CLOUD is a podcast series created to discuss ADHD and late age diagnosis. Exploring both deeply personal stories while also speaking to leading experts includin...
Feel Like You’re Too Much? ADHD, Intense Emotions and Validation. CLOUD With Sabrina Zohar
One of the things that surprised me the most when I learnt more about ADHD was that we tend to all be people with big feelings. I had always thought that I just ‘felt’ things really deeply and that was just the way it was, but it turns out it isn’t a unique experience at all. Whether it’s a result of constantly being told we are ‘too much’ I’m not sure; but what I am sure about is that consistently being told I was too much left me with a pretty insatiable need for validation. Again, I don’t seem to be alone in that either… Joining the podcast today is the wonderful Sabrina Zohar! Sabrina is a relationship expert, entrepreneur and podcast host of the Sabrina Zohar show. I was particularly drawn to Sabrina because of her no bullshit, tell it like it is style of communicating. Today we take a big dive into big feelings, our experiences of learning how to accept ourselves and how ADHD has affected our relationships. We spoke about: Being diagnosed later in life, something really common for women Sabrina’s misdiagnosis of borderline personality disorder, and the dangers of misdiagnosis How we both found ourselves craving validation from people around us How we show up in the dating world when we feel like we are ‘too much’ but also not enough Limerence and hyperfixation on people when you have ADHD Repetition compulsion How ‘the spark’ can feel different for ADHD brains When to talk about ADHD in relationships Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 4:40 - Sabrina's diagnosis 7:45 - Being misdiagnosed with borderline personality disorder 9:10 - The symptoms of ADHD that Sabrina experienced 12:30 - Where the need for validation came from 15:00 - Worthiness & how the dial shifted for Sabrina 18:00 - How long does 'the work' take? 22:15 - Being 'too much' but also not enough 25:20 - Limerence and hyperfixation on people when you have ADHD 31:00 - Make them a real person 34:00 - Big feelings and Repetition compulsion 33:50 - How ‘the spark’ can feel different for ADHD brains 37:48 - Dating burn out & chasing 'the highs' 41:10 - Looking for something different in dating 45:30 - When to talk about ADHD in relationships You can find more from Sabrina’s website And Sabrina’s instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion GroupSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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The Road To ADHD Diagnosis. With Dr Kieran Kennedy
If you're like me and you've seen a list of symptoms of ADHD and mentally said 'tick' to every one of them, you might be wondering what you're meant to do next. The actual process of seeking out a diagnosis and support can be confusing and it seems to vary depending on where you are in the country! Joining the pod again today is the wonderful Dr Kieran Kennedy! Kieran previously joined us for an episode about late age diagnosis, how that seems to shift your sense of identity, and the crossover of ADHD and conditions like anxiety and depression. Dr Kieran Kennedy is a psychiatrist who specialises in adult ADHD. Kieran focuses on a holistic approach in managing ADHD. Today we wanted to dive a little bit deeper into the causes of ADHD, whether medication is the direction some people with ADHD may like to investigate and what those options are and how the process of being diagnosed actually works in Australia. In today’s episode we speak about: What causes ADHD and what’s going on in our brains The genetic links of ADHD The wives' tale of ‘just try the medication and if it works, you’ve got ADHD!’ What’s the role of medication, and are there alternative approaches? Side effects of medication to look out for Flow on effects - changes like reducing alcohol and focussing on sleep as management For someone wondering if they have ADHD, what’s the next step? Some of the necessary hoops to jump through Time stamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:53 - What causes ADHD and what’s going on in our brains 4:25 - The genetic links of ADHD 5:30 - What's going on in the prefrontal cortex? 7:00 - Blame or brain 9:15 - History of medication 12:50 - The wives' tale of ‘just try the medication and if it works, you’ve got ADHD!’ 14:30 - What’s the role of medication, and are there alternative approaches? 21:00 - Side effects of medication to look out for 29:00 - Flow on effects - changes like reducing alcohol and focussing on sleep 30:00 - The controversy of medicating children 31:50 - For someone wondering if they have ADHD, what’s the next step? 35:30 - Financial impacts of diagnosis 37:30 - Other tests you may need to have done 43:00 - Being honest in the diagnosis process You can find more from Dr Kieran on his Instagram Hosted and produced by Keeshia Pettit You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion GroupSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Why Is ADHD Everywhere Right Now? With Dr Kieran Kennedy
You might have noticed that there seems to be a lot of women who, just like me, are being diagnosed with ADHD in their late 20s, 30s and 40s. Today we wanted to have a chat about late age diagnosis and how that can make you question a lot about your past experiences. We also speak about the crossover of ADHD and other mental health conditions and why so many of us are diagnosed with anxiety disorders. Dr Kieran Kennedy is a psychiatrist who specialises in adult ADHD. Kieran focuses on a holistic approach in managing ADHD. Kieran is originally from New Zealand but came across the ditch 7 years ago for a fellowship in Melbourne. He is an author, a regular expert on Australian TV programs and a fitness nut. In today’s episode we speak about: The social media explosion—why is ADHD suddenly everywhere? Why do so many women get diagnosed later in life? The key differences between the different types of ADHD Why a lot of late aged diagnosed people are previously misdiagnosed with other conditions like anxiety, depression or even eating disorders What are some of the biggest misconceptions about ADHD? Many adults feel grief after a late diagnosis. Why is that? What is rejection sensitive dysphoria and who do you see it in? Timestamps: 0:00 Intro and Dr Kieran's experience 5:50 The social media explosion—why is ADHD suddenly everywhere? 7:20 Why do so many women get diagnosed later in life? 10:50 The key differences between the different types of ADHD 14:30 Why a lot of late aged diagnosed people are previously misdiagnosed with other conditions like anxiety, depression or even eating disorders 18:20 What are some of the biggest misconceptions about ADHD? 24:30 What is rejection sensitive dysphoria and who do you see it in? 30:18 A gentler sense of self Dr Kieran Kennedy will be joining us for an upcoming episode on the diagnosis process and medication options. You can find more from Dr Kieran on his Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion GroupSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Mark Manson - ADHD, Novelty & Work. Why Traditional Productivity Hacks Won’t Help.
