The Erotic Realm

What if Shibari wasn't simply about rope—but about learning a new way to communicate?
In this episode I chat with internationally recognised Shibari artist Marie Sauvage to explore the psychology of presence, embodiment, ritual, and the artistic language of Japanese rope bondage.
We explore:
How Shibari became Marie's artistic language.
Why rope is about communication, not just restraint.
Presence, embodiment, and interoceptive awareness.
The role of trust in Japanese rope bondage.
Why Marie sees performances as rituals rather than demonstrations.
A feminine perspective on contemporary Shibari.
Research article: Researchers Price and Hooven have explored the role of interoceptive awareness—our ability to notice and understand what's happening inside our bodies.
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Can men experience multiple orgasms - and if so, why aren't more people talking about it?
In this episode I speak with men's sexuality coach Jim Benson to explore the psychology of masculine desire, tantra, erotic confidence, and the surprising science behind the multi-orgasmic man.
We explore:
What it means to become a multi-orgasmic man.
The difference between orgasm and ejaculation.
How tantra transforms male sexuality.
Overcoming sexual shame and performance anxiety.
Awakening the "sexual animal within".
Why presence creates better sex.
Research article: Male multiple orgasms: a descriptive study.
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Science-backed libido support:
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What happens when healing from trauma changes the way you understand your desires?
In this episode I chat with with Big_Bear_Hug to explore the psychology of trauma, boundaries, erotic identity, and the lifelong process of becoming ourselves.
We explore:
The relationship between trauma and desire.
Learning healthy boundaries inside and outside kink.
Navigating triggers within BDSM spaces.
Finding a kink-aware therapist.
Becoming a "Desire Fulfilment Entity".
Belonging beyond labels.
Research article: Questioning Gender and Sexual Identity in the Context of Self-Concept Clarity, Sense of Coherence and Value System.
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Innovative Sex Tech:
Lioness here.
Kiiroo here.
Luxus here.
Lovense here.
Science-backed libido support:
Flow supplement here.
Desire supplement here.
Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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Emma
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Why is finding the right help for a sexual concern still so difficult?
In this episode I’m joined by Michael Corner, founder of Orgasmic Wellness, to explore the fragmented systems surrounding sexual health—and what it might take to connect people with better care.
We explore:
What sexual wellness actually includes.
Why finding the right sex therapist or practitioner is difficult.
The barriers preventing people from seeking sexual-health support.
What makes Orgasmic Wellness different from searching Google.
The future of integrated sexual health and wellbeing.
Supporters of The Erotic Realm:
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Innovative Sex Tech:
Lioness here.
Kiiroo here.
Luxus here.
Lovense here.
Science-backed libido support:
Flow supplement here.
Desire supplement here.
Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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Thanks for listening!
Stay perverted,
Emma
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How do you build the world's largest BDSM community?
In this episode I chat down with John Baku, the founder of FetLife, to explore the psychology behind one of the most influential platforms in modern kink.
We explore:
How FetLife was created.
The psychology of building online communities.
Why belonging is so important for kinky people.
The future of FetLife and BDSM education.
Community safety, moderation, and transparency.
Advice for people joining FetLife for the first time.
Research article: The Benefits of Facebook “Friends:” Social Capital and College Students’ Use of Online Social Network Sites.
Supporters of The Erotic Realm:
Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.
Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.
ProDx Health at home STI testing here.
Innovative Sex Tech:
Lioness here.
Kiiroo here.
Luxus here.
Lovense here.
Science-backed libido support:
Flow supplement here.
Desire supplement here.
Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you.
Thanks for listening!
Stay perverted,
Emma
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