Dad Starting Over

A lot of men reach a point where they say something quietly and honestly:
“I did everything right… and it still fell apart.”
I hear this all the time from men who showed up, stayed loyal, worked on themselves, went to therapy, avoided conflict, and tried to be good partners.
And yet the relationship still deteriorated.
The attraction faded.
The resentment crept in.
I explain why “doing everything right” often becomes the problem.
We’ll talk about:
How being patient, understanding, and accommodating can slowly erase you
Why avoiding conflict kills attraction and self-respect
How over-functioning turns good men into manageable men
Why some men work on themselves and suddenly see the relationship clearly
And why doing the right thing doesn’t always mean doing the healthy thing
This isn’t about blaming women.
And it’s not about becoming cold or selfish.
It’s about understanding how self-abandonment sneaks into long-term relationships — and why some men outgrow a relationship the moment they stop disappearing.
If you’ve ever felt exhausted, resentful, or confused about how things still went wrong, this one will probably hit close to home.
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Most men in sexless marriages did exactly what they were told to do.
They opened up more.
They communicated better.
They became more emotionally available.
They went to therapy.
And somehow, the sex life didn’t come back.
In many cases, it disappeared completely.
In this episode, I explain why that happens — especially when you’re married to a dismissive-avoidant partner.
We’ll talk about:
Why “more emotional connection” can actually create less attraction
How anxious and avoidant attachment styles quietly kill desire
Why many men work on themselves and then realize the relationship itself isn’t healthy
Why dismissive-avoidant partners often resist getting help
And why effort and effectiveness are not the same thing in long-term relationships
This isn’t about blaming women.
It’s about understanding dynamics most men were never taught — and why doing everything “right” can still lead to a sexless marriage.
If you’re confused, frustrated, or starting to question your relationship, this conversation will likely hit close to home.
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A lot of men end up believing things like “women cheat more,” “women want sex more than men,” or “most women cheat”.
Those beliefs don’t usually come from careful analysis.
They come from pain.
I break down why these stories feel so convincing — especially for analytical, system-oriented, and neurodivergent men — and why certainty often feels safer than ambiguity after betrayal, dead bedrooms, and relationship failure.
We’ll talk about:
why men gravitate toward black-and-white explanations
how hidden-truth and conspiracy-style thinking sneaks into relationship beliefs
what the data actually says about libido differences
what long-running surveys show about infidelity
why “women just lie on surveys” isn’t the argument people think it is
and why flattening an entire sex into a slogan quietly keeps men stuck
This isn’t about defending women or blaming men.
It’s about understanding how the male brain copes with uncertainty — and why rigid, comforting stories often cost you more than they protect you.

In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Vogel — fitness and mindset coach, podcast host, and a woman who’s been through divorce herself — for one of the most honest conversations I’ve had about modern relationships.
We talk about what really happens to marriages after kids arrive, why men and women slowly disconnect without realizing it, and how good people end up emotionally checked out years before divorce ever happens.
Melissa opens up about her own marriage, why she drifted away emotionally long before it ended, and what she wishes someone had told her when she was younger. We get into attachment styles, masculine and feminine polarity, why accountability is so rare, and why “love” alone doesn’t save a relationship.
We also tackle the uncomfortable topics most people avoid:
Why attraction fades
Why fitness and self-respect matter more than people admit 
Why men and women cheat for very different reasons
Why second marriages fail so often
And why many couples quietly become roommates instead of lovers
This is the kind of conversation every couple should hear — especially before things break beyond repair.
If you’re married, divorced, dating, or starting over as a man, this one will hit home.
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A lot of men don’t realize they’re codependent.
They just think they’re being “good husbands,” “nice guys,” or “doing the right thing.”
I break down the real, everyday behaviors that point to codependency in men—especially how it shows up in relationships, dead bedrooms, anxious attachment, and emotional burnout.
This isn’t about shaming men.
 It’s about recognizing patterns that quietly destroy attraction, confidence, and self-respect.
If you:
Walk on eggshells in your relationship
Feel responsible for your partner’s emotions
Tie your self-worth to her mood, approval, or sexual interest
Or feel like you’re slowly disappearing inside your own relationship
This video is for you.
I’ll explain why these behaviors develop, why they feel “right” in the moment, and why they usually lead to less intimacy—not more.
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