162 The Invisible Rules We Live and Work By with Barb Patterson
We all carry invisible rules, the quiet assumptions that shape how we live, work, and measure success.In this episode, Barb shares a story from a recent leadership retreat that revealed three powerful but often unseen beliefs:• that speed equals excellence,• that output equals worth, and• that what worked before should still work now.These hidden rules can fuel stress and overdrive, even when everything looks “successful” on the surface.When we start to see them clearly, something shifts.We discover that true excellence lives in clarity, not velocity - in presence, not proving. Thank you for listening to the Innerverse of Business and Life Podcast. For more resources like this, visit Barb's website at Barbarapatterson.com. SHOW NOTES:[00:00] - Unveiling Invisible Rules[05:26] - The Cost of Excellence[07:53] - Exploring Assumptions[12:03] - The Velocity Trap[14:36] - Output Equals Worth[19:59] - The Rule of InertiaSHOW LINKS:Subscribe to the podcast on YouTube Follow Barb on LinkedinFollow Barb on Instagram
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161 Freedom in the Dark: Scott Kelly on Rest, Resistance & the Intelligence of Life
What happens when you spend six days in complete darkness, no phone, no light, no distractions, and finally stop trying to hold it all together?In this profound and intimate conversation, Barb Patterson sits down with Scott Kelly, a transformative coach whose experience in a dark retreat revealed what it truly means to let go and trust life.Scott shares how exhaustion, striving, and a lifetime of “it’s all up to me” slowly gave way to deep rest, surrender, and freedom.Together, Barb and Scott explore:The power of darkness to illuminate what’s trueHow nervous system healing opens the door to deeper trustWhy letting go isn’t collapse — it’s alignment with the intelligence of lifeWhat happens when we stop living from survival and start letting life leadA conversation about surrender, aliveness, and the light that finds us when we stop searching for it.Thank you for listening to The Innerverse of Business and Life Podcast! To learn more about Barb visit her website.SHOW NOTES[00:00] - Introduction and Personal Transformations[03:51] - The Dark Retreat Experience[13:06] - Insights from the Dark[22:13] - Integration and Returning to the World[34:20] - Letting Go of Identity[42:25] - Trusting the Process of Change[50:35] - Final Thoughts and ReflectionsSHOW LINKSVisit Scott’s WebsiteConnect with Scott on LinkedinFollow Scott on Instagram
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160 You’re Okay: Davida Arnold on Trusting Life & Living from the Inside Out
What if your okayness was never at risk, no matter the circumstances?In this episode, I’m joined by Board Certified Coach and Educator Davida Arnold for a conversation about what it means to discover that you’re okay - no matter what’s happening around you.Davida shares personal stories from parenting, teaching, and her own journey that reveal how easily we can get caught in the illusion that our happiness depends on others or our circumstances. Through the lens of the inside-out nature of life, she shows how clarity, grace, and well-being are always available within us.We explore the freedom that comes when we stop trying to control life and instead begin to trust the deeper intelligence behind it. From moments with her kids to insights in the classroom, Davida points us toward a truth that is both simple and profound: our okayness is never at risk.SHOW NOTES:[00:00] - Introduction and Background[02:22] - The Inner and Outer Worlds[04:40] - Personal Insights and Transformations[11:05] - Understanding Happiness and Relationships[12:01] - Impact on Education and Teaching[20:31] - Trusting the Process of Life[27:12] - Navigating Challenges in Education[36:48] - The Power of Perspective[38:56] - Final Thoughts and ReflectionsSHOW LINKS:Visit Davida’s WebsiteThank you for listening to this episode! If you are interested in learning more about Barb and Innerverse Academy, you can visit our website at https://barbarapatterson.com/.
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159 Work-Life Balance: Why It Fails—and What Actually Works
We’ve all been told to chase “work-life balance.” Get the calendar right. Set better boundaries. Manage your time better. But what if balance has nothing to do with rearranging the outside?In this episode, Barb Patterson explores why the traditional idea of work-life balance keeps us on a hamster wheel, and a fresh perspective on where to find what you’re looking for. She shares the simple but profound shift that allows you to meet deadlines, demands, and relationships with more clarity, presence, and ease.You’ll hear stories, insights, and practical moves for:• Seeing how your inner climate shapes every outer experience• Letting go of the myth that circumstances dictate your state of mind• Releasing the pressure of “equal time” and instead honoring the season you’re in• Remembering that your worth has nothing to do with productivityIf you’ve ever felt behind, stretched thin, or caught between competing demands, this episode offers a fresh perspective, one that reveals balance is already available to you, right here, in any moment.SHOW NOTES[00:00] – The Myth of Work-Life Balance[05:00] – Understanding Our Inner Climate[09:59] – The Power of Internal Balance[16:20] – Challenging Common Myths[28:41] – Practical Steps to Inner BalanceSHOW LINKSSubscribe to the podcast on YouTube Follow Barb on LinkedinFollow Barb on Instagram
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158 Melissa Ford: From Conceal to Reveal & the Invisible Lens That Shapes Us
What happens when the very lens shaping your world is invisible to you?In this intimate conversation, coach and author Melissa Ford shares her journey of uncovering the deep, unconscious belief that “I don’t matter”, and how that hidden story colored her relationships, her work, and her sense of self.Melissa and I explore the shift from concealing who we are, managing our image, protecting ourselves, controlling how others see us, to the profound freedom that comes when we reveal what’s really true. Along the way, Melissa describes the wake-up calls, messy moments, and liberating insights that transformed her marriage, her coaching practice, and her ability to fully engage with life.If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing, over-controlling, or living under the weight of old conditioning, this conversation is an invitation to see the invisible lens shaping your reality, and to experience the deeper love, connection, and creativity that comes when you reveal rather than conceal.Thank you for listening to The Innerverse of Business and Life Podcast! Don't forget to follow for new episodes every Thursday and visit Barb's website for more resources.SHOW NOTES:[00:00] - Transformation Through Coaching[07:58] - The Journey of Self-Discovery[17:25] - Unraveling Core Beliefs[25:10] - Shifting Perspectives in Relationships[36:48] - The Power of Revealing vs. ConcealingSHOW LINKS:Connect with Melissa on LinkedInVisit Melissa’s website
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