SoulTalk with Kute Blackson

"Don't live your life based in fear. Be courageous." (Erica Komisar) What if the deepest struggles we face as adults: anxiety, addiction, emotional emptiness, the constant need to prove ourselves, don't begin in adulthood at all? What if they begin in the earliest, most fragile years of life… when presence matters more than anything else? In this powerful episode of SoulTalk, I sit down with renowned psychoanalyst and parenting expert Erica Komisar for a conversation that challenges many of the assumptions we've been taught about success, independence, and what it truly means to raise emotionally healthy children. At the heart of this conversation is one radical and deeply confronting idea: human beings are born neurologically unfinished and the first three years of life are not optional when it comes to emotional development. Erica explains why a mother's physical presence acts as a child's external nervous system, how early emotional absence creates a quiet but lasting void, and why so many adults spend their lives unconsciously trying to fill it. We explore the differences between maternal and paternal roles, and the biological intelligence behind nurturing and play.  Erica also speaks candidly about the cost of modern pressures, professional ego, and cultural narratives that undervalue caregiving, and how these forces have reshaped families in ways we are only now beginning to understand. Whether you are a parent, planning to become one, healing your own childhood, or simply curious about the roots of emotional well-being, this conversation will impact you. Timestamps (00:01:50) – Erica explains why mothers and fathers should not compete to perform the same tasks. (00:03:53) –  An exploration of the concept that human infants are born nine months "too early" in terms of neurological fragility and require total vulnerability. .(00:05:32) - How a mother's physical presence regulates a baby's heartbeat, breathing, and emotional regulation. (00:07:43) -  Why a child first sees and understands themselves by looking into the mother's eyes. (00:09:37) -  Understanding the biological drivers behind maternal nurturing. (00:11:14) -  How fathers use physical play to teach children how to regulate high levels of excitement and aggression. (00:17:04) -  Erica challenges the modern notion that a parent can be "emotionally present" during the first three years without being physically present. (00:19:32) -  A discussion on how early emotional absence creates a vacuum that adults often try to fill with technology, drugs, or eating disorders. (00:21:26) - A courageous look at whether the "need" to work is driven by survival or by ego gratification and the desire for materialism. (00:26:00) -  Encouraging mothers to let go of professional ego and consider a "mommy track" to prioritize the critical early years of their children. (00:30:03) -  How the feminist movement's dismissal of caretaking as "unproductive" disrupted family structures and impacted the development of young men. (00:34:01) - Insights from Erica's new book on how to avoid treating children as "possessions" or "weapons" during a separation. (00:39:15) – Three Wisdoms for Life: Erica shares her ultimate lessons: prioritize relationships, value interdependence over independence, and live a life driven by courage rather than fear. In this episode, you'll discover: Why the first three years of life are foundational to emotional regulation and mental health. How a parent's physical presence shapes a child's sense of safety, identity, and self-worth. Why emotional absence often shows up later as addiction, workaholism, or disconnection. The biological differences between maternal nurturing and paternal play and why both matter. A courageous reexamination of work, ego, and the fear of "falling behind". How to protect a child's emotional health during separation or divorce. Why interdependence, not hyper-independence, is the key to resilient human beings. Questions I Ask What is the "Fourth Trimester" and why are we born nine months too early? Is parenting a competition or a team exercise? Can you really be "emotionally present" if you are physically absent? What is the true origin of our "voids" and addictions? When we say we "have to work," is it for survival or for the ego? How do we stop weaponizing our children during a divorce? Should we be raising our children for independence or interdependence? How do we heal the "Mother Hunger"? Get in Touch: Email me at [email protected] Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com • Website: www.komisar.com • Books: Being There, Chicken Little, and her latest release, The Parents' Guide to Divorce. Resources with Kute Blackson: Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com Register now! Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles : https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW : https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com      

