SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) Is it wrong to fantasize about another person when you are in bed with your partner? I’ve been married for a very long time and—as you both talk about often—we feel more like friends than lovers. To make sex more arousing, I often fantasize about a woman at work who I mildly flirt with. I sometimes feel a little guilty. Should I? Is this something everyone does?2) For years, I was in a sexless marriage with a husband who didn’t see me. I got friendly with a man I work with and ended up having an affair. It had more to do with loneliness than lust, even though I did care for him. My husband found out and all hell broke loose. We nearly split up, but therapy saved us. The thing is, I see the affair as something that saved our marriage. He sees it as a humiliating betrayal, even though he understands why I did it. I think it’s because he’s the big boss at work and isn’t used to not getting his way. He wants to pretend it never happened, whereas I would like to talk more about it because I see it as a positive thing.3) Does every couple look each other in the eyes when having sex? Or does that just happen in the movies? I can look at my husband for a moment, but usually I want to focus on all the other senses. Plus, I worry my face looks weird. We have great sex, and although my husband looks at me a lot, it doesn’t bother him if I keep my eyes closed. Any tips on how to have longer eye contact and enjoy it? Is there any science related to eye contact during sex?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I get on well with my boss, but don’t find him attractive in any way. The other night, I had an extremely hot explicit dream about him, and it’s made me feel uncomfortable. Does it mean I secretly want to sleep with him? I often have odd sex dreams. Can you stop yourself from having them?2) I’ve just started a new relationship and I’m nervous he’s not that into me sexually. We’ve only been together three months, and he sometimes struggles to get an erection—and often loses it when he goes down on me. We’re both young—early 20s. Shouldn’t he be up for it and hard as a rock at this age and stage? I’ve asked him about it, and he swears he finds me really attractive and says he’s always like that at the start.3) I’m about to leave my boyfriend for a month to spend time with my family and am worried about how to keep each other sexually satisfied in the meantime. We’re quite good having phone and video sex (we both travel quite a bit), but a month is a long time. Do you have any tips or tricks to keep it all interesting for such a long period?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I am a straight man and have had a few long-term relationships in my life. Although I enjoy sex, I never ejaculate during intercourse. I am now 50. I can orgasm with intense fantasy and oral sex, but never during penetration. I have read about sensate focus, but are there other options? I am fit and healthy and have no problems ejaculating while masturbating.2) My wife has put on a lot of weight and I’m simply not attracted to her anymore. I’m struggling to get an erection when she initiates sex, and rarely initiate myself. I still love her very much, but this is clearly a problem. How do I deal with this? She keeps asking me if I think she is fat and I keep saying no, but she’s probably twice the size she was when we first met.3) I always thought my oral sex skills were second to none, but it’s clear my new partner isn’t impressed. I know I’m being childish, but I feel hurt. Why did it work on everyone but him? And what do I do now? I only know one way.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My girlfriend and I seem to be going through a ‘dry spell.’ We haven’t had sex for about three months, and we used to have it weekly. Neither of us have talked about it and I feel like it’s becoming the elephant in the room. Life has been busy lately and I guess we just got out of the habit. How do we get back on track?2) What’s your view on sharing sex fantasies with your partner? I would like to tell my boyfriend of three months some of mine, but is it a bit too early in the relationship? I’ve never shared a fantasy before, but think he could be open to it.3) I’d like to spank my partner but how do I suggest it and what do I do? Any tips would be much appreciated. To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.