Welcome to the Desire on Fire podcast! (Formerly With Pleasure)
We're Aimee Batuski and Ellie Montgomerie, intimacy experts and two best friends on a mission...
099: Why You Can’t Do This Work Alone – The Power of Community in Feminine Reclamation
If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much self-work you do, you still end up in the same patterns—this episode is for you. Ellie and Aimee are back in the studio, fresh from their Sacred Union weekend, reflecting on one of the biggest revelations of their work: awareness alone is not enough. You can read all the books, listen to all the podcasts, and even go to therapy—but without the right community, deep transformation remains just out of reach. In this conversation, they share their personal journeys of healing within sisterhood, why we were never meant to do this alone, and how community is the missing piece in feminine embodiment. They also extend an invitation into Feminine Reclamation, their signature mentorship program, designed to take this work beyond awareness and into embodied transformation. If you’re feeling called into deeper support, real sisterhood, and a space where you don’t have to hold it all alone—this is your invitation. Key Themes & Highlights: Why Awareness Isn’t Enough – The truth about why self-awareness alone won’t break your patterns or create lasting change. The Cost of Isolation – Why so many women struggle with intimacy, trust, and feminine embodiment when they try to “figure it out” alone. How Sisterhood Heals – The profound impact of being seen, witnessed, and held by women who won’t let you shrink. Ellie’s Personal Reckoning – A raw, behind-the-scenes look at how she confronted her own resistance to support and what finally shifted everything. Releasing the Teacher-Student Dynamic – The radical shift in their leadership model and why they refuse to be put on a pedestal. The Invitation Into Feminine Reclamation – What it looks like to walk this path in an intimate, high-level mentorship space where transformation isn’t just possible—it’s inevitable. Listen now and step into the conversation. 📍 Apply for Feminine Reclamation: www.femininereclamation.com 📍 Join the conversation on Instagram: @desireonfire 📍 Sign up for our mailing list to be kept up to date on all our upcoming events and offerings This is your moment to say yes to deeper support, to being truly seen, and to reclaiming your feminine power within a sisterhood that won’t let you forget who you are. Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
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098: Embodying the Queen: The Shift from Control to Deep Feminine Power
What does it really mean to embody the Queen? In this episode, we’re diving into the Queen archetype—not as a title you achieve, but as a way of being. We explore the shift from immature feminine psychology to mature feminine embodiment, and why so many women unknowingly stay stuck in patterns of control, resentment, and unmet desires. If you’ve ever found yourself trying to fix, manage, or lead a man, or wondering why relationships feel exhausting rather than deeply nourishing—this conversation is for you. In This Episode, We Explore: Why being the Queen isn’t about perfection—but about showing up fully in your power How to shift from control, chasing, and overgiving to trust, magnetism, and deep receiving The key patterns keeping women stuck in their immature feminine psychology The role of community and sisterhood in feminine transformation (why you can’t do this alone) What it means to be great with men—and how this changes everything in love & relationships This episode is an invitation to step into your Queen energy and explore what it means to be a fully embodied, sovereign woman. Join Us for Embodying the Queen (Free Virtual Workshop!) If this conversation speaks to you, join us for our free, live workshop, Embodying the Queen. 📍 Tuesday, February 11th, 6:30-8PM CST on Zoom 💫 Can’t make it live? RSVP to receive the replay. This is your space to step into the Queen energy you were made for. Save your spot here: 👉 www.embodyingthequeen.com Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
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097: Blindfolded Beginnings: How our Retreat Sparked Audrey & Hunter’s Love Story
Join us in this intimate conversation with Audrey and Hunter as they share their transformative love story, sparked by the practices and community of Desire on Fire. From Hunter’s experience in “The Forge" men’s session to the life-changing blindfold exercise at our February, 2024 retreat, this episode explores the power of truth-telling, the challenges of authentic connection, and the profound growth that comes from sacred union. Whether you're seeking love, deeper intimacy, or personal evolution, this episode will inspire you to embrace the courage it takes to transform for deeper love. Plus, discover the magic of the upcoming "Sacred Union" immersion (January 17-19, 2025) and how it can unlock new possibilities for your relationships. Highlights: How transformational work fosters authentic relationships. The powerful exercise that brought Audrey and Hunter together. Navigating roles, triggers, and growth in a conscious partnership. A deep dive into the archetypes of the "King" and "Queen" in modern relationships. Gratitude for the Desire on Fire community and its impact. Our Invitation: Ready to dive into your own transformative journey? Join us at the "Sacred Union" immersion this January 17-19, 2025. Sign up today and explore the power of truth-telling, polarity, and connection. Links Mentioned: Register for Sacred Union: https://www.sacredunion.live Follow us on Instagram for updates: Desire on Fire 🔥 Join us for our FIRST-EVER 3-day immersion for both women AND men: Sacred Union January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX. First 40 tickets sold at super early bird price! Claim yours here: www.SacredUnion.Live Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
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096: The Cost of Being Fake Online - With Aimee, Ellie & Rob
This week we sat down with Ellie’s husband Rob, who candidly shared his perspective on the pitfalls of social media and marketing (this is NOT your typical conversation about these topics!). We discussed our responsibility as facilitators of transformational work and how we can share our work with integrity. Whether you’re in the coaching industry or not, we think you’ll get a lot from this conversation and examining if your use of social media is serving you or not. Join us IN-PERSON for Sacred Union: our 3-day immersion for women & men (singles AND couples!), taking place January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX: www.SacredUnion.live Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
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095: Aimee and Ellie share vulnerable life updates
Aimee and Ellie sit down to catch up and share the shifts they’re experiencing as they come out of their sabbatical/maternity leave! Aimee shares why she hit “pause” on her dating life, and Ellie shares her recent initiations as a new mom of two. Sign up to join us IN-PERSON for Sacred Union: our 3-day immersion for women & men, taking place January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX: www.SacredUnion.live Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
Welcome to the Desire on Fire podcast! (Formerly With Pleasure)
We're Aimee Batuski and Ellie Montgomerie, intimacy experts and two best friends on a mission to help YOU put pleasure first and own your feminine power.
If you are ready to become a powerful agent of change, who allows your desires to lead the way as you step into a whole new world of freedom, manifestation, and ease, then you're in the right place!
On this podcast we interview friends, lovers, experts, and thought leaders to remind you that no matter how big, wild, or taboo your desires are... you CAN have it all.
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