"Consistency, not intensity, is what transforms a life." Every January, millions of people promise themselves that this will be the year everything changes. They set goals. They make declarations. They swear this time will be different. And yet by February, most resolutions are quietly abandoned, not because people are lazy, broken, or lacking discipline but because they've been taught the wrong model of change. In this powerful episode of SoulTalk, I invite you to look deeper, beyond willpower, hype, and the "New Year, New You" myth and into the real mechanics of lasting transformation. If you're tired of starting over… If you're done beating yourself up for "failing"… If you sense that something deeper is calling you forward… This episode is a compassionate wake-up call and a grounded roadmap for real, embodied change. We explore why behavior change alone never lasts, how identity shapes your results, why consistency always beats intensity, and how your environment may be quietly deciding your future. This isn't about forcing yourself to become someone else. It's about remembering who you already are and living from that truth. Timestamps (00:01:10) – Why most New Year's resolutions fail (and it's not your fault) (00:02:09) – Challenging the "New Year, New You" myth (00:03:12) – Invitation to the Purpose Summit 2026 (free global event) (00:05:27) – Why changing behavior alone never creates lasting change (00:07:20) – The real foundation of transformation: identity (00:08:31) – You can't outgrow your self-image (00:10:38) – Shift #2: The power of small, consistent actions (00:12:41) – How tiny habits compound into massive change (00:13:29) – Self-trust: the hidden key to confidence and momentum (00:14:32) – Shift #3: Your environment is shaping your future (00:16:28) – Designing a life that supports your highest self (00:17:59) – Who are you becoming in 2026? (00:19:06) – Let this be a year of purpose, boldness, and alignment In this Episode, you will learn: Why willpower alone is never enough to create lasting change The real reason New Year's resolutions don't stick How your identity silently controls your results Why consistency beats intensity every single time How small daily actions rewire your brain and build self-trust The role your environment plays in success, habits, and self-sabotage How to stop chasing goals — and start magnetizing them What it truly means to live from alignment instead of force Some Questions I Ask: Who do I need to become to live the life I desire?  What version of me already lives this reality naturally? Where am I trying to fix myself instead of trusting myself? What small commitment can I keep daily, no matter my mood? Does my environment support who I'm becoming… or who I used to be? What is my soul inviting me to master in 2026? Get in Touch: Email me at [email protected] Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com   Resources with Kute Blackson: Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com Register now! Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles : https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW : https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com    

"Your feelings aren't the problem. They're the guidance." What if the real reason relationships hurt so much isn't who you're with, but how you relate to yourself? In this profound and eye-opening conversation, Dr. Margaret Paul, bestselling author and creator of Inner Bonding, joins Kute Blackson to dismantle some of the most common  and damaging myths about love, relationships, self-worth, and responsibility. This episode goes far beyond romantic relationships. It dives into the invisible emotional systems we carry into marriage, parenting, friendships, spirituality, and even our sense of purpose. You'll discover why chemistry is often confused with love, why "being nice" can actually be self-betrayal, and how many of us unknowingly abandon ourselves; then, wonder why relationships feel exhausting, painful, or empty. Timestamps (00:02:30) - What a healthy relationship really is (getting love vs. sharing love) (00:05:18) - Why we're attracted to the wrong people (00:08:26) - Emotional responsibility in relationships (00:11:56) - Self-care vs. true self-love (00:14:59) - What the inner child actually is (00:19:54) - How to work with anger, desire, and intense emotions (00:28:49) - Perfectionism, control, and false beliefs (00:37:29) - Relationship systems that sabotage love (pull,resist, compliance) (00:40:35) - How self-betrayal affects health and vitality (00:42:11) - Discovering if relationships heal after infidelity (00:45:07) - "I did nothing wrong" and hidden dynamics (00:46:32) - Why compliance is not love Questions I Ask What actually defines a healthy relationship? Why do we keep choosing the same kind of partner even when it hurts? If no one is responsible for our happiness, what is our responsibility to each other in love? Can relationships truly recover from infidelity? And how?  How do parents raise emotionally healthy children without creating dependence? Is compliance really a form of control? What advice would you give your younger self if you could start again? In This Episode, You'll Learn… Why love alone isn't enough to make a relationship work The difference between sharing love and needing it Why chemistry can feel powerful and still be destructive How self-abandonment silently sabotages intimacy Why being "nice" and compliant kills desire What emotional responsibility really means (and what it doesn't) Whether trust can be rebuilt after betrayal How learning to love yourself changes every relationship Get in Touch: Email me at [email protected] Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com   Resources with Kute Blackson: Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com Register now!   Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles : https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com   Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW : https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com    

