440: Awkwardness, Alcohol, and the Connector/Mask Trap
Most people have that one memory that makes them cringe - the party where they said the wrong thing, the meeting where they stumbled over their words, or when a simple "no thanks" to a drink turned into the most awkward moment of the night. You spend so much energy trying to avoid these uncomfortable situations, building elaborate strategies to never feel that squirmy sensation again. But what if this avoidance actually makes social situations harder, especially when you're trying to change your drinking habits? Tune in this week to learn how awkwardness impacts your ability to say no to a drink, why the Connector and Mask archetypes struggle most with this, and a simple reframe that transforms awkwardness from proof that something's wrong with you into a normal part of being human. Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/ Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/ Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/440
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439: Non-Alcoholic Drinks: Safe Swap or Slippery Slope
Have you ever stood in front of the growing selection of non-alcoholic beverages and wondered if they're a smart choice or a slippery slope? Non-alcoholic drinks are everywhere now: fancy mocktails at restaurants, craft NA beers at the grocery store, entire shops dedicated to alcohol-free spirits. But beneath the surface of this booming market lies a deeper question that many people wrestle with: are these drinks helping you move forward, or are they keeping you stuck in old patterns? The answer isn't as straightforward as you might think. Tune in this week as Adriana Cloud joins me to dig into the archetypes most connected to non-alcoholic drinks, and explore how to approach these beverages with curiosity rather than rules. Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/ Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/ Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/439
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438: When It Feels Easier to Pour the Drink
When you're standing in your kitchen with a craving, there's a moment where pouring the drink feels like the path of least resistance. The familiar routine beckons - no thinking required, no uncomfortable feelings to navigate, just the well-worn neural pathway that promises immediate relief. But what if that sense of ease is actually an illusion? Tune in this week as Adriana Cloud joins me to explore the hidden effort that comes with drinking on autopilot, and why the "easier" choice often creates more work on the back end. Most importantly, you'll understand why putting effort into change now saves you from the exhausting cycle of shame, self-pity, and mental obsession that comes from staying on the familiar path. Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/ Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/ Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/438
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437: Finally Something for Me: Invisible Labor and Drinking Less
Ever noticed how that evening glass of wine feels less like a drink and more like a reward? Do you pour that drink and think, “Finally, something for me?” A reward for all the invisible work you do every day. The mental load, the scheduling, the endless to-do lists that nobody else sees. Listen in this week to discover the connection between invisible labor and your drinking habits, and practical ways to acknowledge your labor without reaching for a drink. If you've ever felt like a drink is the only recognition you get for all you do, this episode is for you. Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/ Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/ Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/437
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436: The Hidden Script Keeping You Stuck with Alcohol
Society has taught us a script about alcohol that keeps millions of people stuck. The story says you're either a normal drinker who can take it or leave it, or you're powerless and must quit forever. This black-and-white narrative has been reinforced by treatment models and cultural messaging for nearly a century, leaving no room for the possibility of actually changing your relationship with alcohol. Tune in this week to discover why the traditional all-or-nothing approach to drinking actually keeps you stuck, what happens when you shift from shame to curiosity, and a new playbook for sustainable change based on understanding and skill-building. Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/ Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/ Get the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/436
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