NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Non-Monogamy, Open Relationships, and Living Well

This week’s second special episode is Scott’s opening keynote from Be Better At Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism II Resort: The Freedom Mandate: The Ethical Case for Relational Freedom.Scott unpacks Wild Love Theory’s seven-word thesis, “Maximum relational happiness requires maximum relational freedom,” and asks the question that can feel both inspiring and terrifying: If your partner’s happiness matters to you… do you owe them freedom?From there, he draws a crucial line between true boundaries (inward-facing choices for self-protection) and what most couples call “boundaries” but are actually imposed limits designed to manage fear. He explains why rules can be necessary early on, but only as scaffolding: temporary supports meant to loosen as trust, regulation, and repair become load-bearing.The talk ends with a raw, personal story from Scott and April’s relationship: the moment Scott kissed April goodbye as she got ready for a date with no rules, and what that taught him about control, courage, and what it means to build a relational cathedral two free people can actually live inside.Next week we’ll release our full recap of BBBB 2026. If this keynote brings up questions or reflections, email Scott anytime at [email protected]:www.NaughtyGym.comUpcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

In this opening keynote from Naughty Gym's Be Better At Being Bad Takeover at Hedonism Resort, Coach April invites you into a deeply honest exploration of desire, identity, and self trust. Through personal stories and lived experience, she challenges the roles, labels, and expectations that shape what we think we should want and asks a more powerful question: what do you actually want? This talk is about unlearning goodness, releasing approval seeking, and reconnecting with the quiet wisdom of the body. It’s an invitation to stop performing the life you were taught to live and start listening to the truth that’s been waiting underneath it all. This is not about having it all figured out. It’s about coming home to yourself and beginning again, on purpose. Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

2025 was a LOT… and we’re ending the year with one of the biggest growth moments in our relationship.In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, we tell the full story of April’s first real autonomous solo date—the nerves, the ugly Christmas sweater plan, the chemistry, the decision-making in the moment, and what it was like for Scott to sit at home and feel the “flutter” (aka jealousy/activation)… without making it her responsibility.We also break down the real stuff people avoid talking about in ethical non-monogamy:What compersion actually feels like (not the internet version)How jealousy shows up even when you’re secureAutonomy vs. caretaking (and how to stop people-pleasing)Debriefing after a big night: what helped, what didn’t, and what we learnedAnd yes… Scott shares the sleep-aid + vodka + couch disaster that happened DAYS before the date. 😬Events & trips:🇯🇲 Be Better Being Bad (Jamaica) — Jan 3–10 (few rooms left)🏔️ Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat — Apr 15–19 (booking fast)🇪🇸 Barcelona — Aug 14–21 (limited spots)More info: naughtygym.com🎁 If you want to support the show: Like, Subscribe, and leave a comment (it helps more than you think).#ENM #NonMonogamy #OpenRelationship #Compersion #Marriage #RelationshipAdvice

April and Scott recap a wild (and unexpectedly meaningful) night out: a sexy Santa & Mrs. Claus gig at an LGBTQ-friendly Christmas party that turns into a real-time relationship test. By the end of the night, April, who historically hasn’t felt fully comfortable claiming that kind of freedom, finds herself laughing, connecting, and eventually agreeing to a dinner date with a newly divorced single guy from their extended lifestyle circle. What follows is the real conversation: how do you support your partner’s autonomy without turning it into pressure, surveillance, or “constant check-ins”? Scott shares how past attempts at separate dating triggered anxiety and control impulses (even when “nothing” was happening), and how this time felt different, calmer, steadier, more grounded. Together they unpack the difference between intuition vs. projection, explore “The Bad Prophet” (mind-reading, future-forecasting, spiraling), and practice “The Unprophet” (staying present, responding only to real data, honoring privacy). They also dig into a powerful desire question April is building her Hedo keynote around: “What would I do if there was nobody I could disappoint?” The episode closes with upcoming Naughty Gym events and a thoughtful note on protecting partners’ anonymity, because this show isn’t about sex-capade storytelling, it’s about the real emotional skills non-monogamy demands. More about Naughty Gym: www.naughtygym.com Our Upcoming Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events

Welcome back to The Naughty Gym Show! In this episode, April and Scott catch you up on everything that’s been happening behind the scenes — from finishing their Wild Love Theory book to launching a stacked calendar of retreats for 2025 and beyond.They start with updates on Be Better at Being Bad at Hedonism II and their new “Fuck Melissa” fundraiser shirt supporting the Hedo Cares Foundation after the hurricane. From there, they share exciting news about the upcoming Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat (a “relationship black belt” experience for already solid couples) and why WLT isn’t therapy to “fix” something broken, but a radical, freedom-based reframing of how we do love.Wild Love Theory Retreat Info: https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreatThen they dive into heartfelt recaps of their two November retreats: • Mancation Mountain – a men’s-only cabin retreat that was supposed to be steaks, bourbon, and bowling… and turned into one of the most emotional, transformative weekends of many guys’ lives. Scott talks about how connection circles, deep questions, and a non-judgmental container led to tears, breakthroughs, and 20 new friendships — plus a twist on their usual format that he’ll carry into future events. • Wild & Wise – April’s menopause-focused women’s retreat, where women from all over the country and all relationship structures gathered to learn, cry, laugh, and reconnect to their bodies. She shares stories of workshops on hormones, desire, and aging; sensual (not sexual) touch; late-night bunkroom bonding; and an impromptu boudoir shoot that helped women see themselves as sexy and powerful again.They also talk about what’s coming next: • A Religion & Non-Monogamy retreat with two tracks (for those keeping faith and those deconstructing it) • A future men + women split-then-merge couples retreat • Adventure trips to Barcelona and El Salvador • Local events like Sapphire Starlington’s sex-positive Christmas party where April and Scott will appear as a very spicy Mr. and Mrs. ClausFinally, they close with a reminder that NaughtyGym.com isn’t just about travel — it’s also their online fitness and coaching community, with weekly live calls, workouts, and 1:1 coaching spots available for people who want to thrive in their bodies and their relationships.If you’re curious about their retreats, coaching, or Wild Love Theory itself, this episode is a perfect snapshot of where the Naughty Gym universe is headed — more depth, more freedom, more community, and as always… never stop playing.Our Website:www.naughtygym.comWild Love Theory Retreat:https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreatNaughty Gym 1 on 1 Coaching: https://calendly.com/naughtygym/free-1-on-1-coaching-consultKevin Dean's article in Medium about our retreats: https://medium.com/under-the-umbrella/swinger-retreats-that-are-not-co-ed-by-kevin-and-rachel-dean-83ee58c7c980