For burnt-out mums: Becoming a 'good parent' without the pressure! | Zoe Blaskey | A Millennial Mind
Motherhood is often sold as “natural” and intuitive - but for so many women, it feels overwhelming, confusing and nothing like they expected. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with parenting expert Zoe Blaskey to explore the real, science-backed identity shift of motherhood, from hormonal changes and brain remodelling to the emotional load no one prepares us for.
We talk about why becoming a mum can feel like a second adolescence, how societal pressure fuels burnout, and why guilt shows up even when we’re doing our best. Zoe shares practical tools for setting boundaries, finding yourself again, strengthening your partnership, and making motherhood feel lighter, calmer and more intentional.
If you’re a mum, planning to be one, or simply curious about the truth behind the transition into motherhood, this conversation will help you feel seen, supported and less alone.
Who This Episode Is For ✨
Mums feeling tired, overwhelmed or burnt out
Women struggling with the identity shift of motherhood (matrescence)
Anyone carrying “good mother” guilt or pressure
Parents wanting healthier boundaries and calmer homes
People curious about the science behind motherhood
What You’ll Learn ✨
Why motherhood feels harder than we’re told
The science of matrescence (your “second adolescence”)
How to set boundaries without guilt
How to lighten the mental load
How to strengthen your partnership after kids
Practical ways to enjoy motherhood more of the time
00:00 Introduction to Motherhood Myths
00:08 Guest Introduction and Initial Reactions
00:17 Understanding Mares Essence
00:53 The Neuroscience of Motherhood
01:39 Podcast and Book Journey
03:44 Personal Development and Coaching
04:58 Navigating Motherhood Challenges
06:36 Self-Compassion and Resilience
29:26 Debunking the 'Having It All' Myth
41:26 The Guilt of Self-Care for Moms
42:38 The 'One for Me, One for You' Tool
43:55 Challenging the Selfless Mother Narrative
45:32 The Concept of Minimum Viable Needs
46:17 The Mental Load and Super Mom Myth
47:17 Mother Kind Toolkit: Identifying Pressure Sources
51:10 Navigating Family Expectations and Boundaries
01:08:39 The Value of Caregiving and Shared Responsibilities
01:14:42 The Physiological Changes of Parenthood
01:17:47 Final Thoughts and Self-Compassion
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Get Unstuck: How To Change Your Life When You Feel Lost | Mimi Ikonn | A Millennial Mind
If you feel lost right now, stuck in the same routines, or like your life has stopped feeling like your own - this episode will feel like a deep exhale.
This week on A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Mimi Ikonn to talk about one of the most universal experiences we go through as adults:outgrowing your old life… but not yet knowing who you’re becoming.
Mimi opens up about identity shifts, evolving relationships, ego deaths, career changes, intuition, and what happens when your “perfect life” no longer fits. If you’re navigating a transition or craving reinvention, this conversation is for you.
This episode is for you if you are:
• feeling lost or “stuck” in life
• outgrowing old identities, habits or relationships
• craving a fresh start but scared to make a change
• navigating big life transitions (career, relationships, motherhood, purpose)
• wanting to reconnect with yourself again
• ready to reinvent your life from the inside out
In this episode, we dive into:
• why you feel stuck - and what that feeling is really telling you
• how to recognise when you’ve outgrown your old life
• the psychology behind feeling lost
• how to create a life that actually fits who you are now
• what identity shifts feel like in real time
• how to level up without burning your old life to the ground
• how intuition guides reinvention
• practical steps for starting over
00:00 Introduction: Embracing Change
01:14 Guest Introduction: Mimi Ikonn
02:46 Navigating Life Transitions
04:28 Facing Fear and Embracing Growth
06:42 The Importance of Self-Awareness
18:18 Modeling Healthy Boundaries
26:07 Overcoming Self-Sabotage
46:41 Facing Self-Doubt and Embracing Vulnerability
50:13 The Fear of Success and Its Implications
51:34 Balancing Ambition and Personal Life
56:51 The Reality of Parenting and Sacrifice
01:07:04 Preparing Mentally for Parenthood
01:15:32 The Power of Affirmations and Growth Mindset
01:24:24 Living Boldly and Embracing Adventure
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He SCAMMED £1.2 MILLION! Swindled By Anchal's Stalker Ex-Boyfriend | A Millennial Mind
Why do smart, strong women fall for toxic people?
This week on A Millennial Mind, Anchal returns to share the full, unfiltered truth about being love-bombed, manipulated, defrauded and stalked by someone she thought she could trust.
I’ve known Anchal for a long time now - but I never knew the depth of what she survived. This isn’t just a “bad breakup story.” It’s a traumatic experience of narcissistic abuse, coercive control, love bombing, gaslighting, trauma bonds, financial manipulation, stalking behaviours and the psychology behind why victims stay.
But most importantly: how she rebuilt her life, healed her self-trust, and took her power back.
If you’ve ever questioned your intuition, blamed yourself for ignoring red flags, or felt ashamed for being manipulated — this episode will change the way you see yourself forever.
