Enough, the Podcast

What happens when you finally achieve the thing you wanted… and still feel weirdly unchanged?
In this episode, I'm joined by author, musician and meditation teacher Cory Allen for a conversation about ambition, creativity, overachievement and the strange emotional flatness that can follow success.
We explore why so many high achievers quietly expect achievement to do something it was never designed to do: finally make them feel enough.
In this episode we explore:
Why achievement often fails to deliver the feeling we expected

The exhausting cycle of striving, arriving, and immediately moving the goalposts

Mimetic desire and how we learn what to want by watching other people

The hidden fear beneath obsessive, brittle overachievement

Cory's idea of "rotating the prism" — and how changing the way we look at disappointment can completely change our experience of it

LINKS
Cory Allen's website & books
Cory on Instagram
Mandy on Instagram
Meg Josephson episode

You say "yes", and almost immediately your body knows…argh, I've done it again. This episode is about that moment where you override your exhaustion and capacity in favour of taking something on. There are plenty of reasons why we do this, and my guest today helps to explain what might be going on there. Author and clinical psychologist, Dr Claire Plumbly, helps me to unpack a particular pattern of burnout – not the dramatic, can't-get-out-of-bed version, but the high-functioning one. The kind where you push, recover just enough to be convincing, and then go again… until that starts to feel like your personality rather than a pattern. This conversation is less about frenetic burnout, and more about what beliefs might be burning beneath it. We get into why knowing something isn't sustainable rarely translates into doing anything differently. You'll learn how frenetic burnout quietly reinforces itself through reward and identity, and why the very traits that make someone exceptional at work can make it difficult to step back from it.
Claire Plumbly's website and book
Claire on Instagram
Mandy on Instagram
Jo Rodriguez episode

You know about people pleasing. You've heard about the fawn response. You might even recognise it in yourself: the self-silencing, the conflict avoidance, the version of you that keeps the peace while something quietly fumes underneath.
And yet, you still said nothing in that meeting last week.
This episode is about the gap between understanding yourself and actually changing — and it's one of my favourite conversations to date.
My guest is Meg Josephson, psychotherapist and NYT bestselling author of Are You Mad at Me? Rather than explaining the fawn response from a theoretical distance, we do something harder. We take real scenarios apart together, a coach and a therapist, both with skin in this game. We get inside the moments that cost high achievers the most — the freeze that happens in a meeting, the conflict you've been circling for months, the 2am replay — and we pull them apart from two very different angles.
We get into why people pleasing isn't a personality flaw, but a nervous system response learned long before you had the corner office. Why the higher you've climbed, the more sophisticated your self-silencing becomes. And why — this is the bit that stopped me — conflict doesn't have to mean rupture. 
If you've ever walked out of a conversation frustrated with yourself for going quiet, this one is for you.
In this episode: The fawn response and why it shows up in high achievers. The link between conflict avoidance and childhood. What's actually happening in your body when you freeze. Practical, somatic tools for staying in the room when everything in you wants to bolt. The difference between reassurance-seeking and validation. And why knowing isn't the same as changing.
Join us. *You might need a note pad – she's that good.
Links: 
Meg Josephson's website & book
Meg on Instagram
Mandy on Instagram

You know the moment: you've chosen to be clearer, less accommodating, a bit braver. And it feels good… for about two seconds. Then the wobble comes. That tightening in your chest. That playback in your head. The urge to explain or undo what you just said.
In today's episode, I talk with Jon Prince — former professional poker player, coach, and author of Start Before You're Ready — about exactly that: how to hold your nerve when you raise the stakes, and your nervous system screams for relief.
Poker isn't just about cards. It's about emotional control under pressure. If you make a move to calm yourself down, you lose. The skill is staying in the hand while your body wants to fold.
We dig into what actually happens after you make a brave choice in life: the growth hangover, the inner critic revving up, the post-boundary shake, and the real work of sitting in tension without fixing, rescuing, or smoothing it over.
This episode will resonate if you've ever:
said something aligned and then questioned it

chosen a new way of being and felt exposed

held silence and wanted to fill it

wondered if holding your ground meant you were too much

Jon's perspective brings both the rawness of real nervous systems and the wisdom of real growth.
If you've ever been braver than usual and then wanted to take it back, this conversation is for you.
 
LINKS
Jon Prince on Instagram
Jon Prince's Book, Start Before You're Ready
Jon Prince's Website
Christopher Sexton – Instagram (poet of the quote we opened with)

Have you ever thought, If I just fixed that one thing, I'd finally feel OK?
In this episode of Enough, the Podcast, we're talking about body image, shame, and the quiet fix-it logic so many women live inside — especially in midlife.
My guest, Kate Gies, was born without an ear and underwent 14 reconstructive surgeries as a child, each one promising to finally make her whole. What she learned — far earlier than most of us — is that fixing the body rarely delivers the relief it promises.
This conversation isn't about giving up on your appearance. It's about questioning what you're asking your appearance to do for you.
We explore:
Why the beauty industry relies on low-grade shame to keep us fixing

How body image becomes a stand-in for deeper questions about worth

The myth that one more improvement will finally make you feel enough

What wholeness looks like when it isn't tied to perfection

How to tell the difference between choice and conditioning

If you've ever negotiated with your reflection…
If you care about how you look and resent how much it matters…
If you're curious about what changes when appearance stops being proof of your worth…
This episode will land. Press play and consider what might be driving your appearance-related decisions – zero judgment; no fixing (or solutions;) just pure curiosity. 
 
LINKS
Kate Gies's website (and her book, It Must Beautiful To Be Finished).
Kate Gies on Instagram.
Mandy Lehto on Instagram.