IN IT with Jordan Harper and Ashley Buckler

If you’re someone who feels mostly fine but wants to get ahead of perimenopause, start here. The first signs show up years before your period changes, and they’re easy to miss.

Dr. Jila Senemar is a board-certified OB-GYN and founder of JilaMD and the Miami Menopause Collective. She explains why sleep disruption, anxiety, mood changes and brain fog usually come before hot flashes. She also shares why ferritin is a test you have to ask for by name, and why testosterone matters for women well beyond libido. She ends with the five habits she wants every woman building in her 30s and 40s, along with how to find a provider who will take your symptoms seriously.

Wherever you are in this chapter, you’re not the only one feeling it, and you may have more options than you’ve been told.

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If you’re someone who keeps your foot on the gas because this season of life doesn’t leave room to slow down, this conversation is about staying there without burning out.

Ashley’s mom, Pam, joins us to talk about where healthy stress ends and burnout begins, and what to do when you feel yourself sliding.

Drawing on research from neuroscientist Dr. Terry Wu, Pam explains the difference between chronic stress, burnout, and depression, and why dopamine is the fuel that keeps you in your peak performance zone. We talk about the three things that lower stress (control, predictability, and progress), why a fishing trip a few times a year is a vacation and not an outlet, and how rest doesn’t always have to look slow. Pam also shares what her Whoop taught her about sleep, why she traded her headphones for a speaker turned all the way up, and how leaders can keep their teams out of burnout with autonomy, clear communication, and small wins celebrated in real time.

The work will always be there. We hope this helps you make room for yourself anyway.

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If you're someone with a shelf full of half-used products who still isn't seeing results, this conversation is a reset. Your skin starts changing in your 30s and 40s, and we are launching a cleanser to support those changes!

In this conversation we dive into why Barefaced took six years to launch a cleanser and the three questions every product has to answer before it comes to market. We talk about what your skin starts losing as you age (collagen, elastin, and hyaluronic acid) and why most cleansers focus on taking away when your skin actually needs something given back. Jordan walks through the 10 visible signs of aging, the core four products every routine is built on, and why a routine that protects, prevents, repairs, and corrects will outperform a 12-step lineup of similar products. Ashley shares how one consistent routine took her skin from dull at 27 to glowing at 33, and why letting an expert do the thinking takes one more thing off her mental load.

Here's to boring routines that actually work, and to growing into this next chapter together.

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If you're someone who feels guilty lying on the couch while your spouse is up and moving, or who fills every spare minute so you never feel like you're wasting time, you'll recognize yourself in this conversation. Mom guilt is real, but a lot of it is a story we tell ourselves.

This is a girlfriend chat about mom guilt and where it actually comes from. We talk about why our worth isn't tied to our productivity, how the expectations we carry often trace back to the way we were raised, and why setting your own standards (like being home for bedtime or capping how many nights you travel) can loosen guilt's grip.

We get honest about trying to be full-time at everything, the trad wife and girl boss algorithms pulling us in opposite directions, and why being a seven out of 10 in some areas right now is more than okay. We also talk about protecting your energy, staying connected to friends when you can't keep up with the group chat, and why the words you put after I am matter so much.

Wherever you are in this season, you're not navigating it alone.

Mentioned in this episode:

Essentialism by Greg McKeown Start with Yourself by Emma Grede

Hype song: New Name Written Down in Glory by Charity Gayle and David Gentiles

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If you've ever wondered whether you can really have it all, or felt behind because your life isn't following someone else's timeline, this conversation is a reset.
We sat down with Anne Mahlum, founder of [solidcore] and the nonprofit Back on My Feet, to talk about going all in without a plan B, knowing your number before you exit, and why your money mindset matters no matter what's in your bank account. Anne also opens up about meeting her husband at 42 and becoming a mom at 45, and why there's no such thing as early or late.
However your story is unfolding, we hope this reminds you there's no wrong order to build a life you love.
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