Lakan Ubaya Nagsalad on Ancestral Connection, Traditional Medicine, and Gender
- Support Lakan Ubaya’s traditional medicine practice at https://www.the-atang.site/- The BIPOC autistic evaluator he mentioned - the link no longer works sadly: https://www.breakingbarrierstogetherllc.org/Help us sustain this project by contributing to our fundraiser: https://rewilding.cc/bookIn this episode:00:42: Lakan Ubaya Nagsalad (he/it) introduces his Tagalog and Chinoy ancestry and the interconnectedness of his gender, queerness, and neurodivergence01:33: How Lakan Ubaya’s couple’s therapy session led to an unexpected realization — and why it was difficult for it to see itself in the diagnostic criteria at first05:35: The gift of being evaluated by an autistic BIPOC therapist07:13: How an AuDHD diagnosis transformed his relationships and career09:05: How Lakan Ubaya’s traditional Chinese medicine training influence his views on neurodivergence, autism, ADHD, and other common co-occurring health conditions15:08: How whiteness, colonialism, and capitalism shape our views of neurodivergence18:45: Lakan Ubaya’s gender identity journey — and looking beyond whitewashed, colonial concepts of gender22:42: How traditional healers in the Philippines exist beyond colonial concepts of the gender binary and neurotypicality — and why seeking pre-colonial “authenticity” is a myth26:59: “People just assume that I don’t struggle mentally as much as I actually do” — all the tools and scaffolds it relies on to survive28:54: The financial, career, emotional, and energetic costs of being a multiply-disabled queer autigender Asian American person in a capitalist society32:15: Food as a nonverbal, somatic way for Lakan Ubaya’s bicultural and possibly neurodivergent family members to communicate33:42: We gushed about mooncake, Mid-Autumn Festival, and why some Asian autistics prefer it to Lunar New Year35:28: “We have kindred spirits around us all the time” — on connecting with other autistic BIPOC and ancestral practices38:19: How to support Lakan Ubaya’s practice in traditional medicineAccess the transcript for this episode by supporting us at: https://rewilding.cc/book#autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity
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Charlotte Hunter Louttit-Kijekijik on Being Two-Spirit, Métis, and AuDHD
Hire Charlotte! https://www.charlottehunter.ca/Support the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project by pre-ordering a copy of the book: https://rewilding.cc/book 00:43: Charlotte introduces her Métis, Two-Spirit, neurodivergent background02:02: How working as a lawyer and moving back to her childhood home when the Covid pandemic began kickstarted her journeys into seeking an autism diagnosis and gender-affirming care08:56: Charlotte unpacks neurodivergence and Two-Spirit identity in the maternal side of her family11:35: How ADHD and other diagnoses didn’t explain everything for her before her autism diagnosis14:13: How she sees gender-diverse and neurodivergent people in Métis culture express themselves as Two-Spirit16:23: The difficulties she faced in unlearning internalized racism and ableism to access social assistance18:51: The nuances of growing up with male-presenting, white-presenting privilege20:11: Everything that Charlotte’s tried to helped and didn’t help her navigate the challenges of being AuDHD24:48: On the challenges of self-advocacy at the doctor’s office with multiple health conditions26:20: What brings Charlotte most joy in her forties with her family, community, nature, and ancestral reconnection29:53: Charlotte’s biggest advice for newly-identified/diagnosed folks33:43: The biggest thing she wants therapists and healthcare providers to know — especially about their hiring practices — in order to better support queer AuDHD BIPOC37:06: How you can support Charlotte’s work in the Two-Spirit Council, Métis Nation of Ontario, and moreAccess the transcript in our upcoming book by pre-ordering here: https://rewilding.cc/book #autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity
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Kristen on Growing Up Black, Southern, Queer & AuDHD
Support Kristen at:- https://theblackurbanist.com (where you can pre-order the Defying Gentrification Playbook!)- https://theblackurbanist.substack.com/- @blackurbanist and @kristpattern on socialsHelp fund and sustain the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! book and podcast at https://rewilding.cc/book Citations:- Sabrina Strings, Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia- “That is how I learned that if I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.” Quote from Audre Lorde, (1982) “Learning from the 60s.”: https://blackpast.org/african-american-history/1982-audre-lorde-learning-60s/ In this episode:00:54: Kristen (she/they) introduces all her intersections as a 39-year-old disabled Black feminist urbanist, North Carolinan, AuDHDer, and non-binary pansexual person facing the civil rights pullback right now06:32: How she struggled to recognize her AuDHD as a Black Southerner until seeing her friend’s struggles with access and ableism and her partner’s own ADHD diagnosis10:33: The obstacles Kristen faced in obtaining an AuDHD diagnosis due to systemic barriers in US healthcare and health insurance14:44: Why Kristen believes an early diagnosis can become an extra layer of discrimination for Black American kids — and how both the freedom and structure of the college environment helped her thrive17:34: When she noticed her first moments of autistic burnout and meltdown and how she connected them to her possibly autistic father’s misdiagnosis of bipolar disorder18:49: How Kristen’s conservative, religious upbringing shaped the ways in which she