NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

What happens when you really click with another person or couple, maybe even have great sex, and then find yourself hurt or jealous when they connect with someone else?

In Episode 83, April and Scott talk about the invisible agreements we sometimes create in non-monogamy without ever discussing them.

Maybe you’ve played together before and assumed it would happen again. Maybe you went to an event together expecting to spend the night together. Maybe you felt close to someone and were surprised by your jealousy when they met someone new. Problems can arise when those assumptions affect how we treat someone who never knew we had them.

We also explore how differently people experience sexual desire. Attraction, chemistry, and opportunity may lead one person toward sex, while someone else can enjoy the same chemistry without wanting to take it further. Previous sex doesn’t guarantee future sex.

We talk about what happens when disappointment creates pressure, why someone else shouldn’t have to manage our reaction to hearing no, and how this can affect consent. April also shares how fear of disappointing people influenced some of her own choices in the past.

Plus, we get into jealousy between friends and play partners, compersion, autonomy, community, and why communicating our hopes can prevent unspoken expectations from creating hurt feelings.

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Perimenopause and menopause can affect far more than your cycle—they can reshape your sleep, strength, confidence, sexuality, and relationships. In this candid episode, April and co-host Catherine of Expansive Connection explore how women can move through this transition feeling informed, empowered, and fully connected to their bodies.
Pelvic-floor specialist Cara explains why common symptoms shouldn’t simply be dismissed as “normal,” how breathing and mobility support pelvic health, and why the pelvic floor matters for movement, pain, sexual function, and stronger orgasms. Returning Wild & Wise attendees Teresa and Sharon also share how the retreat helped them rediscover self-love, gain practical knowledge, form genuine friendships, and feel less alone.
You’ll also hear what’s planned for the 2026 Wild & Wise Retreat, from fitness, nutrition, hormones, relationships, and pleasure to yoga, nourishing food, intentional downtime, and honest conversations in a welcoming, sex-positive space. Whether you’re approaching perimenopause, already in it, or navigating life after menopause, this episode is a powerful reminder: you are not broken, you don’t have to suffer silently, and you deserve support.
The Wild & Wise Retreat takes place November 8–11, 2026, in Pigeon Forge, Tennessee. Learn more at NaughtyGym.com.

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2. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador
3. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise
4. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain
5. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
6. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027 - https://hedonism.com/bbbb

After six years, Naughty Gym is becoming Aya Society.
In this episode, we share why we’re making the biggest change our business has ever seen, what the new name means, and why this feels like the next chapter of everything we’ve been building.
We also announce the upcoming release of Wild Love Theory, our new book about building relationships that are rooted in freedom, authenticity, and intentional commitment.
And yes… we’re also explaining why we’re legally divorcing, and why, for us, it has become one of the deepest expressions of our commitment to each other.
In this episode we discuss:
* Why Naughty Gym is becoming Aya Society
* The meaning behind “As You Are”
* Our vision for the future
* The Wild Love Theory launch
* The Unbinding Ceremony
* Why we’re redefining commitment instead of abandoning it
* Upcoming events in Portland, Barcelona, El Salvador, Tennessee, Hedonism II, and our Minnesota book launch weekend.
If you’ve ever wondered what it means to intentionally design your life instead of simply inheriting it, this conversation is for you.

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Our Upcoming Events:
1. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026
2. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador
3. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise
4. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain
5. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026 - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
6. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027 - https://hedonism.com/bbbb

We just got home from hosting our first Naughty Gym weekend at X Club, and we are telling the whole story.
In this episode, Scott, April, and Andy recap four days at one of the most impressive lifestyle clubs they have visited. They share what surprised them about X Club, why it felt welcoming for both first-timers and longtime lifestyle people, how the club separates partying from play, and why that setup made the entire experience feel safer, easier, and far less overwhelming.
They talk pool parties, late-night dancing, Luna Matatas’s workshops, a packed Saturday-night crowd, the people they met, and the unexpected truth that they went to a huge lifestyle event mostly to dance, talk, connect, and enjoy the energy.
The conversation also goes deeper into what helped April feel unusually relaxed and free during the weekend, why rigid relationship agreements did not work for them, how couples can stay connected without turning an event into a contract, and why everyone has to find their own version of comfort, curiosity, and play.
Plus, there is an ice-maker discovery, a drag-queen ambush, a bank-account hack, a questionable amount of DoorDash, and a reminder that Andy may be the most dedicated hotel-room vacationer alive.
Whether you are curious about X Club, considering your first lifestyle event, or simply want the behind-the-scenes story of a wild weekend with friends, this episode is for you.
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Our Upcoming Events:
1. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026
- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026
2. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026
- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador
3. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026
- https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise
4. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026
- https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain
5. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026
- https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
6. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027
- https://hedonism.com/bbbb

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Fear, jealousy, and insecurity are some of the most common struggles couples face in the lifestyle, swinging, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy. But what should you actually do when those feelings show up?

In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott talk about the normal fears that come up in the lifestyle, including body comparison, fear of being replaced, anxiety around texting, repeat partners, kissing, solo dates, separate-room play, and the stories our brains create when we feel triggered.

Most couples respond to fear by creating a new rule. Sometimes that can be helpful. Temporary agreements can act as scaffolding while trust and emotional capacity are being built. But when rules become the permanent solution, they can quietly turn into a cage.

Scott and April introduce two practical frameworks from their upcoming Wild Love Theory workbook:
The R.U.L.E. Pattern
React to the Trigger
Unpack the Pain
Limit the Behavior
Enforce the Rule

This is the common path couples take when fear shows up.
The F.R.E.E. Framework
Find the Real Fear
Reexamine the Story
Express the Need Without Control
Expand Capacity

This is a healthier way to process jealousy and insecurity without immediately turning fear into restriction.

They also share personal examples from their own non-monogamous journey, including how insecurity can be connected to body image, relationship load, disconnection, old wounds, overwhelm, and feeling undesirable or unchosen.

This episode is for anyone in the lifestyle, curious about ethical non-monogamy, or trying to understand how to deal with jealousy, rules, boundaries, insecurity, and fear without making each other smaller.

The goal is not to build enough rules that nobody ever gets scared. The goal is to build enough capacity that fear no longer has to run the relationship.

Learn more about our events, community, retreats, podcast, and upcoming book at NaughtyGym.com.

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Our Upcoming Events:
1. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 2026
- https://www.tickettailor.com/events/naughtygym/2109578
2. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026
- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026
3. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026
- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador
4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026
- https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise
5. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026
- https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain
6. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026
- https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
7. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027
- https://hedonism.com/bbbb

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