19 episodes
- Galentine’s is a day to celebrate platonic relationships (yay!) and on this podcast we get a front row seat to Meg and Ruby’s gorgeous friendship.
These are some nourishing moments from previous episodes where Ruby and Meg share dating app advice, give sex playlist tips, and get vulnerable about singleness and weird crushes.
What are the most important relationships in your life? Get in touch and tell us! Also hot Valentine’s plans for tomorrow? Let us know!!!
We are taking a little break now - see you soon!
Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com
Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare
Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_
Links and resources:
Ruby’s steamy sex playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3v2QpYyO0tSz2I5nsbKt6R
Ruby’s tender sex playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1UhYyzNIbc22sBQA76NHdR
Mozart’s “Leck mich im Arsch” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C78HBp-Youk
Ruby and Meg’s recommendations:
Ruby’s new book - The Non-Monogamy Playbook: https://lnk.to/thenonmonogamyplaybook
Ethical porn: Erika Lust, Lustery, Cheex
Clips taken from the following episodes:
Being single: love or loathe?
Grindr for girls?
Porn: Sexy or unrealistic?
Opening up your relationship?
The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production
Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale
Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House
Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom
This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. - Did you know the clitoris is a wishbone shape? Or that it’s made up of the same stuff as the penis and testes? Mind blown over here!
Ruby and Meg get into the anatomy of the clitoris, chat pleasure and tell us about their own personal discovery of the clitoris. Dining room tables and bed frames may be involved...
Listen with care as Ruby and Meg also briefly discuss FGM. If you have been affected by FGM, the NHS offers information and support: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/female-genital-mutilation-fgm/national-fgm-support-clinics/
Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com
Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare
Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_
Ruby and Meg recommendations:
OMGYES: https://www.omgyes.com/join
The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production
Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale
Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House
Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom
This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. - Wondering if a sex party is for you? Ruby and Meg chat to Logan Star who has been in the sex party and play party space for eight years. Logan created the organisation Little Black Book, which used to run sex parties and now supports people who want to set up their own play parties.
Ruby, Meg and Logan get to the bottom of the difference between a sex party, a play party and a fetish party. They talk about what happens at these parties and how consent and aftercare works. They also speak about how to find parties like these, in the first place! As well as sharing some stories of their own…
Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com
Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare
Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_
Follow Logan on socials @iamloganstar
Follow Little Black Book on socials @littleblackbookparty
Logan’s recommendations:
Ethically Non Monogamous Fam London: @enmfamlondon
ENM Fam calendar: https://teamup.com/ks2ujdfgkxiyjmkhf1
Logan recommendations of sex parties:
1. Quench
https://www.quenchlondon.co.uk/
https://www.instagram.com/quench_london?igsh=MXNnaDFubnMxNXE3Nw==
2. Riot Party
https://riotparty.co.uk/
https://www.instagram.com/riotpartyuk?igsh=d2pqNnp3M3hxbHZo
3. Dominium Vita
https://dominiumvita.com/
https://www.instagram.com/dominiumvitaevents?igsh=MXhzb3h6bXVjZHd3NQ==
4. One Night Parties
https://www.onenightparties.com/
https://www.instagram.com/onenightparties?igsh=MTN5c2NmejhvNTdvdg==
5. Scene
https://www.sceneldn.uk/
https://www.instagram.com/sceneldn?igsh=eWYzczMwaXR6MHc5
6. Pinky Promise
https://www.pinkypromiseland.co.uk/
https://www.instagram.com/pinkypromise.world?igsh=eTFhdjZ5c3Rxejly
7. Lucid
https://www.instagram.com/lucid_sober_events?igsh=MTJkYTI1ejRoMzNnYQ==
The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production
Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale
Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House
Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom
This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. - Consent is the bedrock of sexual interactions but so many of us have had experiences that we have not consented to.
This is a vulnerable episode where Ruby and Meg share some of their personal experiences with consent and talk about damaging narratives around consent - something that isn’t spoken about openly enough.
Please listen with care. Ruby and Meg spend significant time talking about rape and sexual assault.
If you have experienced rape or sexual assault, the NHS has guidance around how to find help and support. (https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/help-after-rape-and-sexual-assault/)
Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com
Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare
Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_
The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production
Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale
Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House
Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom
This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. - Why do we shy away from messy emotions? Meg and Ruby get into the nitty gritty of jealousy - an emotion that’s often labelled as “ugly” or “shameful”.
Meg and Ruby talk about their experiences of being cheated on and how that can impact feeling jealous in relationships. “Mystic Meg” even had a dream about being cheated on which turned out to be true! Ruby opens up about jealousy in non-monogamous relationships and together they chat about ways of communicating jealousy to other people in a constructive way. Healthy stuff!
Do you experience jealousy in relationships? Have you found a good way of communicating how you’re feeling? Get in touch and let us know!
Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com
Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare
Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_
Ruby and Meg’s recommendations:
Ruby’s new book - The Non-Monogamy Playbook, which has chapters on jealousy and constructive conversation: https://lnk.to/thenonmonogamyplaybook
The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola
The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production
Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale
Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House
Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom
This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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About The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan
What do you get when you bring a curious sex expert together with the nicest woman on OnlyFans? A show that really goes there. Each week, Ruby Rare and Megan Barton-Hanson welcome listeners to an unfiltered, playful and inclusive space to talk about sex in all its glory. They unpick all the big questions like: “How can we talk about kinks and fantasies?”, “Does stress kill the vibe?”, “What place does humour have in the bedroom?”, “How can we banish shame around sexual desires?”, and “Does wearing socks actually lead to a better orgasm?!”. Along the way, they share their own unforgettable stories of sex and dating, and hear from you lovely lot about your sex questions and tried-and-tested sex tips. A Mags Creative and Dear Media production.
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