"What you're avoiding may be exactly why you're here." We all procrastinate. But what if it's not because you're lazy or undisciplined… What if there's something deeper going on? In this episode of SoulTalk, I share a different way of understanding procrastination — one that's more honest, more compassionate, and more empowering. Instead of beating yourself up for the things you haven't done, we'll explore what might really be behind the delay. Sometimes, the very thing you're avoiding is the thing that could change your life.  But there's a reason you're not doing it — and understanding that reason is the key to unlocking your next level. Whether you're putting off a difficult conversation, holding back on a big dream, or just stuck in your own head, this episode will help you get clarity, stop judging yourself, and finally move forward with greater purpose and peace. If you've ever thought, "Why do I keep doing this?" — this one's for you. → Listen now and discover what your procrastination has been trying to tell you all along. Timestamps: (00:01:00) – Procrastination reframed: not laziness, but a deeper signal (00:03:00) – The question that changes everything: what are you avoiding? (00:05:00) – Procrastination as self-protection and ego preservation (00:07:00) – Comfort vs. evolution: ego safety vs. soul growth (00:09:00) – Why clarity only comes after action (00:11:00) – Making peace with fear instead of fighting it (00:13:00) – Resistance as a sign of growth and expansion (00:15:00) – Small actions, imperfect steps, and real momentum (00:17:00) – You're not procrastinating because you're weak — you're powerful (00:18:30) – Final reflection, invitation, and closing message   Some Questions I Ask What am I avoiding right now that I know would change my life? If I stopped procrastinating, who would I have to stop being? What am I really afraid would happen if I succeeded? Is my perfectionism actually fear disguised as preparation? What part of me is trying to stay safe — and what part of me is ready to grow? What is one small action I can take in the next 24 hours? What is procrastination costing me emotionally, spiritually, and in my future?   In This Episode You Will Learn Why procrastination is often the ego's last line of defense. The hidden fear behind perfectionism and over-preparation. Why clarity doesn't come before action — it comes from action. How small, aligned steps create massive transformation. The difference between choosing comfort… and choosing evolution. Get in Touch: Email me at [email protected] Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com   Resources with Kute Blackson: Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com Register now!   Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles: https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com   Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW: https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com      

"I'm not afraid to die. I'm afraid not to live." What if everything you've been told about your limits… was a lie? In this rare, raw, and unfiltered conversation, Kute Blackson sits down with the legendary Wim Hof—also known as The Iceman—to explore the true potential of the human spirit. Wim doesn't speak from theory. He speaks from fire-tested experience: plunging into frozen waters, scaling mountains in shorts, and surviving the loss of his beloved wife while raising four children alone. But more than his feats, it's what those experiences unlocked in him and what they can unlock in you, that makes this episode a must-listen. This isn't about breathwork.It's not about cold therapy. It's about coming home to your own inner power. Whether you're facing physical pain, emotional grief, or just feel disconnected from your inner fire, this conversation will remind you: there is a wild, unbreakable intelligence in your body, and it knows the way home.   Timestamps (00:00:54) – Why this rare Wim Hof interview is being shared now. (00:04:49) – Who Wim Hof is and why his life defies human limits. (00:06:39) – The moment Wim realized there was "more" to human potential. (00:09:15) – Why most people never access their true power. (00:11:00) – Using breath and cold to influence the nervous and immune systems. (00:14:42) – The mindset shift required for real change. (00:18:14) – Staying grounded when the world doubts you. (00:22:14) – How breathing changes your body chemistry and emotions. (00:27:39) – Preparing the mind to face fear and pressure. (00:32:45) – Grief, loss, and how cold helped Wim survive heartbreak. (00:36:45) – Depression, trauma, and healing from within the brain. (00:42:13) – What to do when belief in yourself is gone. (00:46:29) – Fear, death, and choosing to truly live. (00:48:15) – What success really means. (00:51:44) – The three essentials: health, happiness, and strength. (00:53:14) – One simple practice to start today Some Questions I Ask How did this journey begin for you — and what were you really searching for? Why do so few people tap into their true potential? What keeps us blocked from accessing our inner strength? How do you mentally prepare for extreme stress or fear? How did you survive the grief of losing your wife while raising four children alone? Can depression and emotional pain really be influenced from within the body? Are you afraid of dying — or of not fully living? How do you personally define success? If people could do just one thing today, what should it be? In this episode, you'll learn about: Why pain is not your enemy—it's a doorway to purpose, strength, and awakening How to reconnect with the primal wisdom of your body through breath and nature Wim's personal story of heartbreak, loss, and the sacred power that pain revealed Why modern life has made us weak—and how to reclaim your inner resilience Simple daily practices to restore energy, focus, and emotional balance How to face fear and grief with courage, surrender, and soul Get in Touch: Email me at [email protected] Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com   Resources with Kute Blackson: Purpose Summit: www.purposesummit2026.com Register now!   Kute's Life changing Path to Abundance & Miracles : https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com   Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW : https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com