When Pain Makes You Forget Who You Are (And How to Remember Again) | JB Copeland's Sappy Hour Ep.010
Betrayal cuts deep. It makes you question your worth, your choices, and sometimes even life itself. But here’s the truth: pain doesn’t mean you’re powerless.In this episode of Sappy Hour, JB responds to two powerful voicemails from young men who’ve been hurt, let down, and left doubting themselves. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, JB delivers the tough love and real-world guidance needed to shift from despair to dignity.You’ll learn:Why betrayal feels like identity-shock and how to recover from itThe hidden cost of self-betrayal — and how to rebuild self-trust step by stepThe psychology of learned helplessness (Seligman) and how to break freeHow scars can become standards, not shameWhy the world is neutral — and how your story determines your outcomesPractical steps to stop looping in pain and start creating momentum againThis isn’t about denial. It’s about choosing strength over stagnation, and realizing the world isn’t against you… but it also won’t wait for you.📞 Call the Sappy Hotline: 888-444-9461📘 Read JB’s new book Sappy MediumUSE CODE SAPPYHOUR10 FOR 10% OFF THE BOOK AND ANYTHING ELSE BY INTELLIGENT CHANGE. 🎧 Listen on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube
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How To Trust Again After Being Hurt | JB Copeland's Sappy Hour Ep.009
You’ve been hurt before. Betrayed, abandoned, lied to. And now you’re in something new — but instead of feeling safe, you catch yourself waiting for it to collapse.This episode of Sappy Hour is about how to stop dragging your past into your present. We’ll unpack why unresolved wounds make you project, how your body holds on to old betrayal, and the difference between healthy caution and self-sabotage.Inside, I’ll break down:Why unresolved pain makes you project fears onto people who haven’t earned themThe psychology of “emotional residue” and why your body still scans for dangerHow to tell healthy caution apart from destructive paranoiaThe right way to communicate your fears without making your new partner pay for your pastHow to rebuild trust — in yourself, your choices, and love itselfIf you’ve ever flinched at kindness, over-analyzed texts, or waited for the other shoe to drop — this episode will help you breathe again. Your past doesn’t get to dictate your future.🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple, or YouTube📘 Read JB’s new book Sappy Medium☎️ Call the Sappy Hotline: 888-444-9461📲 Follow @jb_copeland on Instagram & TikTok
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How to Move On Without Closure — The Science & Soul of Letting Go | JB Copeland's Sappy Hour Ep. 008
In this episode of Sappy Hour, JB Copeland dives deep into one of the hardest questions after heartbreak: How do you move on when you never got closure? Drawing on powerful studies from psychology and neuroscience, JB breaks down why your brain hates uncertainty, why unfinished stories keep replaying, and how to finally write the ending yourself. You’ll learn the “Ambiguity Trap,” the “Open Tab Effect,” and how to turn your breakup into the plot twist that changes your life. Whether you’re replaying a last conversation on a loop or struggling to trust again, this episode will help you understand the science behind your pain — and give you the tools to close the loop for good.ThemesWhy rejection can actually be a miracle in disguise.The Ambiguity Trap: why uncertainty feels like torture.The Open Tab Effect and why your brain keeps replaying the breakup.How naming your pain calms your brain’s alarm system.Narrative Mastery: reframing loss as a turning point in your story.Declaring your own closure and breaking the dependency on their answers.How to soothe uncertainty with self-certainty.30 days free on OPEN - MEDITATION & BREATHWORKlink here📘 Read JB’s new book Sappy Mediumlink hereuse code SAPPYHOUR10 for 10% off on the book and anything Intelligent Change☎️ Call the Sappy Hotline: 888-444-9461📲 Follow @jb_copeland on Instagram and TikTok for daily truth drops
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Why Intense Love Fades Fast (and How to Spot the Real Thing)
It’s easy to mistake intensity for intimacy — those whirlwind relationships that feel deep from the start, only to vanish without warning. In this episode, JB breaks down why fast, passionate connections can still fall apart, and how to spot if someone is truly ready for a healthy relationship. You’ll learn the difference between excitement and safety, the signs of emotional readiness, and how to avoid the “anxious–avoidant dance” that keeps you hooked on people who can’t stay.The Illusion of Over-Intimacy — Why fast, intense beginnings can mimic true connection without the capacity to sustain it.Real Emotions vs Real Readiness — How someone can mean what they say… but still not be ready for a relationship.Signs of Emotional Maturity — The behavioral evidence that someone can actually handle intimacy.Intensity vs Intimacy — Urgency and fireworks versus trust and safety.The Anxious–Avoidant Dance — How your openness can trigger withdrawal, and their withdrawal can trigger your anxiety.Why It Hurts So Much — How false intimacy activates the same neural pathways as physical pain.Abundance Over Urgency — How slowing down and observing builds a foundation for real love.🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube: 📘 Read JB’s new book Sappy Medium ☎️ Call the Sappy Hotline: 888-444-9461📲 Follow @jb_copeland on Instagram and TikTok for daily truth drops
You’re not crazy. You’re trauma bonded.In this episode of Sappy Hour, JB Copeland breaks down the psychological trap that keeps people stuck in toxic love loops... even when they know it’s not healthy.This episode is for anyone who:– Keeps missing someone who hurt them– Feels addicted to emotional chaos– Can’t stop blaming themselves after being left– Is waiting for closure that may never comeIt’s not love. It’s your nervous system trying to survive.And until you see the pattern, you’ll keep calling it “fate.”👁️🗨️ Topics & Undercurrents We Explore:🔁 Trauma Bonding– Emotional addiction to inconsistency. -Intermittent reinforcement & dopamine withdrawal– “Highs and lows” mistaken for chemistry“We are not addicted to the person. We’re addicted to the emotional rollercoaster they create.”— Shahida Arabi, MA⚠️ Survival Mode Disguised as Personality– Apathy, disinterest, and detachment aren’t your identity– They’re coping tools that once kept you safe“Hyper-independence is the belief that asking for help makes you weak. But it’s often the wound talking.”— Dr. Nicole LePera🧠 Emotional Numbness & Burnout– You can’t feel joy, but you also can’t feel pain– You're emotionally exhausted — not just from life, but from carrying relationships🔁 Pattern Repetition & Cognitive Dissonance– Why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners– The war between what you feel and what you know💭 Self-Gaslighting & Shame Loops– Downplaying your needs to keep the peace– “Maybe I am too much…” becomes a silent script“Shame is the lie someone told you about yourself.”— Anaïs Nin💔 Identity Crisis After a Breakup– You’re not just grieving them... you’re grieving who you were with them– What happens when the version of you that loved deeply is left behind?🚩 The Fixer Complex & Emotional Breadcrumbing– Attracting broken people to avoid facing your own wounds– Staying for “just enough” — not because it's good, but because it’s familiar🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube: 📘 Read JB’s new book Sappy Medium ☎️ Call the Sappy Hotline: 888-444-9461📲 Follow @jb_copeland on Instagram and TikTok for daily truth drops
JB Copeland's Sappy Hour: The podcast where heartbreak meets healing, science meets soul, and tough love meets laughter.
JB Copeland unpacks the real stuff no one teaches you how to handle: betrayal, closure, trauma bonds, self-trust, burnout, love, loss, and learning how to stop repeating the same cycles.
Every week, JB blends raw conversation, psychology, philosophy, and lived experience to give you the tools to live the life and find the love of your dreams.
It’s not therapy. It’s not self help.
It’s a wake-up call that feels like a hug.
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