It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People

In this conversation, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of emotional math in toxic relationships, where positive experiences are often met with negativity. She explains how the toxic individuals in these relationships operate under a scarcity mindset, leading to insecurity and competition over emotional resources. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own successes and not minimizing them due to the reactions of others. The discussion also highlights the predictability of toxic behaviors, allowing individuals to better navigate their relationships and own their happiness.See the servies that Dr Heidi offers to help you better understand your situation.https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/Also check out her sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired' where she talks all about the after affects and emotional wreckage that is left over after the toxic relationship has ended.https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA

In this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the complexities of toxic relationships, and how we often second guess ourselves when attempting to find answers. She emphasizes how important both validation and understanding are in moving forward . She shares her personal experiences and insights on recognizing toxic behaviors, the predictability of such patterns, and the necessity of observing and documenting these behaviors for personal growth. The conversation aims to empower listeners to differentiate between normal and toxic dynamics in relationships, ultimately guiding them towards healing and self-awareness.

Here is the link to the new sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired'.https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTAIn this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the unseen complexities of toxic relationships and the journey towards healing and self-acceptance. She introduces her new podcast, 'Fak'n Tired,' which aims to provide support for those challenged by life after toxic relationships. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of understanding the nervous system's role in our reactions and behaviors, and encourages listeners to strive for the element of understanding the residual effects that you may be experiencing. Her wish is that you too can find independence and peace. The conversation highlights the need for sustainable support, the recognition of internal changes, and understanding things that may show up after leaving toxic environments.

In this conversation, I discusses the complexities of emotional abuse and its long-lasting effects on individuals. I am choosing to emphasize that there are no truly good days in emotionally abusive relationships, as the perceived good days are often manipulated by the abuser to control the victim's feelings and reactions. I explain the difference between emotions and feelings, and how emotional abusers use language and behavior to distort their victims' perceptions of their own feelings, leading to confusion and dependency.

Listener question: My former has turning himself into the victim & it seems to be getting worse as negotiations move forward.