NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Non-Monogamy, Open Relationships, and Living Well

2025 was a LOT… and we’re ending the year with one of the biggest growth moments in our relationship.In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, we tell the full story of April’s first real autonomous solo date—the nerves, the ugly Christmas sweater plan, the chemistry, the decision-making in the moment, and what it was like for Scott to sit at home and feel the “flutter” (aka jealousy/activation)… without making it her responsibility.We also break down the real stuff people avoid talking about in ethical non-monogamy:What compersion actually feels like (not the internet version)How jealousy shows up even when you’re secureAutonomy vs. caretaking (and how to stop people-pleasing)Debriefing after a big night: what helped, what didn’t, and what we learnedAnd yes… Scott shares the sleep-aid + vodka + couch disaster that happened DAYS before the date. 😬Events & trips:🇯🇲 Be Better Being Bad (Jamaica) — Jan 3–10 (few rooms left)🏔️ Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat — Apr 15–19 (booking fast)🇪🇸 Barcelona — Aug 14–21 (limited spots)More info: naughtygym.com🎁 If you want to support the show: Like, Subscribe, and leave a comment (it helps more than you think).#ENM #NonMonogamy #OpenRelationship #Compersion #Marriage #RelationshipAdvice

April and Scott recap a wild (and unexpectedly meaningful) night out: a sexy Santa & Mrs. Claus gig at an LGBTQ-friendly Christmas party that turns into a real-time relationship test. By the end of the night, April, who historically hasn’t felt fully comfortable claiming that kind of freedom, finds herself laughing, connecting, and eventually agreeing to a dinner date with a newly divorced single guy from their extended lifestyle circle. What follows is the real conversation: how do you support your partner’s autonomy without turning it into pressure, surveillance, or “constant check-ins”? Scott shares how past attempts at separate dating triggered anxiety and control impulses (even when “nothing” was happening), and how this time felt different, calmer, steadier, more grounded. Together they unpack the difference between intuition vs. projection, explore “The Bad Prophet” (mind-reading, future-forecasting, spiraling), and practice “The Unprophet” (staying present, responding only to real data, honoring privacy). They also dig into a powerful desire question April is building her Hedo keynote around: “What would I do if there was nobody I could disappoint?” The episode closes with upcoming Naughty Gym events and a thoughtful note on protecting partners’ anonymity, because this show isn’t about sex-capade storytelling, it’s about the real emotional skills non-monogamy demands. More about Naughty Gym: www.naughtygym.com Our Upcoming Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events

Welcome back to The Naughty Gym Show! In this episode, April and Scott catch you up on everything that’s been happening behind the scenes — from finishing their Wild Love Theory book to launching a stacked calendar of retreats for 2025 and beyond.They start with updates on Be Better at Being Bad at Hedonism II and their new “Fuck Melissa” fundraiser shirt supporting the Hedo Cares Foundation after the hurricane. From there, they share exciting news about the upcoming Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat (a “relationship black belt” experience for already solid couples) and why WLT isn’t therapy to “fix” something broken, but a radical, freedom-based reframing of how we do love.Wild Love Theory Retreat Info: https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreatThen they dive into heartfelt recaps of their two November retreats: • Mancation Mountain – a men’s-only cabin retreat that was supposed to be steaks, bourbon, and bowling… and turned into one of the most emotional, transformative weekends of many guys’ lives. Scott talks about how connection circles, deep questions, and a non-judgmental container led to tears, breakthroughs, and 20 new friendships — plus a twist on their usual format that he’ll carry into future events. • Wild & Wise – April’s menopause-focused women’s retreat, where women from all over the country and all relationship structures gathered to learn, cry, laugh, and reconnect to their bodies. She shares stories of workshops on hormones, desire, and aging; sensual (not sexual) touch; late-night bunkroom bonding; and an impromptu boudoir shoot that helped women see themselves as sexy and powerful again.They also talk about what’s coming next: • A Religion & Non-Monogamy retreat with two tracks (for those keeping faith and those deconstructing it) • A future men + women split-then-merge couples retreat • Adventure trips to Barcelona and El Salvador • Local events like Sapphire Starlington’s sex-positive Christmas party where April and Scott will appear as a very spicy Mr. and Mrs. ClausFinally, they close with a reminder that NaughtyGym.com isn’t just about travel — it’s also their online fitness and coaching community, with weekly live calls, workouts, and 1:1 coaching spots available for people who want to thrive in their bodies and their relationships.If you’re curious about their retreats, coaching, or Wild Love Theory itself, this episode is a perfect snapshot of where the Naughty Gym universe is headed — more depth, more freedom, more community, and as always… never stop playing.Our Website:www.naughtygym.comWild Love Theory Retreat:https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreatNaughty Gym 1 on 1 Coaching: https://calendly.com/naughtygym/free-1-on-1-coaching-consultKevin Dean's article in Medium about our retreats: https://medium.com/under-the-umbrella/swinger-retreats-that-are-not-co-ed-by-kevin-and-rachel-dean-83ee58c7c980

