Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast

Many men are quickly labeled “sex addicts,” but that label often misses the deeper issue: an intimacy disorder rooted in the need for validation, connection, and belonging. In this episode we are joined by friend and fellow Recovery Coach Rodney Vaughan for an honest, nuanced conversation about love addiction—and how it differs from (and overlaps with) pornography and sex addiction.We unpack how love addiction shows up in real life—constant romantic pursuits, exaggerated emotional dependence on women, affairs, flirtation, and an inability to be alone—while avoiding shallow, behavior-only explanations that leave men stuck.In this episode we cover:The difference between porn addiction and love addictionHow dopamine, fantasy, and validation function differently in eachWhy male loneliness and lack of male affirmation fuel addictive cyclesThe role of recovery groups and deep male friendships in real healingIf you’ve quit porn but still feel restless, emotionally dependent, or constantly chasing connection, this episode will help you understand why—and what actually leads to change.Get Started NowDownload the Free Quit Porn Quick-Start Guide to identify your patterns, understand your triggers, and take your first concrete steps toward freedom:👉 https://rscky.com/quickstartConnect with UsCoaching, resources, and next steps: https://rscky.comFree Online Community: https://rscky.com/communityIf this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs it—and follow the show so you don’t miss future conversations.

Recovery from porn and sexual brokenness is brutal work. If you try to grind your way through it without joy, you’re going to burn out. In this fourth and final part of our community series, Michael and Nick unpack celebration as the fuel that keeps you going in the long haul of recovery.They dig into how God actually designed us to be sustained by goodness, joy, and shared life with other people—not just white-knuckling sobriety alone. You’ll hear how biblical celebration, Sabbath rhythms, and simple shared meals can become anchors of hope in what is often the hardest thing you’ve ever done.Resources & links:📘 Free Quickstart Guide: rscky.com/quickstart🌐 Learn more about coaching and groups: rscky.com📲 Follow on Instagram:Michael – @mikekamberNick – @nickwbudaIf this episode was helpful, follow the show, leave a rating or review, and share it with someone who’s in the trenches of recovery. It really does help more people find the podcast.

When porn blows up a marriage, the spouse’s world doesn’t just wobble—it shatters. In this conversation, Michael sits down with Lindsey Blair, a betrayal-trauma coach, to spell out what spouses actually experience after discovery or disclosure, what “safety” looks like in real life, and how couples can rebuild trust without gaslighting, rushing, or bypassing pain. If you’re a wife feeling “crazy” or a husband who doesn’t get why this hurts so much, this one’s for you.About our guest — Lindsey BlairBetrayal-trauma coach who works with wives navigating the aftermath of a partner’s sexual acting out and pornography use. Empathetic, practical, and anchored in Christian soul care.We talk aboutWhat betrayal trauma is (and isn’t): the violation of trust inside an attachment relationshipDiscovery vs. disclosure and why both are disorientingWhy wives often feel shock, fear, anger, grief, and like they’re “going crazy”—and why that response makes senseHow processing pain over and over is normal (not nagging)What “safety” actually means in early recovery and how to rebuild itWhy husbands must drop defensiveness and show up with humility + curiosityThe difference between supporting healing vs. trying to fix your spouse“Betrayal blindness” (Michelle Mays) and giving yourself permission to name harmA Christian frame: James 1 and building endurance/resilience without minimizing painResources mentionedThe Relational Soul (Plass & Cofield)Concept of “betrayal blindness” (Michelle Mays)CrossPoint Ministry Soul Care NetworkConnect with LindseyEmail: [email protected]: Book time with LindseyWork with Michael / Restoration Soul CareDownload the Reclaim Quick-Start Guide to quit porn and rebuild trust: rscky.comCoaching, groups, and resources: rscky.comDM Michael or Nick on Instagram @mikekamber @nickwbudaIf this episode helped, share it with someone who needs it and leave a review. Don’t do it alone. Get help, get honest, and take the next step today.

You do take up space in people’s lives. You do “bother” your spouse. Good. Do it on purpose and do it with love!This episode dives into what it actually means to care for others in community—especially in recovery. Michael and Nick unpack how love isn’t just a feeling, but a choice to seek another’s good at your own expense. They talk about why presence matters more than fixing, how to receive love before trying to give it, and why isolation always kills growth. It’s an honest look at how real connection—spiritual, emotional, and physical—is built one intentional act of care at a time.In this episode we coverFour kinds of love (fast + useful): phileo (friendship), storge (family allegiance), eros (passion; notably not used in the NT as a verb), agape (God’s self-giving love)Agape made concrete: John 13–17; “no greater love” = your good at my expensePresence > fixing: why texting isn’t enough, why a phone call is better, and why in-person is best (“borrow the calm”)Bearing burdens without controlling outcomes: Gal. 6:2 as the gut-check for real careReceiving before giving: if you can’t receive love, you’ll have nothing real to offer (Luke 7:36–50)Emotional presence for men: what it looks like to sit with anger, sadness, fear—without fixing or fleeingCompassion as an anchoring emotion: Jesus with the Samaritan woman (John 4); attunement before adviceStop the “pornified” quick fix: community is cultivated, not hacked—take the first small step and stayLinks & resourcesFree Quick Start Guide: rscky.com/quickstartCoaching / Next Step: rscky.comInstagram: @mikekamber • @nickwbuda DM “FREEDOM” on IG to get connected.If you’re new hereStuck in isolation? Start small. Show up somewhere this week. Ask one person for coffee. Say, “I don’t need you to fix anything—just be with me.”

How to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind.In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael Kamber and Nick Buda sit down with Kyle Idleman, teaching pastor at Southeast Christian Church and author of Every Thought Captive and Not a Fan.Together they dig into one of the most critical topics facing the Church today: how to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind. Kyle brings decades of pastoral experience and deep biblical insight to a conversation that bridges faith, neuroscience, and emotional healing.They explore:Why shame never leads to true change—and how vulnerability does.The connection between neuroscience and spiritual transformation.Why both men and women are impacted by today’s pornified culture.How cognitive and biblical truth align in the process of healing.Practical steps to take every thought captive and retrain your brain.If you’ve struggled with pornography, shame, or unwanted sexual behavior, this conversation will give you hope and a clear path toward freedom.🎧 Listen now and remember: Don’t do this alone.🔗 Resources & Links:Restoration Soul Care – Coaching, groups, and resources for recoveryEvery Thought Captive – Kyle IdlemanThe Quit Porn Quick Start Guide - Michael Kamber Follow Michael on Instagram: @mikekamberFollow Nick: @nickwbuda