appearance, took more initiative, and went into the experience without expectations.
Tim and Stephen break this approach into three practical elements: Preparation, Presentation, and Practice.
Preparation means creating space to transition out of work mode, thinking about meaningful conversations, and intentionally setting yourself up to be present.
Presentation is how you actually arrive. Your energy, grooming, clothing, presence, and attitude all communicate whether this date matters to you.
Practice means staying curious, letting go of expectations, taking the lead without becoming rigid, and remembering that the entire point is to have fun together.
Episode Chapters
00:00 Bringing curiosity back into your marriage
00:27 Preparation, presentation, and practice
00:43 Stephen's journey with The Powerful Man
02:41 What "first date energy" means in a long-term marriage
03:58 Scales Free Training
05:01 Bringing first date energy to your wife
07:12 Why curiosity is essential on date night
07:27 Putting away your phone and being fully present
08:05 Stop assuming you already know your wife
09:13 Why genuine interest creates connection
10:37 Preparing yourself before date night
11:10 Stop making every conversation about kids and logistics
12:29 Questions that create meaningful conversations
13:07 Looking good and feeling good for yourself
15:07 Decompressing before your date
15:29 Taking the lead and making decisions
17:29 Creating anticipation and mystery
19:14 How your energy affects your wife's experience
21:08 Preparation, presentation, and practice
23:22 Don't forget to have fun
If your marriage is missing some of the love, respect, admiration, or intimacy it once had, Doug's Scales Free Training can help you understand what may be happening and give you a methodology for beginning to rebuild the relationship.
Prefer to watch instead of listen? Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/UPyotqQ7_mc
The Powerful Man helps businessmen become stronger husbands, fathers, and leaders through practical coaching, brotherhood, and relationship tools designed to create stronger marriages and families.