SoulTalk with Kute Blackson

"One of the greatest tragedies in life is waking up one day and realizing you became who the world wanted… but never who you truly are."
What if the life you're living was shaped by expectations you never consciously chose?
In this powerful episode of Soul Talk, Kute Blackson invites you to confront one of the deepest questions of all: If life was a movie… whose script are you living? From childhood, many of us are conditioned to seek approval, play roles, and become versions of ourselves that feel acceptable, successful, or safe. But over time, constantly performing who you think you should be can disconnect you from who you truly are.
This conversation explores how fear, conditioning, and the need for validation quietly shape your choices, relationships, dreams, and identity, often without you realizing it. Kute reveals why so many people feel empty even after achieving what they thought they wanted, and how living unconsciously according to someone else's script slowly drains your sense of aliveness, purpose, and freedom.
More importantly, this episode is an invitation to pause and ask yourself whether the life you're building genuinely reflects your truth or whether you've simply become loyal to a role you outgrew long ago.
If you've ever felt disconnected from yourself, trapped in expectations, or afraid to fully honor what your soul truly wants, this conversation may help you remember that your life was never meant to be a performance, it was meant to be authentically yours.
 
Timestamps
01:48 – The question that changes everything: whose life are you really living?
04:12 – How conditioning shapes the roles you unconsciously play
07:35 – The hidden cost of seeking approval and validation
11:08 – Why success can still leave you feeling empty inside
15:42 – Outgrowing old identities, relationships, and expectations
21:10 – What happens when you finally choose your truth over performance
Some Questions I Ask
Are you living your truth… or a version of yourself built for approval?
How much of your life was consciously chosen by you?
Who would you be if you stopped performing for acceptance?
What parts of yourself have you abandoned just to belong?
Have you become successful at a life that no longer feels like yours?
If life was a movie… would you be proud of the character you're becoming?
In This Episode, You'll Learn
The 6 life characters secretly shaping your identity and choices
Which survival role may be keeping you stuck and unfulfilled
Why success means nothing when you're living out of character
How people-pleasing and performance disconnect you from yourself
The hidden pattern behind feeling lost, restless, or emotionally drained
How to stop acting out a role and start living your real life
Get in Touch:
Create a life that is a masterpiece.
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Email: [email protected]
Website: www.kuteblackson.com
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"Peace is not something you find; it's what remains when the search ends."
In Part 2 of this powerful conversation with Tulku Lobsang Rinpoche, Kute Blackson takes the discussion deeper into the subtle patterns that keep the mind constantly searching, overthinking, and trying to "arrive" somewhere better. If you've been growing, healing, and making progress, yet still feel a quiet tension or restlessness underneath it all, this episode speaks directly to that experience.
Rather than offering more techniques or strategies, this conversation points to something more fundamental: the way the mind creates a sense of self that is always trying to improve, control, and get somewhere else. You'll begin to see how this pattern shows up in everyday life, through overthinking, striving, and the constant feeling that something isn't quite enough and why it can keep you from experiencing the peace you're looking for.
This episode isn't about becoming someone new. It's about seeing more clearly what's already happening within you, and how that awareness can shift your entire relationship to your thoughts, your emotions, and your sense of self.
If you've ever felt like you're searching for something you can't quite reach, this conversation may help you finally understand why and point you toward a different kind of peace.
 
