SoulTalk with Kute Blackson

• 425: How To Break The Illusion Of Feeling Not Enough

  "Your enoughness is not determined by what you do." Have you ever felt that no matter what you do, how much you achieve, how hard you work… it still doesn't feel like enough? In this powerful episode of Soul Talk, I invite you into a deep exploration of one of the greatest illusions we carry as human beings, the lie that says, "I am not enough." This conversation is a journey back to the truth of who you are. Together, we peel back the layers of childhood conditioning, emotional survival patterns, and unconscious programming that convinced you that your worth was something you had to earn, hustle for, or prove. You'll discover how this lie hides behind perfectionism, over-giving, success, achievement, and the constant push to be more, and how it subtly shapes your relationships, your choices, and even your destiny. This episode is an invitation to remember the essence of your being: the part of you that was never broken, never unworthy, never not enough. The part of you that is whole, perfect, and complete exactly as you are. Listen to this episode and learn how to finally dissolve the lie of not-enoughness so you can reclaim the truth of who you really are. Timestamps:  (00:00:54) -  What "not enoughness" looks like for high achievers (00:02:43) -  Perfectionism, overgiving & the hidden forms of unworthiness (00:04:03) -  You were not born feeling unworthy (00:05:12) -  How childhood conditions us to earn love (00:06:08) -  Kute's personal story growing up in his father's ministry (00:07:46) -  How identity forms around pleasing, proving, and performing (00:08:41) -  How culture and religion reinforce unworthiness (00:09:55) -  Sneaky ways "I'm not enough" hides in everyday life (00:10:26) -  Why success can't fix the inner void (00:11:20) -  Fact vs. story: the difference we must learn (00:12:48) -  Recognizing the cost of holding onto the lie (00:13:46) -  Step 1: Questioning the story you made up (00:14:55) -  Step 2: Reinterpreting childhood events (00:15:42) -  How to meet the inner voice with compassion (00:16:50) -  Healing through self-love and internal reframing (00:18:19) -  You were never not enough, reclaiming your true self (00:20:00) -  How the "not enough" identity becomes a form of control (00:21:47) -  Why letting go feels scary (00:22:40) -  Releasing the belief and grieving what was missing Some questions I ask:  Where did the voice saying "I'm not enough" first come from? Whose voice does your inner critic actually sound like? What events from childhood shaped how you interpreted your worth? What else could those events have meant besides "I'm not enough"? What would change in your life if you stopped believing this lie? How does holding onto "I'm not enough" give you a false sense of control? In this episode, you will learn about:  How love became confused with performance in childhood, and how that pattern still limits you today. The sneaky ways not-enoughness shows up in your relationships, boundaries, finances, and self-expression. How to trace this belief back to its origin and reinterpret the moment that shaped your identity. How childhood conditioning creates a "transactional relationship" with love. How to rewire your self-worth from the inside out. A powerful way to reconnect with the part of you that is untouched by trauma, infinitely worthy, and already whole.   Get in Touch: Email me at [email protected] Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com   Resources with Kute Blackson:   Kute's Life-changing Path to Abundance & Miracles: https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW: https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com                    

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• 424: Barnet Bain on How To Be A Friend ( In An Unfriendly World )