April and Scott are back from the Smoky Mountains and very well-rested… because they slept for 3 days. In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April & Scott share details about their upcoming gig as sexy Mr. & Mrs. Claus at Sapphire Starlington’s Christmas party in Huntsville before diving into a day-by-day recap of their Naughty Holidaze retreat.You’ll hear how 14 adventurous couples (plus host couples) turned a giant mountain cabin into a rotating celebration of Halloween, Friendsgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Year’s Eve—complete with connection circles, icebreaker bingo, a “lazy man’s” gratitude drive through bear country, moonshine tastings in tacky Christmas sweaters, and a day of roller coasters at Dollywood. They talk about pop-up play spaces with massage tables and flogging demos, why consent and vibe made this group feel uniquely safe and non-predatory, and the unexpected intimacy of group massages and cuddle puddles.April and Scott also unpack their Relational Freedom workshop based on their Wild Love Theory book, why Telegram groups can totally mislead you about people, and how a dueling piano New Year’s Sneaker Ball brought their entire origin story full circle. They wrap with a look at upcoming Naughty Gym trips and retreats—and why, whatever you do, you should never stop playing.www.NaughytGym.comwww.ExpansiveConnections.comwww.DeviousDragonfly.com

Today we go deep on throuples—what makes a three-person relationship (triad) work in real life. Our guest is Dr. Rachael Meir, a Stanford-trained psychologist, sex & relationship coach, author of 50 Questions to Ask Before Opening Your Relationship, and host of retreats designed specifically for throuples.In this episode (throuple-forward): • Shapes of throuples: V vs. closed triad, the “everyone dates everyone” myth, and why symmetry isn’t the only path to stability. • Avoiding triangles (the bad kind): How to reduce coalitions, secret alliances, and “two against one” dynamics with simple, predictable check-ins. • Jealousy in 3s: Why jealousy feels different in a triad, Dr. Meir’s “dashboard warning light” frame, and how to respond without spiraling. • Differentiation = less codependence: Staying three whole people (not one fused blob) actually strengthens the connection between all of you. • Logistics that keep love humane: Calendars, re-entry rituals, and short “state-of-us” huddles so no one becomes the project manager (or the parent). • Ethics & invitations: Power imbalances, “unicorn hunting,” and creating consent that’s real for all three partners—not just the original pair. • Retreat lessons: What Dr. Meir sees thriving throuples do differently (language, expectations, and how they handle NRE without breaking the triangle).Plus, we pull 5 key prompts from Dr. Meir’s book to ground any non-monogamy journey: • What desires/needs do I believe non-monogamy could fulfill (for me, not just my partner)? • Do I have enough self-esteem to stay out of comparison traps? • Are we differentiated—two/three whole people with overlap—rather than merged? • Are we opening to fill a void/fix a problem (and what would repair look like first)? • What small agreements would make us feel safer without turning into surveillance?Big takeaways you can use tonight • Trade control for clarity: one short weekly check-in beats constant play-by-play. • Re-entry rituals after solo or third-partner time keep connection warm and resentment low. • In triads, fairness ≠ sameness—aim for dignity for all three, not equal minutes.Find Dr. Meir: https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/Naughty Gym: https://www.naughtygym.com/