Timestamps
(00:02:31) – The real issue: why you still don't feel at peace
(00:04:08) – The illusion of a separate "self" begins
(00:06:22) – How the mind creates identity and separation
(00:08:47) – The endless loop of seeking and becoming
(00:11:15) – Why nothing external ever feels like enough
(00:14:03) – Effort, control, and the subtle struggle within
(00:17:28) – The moment of seeing: awareness beyond the mind
(00:21:10) – What remains when the search starts to fall away
In This Episode, You'll Learn
Why the feeling that something is missing has nothing to do with your life
How the illusion of a separate "self" is created and why you believe it
Why constant seeking, healing, and improving can keep you stuck
How the mind creates subtle suffering, even when everything seems fine
What happens when you stop identifying with your thoughts and identity
Some Questions I Ask:
How can we go beyond all karma completely?
How do we function daily without mental attachment?
If life has no purpose, how do we find meaning?
Do our good deeds matter in an impermanent world?
How do we reconcile "no loss" with deep personal grief?
How can we prepare for and make peace with death?
Get in Touch:
Create a life that is a masterpiece.
Join the transformational journey: www.boundlessblissbali.com
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.kuteblackson.com
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"You're not trying to become free; you're learning to see what was never true."
Why does something still feel off, even when you're doing everything "right"?
You've worked on yourself. You've grown, healed, reflected, and made real changes. And yet, there can still be a subtle tension beneath it all, a quiet sense that something isn't quite complete, something still needs fixing, or something is missing. In this deeply revealing episode of Soul Talk, Kute Blackson sits down with revered Buddhist spiritual teacher Tulku Lobsang Rinpoche, to explore a radical truth: what you're experiencing may have less to do with your life circumstances and more to do with who you believe yourself to be.
Drawing from a profound spiritual lineage, this conversation gently but powerfully challenges one of the most fundamental assumptions we carry: the identity we've built and spend our lives trying to improve, protect, and perfect. You'll begin to see how the constant effort to "fix" yourself can actually reinforce the very feeling of limitation you're trying to escape and why, even after growth and success, a sense of incompleteness can remain.
Rather than offering another method to change your life, this episode points to something deeper. It invites you to question the lens through which you see yourself, and to explore what becomes possible when that lens begins to loosen. 
If you've ever felt like you're searching for something you can't quite find, or working to become someone you hope will finally feel whole, this conversation may offer a perspective that quietly, but profoundly changes everything.
 
TIMESTAMPS:
(00:01:52) – The illusion of self: who you think you are
(00:03:40) – How identity is formed through conditioning
(00:06:15) – Why growth and healing still feel incomplete
(00:09:28) – The trap of trying to "fix" yourself
(00:12:47) – Control, the mind, and subtle suffering
(00:16:10)– Seeing through the false self (Tulku perspective)
(00:20:35) – What remains when identification loosens
(00:25:50) – True freedom: beyond effort and identity
In This Episode, You'll Learn
Why nothing in your life will fix how you feel (and what actually will)
The hidden illusion of self that's keeping you stuck without you realizing it
How your mind creates suffering; even when everything seems "fine"
Why trying to heal, grow, or improve yourself can keep you trapped
What happens when you stop identifying with your thoughts and identity
The real path to freedom and why it has nothing to do with effort
Some Questions I Ask
What if the problem isn't your life… but who you think you are in it?
Are you trying to fix something that was never broken?
Who would you be without the story you keep telling yourself?
What are you holding onto that's keeping you from feeling free?
If you stopped trying to control everything… what would remain?
Are you ready to question the identity you've built your life around?
Get in Touch:
Create a life that is a masterpiece.
Join the transformational journey: www.boundlessblissbali.com
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.kuteblackson.com
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"You're not lost. You're simply outgrowing the life that no longer fits who you're becoming."
What do you do when your life looks fine on the outside  but something inside you knows it no longer fits?
There are moments in life where nothing is obviously "wrong," yet everything feels slightly off. The things that once excited you no longer move you. The roles you've been playing feel heavier. And a quiet voice within begins to ask deeper questions you can't ignore. In this episode of Soul Talk, Kute Blackson explores one of the most misunderstood phases of growth the space between who you've been and who you're becoming.
This isn't a breakdown. It's a transition. And yet, it can feel confusing, isolating, and even unsettling. You may find yourself questioning your path, your relationships, or your sense of purpose without having clear answers about what comes next. Kute unpacks why this stage feels the way it does, how familiar patterns and internal resistance can keep you stuck, and what's really happening beneath the surface when your old life starts to lose its meaning.
More importantly, this episode offers a grounded, practical roadmap for navigating this in-between space with clarity and trust. Rather than rushing to fix the discomfort or force immediate answers, you'll learn how to recognize the deeper invitation within it and begin taking small, aligned steps toward what is emerging.
If you've been feeling restless, disconnected, or like you no longer fit into your own life, this conversation will help you understand why and show you how to move forward without losing yourself in the process.
Timestamps
(00:00:55) - When your life no longer feels like you
(00:04:08) - The hidden "in-between" phase of transformation
(00:04:54) - The ego's subtle ways of keeping you stuck
(00:05:58) - The roadmap to release and realignment
(00:07:56) - Why this isn't a breakdown; it's your becoming
Some Questions I Ask
What in my life no longer feels aligned with who I am becoming?
Where am I staying out of comfort instead of truth?
What am I pretending not to know right now?
What am I afraid might happen if I let go?
What is one small step I can take toward the life I truly want?
 In This Episode, You'll Learn:
Why feeling "off" can actually be a sign of growth.
The hidden stage between who you were and who you're becoming.
How your ego tries to keep you stuck (and how to recognize it).
The 5-step process to move through this transition with clarity and trust.
Why letting go comes before clarity, not after.
How to take aligned action without blowing up your entire life.
Get in Touch:
Create a life that is a masterpiece.
Join the transformational journey: www.boundlessblissbali.com
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.kuteblackson.com
Get your free gift on: www.eightlevelsofgratitude.com