  "You cannot be more of a friend to others than you are to yourself."   What if friendship wasn't meant to be effortless, but to make you more alive? What if every relationship, especially the most challenging ones, was a portal into your own expansion? In this episode of Soul Talk, I sit down with Barnet Bain, award-winning filmmaker, spiritual teacher, and author of How to Be a Friend in an Unfriendly World, to explore the sacred, often overlooked art of friending. Barnet reveals a radical truth: Most of us think we're good friends, until the relationship becomes inconvenient. Until someone changes. Until life asks us to grow. Together we dive into the real work of authentic connection, why unconditional love is often a myth we hide behind, how our unspoken emotional contracts quietly sabotage intimacy, and why true friendship requires a willingness to be changed by one another. Barnet shares tender personal stories, including a powerful moment with his daughter that shattered his self-image and awakened him to the unconscious conditions he had placed on love. Through his wisdom, we explore how friendship becomes a spiritual practice, a living crucible where our wounds, triggers, and projections are not obstacles but invitations. Listen to this episode and learn how to friend yourself, friend your wounds, friend your inner weather, and finally, friend others from a place of truth, not need. Timestamps:  (00:02:27) -  What inspired Barnet's new book on friendship (00:04:22) - A wake-up call: Barnet's daughter confronts him (00:08:52) - What is a friend? A new definition (00:10:26) - Unspoken "contracts" in friendships (00:12:04) - Why true friendship requires being emotional and spiritual peers (00:17:28) - The "backpack" we all carry into relationships (00:20:28) -  Friendship across generational or financial differences (00:21:38) -  Friendship in a polarized world: Trump/Biden, identity, beliefs (00:22:06) -  Becoming a friend to your inner world first (00:27:38) -  Lucid living: becoming aware inside the "dream of life" (00:29:25) -  How Barnet has sustained a 40-year marriage (00:32:35) -  Honoring each other & being willing to be changed (00:35:22) -  Why we lack models for friendship today (00:38:16) -  How to know when a friendship is over (00:41:34) -  What to do when you feel lonely or friendless (00:47:17) -  Fun as medicine & small steps to connection (00:49:26) -  Tools to deepen existing friendships (00:52:43) -  The real function of a friend Some Questions I Ask: What inspired you to write a book specifically about friendship?  What is your definition of a friend? Is unconditional love real, or a myth? Can we truly be friends with someone who is in a different "bandwidth"? How do we maintain friendships in a politically divided and polarized world? What does it look like to "friend yourself"? In This Episode, You Will Learn:  How to recognize the hidden contracts and expectations you bring into relationships  How to practice emotional maturity and presence in friendships How to build friendships based on equality, depth, and spiritual peer-ship How to navigate friendships across political or ideological differences How to cultivate long-term, intimate partnerships that grow with you Simple daily practices to help let go of friendships that have naturally dissolved How to start building connections even if you feel alone or disconnected  LINKS BARNET BAIN'S URL:    https://barnetbain.com Get in Touch: Email me at [email protected] Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com   Resources with Kute Blackson: Kute's Life-changing Path to Abundance & Miracles: https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible  Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW:  https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com        

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• 423: How To Heal Your Ancestral Trauma And Transform Your Generations