viewed social and communication difficulties, mental health, and therapy in college20:22: Their rough transition to the workplace with high stakes and arbitrary rules — and why they want to run their own business instead, especially in the still ongoing Covid pandemic26:49: “Sometimes as Black folks, we don’t even get to get through the door [of the clinic]”27:58: “ Everybody doesn't need to be working as much” — are we showing ourselves enough grace and empathy and honoring ourselves?31:04: How can we work towards balancing everyone’s access needs?32:31: The no. 1 thing Kristen would say to her younger self and other queer AuDHD BIPOC to hold onto who you are and feel seen37:21: If we had a more neurodivergent-friendly world, would we have to resort to hating someone else to get what we need?38:48: Kristen’s support needs wishlist and how you can support all of their creative work — including their upcoming book, “The Defying Gentrification Playbook”Access the transcript in our upcoming book by pre-ordering here: https://rewilding.cc/book #autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity
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Nadeen on Queer Relationships, Self-Validation, and Freelancing while AuDHD
Connect with Nadeen: https://bio.site/nadeenezzySupport the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project by pre-ordering a copy of the book: https://rewilding.cc/book Meet Nadeen, gay Mexican-Lebanese AuDHDer and creative strategist. In this conversation, we talk about: 01:08: The struggles of growing up undiagnosed, out of place, being told you’re too much all the time, and misunderstood during verbal shutdowns02:28: Learning the hard way how masking can look a lot like ‘being agreeable.’03:39: How TikTok helped her discover her AuDHD and how women & BIPOC constantly fly under the autism radar.06:00: Dating across neurotype and race, and surface-level friendships and relationships07:00: Navigating AuDHD with an Lebanese dad who escaped war and a Mexican mom who didn’t recognize her neurodivergence09:20: Why she thrives best as a freelancer and not in an office setting - plus the accommodations she can provide herself at home15:06: How scripting helps her with client interactions on Zoom calls17:16: What brings her the greatest joy — and why it IS possible for autistic people to get tattoos22:50: Her journey from growing up with internalized homophobia to her marriage with her wife26:20: Her advice to her younger self and queer BIPOC learning we’re AuDHD29:12: why being perceived online feels safer than at a concert.31:03: The biggest thing Nadeen wants the world and the government to know.Access the transcript in our upcoming book by pre-ordering here: https://rewilding.cc/book #autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity
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Kaligirwa on Moderate Support Needs, Access Fatigue & Radical Disclosure
Head here now to pre-order your copy of Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! eBook which includes interviews with Kaligirwa and other multiply-marginalized AuDHDers of color.- Follow & support Kaligirwa’s work- Read Kaligirwa’s Substack- Check out Kaligirwa’s post on the models of disability- Note: the ICD-10 still includes Asperger's syndrome, but the ICD-11 does not- Academic with vision loss Annika Konrad coined the term "access fatigue" You can use the timestamps below with content warnings marked to skip potentially triggering content. Meet Rwandan-Canadian AuDHDer Kaligirwa (@blackspectrumscholar, all pronouns) from Quebec, Canada! We talk about:00:01:01: How she was diagnosed with ADHD in early high school — and why many of his challenges weren’t addressed by medication alone00:03:00: Their confusion of going through interpersonal challenges and long assessment waitlists without realizing they were autism-related or receiving adequate support [CW: psychiatric hospitalization]00:09:10: What it’s like to have moderate support needs split across the 2 categories in the DSM-5’s scale of support needs.00:11:16: What online autistic spaces don’t talk about enough re: getting accommodations and support services00:13:30: Kali explains what “Access fatigue” is — and how it wears out disabled people fighting for support00:15:00: The biggest stressors and injustices they face as a Black agender AuDHDer who is read as a woman.00:18:23: Who gets seen as — and excluded from — “the norm” in AuDHD, and how is it reinforced by white supremacy and Global North bias?00:25:00: Kali unpacks the myth of autistics having “a strong sense of justice” and ties it to how marginalized communities were policed for their reactions to the C.K. unaliving in Sep 2025.00:29:36: What brings Kali most joy in different areas of his daily life00:31:00: Why she always discloses their AuDHD status in all settings00:34:25: Kali’s nuanced message to late-diagnosed/identified queer AuDHD BIPOC00:36:00: What they want policymakers and organizations to know about the models of disability they rely on00:37:00: How to support and uplift Kaligirwa’s advocacy and educational work!Support the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! project at https://rewilding.cc/book #autistic #actuallyautistic #adhd #audhd #queeraudhdbipoc #audhdbipoc #qtibipoc #bipoc #neurodivergence #neurodiversity
A book and podcast to help late-diagnosed/identified Autistic and ADHD 2SLGBTQIA+ people of color feel seen, supported, and less alone while living in multiple margins.Support our project at https://rewilding.cc/book - funds go toward our interviewees, the Autistic People of Color Mutual Aid Fund, and my disabled friend Nara, a mother of 2 living with multiple sclerosis and pancreatic cancer.
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