For a lot of us with ADHD brains, the idea of working a 9-5 job with stable productivity seems like an unimaginable concept. The ways that we thrive in our careers or our work lives seem to be a little bit left of centre when compared to others. When it comes to structure, goals and productivity, is it best that we listen to the ‘expert’ advice, or do we need to go about it in completely different ways? Mark Manson is a #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck* and Everything is Fcked: A Book About Hope with 20 million books sold in over 65 languages. Mark is also a podcaster, a youtuber, and a zero fuck giver. Speaking with Mark Manson about his ADHD diagnosis was particularly interesting because in all of the content that he creates, I’d noticed that he had only mentioned it a handful of times. Mark’s relationship with his ADHD brain has evolved over the decades. When he was a teenager, he was medicated and the people around him noticed that his sparkle dissolved and his creativity seemed to dissipate; despite him getting better grades. Mark chose to stop medication, and brute force his way through life. So, how was Mark able to achieve such extensive levels of success despite having a diagnosed attention deficit? In this episode we spoke about: The ADHD brain and a need for novelty The pros and cons of becoming bored easily Impulsivity and ‘self medicating’ ADHD with alcohol Most goals shouldn’t be accomplished Figuring out the best productivity environments and tools that you respond to The unconventional strategies to help you be productive How to structure your work day, time boxing and to do lists Understanding your own mental tendencies and working WITH them You can hear more from Mark Manson on his podcast “the subtle art of not giving a f*ck podcast” and you can get his books quite literally anywhere in one of the 65 different languages they are published in! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion GroupSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Lifting The Cloud on ADHD
Welcome to the brand new 10 part mini series Cloud. Cloud is a podcast series created to discuss ADHD and late age diagnosis. The name Cloud is inspired by the experiences of many late-diagnosed women who describe finally feeling like a “cloud was lifted” after learning more about the different ways that their brains work and how they ‘fit’ into society. With all of the content about ADHD on social media explaining what the condition is, I’ve been on quite a journey figuring out the difference between what I thought were personality flaws and what is actually symptomatic of this condition. I realised that there was a bit of a gap of what to do next. What was I meant to do with all of this information? Cloud was created to fill that gap. It explores the intersection of ADHD with identity, relationships, career, and well-being so that we can live more fulfilling and more present lives.Each episode will offer insight into a different aspect of ADHD from guests like Mark Manson, the author of ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, psychiatrist Dr Kieran Kennedy, focus and attention expert Johann Hari and relationship experts Sabrina Zohar and Logan Ury. Today’s conversation is about emotional dysregulation, shame, masking, impulsivity, self criticism and success. We chat: - Why I was so hesitant to speak publicly about ADHD- The ‘oversaturation’ of ADHD content on social media - How ADHD presents differently in girls and women- Wondering if I'd have known earlier, would life have been easier?- How I've changed since diagnosis- How Britt & Laura feel I've changed- Rejection sensitive dysphoria, emotional dysregulation, shame, impulsivity and time blindness.- Am I a chameleon or am I masking? Follow CLOUD You can watch us on YouTube Find us on Instagram Join us on TikTok Or join the Facebook Discussion GroupSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
CLOUD is a podcast series created to discuss ADHD and late age diagnosis. Exploring both deeply personal stories while also speaking to leading experts including guests such as the author of The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck - Mark Manson, Neuroscientist TJ Power and relationship experts Sabrina Zohar and Logan Ury.
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