Subtle Shifts with Jennifer Delliquadri

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Allison Alford, social scientist and author of Good Daughtering, to talk about a word that stopped me in my tracks the first time I heard it: daughtering.
Daughtering is the often invisible emotional, mental, and relational labor that adult daughters perform to keep families connected. It’s the planning, the emotional regulation, the phone calls, the checking in, the self-editing, the guilt, and the constant inner pressure to be a “good daughter”—often without realizing how much energy it’s actually costing us.
If you’ve ever felt drained after interacting with your parents, struggled with guilt when you try to pull back, or wondered why loving your family can feel so exhausting, this conversation will resonate deeply.
In our discussion, Dr. Alford and I explore:
What daughtering really is and why it’s considered invisible labor

Why adult daughters often feel like they’re never doing enough

How overfunctioning, people-pleasing, and perfectionism show up in family relationships

Why guilt is so common for women when they consider setting boundaries

How to create compassionate, flexible boundaries that protect relationships rather than damage them

Why awareness—not cutting people off—is the first powerful step toward change

We also talk about how small, intentional shifts (not drastic moves or “no contact” ultimatums) can dramatically improve both your quality of life and your family dynamics over time.
Dr. Alford’s book, Good Daughtering, is now available, and it goes far deeper into these ideas with practical exercises and reflections at the end of each chapter to help you right-size your daughtering in a way that feels aligned, sustainable, and honoring—to both you and your family.
If you are a daughter, love a daughter, or are raising one, this episode is a powerful reminder: you are already a good daughter—and your work matters.

If you’ve ever stepped on the scale, done “all the things,” and felt frustrated when the number didn’t move, this episode is for you. In this episode I’m sharing why the number on the scale can be misleading—and how to track real progress in ways that actually matter.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why the scale isn’t the full picture of your health, especially in midlife

How body composition, muscle gain, and natural fluctuations affect your weight

Non-scale metrics that really show results, including:
Strength improvements

Energy levels and overall well-being

How your clothes fit

Body measurements and mobility

Consistency with habits and showing up for yourself

How to shift your focus from arbitrary numbers to real, lasting results

A simple action step to start tracking non-scale victories this week

If you’ve been letting the scale dictate your mood, confidence, or self-worth, this episode will help you break that cycle and focus on feeling strong, confident, and energized in your body.
And if you want extra support staying consistent, building strength, and achieving your goals, my one-on-one coaching program can help you finally get off the stop-start cycle. Click here to schedule a consultation.

If you’ve ever told yourself “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I just stay motivated?”—this episode is for you.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about why lack of motivation is not laziness, especially for women in midlife. What’s really happening is burnout. And it often shows up disguised as inconsistency, procrastination, brain fog, or giving up on exercise and healthy habits altogether.
After years of coaching moms, teens, and now women in midlife, I see this pattern over and over again: you start strong, push hard, lose energy, fall off, and then blame yourself. But the truth is, motivation is not a reliable resource, especially when you’re overextended, hormonally shifting, and carrying a lot of responsibility.
In this episode, I explain:
Why motivation fades when you’re burned out (and why that’s not a personal failure)

How burnout is actually a nervous system response, not a discipline problem

Why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you stuck in the same cycle

How pushing without recovery leads to shutdown, not progress

I also share three simple, realistic strategies to help you stay consistent with exercise and health goals without forcing yourself:
How to lower the bar without losing momentum

How to build habits around capacity instead of willpower

How to redefine consistency so it actually feels sustainable

If you’re tired of starting over, feeling guilty for needing rest, or believing you need more discipline to stay consistent, this episode will help you shift your pace, not quit your goals.
You’re not lazy.
You don’t need more motivation.
You just need a kinder, more sustainable rhythm.
🎧 Listen in, and if this resonates, share it with a friend who needs permission to slow down and still succeed.
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January starts with so much motivation, fresh energy, and big intentions but for so many women, that momentum fades fast. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of starting strong, falling off, and then blaming yourself for not being “consistent enough,” this episode is for you.
In today’s episode, I’m breaking down what it really takes to stay consistent with new habits, especially in midlife. I’m sharing mindset shifts I’m currently teaching inside a midlife strength training reset group and why nothing is “wrong” with you if you’ve struggled to stick with goals in the past.
We’ll talk about why trying to change everything at once overwhelms your nervous system, how identity plays a bigger role than motivation, and why consistency has far less to do with willpower than most people think. I also share a powerful reframe around short-term goals versus long-term vision, including why overestimating what can happen in one year often leads to self-sabotage.
You’ll learn how to:
Stay consistent with fitness, strength training, and healthy habits in midlife

Stop the start-and-stop cycle without blaming yourself

Build an identity that supports long-term change

Use floor goals and ceiling goals to avoid all-or-nothing thinking

Create motivation through aligned, planned action instead of waiting to “feel ready”

If you’re working on strength training, health, or any habit that keeps falling off your plate, this episode will help you simplify, stay grounded, and build momentum in a way that actually lasts. Small, subtle shifts really do add up and they can change everything.
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Perimenopause and menopause affect every woman, yet far too many of us are still being dismissed, misdiagnosed, or told we’re “too young” for support. In this episode, I sit down with Nikki Kuehl, Family Nurse Practitioner and perimenopause and menopause specialist, to talk honestly about what’s really happening in women’s bodies during this transition—and why mainstream healthcare is still so far behind.
Nikki shares her own personal journey through menopause, what led her to specialize in hormone health, and what she sees every day in women who come to her after being told their symptoms are “just anxiety,” “just depression,” or simply “normal aging.”
In this episode, we talk about:
What perimenopause and menopause actually are and how early symptoms can begin

Common and lesser-known menopause symptoms like brain fog, joint pain, dry skin, sleep disruption, mood changes, and fatigue

The truth about hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and cancer risk in 2026

Why you don’t need to wait until full menopause to explore hormone support

Why antidepressants are so often prescribed instead of addressing hormone imbalance

How estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone impact brain health, bone density, metabolism, and longevity

The role of inflammation, lifestyle, strength training, sleep, stress management, and community in menopause wellness

What to do if your doctor isn’t listening—and how to advocate for your health with confidence

This conversation is especially important for Gen X and millennial women, moms raising daughters, and anyone who wants to understand menopause before it happens—not after years of unnecessary confusion and suffering.
If you’ve ever felt like your body changed overnight, like you don’t recognize yourself anymore, or like you’ve been told to “just deal with it,” this episode is your reminder: it’s not in your head, and you’re not alone.
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