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#116 The Psychology of Super Orgasms: Female Pleasure, Desire & Expanded Sexual Response with Mae
14/07/2026 | 1h 5 mins.Can some women experience super orgasms?
In this episode I chat with down with Mae —educator, former professor, and creator whose work has placed her at the centre of thousands of deeply personal conversations about sexuality, fantasy, insecurity, and pleasure.
We explore:
Super orgasms and Expanded Sexual Response (ESR).
Male sexuality and vulnerability.
Consent, communication and respect.
Kink and human connection.
Sexual confidence.
Why pleasure matters more than performance.
Research article: Five Cases with Expanded Sexual Response (ESR).
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See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.- What happens when one of the world's leading sexuality educators spends decades teaching people that power, creativity, and pleasure can coexist?
In this episode I sit down with Midori—international sexuality educator, author, artist, and one of the pioneers who introduced Shibari and conscious BDSM to Western audiences.
We explore:
The psychology of Shibari.
Female dominance and leadership.
ForteFemme.
Creativity and eroticism.
Sexuality education.
The future of BDSM and Shibari.
Research article: Role Congruity Theory of Prejudice Toward Female Leaders.
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Emma
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. - What if the most important skill in exploring your sexuality wasn't confidence—but curiosity?
In this episode I chat with That_Scientist to explore the psychology of curiosity, brat dynamics, bisexuality, kink education, and why asking better questions may be one of the most powerful tools we have for understanding desire.
We explore:
The psychology of curiosity.
Discovering bisexuality later in life.
BDSM and sexual health.
Asking better questions.
Self-discovery through kink.
Erotic psychology.
Research article: Sexual health promotion and sti prevention on the margins: kink, bdsm, and sexually adventurous women.
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See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. #113 How to Learn BDSM Safely: Choosing the Right Kink Educator with AncillaL
03/07/2026 | 1h 12 mins.How do you find good educators of BDSM?
In this episode educator and author AncillaL returns to the podcast to explore one of the most important—and surprisingly overlooked—topics in kink: BDSM education.
We explore:
How to choose a BDSM educator.
BDSM mentorship.
Communities of practice.
Skill-based vs role-based learning.
Education versus advertising.
Building critical thinking in BDSM.
Research article: Kink Community Education: Experiential Learning and Communities of Practice.
Connect with AncillaL:
https://fetlife.com/AncillaL
https://www.patreon.com/c/ancillal?vanity=user
https://www.instagram.com/ancillarykinksupport?igsh=MXYzeHBoZWliZjFmZw==
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Science-backed libido support:
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Stay perverted,
Emma
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.- What happens when you're both dominant and submissive—and both feel completely authentic?
In this episode I chat with Matcha to explore the psychology of switching, the emerging FemDaddy archetype, BDSM identity, power exchange, and the freedom that comes from embracing every side of yourself.
We explore:
BDSM switches and switch identity.
FemDaddy dynamics.
Forced feminisation.
Gender expression in kink.
Communication and empathy.
Research article: “Switch it up”: A qualitative analysis of BDSM switches,
Supporters of The Erotic Realm:
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Innovative Sex Tech:
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Luxus here.
Lovense here.
Science-backed libido support:
Flow supplement here.
Desire supplement here.
Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? Register Here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
Visit psychologyofdesire.com to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.
Thanks for listening!
Stay perverted,
Emma
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The Erotic Realm is the world's leading Erotic Psychology podcast, exploring the psychology of desire, kink, intimacy and erotic identity through conversations with kinksters, researchers, educators and experts.Hosted by Emma, Sexologist and founder of Psychology of Desire, each episode explores the erotic realm of an individual one on one with a deep dive into their erotic psychology.Join Emma and discover what your desires might be trying to teach you.www.psychologyofdesire.com
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