  "You are the one your ancestors have been praying would come, to shift things for future generations."  Have you ever wondered why certain patterns seem to repeat in your life, no matter how hard you try to change? Maybe you keep attracting the same relationships, struggling with the same fears, or feeling emotions that don't even seem like yours. In this episode of Soul Talk, I reveal the deeper truth about ancestral trauma, the invisible wounds passed down through generations, and how to finally free yourself from them. You'll learn how to recognize what you've inherited, release what no longer serves you, and create a new legacy of love and light for those who come after you. You'll discover how unprocessed emotions, beliefs, and pain can live in your DNA, shaping your patterns without your awareness. I'll guide you through powerful steps to acknowledge your lineage, honor your ancestors, and break the energetic "loyalty contracts" that have kept you small. We'll explore sacred wisdom from African, Japanese, and indigenous traditions that show us how to reconnect with our roots and invite the blessings of those who came before us. And you'll remember: you are not here to carry your ancestors' pain, you're here to transform it. Listen closely, and you'll awaken to this truth: you are the bridge between the past and the future. You are the one your ancestors prayed for. When you heal yourself, you heal generations before you, and those yet to come. Timestamps:  (00:01:44) - What you carry might not be yours: the unseen roots of ancestral trauma. (00:06:02) - You are the bloodline breaker: understanding your sacred assignment. (00:07:55) - How ancestral energy flows through generations. (00:09:22) - Examples of inherited trauma patterns. (00:11:23) - Cultural traditions honoring ancestors. (Ghana, Japan, Mexico) (00:12:24) - First Step in healing ancestral trauma. (00:14:39) - Second Step in healing ancestral trauma. (00:17:10) - Third Step in healing ancestral trauma. (00:18:57) - Fourth Step in healing ancestral trauma. (00:20:50) - Fifth Step in healing ancestral trauma. (00:23:13) - You are not here to carry their pain, you are here to transform it. Some questions I ask:  Why do we repeat certain emotional and relationship patterns across generations? How can ancestral trauma influence success, love, or self-worth? What are some signs that you might be carrying inherited energy? How do different cultures honor their ancestors? What practical steps can you take to begin healing your lineage? How do we transform inherited pain into freedom and blessing? In this episode, you will learn about:  How to Recognize Generational Patterns That Hold You Back Understanding. How unresolved trauma from your parents, grandparents, and ancestors can shape your emotions. Five actionable practices that help you release inherited pain and step into emotional and spiritual freedom. Why Honoring Your Ancestors Unlocks Inner Peace and Power. Unconscious agreements that keep you repeating your family's limitations, and how to rewrite those contracts with love, courage, and authenticity. How to live Beyond Your Past and Step into your sacred role as the "bloodline breaker." Get in Touch: Email me at [email protected]   Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com   Resources with Kute Blackson:   Kute's Life-changing Path to Abundance & Miracles: https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com   Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW: https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com        

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• 422: Annie Lalla on The Secrets To Love That No One Tells You About

  "The opposite of dead is not happy,  it's alive. Love is about maximizing aliveness, not happiness." What if love wasn't meant to make you happy, but to make you whole? In this episode of Soul Talk, I sit down with Annie Lalla, world-renowned love coach and self-proclaimed Cartographer of Love, to explore what it truly means to love courageously, consciously, and completely. Annie's insights are revolutionary. With compassion and razor-sharp wisdom, she reveals how every relationship is a mirror, a gymnasium for the soul, a sacred space where our deepest wounds meet our highest potential. Together, we unpack the myths of "happily ever after," the patterns that keep us chasing familiar pain, and how to turn conflict into collaboration. She reminds us that real love isn't about avoiding discomfort, it's about expanding your capacity to feel, to grow, to stay alive ever after. From healing heartbreak to mastering the art of fighting fair, Annie guides us into the heart of emotional intimacy, where vulnerability becomes strength, and every rupture becomes a portal to deeper connection. This conversation is an invitation to reimagine love not as a fairytale, but as a spiritual practice. A journey of becoming more awake, more open, and more alive. Listen to this episode and discover how to break the cycle of emotional unavailability and attract real connection and also heal heartbreak and reopen your heart after betrayal. Timestamps:  (00:02:19) -  From childhood mediator to world-class love coach. (00:04:00) -  Does everyone have a soulmate? (00:05:12) -  Healing heartbreak and rekindling belief in love. (00:09:22) - "Alive ever after" vs "happily ever after". (00:11:17) -  Why we're attracted to the same emotional patterns. (00:14:18) -  How your partner mirrors your parents. (00:18:11) -  Breaking the cycle of emotional unavailability. (00:20:33) -  The sacred dance of 'me' and 'we' in relationships. (00:23:16) -  Why healthy fighting builds intimacy. (00:25:23) -  How to fight well: turning conflict into collaboration. (00:29:46) -  Managing emotional triggers and timeouts. (00:34:35) -  When your partner won't take responsibility. (00:39:05) -  How to know when it's time to "graduate" from a relationship. (00:41:49) -  The power of radical vulnerability. (00:45:34) -  The myths we believe about love and change. (00:48:47) -  Secrets, truth, and harmony in relationships. (00:52:59) -  Love and Money: the hidden link. Some Questions I Ask: What inspired you to become the "Cartographer of Love"? Does everyone truly have a soulmate, or is love only for a few? How can we open our hearts again after heartbreak or betrayal? What's the difference between "happily ever after" and "alive ever after"? How do we know if someone is right for us, or just familiar pain in disguise? Why do we fight in relationships, and how can we learn to fight better? In This Episode, You Will Learn:  How to fight in a way that builds intimacy instead of destroying connection.  The secret to staying open-hearted, even when your instinct is to close and protect yourself. How to tell whether it's time to deepen your relationship or "graduate" from it. The key mindset shift that turns love into the ultimate spiritual practice. The subtle difference between control and connection, and how releasing the need to change your partner sets you free. Simple daily practices to re-ignite trust, vulnerability, and aliveness in your relationship. Why "alive ever after" is the new love story,  and how to create it in real life.   LINKS ANNIE LALLA'S URL:    https://www.annielalla.com Get in Touch: Email me at [email protected] Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com   Resources with Kute Blackson: Kute's Life-changing Path to Abundance & Miracles: https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com   Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible  Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW:  https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com      

