SoulTalk with Kute Blackson

"Peace is not something you find; it's what remains when the search ends."
In Part 2 of this powerful conversation with Tulku Lobsang Rinpoche, Kute Blackson takes the discussion deeper into the subtle patterns that keep the mind constantly searching, overthinking, and trying to "arrive" somewhere better. If you've been growing, healing, and making progress, yet still feel a quiet tension or restlessness underneath it all, this episode speaks directly to that experience.
Rather than offering more techniques or strategies, this conversation points to something more fundamental: the way the mind creates a sense of self that is always trying to improve, control, and get somewhere else. You'll begin to see how this pattern shows up in everyday life, through overthinking, striving, and the constant feeling that something isn't quite enough and why it can keep you from experiencing the peace you're looking for.
This episode isn't about becoming someone new. It's about seeing more clearly what's already happening within you, and how that awareness can shift your entire relationship to your thoughts, your emotions, and your sense of self.
If you've ever felt like you're searching for something you can't quite reach, this conversation may help you finally understand why and point you toward a different kind of peace.
 
Timestamps
(00:02:31) – The real issue: why you still don't feel at peace
(00:04:08) – The illusion of a separate "self" begins
(00:06:22) – How the mind creates identity and separation
(00:08:47) – The endless loop of seeking and becoming
(00:11:15) – Why nothing external ever feels like enough
(00:14:03) – Effort, control, and the subtle struggle within
(00:17:28) – The moment of seeing: awareness beyond the mind
(00:21:10) – What remains when the search starts to fall away
In This Episode, You'll Learn
Why the feeling that something is missing has nothing to do with your life
How the illusion of a separate "self" is created and why you believe it
Why constant seeking, healing, and improving can keep you stuck
How the mind creates subtle suffering, even when everything seems fine
What happens when you stop identifying with your thoughts and identity
Some Questions I Ask:
How can we go beyond all karma completely?
How do we function daily without mental attachment?
If life has no purpose, how do we find meaning?
Do our good deeds matter in an impermanent world?
How do we reconcile "no loss" with deep personal grief?
How can we prepare for and make peace with death?
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Website: www.kuteblackson.com
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"You're not trying to become free; you're learning to see what was never true."
Why does something still feel off, even when you're doing everything "right"?
You've worked on yourself. You've grown, healed, reflected, and made real changes. And yet, there can still be a subtle tension beneath it all, a quiet sense that something isn't quite complete, something still needs fixing, or something is missing. In this deeply revealing episode of Soul Talk, Kute Blackson sits down with revered Buddhist spiritual teacher Tulku Lobsang Rinpoche, to explore a radical truth: what you're experiencing may have less to do with your life circumstances and more to do with who you believe yourself to be.
Drawing from a profound spiritual lineage, this conversation gently but powerfully challenges one of the most fundamental assumptions we carry: the identity we've built and spend our lives trying to improve, protect, and perfect. You'll begin to see how the constant effort to "fix" yourself can actually reinforce the very feeling of limitation you're trying to escape and why, even after growth and success, a sense of incompleteness can remain.
Rather than offering another method to change your life, this episode points to something deeper. It invites you to question the lens through which you see yourself, and to explore what becomes possible when that lens begins to loosen. 
If you've ever felt like you're searching for something you can't quite find, or working to become someone you hope will finally feel whole, this conversation may offer a perspective that quietly, but profoundly changes everything.
 
