"My Husband Cheated with 100 Sex Workers… While I Begged for Intimacy"
This letter hit hard.A woman writes in to share her story: 20 years of marriage. Zero sex. She thought he had a medical issue. Turns out, he was sleeping with nearly 100 sex workers behind her back. And now… he wants to reconcile.In this video, I break down what’s really going on here—from the psychology behind sex addiction and shame, to the heartbreaking reality of codependency and emotional devastation.This story isn’t just about one woman’s pain. It’s a wake-up call for both men and women trapped in toxic dynamics.✅ Want to submit your story for a future video?Go to https://deardso.com🌐The HFM Brotherhood (private group for men only): https://helpformen.com/join
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Retroactive Jealousy: Why Her Past Haunts You (And How to Stop Obsessing)
Men ask me all the time: “Why can’t I stop thinking about her past?” You know she had a life before you… but that doesn’t stop your brain from obsessing over every ex, every hookup, every “what if.”This is retroactive jealousy. And it’s more common — and more damaging — than most guys realize.In this episode, I’ll explain the science behind it, how it messes with your head, and what you can do to finally get some peace. This isn’t about shaming you. It’s about helping you understand your own mind — so you can stop sabotaging something good.🔹 Join the Brotherhood (private support group for men):https://helpformen.com/join
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Why Therapists Focus on You (Not Your Avoidant Wife)
Why does it feel like the therapist is always on your case, even when your wife is the one shutting down emotionally?In this video, I explain why anxious men—like many of you—end up being the focus in therapy sessions... and it’s not because the therapist is against you. It's because you're actually the one most likely to change and grow.We’ll talk science, psychology, and real-life patterns I’ve seen in hundreds of men who come to Help For Men. I’ll walk you through:Why anxious men are more likely to do the workWhy avoidant women tend to resist therapyWhat the data says about who actually becomes secureHow your own healing can change the relationship—or your entire lifeIf you're tired of dragging your wife to therapy while getting all the blame, this one's for you.✅ Join the Brotherhood today: https://helpformen.com/join✅ Read The Dead Bedroom Fix: https://deadbedroomfix.com
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Why So Many Men Are Lonely (And Won’t Admit It)
A lot of men joke about single women dying alone with 12 cats... but here’s the truth: that’s projection.Men are facing a loneliness crisis. We isolate ourselves, chase careers across the country, let friendships die, and pretend we’re fine being “lone wolves.” Then we wake up in our 40s, 50s, and 60s and realize—we’ve built a resume, not a life.In this video, I break down why so many men end up disconnected, how modern culture pushes us to go it alone, and most importantly—what we can do about it.If you're tired of the silence and ready to start building real connection again, you're not alone. This is your wake-up call.👉 Join the Brotherhood: https://helpformen.com/join
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Why So Many Men Are Secretly Controlled by Shame (Especially Around Sex)
Most men carry shame. But they don’t talk about it—especially when it comes to sex.They were raised to be "good boys," "nice guys," and "respectful partners"... but underneath that, many are dealing with something toxic: sexual shame. It wrecks their confidence. It kills their desire. And it silently poisons their relationships.In this video, I break down how sexual shame develops in men, how it fuels codependency and dead bedrooms, and what it takes to finally own who you are as a man—without guilt, without apology.👉 If this hits home, join hundreds of other men doing the work inside the HFM Brotherhood: https://helpformen.com/join📚 Recommended books mentioned:No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert GloverFacing Codependence by Pia MellodyHealing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw
Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place.
I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com
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