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• 421: Decision Fatigue: How To Cure It And Be Free

  "You don't have a clarity problem, you have a self-trust problem."  Are you tired of overthinking every decision, second-guessing yourself, and feeling stuck in analysis paralysis? You know that feeling, when your mind spins in circles, your heart knows the truth, but fear keeps you from moving forward. In this episode of Soul Talk, I dive deep into the cure for decision fatigue and reveal the five keys to end self-doubt so you can start trusting yourself again. I'll show you why you don't have a clarity problem; you have a self-trust problem. From the moment we're born, we're conditioned to please, to seek approval, to doubt what we feel. But there comes a point when you must stop outsourcing your truth to others and remember who you really are. I'll guide you through simple but powerful practices to silence the noise, release the fear of making the "wrong" choice, and reconnect with your intuition, the quiet voice of your soul that already knows. Listen closely, and you'll remember: the answers you've been searching for aren't out there. They've been within you all along. The moment you trust yourself, clarity returns, and life begins to flow again. Timestamps:  (00:01:09) -  What is decision fatigue, and how does it show up in your life. (00:05:56) -  The Netflix story: how choice overload drains your energy. (00:06:31) -  How childhood conditioning leads to self-doubt. (00:09:21) -  The hidden cost of indecision. (00:10:54) - Why clarity isn't the problem, self-trust is. (00:12:48) - Taking full responsibility for your truth. (00:13:54) - First key cure for decision fatigue. (00:15:29) - Second  key cure for decision fatigue. (00:17:49) - Third key cure for decision fatigue. (00:20:37) - Fourth key cure for decision fatigue. (00:22:35) - Last key cure for decision fatigue. (00:24:04) -  You don't need more information, you need more courage. (00:27:21) - Manifestation archetypes and how to discover yours. Some questions I ask:  Why do we overthink simple decisions? How does childhood conditioning affect our ability to trust ourselves? What if there's no such thing as a "wrong" decision? How can we rebuild confidence in our intuition? What would our future self choose today? In this episode, you will learn about:  How to break free from decision fatigue and stop overthinking every choice.   The hidden link between childhood conditioning and your current self-doubt. Practical ways to quiet the noise, connect with stillness, and hear your soul's voice. How to release the fear of making "wrong" choices and see every path as growth. Daily practices to strengthen your intuition and make confident, soul-aligned decisions. The mindset shift that turns hesitation into power and confusion into clarity.   Get in Touch: Email me at [email protected] Visit my website: www.kuteblackson.com   Resources with Kute Blackson: Kute's Life-changing Path to Abundance & Miracles: https://www.8levelsofgratitude.com   Free masterclass: Learn The Manifestation secret to Remove Mental Blocks & Invisible Barriers to Attract The Life of Abundance You Desire. REGISTER NOW: https://www.manifestationmasterclassonline.com      

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