You don't feel free, not because of your life, but because of the patterns you learned to survive it."
What if the reason you don't feel free… has nothing to do with your circumstances?
In this powerful episode of Soul Talk, Kute Blackson sits down with Nicole LePera to reveal how your inner child is still shaping your sense of safety, control, and freedom.
You may be doing everything right… yet still feel tense, on edge, or unable to fully relax. This conversation uncovers why: part of you is still responding to life from the past.
Through the lens of the inner child, Nicole explains how patterns like overthinking, people-pleasing, and control were learned early on to help you feel safe and how they continue to run your life today.
Those patterns once protected you.
But they may now be limiting you.
If you've ever felt like something inside you won't let you fully feel at ease…
or like you keep repeating the same emotional cycles; this episode will help you see it clearly.
 
Timestamps
(00:02:47) – The real issue: why you don't feel free (beyond circumstances)
(00:04:12) – How your body learned safety through survival
(00:06:05) – Conditioning: how your early environment shaped you
(00:08:30) – Living in subtle anxiety (even when life is "fine")
(00:10:18) – Why you keep looking outside to feel okay
(00:12:41) – Control, hyper-awareness, and nervous system patterns
(00:15:06) – The identity you built to survive
(00:18:22) – Recognizing patterns vs. thinking your way out
(00:22:48) – Awareness as the doorway to real change
(00:27:15) – Reconnecting with safety within (closing insight)
Questions I Ask
What if your lack of freedom has nothing to do with your life?
Are you actually safe… or just used to surviving?
Why does your body stay on edge even when nothing is wrong?
What are you still trying to control just to feel okay?
Who would you be if you didn't need life to go a certain way?
Are you ready to see the pattern that's been running you?
In This Episode, You'll Learn
Why nothing in your life will fix how you feel (and never will)
The real reason you're still anxious, even when everything is "fine"
How your body is addicted to survival mode (and you don't even see it)
Why your need for control is actually keeping you stuck
The hidden pattern running your life on autopilot
What it actually takes to break free (and why most people never do)
 
Get in Touch:
Create a life that is a masterpiece.
Join the transformational journey: www.boundlessblissbali.com
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.kuteblackson.com
Get your free gift on: www.eightlevelsofgratitude.com
Nicole lePera
https://theholisticpsychologist.com/