The Hidden Mindset Making You Burned Out & Lonely —And the Stanford Fix No One Talks About
What if one hidden belief in your 20s is the reason you’re broke and single? In this episode the Tiger Sisters decode “The Scarcity Trap.” Cherie Brooke Luo and Jean Luo share the Stanford communication insight that reveals how a single mindset can sabotage promotions and dating before you even open your mouth — and break down the tiny rewires that flip you into abundance.You’ll learn:▫️ The scarcity sentence recruiters and first dates hear in your tone—before you speak a word▫️ Why “waiting for perfect timing” quietly drains years of income and romance potential▫️ The 3-V Formula (visual, verbal, vocal) that locks in lasting first impressions▫️ A Stanford-inspired scarcity audit you can run in five minutes tonightSubscribe & tap the 🔔 so you don’t miss the next episode, and drop a comment and rate us ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. ⏰ Timestamps00:00 Intro – Escaping the Scarcity Trap01:06 Quick subscribe and merch break01:16 Scarcity defined: dating, people-pleasing, self-worth03:10 “Do I even like them?” – flipping the relationship script05:04 First fix: swap fear DMs for growth asks06:00 Don’t take it personally: the freedom of detachment07:16 Eldest daughter energy & people-pleasing traps08:19 It’s not about you – and that’s a relief11:11 Dating in your 20s: fun over future13:08 Hard truth: stop dating for potential14:24 The “builder” trap women fall into15:00 Actions over words: the marathoner with no plan16:49 Love is not enough (and other 30s truths)17:39 You’re marrying a lifestyle, not just a person19:15 Trust your gut: the body knows before your brain20:21 Breakups, regret, and the fear of short-term pain22:35 Intuition as data: future science incoming24:07 Scarcity in dating: trust signals, not surface25:14 Career: relationships matter more than grind26:03 FOMO story: when FaceTime beats emails27:23 Invest in people, not just productivity28:44 Risk vs regret: why your 30s are for courage30:20 Grind builds confidence — but it’s not everything34:02 Grinding doesn’t equal growth in every context35:38 The brutal truth: jerks don’t scale--------------------------------------------------------------🐯👯♀️ Tiger Sisters — Your Silicon Valley & Wall Street Big SistersDecoding Money • Power • Love✨ New episodes every Monday We turn Harvard and Stanford MBA case studies and hard‑won tech & finance lessons into frameworks you can use this week.What you’ll get (and keep)▫️ 🚀 Ivy League Cheat Sheets in 30 min – no $250 K tuition required▫️ Recession‑Proof Personal Finance Rules – salary jumps, automated investing, psychology of money▫️ Networking Scripts that Work – DMs behind Goldman offers, $100M+ deals, & Fortune 500 partnerships▫️ Exclusive Sit‑downs with billionaire investors, unicorn founders, & media powerhouses▫️ Mindset & Life Design Resets – growth mindset drills minus the pricey career coach▫️ Wellness • Fashion • Habit Hacks that survive 12‑hour workdays, travel, and funWhy trust us?▫️ Cherie Brooke Luo – 100 M+ views demystifying big tech, finance, entrepreneurship, & MBA life▫️ Jean Luo – ex‑Goldman, ex‑Snapchat exec, 50+ AI patents, startup investor & advisor▫️ Together: 4 Ivy degrees • built billion‑dollar product lines • two startups – translated into plain English so anyone can level‑up.--------------------------------------------------------------💛 LET'S CONNECT: ~ CHERIE ~🤳🏻 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/cherie.brooke 📱 TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@cherie.brooke ✍🏻 My Substack – https://cherieluo.substack.com/ 👩🏻💻 LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherie-luo/ ~ JEAN ~🤳🏻 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/jeanluo_/👩🏻💻 LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanluo 🎵 Music produced by Sammy Signal https://open.spotify.com/artist/2HsyknHuxhT8RoZfn5rqMS🛍️ Items Referenced:🍵 Sisters Matcha & SISTERS Merch: www.sistersmatcha.com🌀 Everything else: https://amzn.to/3z0dx5b