TIMESTAMPS:
(00:01:52) – The illusion of self: who you think you are
(00:03:40) – How identity is formed through conditioning
(00:06:15) – Why growth and healing still feel incomplete
(00:09:28) – The trap of trying to "fix" yourself
(00:12:47) – Control, the mind, and subtle suffering
(00:16:10)– Seeing through the false self (Tulku perspective)
(00:20:35) – What remains when identification loosens
(00:25:50) – True freedom: beyond effort and identity
In This Episode, You'll Learn
Why nothing in your life will fix how you feel (and what actually will)
The hidden illusion of self that's keeping you stuck without you realizing it
How your mind creates suffering; even when everything seems "fine"
Why trying to heal, grow, or improve yourself can keep you trapped
What happens when you stop identifying with your thoughts and identity
The real path to freedom and why it has nothing to do with effort
Some Questions I Ask
What if the problem isn't your life… but who you think you are in it?
Are you trying to fix something that was never broken?
Who would you be without the story you keep telling yourself?
What are you holding onto that's keeping you from feeling free?
If you stopped trying to control everything… what would remain?
Are you ready to question the identity you've built your life around?
Get in Touch:
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Email: [email protected]
Website: www.kuteblackson.com
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"You're not lost. You're simply outgrowing the life that no longer fits who you're becoming."
What do you do when your life looks fine on the outside  but something inside you knows it no longer fits?
There are moments in life where nothing is obviously "wrong," yet everything feels slightly off. The things that once excited you no longer move you. The roles you've been playing feel heavier. And a quiet voice within begins to ask deeper questions you can't ignore. In this episode of Soul Talk, Kute Blackson explores one of the most misunderstood phases of growth the space between who you've been and who you're becoming.
This isn't a breakdown. It's a transition. And yet, it can feel confusing, isolating, and even unsettling. You may find yourself questioning your path, your relationships, or your sense of purpose without having clear answers about what comes next. Kute unpacks why this stage feels the way it does, how familiar patterns and internal resistance can keep you stuck, and what's really happening beneath the surface when your old life starts to lose its meaning.
More importantly, this episode offers a grounded, practical roadmap for navigating this in-between space with clarity and trust. Rather than rushing to fix the discomfort or force immediate answers, you'll learn how to recognize the deeper invitation within it and begin taking small, aligned steps toward what is emerging.
If you've been feeling restless, disconnected, or like you no longer fit into your own life, this conversation will help you understand why and show you how to move forward without losing yourself in the process.
Timestamps
(00:00:55) - When your life no longer feels like you
(00:04:08) - The hidden "in-between" phase of transformation
(00:04:54) - The ego's subtle ways of keeping you stuck
(00:05:58) - The roadmap to release and realignment
(00:07:56) - Why this isn't a breakdown; it's your becoming
Some Questions I Ask
What in my life no longer feels aligned with who I am becoming?
Where am I staying out of comfort instead of truth?
What am I pretending not to know right now?
What am I afraid might happen if I let go?
What is one small step I can take toward the life I truly want?
 In This Episode, You'll Learn:
Why feeling "off" can actually be a sign of growth.
The hidden stage between who you were and who you're becoming.
How your ego tries to keep you stuck (and how to recognize it).
The 5-step process to move through this transition with clarity and trust.
Why letting go comes before clarity, not after.
How to take aligned action without blowing up your entire life.
Get in Touch:
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Email: [email protected]
Website: www.kuteblackson.com
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You don't feel free, not because of your life, but because of the patterns you learned to survive it."
What if the reason you don't feel free… has nothing to do with your circumstances?
In this powerful episode of Soul Talk, Kute Blackson sits down with Nicole LePera to reveal how your inner child is still shaping your sense of safety, control, and freedom.
You may be doing everything right… yet still feel tense, on edge, or unable to fully relax. This conversation uncovers why: part of you is still responding to life from the past.
Through the lens of the inner child, Nicole explains how patterns like overthinking, people-pleasing, and control were learned early on to help you feel safe and how they continue to run your life today.
Those patterns once protected you.
But they may now be limiting you.
If you've ever felt like something inside you won't let you fully feel at ease…
or like you keep repeating the same emotional cycles; this episode will help you see it clearly.
 
Timestamps
(00:02:47) – The real issue: why you don't feel free (beyond circumstances)
(00:04:12) – How your body learned safety through survival
(00:06:05) – Conditioning: how your early environment shaped you
(00:08:30) – Living in subtle anxiety (even when life is "fine")
(00:10:18) – Why you keep looking outside to feel okay
(00:12:41) – Control, hyper-awareness, and nervous system patterns
(00:15:06) – The identity you built to survive
(00:18:22) – Recognizing patterns vs. thinking your way out
(00:22:48) – Awareness as the doorway to real change
(00:27:15) – Reconnecting with safety within (closing insight)
Questions I Ask
What if your lack of freedom has nothing to do with your life?
Are you actually safe… or just used to surviving?
Why does your body stay on edge even when nothing is wrong?
What are you still trying to control just to feel okay?
Who would you be if you didn't need life to go a certain way?
Are you ready to see the pattern that's been running you?
In This Episode, You'll Learn
Why nothing in your life will fix how you feel (and never will)
The real reason you're still anxious, even when everything is "fine"
How your body is addicted to survival mode (and you don't even see it)
Why your need for control is actually keeping you stuck
The hidden pattern running your life on autopilot
What it actually takes to break free (and why most people never do)
 
Get in Touch:
Create a life that is a masterpiece.
Join the transformational journey: www.boundlessblissbali.com
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.kuteblackson.com
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Nicole lePera
https://theholisticpsychologist.com/

"The moment you stop chasing control… you start experiencing peace."
What if peace isn't something you find… but something you return to?
In this eye-opening episode of SoulTalk, Kute Blackson challenges the way you've been chasing calm in a world built on noise, speed, and constant stimulation.
Most people aren't truly at peace, they're distracted, overwhelmed, and disconnected from themselves. And the more they try to control life, the further peace seems to slip away.
Kute reveals a powerful truth: peace isn't the absence of chaos; it's your ability to stay rooted within it.
Through simple, practical shifts like breathing, slowing down, and observing your thoughts, you'll learn how to reconnect with the one place peace has always lived: within you.
If life feels like "too much" lately, this episode will help you reset, refocus, and come back to center.
Timestamps
(00:00:58) –  A question that stops you in your tracks: When did you last feel real peace?
(00:04:08) –  Why most people are living in constant low-grade anxiety
(00:05:30) –  The hidden habit that disconnects you every single morning
(00:08:45) –  The biggest lie about peace (and what it actually is)
(00:14:02) –  The shift: stop searching outside, start returning within
(00:15:05) –  The fastest way to calm your mind in the middle of chaos
(00:30:41) –  The truth about your thoughts and why they're exhausting you
Questions I Ask
Are you truly at peace… or just constantly distracted?
Is your need for control actually creating more anxiety?
When was the last time you fully experienced the present moment?
What if the stress you feel isn't from life but from disconnection?
Are you observing your thoughts… or being controlled by them? 
In This Episode, You'll Learn
How to access peace immediately; no matter what's happening around you
The subtle daily patterns that keep you stuck in stress and overwhelm
A simple breathing reset that can shift your entire state in minutes
How to create space between you and your thoughts (without fighting them)
Why slowing down is the ultimate advantage in a fast, chaotic world
Get in Touch:
Create a life that is a masterpiece.
Join the transformational journey: www.boundlessblissbali.com
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.kuteblackson.com
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