You Gave Your Heart… and They Pulled Away
They pursued you. Said they were ready.Made it feel safe to open up.And then... they left. Or faded. Or got “confused.”Now you're the one left behind — trying to make sense of it all.In this episode of Sappy Hour, JB answers two emotional voicemails:💔 The first — from someone still stuck in the confusion of a breakup that started with deep connection… and ended in silence.🧠 The second — from someone lost after love ended, trying to reconnect to their inner compass and find clarity again.This episode is about the limbo after love. The in-between where you're not who you were… and not yet who you're becoming.—👁️🗨️ What we unpack:Why people pull away after things get real. What “be patient with me” really means.The sacred season of emotional limboHow to rebuild after a breakup without losing yourselfPractical steps for restoring clarity, energy, and self-worthWhy you attract how you feel about yourself (and how to shift that)—📘 JB’s new book Sappy Medium is out now: 📞 Call the Sappy Hotline: 888-444-9461🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube: link—Release & Return Practice (20–40 min)Intention: “I release the version of us that cannot continue, and I return my energy to myself.”What You’ll Need- Paper + pen (2 sheets minimum)- Something safe to burn or tear/shred (bowl, lighter, water, or trash bag)- A small object that represents self (stone, ring, bracelet, necklace, something she’ll see often)- Step 1 – Ground the Body (3 min)Sit or stand with feet on the floor. Inhale through nose 4, hold 2, exhale out mouth 8. Repeat 5 rounds. Then do a 30-second shake out: arms, legs, jaw, shoulders. (Shaking helps discharge sympathetic arousal—trauma-informed practitioners use it to down-regulate.)Cue: “I’m in my body. I’m safe enough to feel this.”- Step 2 – Name the Two Truths (5–7 min writing)On Paper #1, draw a line down the middle.Left column: “What I Loved / What I’ll Miss.” Include the small things: the laugh, road trips, the way he cared about your family.Right column: “What Couldn’t Work / What Cost Me.” Patterns, misalignment, emotional exhaustion, waiting to be chosen, living in maybe.Why: Holding both truths prevents the brain from idealizing or demonizing—key to unhooking.- Step 3 – The Unlived Life Letter (5–10 min)On Paper #2, write a letter beginning:
“To the life we never got to live…”Include: - The future you imagined- What you wanted them to see in you (and her family)- What you hoped the relationship would become- The moment you knew it wouldn’t work- Gratitude for what it awakened- anything else you'd likeA line of release: “I can’t keep waiting at a door that’s closed. I release you to your path and I return to mine.”No edits. This is emotional drainage, not literature.- Step 4 – Read & Feel (3–5 min)Read the letter out loud. When emotion rises, breathe into it—no swallowing tears. Let the body complete the affect cycle.Cue: “This mattered. That’s why it hurts.”- Step 5 – Symbolic Release (2 min)Burn (safely) or tear/shred both sheets. As they transform:Say:
“I release the version of us that lives only in memory. I keep the lessons. I keep my heart. I return my energy to me.”- Step 6 – Anchor the Return (1 min)Hold the small object (stone, ring, etc.) to your chest.Say:
“When I reach for you, I reach for me instead.”Wear or carry it for the next 30 days. Each time you want to check his stories, touch the object, breathes, and re-chooses yourself. This creates a replacement cue.- Step 7 – Close the Container (1 min)Stand, shake again, inhale arms up, exhale hands to heart.Final line:
“Chapter closed. Heart open.”
Ireland