Today we go deep on throuples—what makes a three-person relationship (triad) work in real life. Our guest is Dr. Rachael Meir, a Stanford-trained psychologist, sex & relationship coach, author of 50 Questions to Ask Before Opening Your Relationship, and host of retreats designed specifically for throuples.In this episode (throuple-forward): • Shapes of throuples: V vs. closed triad, the “everyone dates everyone” myth, and why symmetry isn’t the only path to stability. • Avoiding triangles (the bad kind): How to reduce coalitions, secret alliances, and “two against one” dynamics with simple, predictable check-ins. • Jealousy in 3s: Why jealousy feels different in a triad, Dr. Meir’s “dashboard warning light” frame, and how to respond without spiraling. • Differentiation = less codependence: Staying three whole people (not one fused blob) actually strengthens the connection between all of you. • Logistics that keep love humane: Calendars, re-entry rituals, and short “state-of-us” huddles so no one becomes the project manager (or the parent). • Ethics & invitations: Power imbalances, “unicorn hunting,” and creating consent that’s real for all three partners—not just the original pair. • Retreat lessons: What Dr. Meir sees thriving throuples do differently (language, expectations, and how they handle NRE without breaking the triangle).Plus, we pull 5 key prompts from Dr. Meir’s book to ground any non-monogamy journey: • What desires/needs do I believe non-monogamy could fulfill (for me, not just my partner)? • Do I have enough self-esteem to stay out of comparison traps? • Are we differentiated—two/three whole people with overlap—rather than merged? • Are we opening to fill a void/fix a problem (and what would repair look like first)? • What small agreements would make us feel safer without turning into surveillance?Big takeaways you can use tonight • Trade control for clarity: one short weekly check-in beats constant play-by-play. • Re-entry rituals after solo or third-partner time keep connection warm and resentment low. • In triads, fairness ≠ sameness—aim for dignity for all three, not equal minutes.Find Dr. Meir: https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/Naughty Gym: https://www.naughtygym.com/
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Cupcakes, Cunnilingus, & Cuddles: Luna Matatas & Handling Rejection
Rejection happens in the lifestyle. What do you do with the sting. April and Scott sit down with pleasure educator Luna Matatas to unpack expectations, etiquette, and empathy when play does not line up for all four people. They dig into clear asks, enthusiastic consent, and how to set goals that are sexual, sensual, and social so the night still feels like a win. Luna shares her worst threesome, her best threesomes, and practical scripts for saying yes and no with kindness. Plus a peek at what she is bringing to Be Better at Being Bad this January. Tune in for real stories, real growth, and a reminder that someone else’s no is a big yes to themselves.Luna Matatas website: https://lunamatatas.com/en-us Naughty Gym Info: Website: www.naughtygym.com Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events
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Retreats, Rules & Real Love: A 15-Year Journey Beyond Monogamy
What happens when a longtime marriage says “yes” to curiosity? In this candid convo, Freddy and Andi share how a flirt turned into a slow, consent-first path to non-monogamy and how they “accidentally” became poly. We dig into the real stuff: jealousy and the fear of being replaced, what “check-ins” actually mean (hint: eye contact isn’t enough), and why emotional regulation beats willpower when the feelings get loud. They open up about past secrecy, rebuilding trust, discovering compersion, and why retreats (hello, Expansive Connection) gave them tools that parties never could. Expect practical takeaways on requests vs. mind-reading, setting pace without pressure, navigating separate dates, and creating love that expands, without losing “my person.”Featuring:Freddy & Andy’s 15-year journey from “big no” to sustainable polyThe exact check-in framework that stopped spiralsLessons from men’s/women’s circles, real-time coaching, and a regulation breakthroughHot-wife dynamics, long-term girlfriend logistics, and staying special while sharingIf you’re opening up, curious about poly, or healing after a breach, this episode is your field guide to honest rules, softer landings, and deeper love.Naughty Gym Info-Website: https://www.naughtygym.com/Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-eventsDevious Dragonfly:https://www.deviousdragonfly.com/Expansive Connection:https://www.expansiveconnection.com/
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Celibate Swingers: Why Some People Need More Than Sex
In this playful and thought-provoking episode, Scott and April explore one of the most surprising dynamics in the lifestyle: choosing connection over sex. With their friends Dave and Andi, hosts of Tales of The Lastborns, they discuss topics as varied as “blue-ball moments” at full resort takeovers to the deeper reasons why some swingers deliberately opt for fewer play sessions, at least for a season. This conversation is equal parts hilarious and heartfelt. They share details about upcoming Naughty Gym events (Jamaica takeover, El Salvador retreat, and even a Barcelona adventure) while reflecting on the tension between sexual freedom and the power of saying “not tonight.” This one will make you laugh, think, and maybe rethink what intimacy really means. Naughty Gym Info-Website: https://www.naughtygym.com/ Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/naughty-gym-show-intersection-of-non-monogamy-wellness/id1701360007 Tales Of The Lastborns- Website: https://talesofthelastborns.com/ Podcast: https://talesofthelastborns.buzzsprout.com/follow
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Love On The Spectrum: Neurodivergence in Non-Monogamy
In this raw and hilarious episode, April and Scott sit down with their dear friend Roderick — filmmaker of Open: A Journey Through Love — to explore the intersections of neurodivergence and non-monogamy. From awkward flirting misfires to the surprising superpowers of direct communication, the three share personal stories about autism, sensory overwhelm, compersion, and why neurodivergent lovers might just be the best in bed. If you’ve ever wondered how differently-wired brains navigate open relationships, this one will open your eyes, your heart, and maybe even your bedroom.Learn about Roderick's documentary, Open: A Journey Through LoveLearn about Naughty Gym Come Party & Travel with us!
About NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Non-Monogamy, Open Relationships, and Living Well
We are April and Scott, creators of NaughtyGym.com and this is the Naughty Gym Show.
For years we’ve been fitness and nutrition coaches to thousands of people through our commercial gyms and online platform. We’ve also spent nearly a decade in an ever-evolving, open relationship.
This show brings together our two biggest passions, fitness and sex positivity. Our mission is to maximize the physical, emotional, and sexual health of the sex positive community.
We have demolished our old ways of thinking about relationships and from that rubble built a life full of happiness, adventure, and vitality. And now we want to help you do the same.
So hop on the treadmill, start the show, and let us teach you how to Never Stop Playing.
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