Anger has a purpose. It’s not evil, it’s not shameful — and if you know how to listen to it, it can become one of your greatest tools for change.In this episode of The Adults’ Table, we unpack how many of us were taught to reject anger and other so-called “negative” emotions, and what happens when we don’t. I also walk you through six types of anger (yes, six!), why you might be angry at someone when you’re really angry at yourself, and how inherited anger plays out in our adult lives.If you were taught that good people don’t get angry — this one’s for you.00:00 The truth about anger01:26 Why we fear negative emotions02:10 Anger as fire: how it can burn or empower you03:02 Boundaries, forgiveness, and the fuel to move on04:09 You don’t need to be more positive — just real05:29 The six types of anger (Bert Hellinger)09:53 How to process and integrate your angerSocialshttps://www.instagram.com/theadultstableshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@theadultstableshow
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Stop Wishing a Snake Was a Dog
In this episode of The Adults’ Table, we dive into one of the hardest lessons in relationships: accepting people for who they are — not who we wish they’d be. Whether it’s in friendships, partnerships, or group dynamics, we often exhaust ourselves expecting others to mirror our efforts, give what we give, or show up the way we do. But the truth is: people give what they have to give. And sometimes, they just don’t have what we’re asking for.I talk about why understanding this can save you frustration, how to stop keeping score, how to own your role in a group, and how to communicate your needs without expecting others to change. Oh, and yes — I use a snake and a dog metaphor. Don’t judge me ’til you hear it.00:00 People give what they have to give01:27 Group roles02:45 Embrace your role (if you’re good at it)04:18 “Accept it, and it will hurt less”07:42 Let people deal with consequences09:31 Accepting isn’t the same as allowingSocialshttps://www.instagram.com/theadultstableshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@theadultstableshow
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People Pleasers Are Manipulators
People pleasers aren’t just “nice”. They’re manipulators. I know that’s hard to hear, but I’m saying it because I need to hear it too. In this episode, we’re unpacking the truth behind people-pleasing: why it’s not as selfless as it seems, how it disconnects you from your true self, and how it’s ultimately a form of control rooted in the fear of being unloved.If you’ve ever found yourself constantly saying yes, avoiding conflict, or becoming whoever someone else needs you to be just to feel safe... this episode is for you. 00:00 Intro1:11 why are we people pleasers?5:12 why it’s hard to change 6:01 manipulating others9:24 you’re loved for who you are
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Stop Being So Afraid of Disappointing People
Avoiding disappointing others might keep the peace – but at what cost?In this episode, I explore why trying to meet everyone's expectations can slowly disconnect you from yourself. You might think that you are being a good daughter, friend, or partner – but if it comes at the expense of your authenticity, is it sustainable?We'll talk about the guilt, the fear of rejection, and how to find a healthier balance – one where you can stay true to your values without abandoning the people you love (or yourself).00:00 Intro1:20 Why we're so afraid of disappointing others 4:32 The link between disappointment and authenticity8:42 How fear of disappointing others holds you back in life10:13 Staying stuck in life to avoid upsetting people11:02 Redefining disappointment11:25 People's expectations are not always your responsibility11:52 It's impossible to fulfill everyone's expectations12:38 When the pressure is just in your head14:00 How to become more comfortable with disappointing people Come have a seat at The Adults' Table! Follow The Adults Table on social media https://instagram.com/theadultstableshow/https://tiktok.com/@theadultstableshowSubscribe to our newsletter https://substack.com/@thefernandarodrigues
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What's It Like to Travel the World for a Living?
What's it really like to travel the world for a living?In this episode, I sit down with Miguel Sant'Anna (aka Guelmi) – a wanderer, storyteller, and loyal son and friend – who has explored 38 countries and built a Youtube community of nearly 100,000 subscribers along the way.Whether you dream of living on the road or just love honest conversations about courage, identity, and chasing your own path, come have a seat at The Adults' Table!00:00 Intro2:50 Miguel's story, from waiter to content creator15:53 The ups and downs of traveling full-time 22:30 How traveling has changed Miguel 26:54 Traveling is addicting 30:00 Overcoming fear 38:17 Starting where you are, with what you have 40:24 Let life surprise you 44:30 Taking calculated risks46:26 Having low expectations and celebrating small wins47:30 "Dream with your hands" 53:38 Advice for future full-time travelers Guelmi's socials:• Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@guelmiporai• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guelmi.poraiThe Adults' Table socials:• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheAdultsTableShow• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theadultstableshow• TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theadultstableshow
For accountable young adults craving authentic, actionable self-knowledge content. Through short solo episodes and 1-hour+ interviews, host Fernanda Rodrigues sparks reflection with digestible insights and a touch of ”borogodó.”
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