When Your Wife Changes After the Baby: Why So Many Men Fall Apart
In this episode, I dive into one of the hardest truths many men face after becoming fathers: the woman you married may not be the same woman after the baby arrives.For a lot of men—especially the more sensitive or anxiously attached ones—this change feels like emotional whiplash. The affection disappears, the intimacy vanishes, and suddenly you feel like a stranger in your own home. I read and discuss a real Reddit post from a man who experienced this after 20 years of marriage... and what his story reveals about millions of couples worldwide.We’ll talk about:Why this shift happens biologically and emotionallyThe reality of “Wife 1.0” vs. “Wife 2.0”How men can respond without falling into resentment or despairWhat to do when your wife refuses counseling or intimacyHow anxious attachment can make this pain even worseAnd why community and brotherhood are vital for recoveryThis is a brutally honest but deeply empathetic look at one of the most misunderstood transitions in modern marriage.👉 Learn more and join our private men’s community: helpformen.com/join 👉 Read related articles on attachment and marriage: helpformen.com
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REBUILD – The Beginning of a New Chapter
In this special episode, I read the introduction to my latest book, REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man. This book is the culmination of over a decade of working with men—through coaching, the Brotherhood community, and my other books. REBUILD is for every man who’s been knocked down by life—divorce, heartbreak, failure—and is ready to rise again stronger, wiser, and more grounded.If you’ve ever felt lost or unsure of your next step, this episode is the perfect place to start.👉 Get your copy of REBUILD at readrebuild.com or on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FX5RM5YT
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The White Knight Who Couldn’t Stop Saving Women
Some men can’t stop trying to “save” broken women. They think it’s love. They think it’s noble. But it’s an addiction — a way of escaping their own pain. In this episode, I read a powerful letter from a man trapped in the “White Knight” pattern and delivers some tough love on how rescuing others can destroy you, your marriage, and your peace of mind.If you’ve ever tried to fix someone who didn’t want to be fixed, or confused pity for love, this one’s going to hit home.Join the Brotherhood! https://helpformen.com/join
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Stop Blaming the Affair Partner — She Made the Choice
A lot of men direct all their anger toward the other guy — the affair partner — when they find out their wife cheated. I get it. It feels easier to hate the outsider than to face what your wife actually did. But at some point, we need to be honest about where the real responsibility lies.In this episode, I respond to a man who wrote in saying he’s still furious at his wife’s affair partner, years after the infidelity ended. We talk about why misplaced anger keeps men stuck, why some “nice guys” absolve their wives of all wrongdoing, and what it really takes to let go and move forward.We also get into his second question: why his wife, who cheated and moved out, still hasn’t followed through with the divorce. Spoiler — she doesn’t get to decide your future.If you’ve ever struggled with letting go after betrayal, this one’s for you.Join the Brotherhood! https://helpformen.com/join
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John’s Breaking Point: Why Some Men Stay in Miserable Marriages
In today’s Dear DSO episode, I read a letter from a guy I’ll call John. He’s reached the end of his rope. His wife drinks heavily, refuses therapy, hasn’t been intimate with him in years, and contributes nothing to the family or household. Meanwhile, John’s doing it all — cooking, cleaning, parenting, working full-time — and he’s still trying to “make it work.”If you’ve ever found yourself trapped in a relationship like this, wondering what’s wrong with you for staying… this one’s going to hit home. I talk about why so many men hang on to something that’s clearly dead, the psychological trap that keeps them stuck, and why the real work isn’t about fixing her — it’s about fixing yourself.I also share what I told John privately about the importance of therapy, male friendships, and finding a group of men who will call you out and help you rebuild your life.👉 Join the Brotherhood: helpformen.com/join 👉 Get early access to my upcoming book REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man: helpformen.com/rebuild
Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place.
I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com
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