💚Who This Episode Is For:
Women who’ve experienced love bombing, people pleasing, guilt-tripping or emotional manipulation
Anyone recovering from a toxic relationship, narcissistic partner or financial betrayal
People who want to understand the psychology of narcissists and trauma bonds
Survivors of stalking, harassment, obsession, coercive control or emotional abuse
Anyone who wants to rebuild boundaries, confidence and self-trust
✍🏼What You’ll Learn:
How narcissists use love bombing, guilt and mirroring to gain control
Why strong, independent women still get targeted
How manipulation escalates into financial fraud, stalking + psychological fear
The mindset traps that keep victims from leaving
How to recognise early red flags before they escalate
How to rebuild your identity after abuse, trauma and shame
Why it is never the victim’s fault
Real examples on how to rebuild peace, safety and boundaries
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THIS Is Why You're A Chronic People Pleaser! (+ How To Fix It!) Annalie Howling | A Millennial Mind
Are you tired of saying yes when every part of you is screaming no?
In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Annalie Howling — performance coach, trauma specialist, and boundaries queen — to unpack the truth about people pleasing, approval addiction, and why so many of us feel guilty putting ourselves first.
We dive deep into the psychology behind saying yes, how it’s linked to childhood conditioning, and what it actually takes to stop caring what everyone thinks. If you’ve ever been called “too nice,” struggled to set boundaries, or felt drained trying to please everyone — this one’s for you.
✨ Who It’s For:
Chronic people pleasers who can’t say no
Anyone struggling with guilt, shame, or overgiving
Women tired of being the “good girl”
Anyone learning to protect their peace & energy
💡 What You’ll Learn:
Why people pleasing starts — and how to break the pattern
How to set boundaries without guilt or fear
The link between self-worth and saying no
Practical tools to stop overgiving & reclaim your energy
If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just do it to keep the peace,” this is the episode for you. It’s time to stop being 'liked' - and start being respected.
00:00 Introduction – Why We People Please
01:05 Meet Annalie Howling: Turning Pain into Purpose
04:20 The Truth About People Pleasing and Self-Abandonment
08:30 When Helping Others Becomes Self-Harm
12:45 The Guilt of Saying No
15:20 The Connection Between Guilt, Shame, and Self-Worth
18:40 Trauma, Control, and Learned Helplessness
23:10 Why Some People Resist Healing
26:00 Narcissism, Victimhood, and Emotional Boundaries
31:10 How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Selfish
35:45 Understanding Shame in People Pleasing
40:15 Fawning: The Hidden Trauma Response
45:30 Healing from Childhood Shame and Conditioning
49:50 Recognizing and Validating Your Own Trauma
54:10 Breaking Generational Patterns of Guilt
58:30 Setting Boundaries with Family and In-Laws
01:02:10 Why “Good Girls” Struggle to Say No
01:05:00 Speaking Up When It Feels Uncomfortable
01:09:30 Letting Go of the Need to Please
01:12:00 Final Reflections – Living Unapologetically
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Can Energy Healing Really Fix You? Scientist & Reiki Master Explains All | A Millennial Mind
What if everything you’ve been taught about healing is only half the story? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Lekhmi, founder of The 111 Approach - a celebrity Reiki Master and intuitive healer who blends science and spirituality to explain how energy healing really works.
I used to think Reiki and energy work were a bit “woo-woo,” until my own experience changed everything. We talk about the science of energy healing, how your nervous system and emotions affect your body, and the small ways you can start to self-heal and reconnect with your intuition.
If you’ve ever wondered “is energy healing real?” or just want to feel more grounded, calm and connected - this episode is for you.
✨ Who It’s For:
Skeptics who want to understand the science behind energy healing
Anyone curious about Reiki, vibration, and holistic health
People looking to reduce stress, regulate their nervous system, and reconnect with themselves
✨ What You’ll Learn:
How energy healing and Reiki actually work
The link between emotions, the nervous system, and physical health
Why intuition and frequency are key to self-healing
How to tell real healers from fakes in the wellness space
Simple ways to restore balance and heal your body naturally
00:00 Introduction and Initial Skepticism
00:51 Exploring the Concept of Energy Healing
01:16 Guest Introduction: Luck Me and Her Unique Approach
02:53 Personal Experiences and Changing Perspectives
04:34 Understanding Reiki and Energy Healing
05:55 Childhood Intuition and Suppression
12:09 Reconnecting with Intuition and First Reiki Experience
14:36 Skepticism and Scientific Perspective
18:32 The Science and Practice of Reiki
28:29 Personal Stories and Spiritual Connections
38:20 A Childhood Intuition
39:34 The Power of Intuition and Skepticism
40:38 Gut Health and Intuition
41:23 Energy and Vibrations
42:30 Embracing Emotions and Healing
42:46 Connecting with Intuition and Energy Healing
44:42 Personal Stories of Energy Healing
49:22 The Placebo Effect and Healing
51:04 Scientific Studies on Energy Healing
52:13 Reiki in Hospitals
52:48 Identifying Genuine Practitioners
57:03 Empowering Self-Healing
01:03:23 One Minute Wellness Practice
01:09:12 The Power of Collective Meditation
01:14:11 Crystals and Energy
01:17:39 Final Thoughts on Energy and Intuition
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